We will help you get your mom off drugs!

When I met my bf he didnt smoke anything. Cigarettes or Pot, he didnt drink and told me that he didnt like alcohol because of his mom being a very bad alcoholic (my mother is as well, and her father died from alcoholism- which is genetic) a few months into of relationship he got to where he would have a few beers after work usually no more than 3. he got to where when he would drink he became angry at everything around him. i voiced my concern and told him i didnt like alcohol and i wished he would stop. he then told me the reason he drank is because he didnt have any pot. i was unaware that he even smoked it. ….. its been almost 2 years and he has continued to drink& smoke and has now picked up a new cigarette addiction. he goes to court on monday (3 days away) and has promised me since last monday that he would stop. he is supposed to be placed on 2yrs probation for the trouble he caused and im worried that even after he is place on probation that he will not stop. how to i make him realize that if he fails even 1 ua that they court will have him thrown in jail? i asked him tonight if he couldnt make himself quit then what could? and he said “when i sign my name ill stop”
please help
he will not be serving a jail term until he officially fails 3 drug tests.

i have TERRIBLE cramps!!!!!!
im on my period right now..
theyre soooo bad!!!!! i cant take it!!!!!
i went to my doctor befor to find treatment, my options were to either use birth control, or be on highly addictive pain medication
i reeaally dont wanna be a drug addict
but my mom wont let me take birth control
im in so much pain!!!!
like.. i cant function!! i cant sleep!!!
i spent the last 5 hours laying on my bathroom floor crying!! i keep throwing up
ive tried every over the counter medication and nothing works!!!!!!! D’: i need help!!
this happens every time im on my period
ive been to the emergency room 3 times for my periods because the pain was so bad
every time they’ve given me shots in my back to make the pain go away
i really cant take this anymore!!! help!!! D’:

I’m away at college most of the time, but I’m back on break through half of January. My sister is no help whatsoever, and my dad is extremely aware of the problem, but he has so much to deal with between his job and making sure my sister stays out of trouble, that he’s at a loss himself. He’s so stressed out and gets so little sleep that he gets extremely aggravated whenever my mom has a problem, which has turned into practically every night, that he’ll just get mad and make the problem worse. My mom will start slurring her words, and be completely unable to function- she crawls into bed, and can’t carry on a rational conversation, and can’t even remember or admit to knocking things over, such as a vase of flowers. She’s gained a ton of weight, doesn’t dress well, and my dad is so upset over her alcoholism and her complete lack of contribution to the household (lately she just spends the day in bed) that he is on the brink of taking drastic measures, such as putting her in a rehab center. It’s a terrifying situation. For anyone who knows anything about alcoholism, I’d really appreciate ANY advice- on how to to get her to admit she has a problem, how to help her, what I can do, anything. Even a little encouragement would be of help. Thanks in advance- I really appreciate it.

Hey, I’m a teenage girl, going to be 19 in the summer. I am an honour roll academic student, I have a part-time job at an electronics store and.. go figure, I like to party !
The problem is, my mother constantly lectures me and gets herself, and me, upset everytime I head out to even just the movies. She knows that my friends and I drink almost every weekend, and of course March Break.. summer parties, etc. She keeps telling me that alcoholism runs in the family and that she will not tolerate her daughter being an alcoholic. I can’t seem to convince her that I’m a lot more responsible and mature than she thinks, and I have the willpower to prevent myself from becoming an alcoholic.
I of course respect her concern, obv. she is my mom. But what do I have to say, or what do I have to do, to help her understand where I’m coming from?

