We will help you get your mom off drugs!

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My situation is kindof complicated, but I will try and keep it short.

My father is an alcoholic, and things got worse when my mother went away for work for 8 months. While she was away, she met someone else, cheated on my dad and she is now engaged to this guy. Because of my fathers alcoholism, he didn’t have a job, which made my mother very unhappy, and she wound up in the arms of another man.
My parents got a divorce about 3 months ago, and now my dad lives with my sister. I still love my parents, but it is so strange seeing them with other people since they have been married for such a long time. I am 19, and I just can’t picture my parents with other people.
The other day I was visiting my dad, and he was telling me about some of the dates he has been on, and how he took this girl from the video store on a date. He talks to all these women on facebook, and I just find it so strange. Am I supposed to be happy for him? How can I get used to him being with someone else other than my mother?

my stepson’s mom is ok letting her 15, almost 16 yr old son work at Keller’s Hamburger’s off Northwest Highway. He wrkd there last yr, while we hated it and think it is completely wrong. She and her mom wrk there and are there with him, but he still gets to handle empty beer bottles and even be around all the drunks that hang out there. I think it is illegal.

is there any way to give up his parental rights? the mom is a drug addict and now the kid is in foster care, but now he has to pay insurance too and we can’t even afford it for our own kids. any advice?

When I met my bf he didnt smoke anything. Cigarettes or Pot, he didnt drink and told me that he didnt like alcohol because of his mom being a very bad alcoholic (my mother is as well, and her father died from alcoholism- which is genetic) a few months into of relationship he got to where he would have a few beers after work usually no more than 3. he got to where when he would drink he became angry at everything around him. i voiced my concern and told him i didnt like alcohol and i wished he would stop. he then told me the reason he drank is because he didnt have any pot. i was unaware that he even smoked it. ….. its been almost 2 years and he has continued to drink& smoke and has now picked up a new cigarette addiction. he goes to court on monday (3 days away) and has promised me since last monday that he would stop. he is supposed to be placed on 2yrs probation for the trouble he caused and im worried that even after he is place on probation that he will not stop. how to i make him realize that if he fails even 1 ua that they court will have him thrown in jail? i asked him tonight if he couldnt make himself quit then what could? and he said “when i sign my name ill stop”
please help
he will not be serving a jail term until he officially fails 3 drug tests.

She Is going by herself on a cruise soon! I am so worried because there will be no family members to keep a close watch on her.

When I was 15 I got arrested for shoplifting 100$ worth of make up. I received a youth record, and had to pay 500$. Now, I’m an 18-year-old broke student, and went as low as shoplifting 70$ worth of makeup. To add, I’ve battles many problems during my youth – alcoholism, bulimia, homelessness,depression, i have been estranged from my abusive mother. I live in toronto. How bad do you think this is going to end up for me?
please no rude remarks :’(

so yeah mom checked me in
i was 13
had my b day there
had my first girlfriend and best friend

so whats the deal i cant remember a lot of things
but rehab is clear as day???????

help me out?

I didn’t have the best life growing up. My parents were IV drug users. So since I was a little girl, I promised myself that there would be no drugs in my future. Fast forward to my high school years, I met a guy and I fell in love. Ive been with him for 5 years now. Im 21, hes 23. Hes addicted to this things called roxicets. He claims they are percocets, but being a nursing student I can easily look it up in my drug book. Well, I feel back on my promise because I love him so much. But then I realised if I really truly loved him, I should tell somebody. I told his mother. She cried, talked to him, he cried. He said he knows he needs help and he wants to go to rehab. Well the rehabs he has contacted put him on waiting list. He wont get in til the end of Feb for one, hes number 23 on a list for another etc. And since all of this, he seems like he has gotten worst. Im reading all of these things on the internet about how they will never change, and to just move on. But is there hope. Should I stay with him during this hard time in his life. If I do leave him, is he just going to get way worst and possibly end up overdosing? Hes my first love, my life, my everything. I don’t know how this happened to us and I just want it back to the way it was. And I don’t wanna give up on him, I never gave up on my parents and now they are clean and sober. There are many questions I just want an opinion or answer too, if you can help.
1.) Does anyone have a similar experience, and what did you do?
2.) Should I stick by his side?
3.) Are there rehabs that do emergency intake? (Im from the pittsburgh area)
4.)Any encouraging words/advice?

I don’t know, I just don’t know. This is a very hard time for me also, so I would appreciate if there are no rude comments etc.

