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He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

YES its true My niece,,9 year old watching the stars on the ranch has a trailer with a drunk for a dad and drug addict mom IVE TRIED, Icant do nothing,?She said lets pray for my dad ?Hes blind yes//and tears in my eyes watched the stars fall with her,brought herhome 9 years old and SHE had her bed maid on front poarch,life is easy for us that can see be thankfull we even get to see the stas,,let alone, not having any body there but your uncle yes school starts soon, and I will bye her what she needs thank god,,,our life is so good, shes” a ,”b” student and bright blue eyed blond , HI to all that read this is she lucky, iam her uncle,, <>R<> YES TWO Blind Brothers, i have NO children Iam so sad, HI skycat,your friend <>R<>

We can’t have a baby and it is devastating. 5 people where I work are pregnant and it is like a slap in my face when other coworkers bring in their newborn babies. Which happens 2 to 3 times a week because I work for a rather large company and they are family oriented.

On top of that, most of my friends on FB can’t stop showing off their baby photos and it makes me get angry and want to cry at the same time.

It is also a rough time because my mom and I are not speaking. She was abusive to me physically, mentally, and emotionally…I thought this was normal before my husband (then bf) helped me see that I did not deserve to be treated that way. I talked with my mom still, even made her bridesmaid at my wedding (she asked and I couldn’t say no) but I drew the line when he insulted my husbands race (he is mexican) and threatened to leave the reception if they didn’t get a whole table for their family…so my husbands parents moved just so my parents could have their own table and it broke my husbands heart.

This among other things lead me to stop talking to my mom…

How do I deal with this rough mothers day?? I’m laying in bed depressed out of my mind wondering if I should start binge eating again (I stress eat when I am upset which is how I gained 20 lbs)
We can’t have baby bc we are not in the right financial position. We live in a crummy apt complex and I got laid off from a high paying job. My new job does not pay as much and health inurance is thru the roof so I had to sette for HSA
Its financial not physical

Her mother got temporary custody during a divorce because she filed first. She is a known drug addict, crack, pills and pot and we fear that she is still using around the baby.
We have had wellness checks done by the local police several times and there was nothing found as far as the baby being in danger.
How can we have our grandchild checked to make sure that she is not exposed to drugs?

I’m 23 & have been living on my own and supporting myself since I was 17 years old & I’m doing pretty well.
My mother has always been an extremely abusive alcoholic and when I was a minor she severly physically, mentally, and emotionally abused me. I have a 9 year old half-brother who lives with her(neither of our fathers are in the picture).She doesnt physically abuse him but she neglects him and emotionally abuses him. She is drunk since the early morning sometimes and he is terribly afriad of her and wants to live with me.However, she has a nice home,a car, & makes sure he always has food and clothes.Its more about the fear and lonliness she makes him feel. I want to try to take her to family court to get custody but do I have a case here?The home he lives in is fit and she is able to hide her alcoholism very well and not drink for days at a time, sometimes even weeks.But it always comes back worse then ever. Would I be able to prove she is unfit? Anyone that knows law,please help.

He has been waiting and working to get into the high school he is in. They only accept so many students each year and you have to earn the right to go there. My son is a good student and has never gotten into any trouble before. Saying this as his mother i am sure people will say that i am just in denial, but he really is a good kid and has a good head on his shoulders. Last week i received a call from the school that he was found drinking in shop class. Now he might be getting kicked out of the school he worked so hard to get into. He said it was the first time he has never done this before. i believe him, but i am concerned about it. alcoholism runs in my family and when i was his age i was already an alcoholic. Does anyone know if there is anything i can do to make sure he doesn’t go down that road. We always talk and he knows i am there for him whenever he needs me, but i know he is at the age when his friends have more influence on him than i do sometimes. i just want a better life for him then i had and i am hoping someone might have some ideas to help prevent this.

I want to help my best friend with this burden. He is 21 years old and living on his own with his father’s moral support, so he is not completely alone family-wise, but he is extremely close with his mother because his dad wasn’t in the picture until 14 years old. He loves his mother more than anything in the world and it deeply pains him to know where she is in life because, daily, he expects the call from his grandma that she’s dead. He has no hope she will change because it seems where ever she goes she gets into the same lifestyle. She is honestly a good person, sweet as can be. Are there any options for this woman because she can not keep hooking for a living very soon or survive as a meth addict much longer. I want to commit her to a rehab center, but I don’t know if that’s the best thing or if she will even go! She needs therapy, and that’s for sure. Her early life was tragic.

Please answer.

My nephew is a very intelligent young man. He gets all A’s in school and is very well mannered. His mother loves him very much and spoils him to death. She has him so spoiled that she still allows him to sleep in the bed with her. He is 16 and in the 10th grade. He also still drinks out of the same sippy cup that he had when he was 2 years old. I was shocked at this. He came to my house one day and when I offered him a soda, he pulled out the sippy cup and poured it in their to drink out of it.
I tried talking to his mother and letting her know that I don’t think that this behavior is normal. She got offended and felt that I was calling her a bad mother. I don’t think that she is a bad mother but I don’t think that a 16 year old should still be sleeping in his mother’s bed or drinking out of a sippy cup. What do you think? Advice please!