My nephew is 21 and won’t look for a job. When his mother tells him to, he makes her life hell. His father left to live with someone else and is no help. In fact he is the reason why he is worthless. His father’s father was a worthless alcoholic who only worked occasionally. And ended being taken care of by the mother until he died. In fact all of the uncles from that side of the family are or were worthless. The father was abusive and always relied on his mother or my parents to help him and my sister out of being in trouble. He smokes pot all the time so you know that the kids do to. My sister is so neurotic from being in an abusive relationship for 26 years that she can’t or won’t do anything about this now abusive self proclaimed drug addict. She can’t throw him out because she is afraid that he will do something bad to himself. Also he won’t go anyway. Plus he starts trashing everything in the house and then leaves before the cops show up. And even when they do show up, there is nothing that they will do. Plus I don’t think that my sister will really follow therough with anything either.I told my mother that I need to sit that little bastard down and talk to him man to man. But she says don’t rock the boat. All I want to tell him is that it is time to be a man and get a job and start contributing. But the women (my mom and my sister) say all that will do is make things worse. I tell them that I will not be his victim like they are. But sinse I take care of my mother now, one way or the other, I am now. I say that it is time for a man to deal with this and set things straight no matter what anyone thinks. Especially since its my life and my mother’s life that is also being effected here. Sooner or later they will probably end up moving in with me and I won’t have that crap in my house. He says that he is addicted to pot so he can’t work. And he won’t get help. I say that its just an excuse and its time to tell him how it is. But if I do then all hell will break loose. I say let it break. Let him go and experiance the real America. Has anyone else had to put up with this garbage? There was a time when get the hell out! used to work. Now the women say don’t rock the boat and now I’m the bad guy. Sooner or later there comes a time when a man has to step in and clean house. What say you????

I’m 15 by the way and I know that pretty much every where you have to be 16 to get emancipated I’ll be 16 end of September… if that helps or something.
I live in Colorado and so far all I can find about emancipation here is that they don’t emancipate minors they only recognize it.. I’m stuck in a huge rut. Another issue is my step dads son is coming to live with us possibly, when I was younger he molested me but I never told anyone and if I told them now I know they would believe me.
Because of him molesting me I started drinking, smoking pot/cigarettes,
developed an eating disorder, and started cutting.
My parents found out just a couple of months ago, they don’t give a shit… Before then I was living with my dad in Oklahoma but because of some things my mother and I said he doesn’t want me to come back to live with him though he knows about my step dads alcohol and drug abuse. So it’s a dead end.

Living here has messed me up… I was happy when I was away regardless of the situation with my father.

I have to many issues here with my step dad, step brother coming, & my mother.
Me and my mother never get a long we fight a lot… We have no connection, I feel unloved and unwanted. I was just a drunken accident in Germany, my little brother was planned. So I always feel like a should have been abortion to her.

Also having to see what my step dads drinking and drug use does to my mother and little brother upsets me… I’m the only one not able to live normally, my mother and little brother are very close… Leaving me feel even less welcome here.

I just need some help… I don’t want to stick around here being the kicking post for every fight they have… Every time there is an argument Me and my brother get yelled at & my step dad attacks my mom with my cutting telling her what a terrible mother she is and that her only daughter is a fucked up cut up mistake. While she doesn’t stand up for me any time my little brother is brought up in the fights she stick up for him… I just want to get out of here even if my father decided to let me come back to his home after knowing that he doesn’t want me there and all the things that were said I couldn’t stand being there and knowing all of that…

If there is anything any of you could come up with or find.. I would greatly appreciate the advice and answers.

Thanks for reading.
Rae
Yes I know I have to work and still go to school.. There was nothing in there that said I would not do those things.. I have a job now and could support my self.. & If I were to get emancipated I planned on moving so I could be near some family & my boyfriend again… I’ve looked at apartments and I have a couple job possibility’s… I’ve really looked into this and understand the responsibility’s involved. So yes I would still like to get emancipated.
My cutting, drinking, smoking pot, and eating disorder are on the mend.. I’m working at them with friends to stop I’m able to stop for weeks sometimes months but then something will trigger me to relapse into it… I’ve told a school councilor when I was younger but all she did was call social services and they showed up at my house for a couple of days.. My mom told me I wasn’t aloud to answer the door after a while they stopped coming. & I can’t really expose the things my step dad does my mother would have no source of income and we would be out on the streets.. She’s working at it at her own pace.. (Very slowly) Her and my brother are fine.. My mother says she can handle all of his yelling… I just can’t handle it here.. I just need to get out… I don’t want to end up doing something stupid… Like cutting to deep on accident.. Or something just as stupid and lethal.