My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

Hi

So, as you can see, I just talked to my mother and it has been about 10 years. My mom and dad had me when they were teenagers and started taking drugs when I was 3. Due to drugs, they were in rehab for a majority of my life, so my aunt’s looked after me. My dad got clean after I became pregnant at 14. We still talk and he is very involved in my life now. As for my mom, she told me that she hated me when she found out I was pregnant and told me she didn’t love me.

I was able to raise my daughters with my husband and I finished school,went to law school, and now I am a lawyer. I am currently 2 months pregnant with my third child and I have been thinking that I want my children to know their grandmother because my daughters have never met her. I want them to know that she is my mother and that I still love her.

So, earlier today at work, she called me and had a very awkward conversation. It is really weird talking to her after all that has happened between us and she asked me if I wanted to meet her up for lunch sometime and I said yes. But I don’t know how I will react to seeing her and what to say. I just need some advice on how to handle lunch with her.

Thank You:)
Riley

Alright heres everything in a nutshell. My moms been an alcoholic for many years now.
Shes been to jail a few times, and rehab all over alcohol. Nothing has worked. She has driven drunk a few times.
She blackouts, pisses and craps on herself.
before my mom and dad finally divorced, she came at my dad with a knife, and now shes comming at her boyfriend with a hammer.
Shes gotten so bad, I live about an hour away from her, so I cant just get inthe car and go over there.
Me and my grandma talked about Intervention, but I think tat would just make her mad. (If i did go ahead and plan that out, How, and what Am I suppose to do to do that?
I cant call the cops on her again, or call her probation officer because she would go to jail for a LONG time.
ANY ADVICES ON WHAT I CAN DO NOW?

7 years ago i split with my girlfriend, she then up and moved to ireland one day and there was no way i could track them down. Then out of the blue last night i had a phone call from her ex husband in ireland saying he is worried about my kids as the mother has turned into an alcoholic and that the kids r suffering and not going to school. I love my kids and have always wanted them in my life. I am now settled down with a wife and 2 kids so do u think there is a chance i could now get them back?? The kids r both under 10. Thanks for ur help in advance if u answer.

The mom decided to go to an adoption center and adopt her children out to homes of her approval. She had 5 or 6 children. Each child would spend a weekend with the home that was interested in them and if everyone was happy about it, the mom would pack the childs belongings in a shoe box and tell them goodbye. Each child was adopted except one little boy that had learning problems. The mom took a bus trip to the city and visited each in their new home before she passed away. Each adopted family brought their child to the funeral. One family picked the challenged little boy up from the orphanage and took him along with the boy they adopted to the funeral. In the end, they adopted him also. I would love to find out the name of this movie.

The mom decided to go to an adoption center and adopt her children out to homes of her approval. She had 5 or 6 children. Each child would spend a weekend with the home that was interested in them and if everyone was happy about it, the mom would pack the childs belongings in a shoe box and tell them goodbye. Each child was adopted except one little boy that had learning problems. The mom took a bus trip to the city and visited each in their new home before she passed away. Each adopted family brought their child to the funeral. One family picked the challenged little boy up from the orphanage and took him along with the boy they adopted to the funeral. In the end, they adopted him also. I would love to find out the name of this movie.

This is something I know I should be over, I really should.. its been years. But my mother was an alcoholic for over probably 60% of my childhood, I was forced into the role of being a parent, my dad didn’t do shit, but make plenty of broken promises, as did she.

It got bad a lot and I was the one that fixed it, it got to the point where I didn’t know any better.. I knew the routine, and I went about it normally. I never confided with anyone as much as I wanted to.. I didn’t know where to start, and believe it or not I wanted to protect my mom. After she sobered up, there was always the string of apologies and promises.. she would promise it was over that things were gonna get better. I believed her each time for awhile.
Until I realized that it wasn’t true.. that things weren’t getting better only worse.
She eventually did stop.

But it still to this day causes me problems, I can’t trust anyone.. and that makes any relationship hard as hell. Any relationship I have is difficult. And I have a lot of resentment towards my parents.
Is all that normal? Its been years, I don’t understand how her problem is still causing me problems to this day.
Have any of you experienced a situation similar? How’d you get past it?

I know they are harmful to my health and all you politically correct peons swear up and down you can’t not be addicted, but I am. I can smoke a pack a day for 2 weeks and then quit for 2 weeks. I have done it many times. My mother is exactly the same. Could this be genetic? Or am I just psychologically and physicologically gifted? (serious responses only please, no opinions- just facts).

She also has a suppliment insurance to cover what medicare can’t.