We have been helping to take care of my cousins 1 1/2 year old daughter. The mother of the child is a drug addict and she left the her with my cousin and his parents. Many will say that children this age normally act out and throw tantrums. However, this is unlike anything we have ever dealt with, we have taken care of several children this age. We have tried everything to controll her, but nothing seems to stop her from hitting and crying and screaming and in need of constant attention. How do you handle a child with such extreme anger?

She says that it doesn’t help, but she takes it faithfully everday. I believe she is addicted.

My son is 20 years old- Very bright but very cocky and rebellious- He was caught with drugs, went to rehab- but seems to just like that “cool, get high lifestyle! He wants to play the role of a “Hippy” ! He is not abused , or ill, or depressed, – and he comes from a normal family-he just doesn’t want to take responsibility for himself- grow up and be a man! He wants to live at home for free , do drugs for fun, and treat his Mom and family as if they are the out-casts that do not understand him!! He was not always like this! It just seemed to happen over a preiod of 2 years??
His Dad made him leave home after I tried to slap his face for swearing at me and he grabbed my arm and nearly broke it.
But I am so afraid for him!! He doesn’t think he has a problem, so how can he get help — or help himself?? He blames me (his Mom) for everything! I was the one who always treated him better than anyone else! I still love him!
Should I let him come home? I am his mother no matter what-, maybe its my fault ??
What would you do if I were your Mom??
Please help- I do not think i could live with the guilt if something happened to him !
Ps. I am allowing a close friend to use my acct. here -to ask this question- she is a co-worker and in desperate-need! Thanks!

his ex has been having some girl living with her who i knew from years ago(she dated my cousin probably 15 years ago) this lady living with them is a known drug user crack and herion He has joint custody right now(we have her 6 months out of the year, week to week) This lady is bad news and the mother also has checked her self into rehab about 3 years ago. We have his daughter right now, and she doesnt want to go home anymore but the custody agreement says week to week the mother lives in a neighborhood that is not very nice and brook is not allowed outside over there Should we call CYS and can they really do anything about this person with only hearsay custody is such a horrible process but what can we do please help
we want her to come with us…love her like my own….i have raised 2 girls of my own who are 21 and 18……..we are calling the lawyer in the morning……..we just didnt know if CYS would investigate someone that is living with the mother
we just dropped the daughter off at camp this afternoon for a week so we have a week to figure something out before she gets back here

I just don’t understand it! I 15 and right in puberty but I just don’t understand why I can’t drop 15 pounds. I’m not fat, but I’m a little chubby and I want to lose it! Mostly for soccer, but also because I want to feel good. It’s not that I don’t exercise because I exercise almost EVERYDAY! It’s not that I don’t eat healthy either because I do! I literally just have a healthy breakfast, a nice lunch, a snack like an apple or yogurt or fiber one bar when I get home from school then dinner. I don’t binge and I really don’t overeat. My mom’s a chef and we know all about bad foods and we eat low or no fat stuff, tons of fruits and veggies and meat. So why can’t I lose weight? I used to be really heavy and dropped 25 pounds. Could it just be with puberty and the fact that I already lost a great sum of weight that my body is not ready to release anymore? What do you think?

my brother is 14 and has been smoking pot for about a year or two now. ever since he came to the same high school as me, he’s gotten more and more into it (nothing more than weed) but I guess you could say he’s an addict, he gets very cranky and upset if he doesn’t have it and is desperate to get it. He has and is still stealing money from our mom, and I suspect that he stole my iPod and sold it.
He was supposed to go live with my dad in Texas, but jumped out of the car right as him and my mom were leaving. He came back and was getting a second chance, but my mom caught him with $40 and she is missing $20. He has no job either.
I have warned him several times and have begged my mom not to send him to rehab, but now I don’t know how to deal with him. He has yet to take my advice. But I really don’t want him to go and I’ll miss him a lot. Have you ever had to deal with this situation, or what do you recommend I do or tell my mom?