I’m 17 and i have an almost 2 month old son Joesph. He was conceived during a one night stand with a girl i met at a party. I cheated on my girlfriend Brooke who was in jail serving a one year sentence for drug possession charges. She got out and freaked out when i told her about Joesph and began using again breaking her promise to me to stay clean. She said she went back to drugs because i cheated. She called Joesph a bastard child and a worthless piece of shit. We broke up after she forced me to choose between her or Joesph i chose my son. Joesph’s mom and i began dating she is in love with me and was excited to start a family.We dated for 2 months but i don’t feel love for her and i felt stuck in a relationship i didn’t wanna be in. This all changed when Brooke told me she was pregnant. She is in rehab and trying so hard to get and stay clean it makes me proud. I am sure the child is mine because she swore she never would cheat on me. I broke up with Joesph’s mom and am back together with Brooke i love her and she loves me. Joesph’s mom was pissed about me breaking up with her for Brooke she hates Brooke. She told me i will never see Joesph again. This has hurt me so much i love him he means everything to me. She lives in a different city so it is quite easy for her to do this is. It is killing me not be able to see him what should i do so i can see my son?
I am paying child support and have been doing everything to be a good father

I know this is super long but bear with me PLEASE!
Here is a little background. I was kicked out when I was 16, I was a problem child you could say. My father didn’t want me in his house anymore and I didn’t want to be there one night we got into a heated argument and he blacked my eye. My mother didn’t want me living with her because her boyfriend didn’t want me there (devastating for a 16 who thought the world of her mother). I was made live with my immature 19 year old brother and his psycho pregnant girlfriend (she would lie, steal, do drugs, etc)
Food was a struggle even tho my parents paid my brother child support for me (his girlfriend was doing something with the money). I then met my daughters father and because he had money my brother asked him to live with us. He did and shortly later I became pregnant. We moved into our own place and everything seemed ok.
Until I found out my mother was addicted to crack cocaine. By this time I was seventeen and expecting a baby girl. During my pregnancy I was often alone (my ex was out running around while I worked to pay the bills(his money was depleted by this time he would quit all his jobs). I really craved my mother but she was out doing what she was doing. When I had my daughter I hadto call my mother as soon as anything happened so she could try to stop smoking so she could make it to the hospital where her teenage daughter was in labor. She should up at 4am looked horrible and was probably still high I was so happy she had come I actually ignored everyone else. After that, I loaned her money and tried to save her once picking her up from a crack motel, feeding her and helping her get into rehab. I visited with her often.
She got out and was staying somewhere. I eventually let her live with me and she got a job and was doing good, I would take her to work and pick her up, and even sat in the emergency room with her and took care of her when she got out(she did something to her eye). Sad to say I ended up getting really mad with her (she was still with the boyfriend) and she moved out. After that she got hoked on it again. For a while that was her life. After a year or so she got it together again leaving the boyfriend alone. She met someone new and moved in with him and a friend. She was given a 2 bdrm mobile home by my grandmother and a car. She and her boyfriend are living there. I have had a rough 2 years. I split from my ex (he spent rent money on god knows what and we were put out). I had to stay with some guy I knew and then with my sister, I got a job working for an auction company and my sister and myself got a house and were doing great. She then started to act strange towards my daughter and would steal from me.
I moved in with my brother. I lost my job 2 months after being at my brothers. He then grew tired of me because he wanted to “walk around naked” and I didn’t have any money to offer him(I also let him stay with me over a year and helped well bascially raised his son on my own that year) lether let me stay at her house for 2 weeks and then I left to georgia with my current boyfriend. I felt that was my only option because her boyfriend doesn’t want us to stay there. Although there is an extra room and he is there illegally as well, she will not let me(i am now 22 and 4 months pregnant)4 months pregnant) and my 4 year old daughter stay with her to get on our feet. I’m sure it might be the boyfriend he doesn’t want us to damper his life on unemployment and weed smoking. He also has a crazy temper and talks to my mother horribly her thing is that he is a great guy. If I was with him she’d sh*t! Anyway, I am leaving for florida saturday and she is coming to get me, then i’m on my own I have to stay in a shelter….

Am I wrong for expecting or wanting her to let me stay with her?
My grandmother helped her so much when I was young and still does, why won’t she help me?
My mother is steady now, has been at her job for quite some time, has made this mobile home look great and has been more stable and secure than she has in 5 years. She says she doesn’t want me to stay because she isn’t supposed to have people staying there and her boyfriend once had a felony and shouldn’t be there either. I’m not sure why he is worth the risk and me her pregnant daughter and granddaughter aren’t. She also acts upset becuase I have gotten myself here andI think she is most upset because she feels I am trying to back her in a corner. I just want my mommy to want to help me and follow through. I feel like F*ck her boyfriend he has had at least 20 years to get his sh*t together and hasn’t. HELP ME MOM!!!
I have already filed for childsupport quite some time ago, the thing is if they aren’t willing to pay it takes quite some time. Also, I have tried getting housing help and there is a ridiculous waiting term. I have looked for employment and it’s very hard to find employment in florida(at least in my area) as well as where I am now. I am now pregnant (MY FAULT) and I know I should have planned better but nobody wants to hire a pregnant woman. I am not lazy and I am a good mother, I just have let people lie to me and foolishly I believe them.

I’m 17 and i have an almost 2 month old son Joesph. He was conceived during a one night stand with a girl i met at a party. I cheated on my girlfriend Brooke who was in jail serving a one year sentence for drug possession charges. She got out and freaked out when i told her about Joesph and began using again breaking her promise to me to stay clean. She said she went back to drugs because i cheated. She called Joesph a bastard child and a worthless piece of shit. We broke up after she forced me to choose between her or Joesph i chose my son. Joesph’s mom and i began dating she is in love with me and was excited to start a family.We dated for 2 months but i don’t feel love for her and i felt stuck in a relationship i didn’t wanna be in. This all changed when Brooke told me she was pregnant. She is in rehab and trying so hard to get and stay clean it makes me proud. I am sure the child is mine because she swore she never would cheat on me. I broke up with Joesph’s mom and am back together with Brooke i love her and she loves me. Joesph’s mom was pissed about me breaking up with her for Brooke she hates Brooke. She told me i will never see Joesph again. This has hurt me so much i love him he means everything to me. She lives in a different city so it is quite easy for her to do this is. It is killing me not be able to see him what should i do so i can see my son?
I am paying child support and have been doing everything to be a good father