Both of my parents Are alcoholics and my mom just went to prison yesterday. I am very closed off about it and none of my friends know. They have treated me like crap lately because I’ve been a bit.. To them. I am at the point where I am so depressed I don’t know what to do. Don’t suggest alateen because I have tried it and didn’t like it. what are some good quotes to keep me going? Thanks

I am a single mother and my son is terrible to me. He doesnt lift a finger around the house and laughs at me when I try to lay down rules. I have told him that he can get out if he doesnt like it here and he laughs at me and tells me I cannot do anything about it. He is spoiled rotten and if I dare take anything from him I am afraid he will do something to my things. When I try to take things from him he says that I am greedy and do not want him to have anything. The same goes for when he asks me for money and I say no. He calls me cheep and stingy. He acts crazy most of the time but sometimes he is as loveable as can be. He was in rehab for a drug addiction 1.5 years ago but it doesnt seem that it helped. He is in and out all night and is smoking pot and cigs. He doesnt care about anything. When I try to talk to him he says that I am crazy and insane. It has gotten to the point that I dont even want him here anymore. I feel terrible about it but I cant take anymore. I dont know what he is capable of. When he talks to me he uses the ‘f’ word and calls me a ‘b’. I am getting so angry lately I am saying terrible things back. I cannot take it anymore. What can I do? I would like to throw him out. As awful as it sounds I would but I dont think I can b/c he is only 17. He just got his GED though.
Thank you all for you responses. No his dad is not in the picture anymore. He has moved to California to escape HIS drug addiction. This is another reason that I feel bad for my son. The things he has gone through have not been pretty. But on the other hand he is treating me like crap. He is also destroying my marriage. My husband has moved out and is currently living in a condo that we own. He does not want to be part of this situation. I cannot blame him. Things are just so out of hand. I try to explain to my son that I do everything for him and he laughs. I am all he has and he couldnt care less.
He moved out to his grandmothers (on dad’s side) but she sent him home after a week. He is uncontrollable. No one wants him. This is another reason I feel so bad for him. That must be awful for him. He has had 3 jobs in the last 6 months. He lost all of them for not showing up but blamed it on me. Typical of him. He will be 18 in July. I would send him to rehab again but if he is not into it it wont work and I will be wasting more money. He used to be a wonderful child. I couldnt have asked for more and then something happened?
Yes, my current husband treats me with the utmost respect and has always treated my son with love, as well. I left my sons father (my ex husband) when my son was only 2. Over the years he has seen my ex treat me badly but not my current husband.
We have been to family and individual counseling. It seemed to help for a day or 2 after but that’s it. It was also very costly.

My boyfriend’s step-daughter is 17 and pregnant. She dropped out of high school but has already gotten her GED. She’s currently living with her alcoholic mother and wants a place of her own. Is it legally possible for her to get into public housing since she is underage?

My husband is addicted to video games and he has a beautiful wife with two children. He works, eats dinner and plays until he goes to sleep. Sometimes he won’t even sleep in the bed with me. Our children are affected by it as well. I don’t know what to do. I have tried talking to him repeatedly. I try not to argue with him too much but sometimes I lose my cool and it gets pretty nasty. I’m a stay at home mother that cooks, cleans and takes care of the kids. He sometimes won’t even take a shower! In May we’ll make 8 years married and frankly I am getting so sick and tired of this. It’s been going on for 5 years and my friends don’t understand how I put up with it. Our sex life is also nonexistent. We might once a month and even then it won’t last long and he does not satisfy me. I feel so hurt, angry, lonely and afraid. I have this hope that he’ll change but he might get better for a day or two and goes right back to playing Xbox Live. It’s almost as if he substitutes his real world with these fake online friends. Would like to know what people think and I have tried counseling and he stopped going. Told me that he didn’t have a problem that I was the one with the problem. I’m so temped to divorce him sometimes but I have this false hope that the man I married will come back to me. Thought maybe someone can maybe give advice on what to do with our marriage. Any advice is very much appreciated.

My druken mother who is 37 (I am 18) has cancer. She just found out, I don’t live with them and I have no other family, I live with my boyfriend.

I was over and she was drunk and she told me 11 year old sister to get pregnant and have a baby.

She said that pregnancy is so beautiful and afterwards she will take care of the baby for her until she dies then they can give it up.

My sister fell for it and said ok!

My husband has been smoking since he was 16, he was exposed to it as a child when he was only in the second grade by his mother who still smokes it. She says its okay to do it, which is bulls*it. all she ever does is smoke dope with her husband and she has no motivation to do anything else with her life. She’s all talk just like her son. Their primary focus is when their going to get it next and smoking it from the time they wake up until the time they go to bed. My husband hid the fact that he smoked pot on a regular basis until a year before we got married, we dated 5 years and he hid it from me for 4 years. If i had known he was smoking it this whole time i would’ve broke up with him alot sooner. But now we have a child on the way and i don’t want my child to be exposed to it. He says he is going to quit in a year or two and then wont ever do it again, but i don’t believe him because hes so addicted to it. It’s ridiculous, if only he knew how stupid it made him look! He makes me look bad and its a huge burden on me and our marriage and has been since i found out! Is he ever going to really quit? He says he doesn’t need rehab and i doubt i could convince him to go into it when hes trying to quit, he says its not a problem but its a huge problem. He’s in his game room smoking dope all the time and neglecting me and our marriage. please help, i need some helpful honest answers. i don’t want any bashing, thanks