I know this is super long but bear with me PLEASE!
Here is a little background. I was kicked out when I was 16, I was a problem child you could say. My father didn’t want me in his house anymore and I didn’t want to be there one night we got into a heated argument and he blacked my eye. My mother didn’t want me living with her because her boyfriend didn’t want me there (devastating for a 16 who thought the world of her mother). I was made live with my immature 19 year old brother and his psycho pregnant girlfriend (she would lie, steal, do drugs, etc)
Food was a struggle even tho my parents paid my brother child support for me (his girlfriend was doing something with the money). I then met my daughters father and because he had money my brother asked him to live with us. He did and shortly later I became pregnant. We moved into our own place and everything seemed ok.
Until I found out my mother was addicted to crack cocaine. By this time I was seventeen and expecting a baby girl. During my pregnancy I was often alone (my ex was out running around while I worked to pay the bills(his money was depleted by this time he would quit all his jobs). I really craved my mother but she was out doing what she was doing. When I had my daughter I hadto call my mother as soon as anything happened so she could try to stop smoking so she could make it to the hospital where her teenage daughter was in labor. She should up at 4am looked horrible and was probably still high I was so happy she had come I actually ignored everyone else. After that, I loaned her money and tried to save her once picking her up from a crack motel, feeding her and helping her get into rehab. I visited with her often.
She got out and was staying somewhere. I eventually let her live with me and she got a job and was doing good, I would take her to work and pick her up, and even sat in the emergency room with her and took care of her when she got out(she did something to her eye). Sad to say I ended up getting really mad with her (she was still with the boyfriend) and she moved out. After that she got hoked on it again. For a while that was her life. After a year or so she got it together again leaving the boyfriend alone. She met someone new and moved in with him and a friend. She was given a 2 bdrm mobile home by my grandmother and a car. She and her boyfriend are living there. I have had a rough 2 years. I split from my ex (he spent rent money on god knows what and we were put out). I had to stay with some guy I knew and then with my sister, I got a job working for an auction company and my sister and myself got a house and were doing great. She then started to act strange towards my daughter and would steal from me.
I moved in with my brother. I lost my job 2 months after being at my brothers. He then grew tired of me because he wanted to “walk around naked” and I didn’t have any money to offer him(I also let him stay with me over a year and helped well bascially raised his son on my own that year) lether let me stay at her house for 2 weeks and then I left to georgia with my current boyfriend. I felt that was my only option because her boyfriend doesn’t want us to stay there. Although there is an extra room and he is there illegally as well, she will not let me(i am now 22 and 4 months pregnant)4 months pregnant) and my 4 year old daughter stay with her to get on our feet. I’m sure it might be the boyfriend he doesn’t want us to damper his life on unemployment and weed smoking. He also has a crazy temper and talks to my mother horribly her thing is that he is a great guy. If I was with him she’d sh*t! Anyway, I am leaving for florida saturday and she is coming to get me, then i’m on my own I have to stay in a shelter….

Am I wrong for expecting or wanting her to let me stay with her?
My grandmother helped her so much when I was young and still does, why won’t she help me?
My mother is steady now, has been at her job for quite some time, has made this mobile home look great and has been more stable and secure than she has in 5 years. She says she doesn’t want me to stay because she isn’t supposed to have people staying there and her boyfriend once had a felony and shouldn’t be there either. I’m not sure why he is worth the risk and me her pregnant daughter and granddaughter aren’t. She also acts upset becuase I have gotten myself here andI think she is most upset because she feels I am trying to back her in a corner. I just want my mommy to want to help me and follow through. I feel like F*ck her boyfriend he has had at least 20 years to get his sh*t together and hasn’t. HELP ME MOM!!!
I have already filed for childsupport quite some time ago, the thing is if they aren’t willing to pay it takes quite some time. Also, I have tried getting housing help and there is a ridiculous waiting term. I have looked for employment and it’s very hard to find employment in florida(at least in my area) as well as where I am now. I am now pregnant (MY FAULT) and I know I should have planned better but nobody wants to hire a pregnant woman. I am not lazy and I am a good mother, I just have let people lie to me and foolishly I believe them.

I have a kitten that is the same age as the others and it is much smaller then the others. I bought a bottle and a syringe.

I am a mother and I have known for awhile that my Anxiety has been getting worse, but in the past when I have taken antidepressants or anti-anxiety med’s I have become dependent and or addicted to them. I need an Anti-Anxiety medication that is low dose, wont make me drowsy and wont make me dependent on it!

I am a mother and I have known for awhile that my Anxiety has been getting worse, but in the past when I have taken antidepressants or anti-anxiety med’s I have become dependent and or addicted to them. I need an Anti-Anxiety medication that is low dose, wont make me drowsy and wont make me dependent on it!

My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

It’s the runt of the puppies and it wont suck on the teat, even when we tried pushing its lips across it or on it. It cries as if it is hungry though. Anyone have any ideas to help me out?

My ex-boyfriend took out a school loan for my mom to start her own business, that I co-signed on. Payments start in November and he won’t be enrolled in school anymore. My mother basically blew the money that was supposed to be used for her business, so there is nothing left. And yes, I asked her if she blew it smoking crack, lol. But seriously-I really feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, yet I feel like I have no choice but to sue. She has no intention of paying it back and this will affect my credit. I think it is really unfair that I will have to pay thousands of dollars that I didn’t even benefit from. The sad thing is, she hasn’t held a job in 6 years and no plans of working. She owns NO PROPERTY or has ASSETS OF ANY KIND. I read through alot of the answers already, and most people have said wages can be garnished if I sue, or her home can be taken. Since she has nothing to claim- what are my options? If I sue-will it be a complete waste of time?

My mom is 50 years old heavy chain-smoking woman. She is on her 3 packs a day habit with no intense to quit or cut it.
She is smoking for about 25 years, and she is always with a ciggie in her mouth smoking like a chimney and every day she smokes more and more. She also likes to smoke two cigs at once saying that she really needs to smoke more to feel good. In a recent years she started to smoke cigars on a daily purpose, she is really deeply inhaling them and says that she likes the big smoke that fills her inside. But she changed a lot. She looks older than she is, she got wrinkles too early, she has a yellow tar stained teeth and very bad breath, she is always coughing a lot and constantly out of breath, sometimes i noticed that she is feeling dizzy, but she says she is ok and etc.
So i just want to know does someone also have a mother who is heavy chain-smoker like mine?

I’m away at college most of the time, but I’m back on break through half of January. My sister is no help whatsoever, and my dad is extremely aware of the problem, but he has so much to deal with between his job and making sure my sister stays out of trouble, that he’s at a loss himself. He’s so stressed out and gets so little sleep that he gets extremely aggravated whenever my mom has a problem, which has turned into practically every night, that he’ll just get mad and make the problem worse. My mom will start slurring her words, and be completely unable to function- she crawls into bed, and can’t carry on a rational conversation, and can’t even remember or admit to knocking things over, such as a vase of flowers. She’s gained a ton of weight, doesn’t dress well, and my dad is so upset over her alcoholism and her complete lack of contribution to the household (lately she just spends the day in bed) that he is on the brink of taking drastic measures, such as putting her in a rehab center. It’s a terrifying situation. For anyone who knows anything about alcoholism, I’d really appreciate ANY advice- on how to to get her to admit she has a problem, how to help her, what I can do, anything. Even a little encouragement would be of help. Thanks in advance- I really appreciate it.

I’m away at college most of the time, but I’m back on break through half of January. My sister is no help whatsoever, and my dad is extremely aware of the problem, but he has so much to deal with between his job and making sure my sister stays out of trouble, that he’s at a loss himself. He’s so stressed out and gets so little sleep that he gets extremely aggravated whenever my mom has a problem, which has turned into practically every night, that he’ll just get mad and make the problem worse. My mom will start slurring her words, and be completely unable to function- she crawls into bed, and can’t carry on a rational conversation, and can’t even remember or admit to knocking things over, such as a vase of flowers. She’s gained a ton of weight, doesn’t dress well, and my dad is so upset over her alcoholism and her complete lack of contribution to the household (lately she just spends the day in bed) that he is on the brink of taking drastic measures, such as putting her in a rehab center. It’s a terrifying situation. For anyone who knows anything about alcoholism, I’d really appreciate ANY advice- on how to to get her to admit she has a problem, how to help her, what I can do, anything. Even a little encouragement would be of help. Thanks in advance- I really appreciate it.

Okay so I’m seventeen, I have been suffering with depression for about four years now. I have had multiple suicidal attempts. A few months ago I overdosed on Tylenol and was ordered to go to a short-term treatment center, the doctors told me I have Borderline personality disorder. I was there for a week.

I also started doing drugs about a year ago and I was a big pot head but It started getting deeper, i went on to doing ecstasy, triple Cs, G (date rape drug), cocaine and meth.
Ive been doing meth for about five months on regular basis, im addicted. I want help, i want to get out of this dark hole that Im in, my mom knows everything, shes making me go to NA meetings which I have no problem with but I think i need long-term rehab because its not just for the drugs its also so I can be safe from myself, but she wont take me its like shes against it or something.

What do I do?
I forgot to mention, I have been to 3 different therapist, and I am seeing one right now on regular basis.