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My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My fiance’s mother was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia a few years ago. She has been going downhill healthwise ever since. She only goes to work about 50% of the time and when she’s not a work, she is in bed, popping oxycontin and sleeping. She will not eat and doesn’t seem to care that everyone is worried about her. I know its technically not my business, but my fiance is becoming depressed over the whole situatuion (and so is his Dad, but he is enabling her). He just wants his mom to be happy and full of life like she used to. We are not trying to be insensitive AT ALL, but its almost like she uses the illness as an excuse. Anyone have any advice I can give to my fiance? It’s breaking his heart.

My friends and I organized a pool party at one of our friend’s house for our grade school reunion, overnight to double the fun. Of course, I’m very excited. Who wouldn’t be?
I was talking to a lot of people in organizing this reunion to make this night fun.
Today – the turning point. I decided to ask permission to my mom. I did it after the planning of the party because I thought she’ll allow me to go. But actually, the exact opposite happened. Apparently, she had these paranoid reasons that there might be some sort of drugs inside their house! How would some parent allow her house to be filled with drug addicts? What the hell!
I’m college student who has a dream to catch, inspired by a lot of people so I’m living a decent life, not like people who live in the slums who get drunk each and every night.
I also never had extreme psychological problems like attempted suicide or sniff marijuana and other drugs. I only drink at parties which I seldom go to and she knows that.
How can I convince her? This is so unfair!

My cat gave birth a few hours ago. There is only one kitten. I’m not surprised because the mother is young, but what I am wondering is why the kitten won’t drink from it’s mother. I’ve tried redirecting the newborn to multiple nipples but he is still uninterested and will not feed. Is this normal? It’s really worrying me.

My new puppy is 5 1/2 weeks old, and is currently being wiened from the mother. He is a full blood Chihuahua. He will not drink water. We’ve given it to him in multiple forms and dishes, but he will not drink water. He keeps going back to the mother to nurse, but she isn’t really letting him anymore, I’m worried that he might get dehydrated if he doesn’t drink something soon.

Any real suggestions would be greatly appriciated!!! Thank you!

My wife developed a really bad addiction to prescription pain killers and cleaned us out in August of 2007. I filed for a divorce and took custody of our two children. I soon discovered she had been having an affair with her dealer after I cut her off of our finances.

In December of 2007 she returned home asking me to take her to rehab, which I did. The day after I dropped her off she called me and told me she was pregnant. I had a vasectomy back in 2005.

We stayed apart until July of 2008 when we reconciled and she moved back home. The paramour has been in and out of rehab four times in 2008 for alcoholism and immediately relapsed upon completing his most recent round.

My wife had informed him that he was the father and he told her there was no way in hell he’d ever give her a dime. When the baby was born I signed the birth certificate and we named the baby after me.

He and his mother call occasionally and he leaves voice mails saying we are going to here from his attorney. He has never seen the baby. His parents barged into the hospital the day our son was born, but we have refused to answer their phone calls since. They also call my wife’s family and try to ascertain her location. I don’t believe that he’s interested in taking legal action, but his mother appears to be pushing the issue.

We obviously don’t want this guy anywhere near our family. He has done enough damage. Can anyone offer any insight?

I know that you don’t know my mom personally or anything, but I don’t get why my mom won’t let me have a piercing on both ears right above the traditional earlobe piercing. No, it doesn’t go against my religion, culture or whatnot if I pierce again, and I am a straight-A student and hardworking. My mom is extremely fastidious but I do my hardest to please her and she is 90%+ of the time. I don’t do drugs or drink, and I don’t get in any sort of trouble at all. I have asked her before without whining, and she said that once I get a double piercing, I will turn into a juvinile delinquent alcholic drug addict with a criminal record and bad grades. My mom is acting quite strangely about this topic, and I’m not sure why. Why do you think she is making all these harsh assumptions about (hopefully) potential piercings?
You have to remember that it is illegal to get a piercing at a store without parents until you are 18 years of age. And, I don’t have nerves to do it myself…and if I did, my mom would FREAK and probably trust me with nothing else.

My daughter is only 18 months old and I dont trust my boyfriend’s mother or her boyfriend. My boyfriend’s mother is really a sad case. Sometimes I see alot of issues with my boyfriend because of his mother, but thats another story. The problem is that his mother has a new boyfriend that she met on her job as a waitress and he is a waiter at the same place. This man looks like he like woman and men. This woman was sleeping with this guy and he gave her Hepatitis C. It almost cost her life and she still stayed with this nasty guy. He lied and said he was tested and didnt have it and would take care of her. My boyfriends sister says this guy would hang at a bustop and tries to talk to women and even tried to talk to her in the past. This guy has no car and the grandmother does’nt have one as well. My boyfriend sister said that she use to have to watch this guy around her daughter because he would be having his shirt off with her two year old on his belly. This guy would also kiss the little girl on the lips and wont her to nap with him in the grandmothers room. My boyfriend sister lived with her mother and got in a big fight because of how the grandmothers boyfriend was acting with the child. Also in the past I found out my boyfriend sister was raped by her mothers past boyfriend when she was just 11 years old. The Grandmother blamed her daughter for it and choose the boyfriend over her own duaghter. The grandmother and the daughter have always had a poor realationship because of what happend. That day the grandmother let her boyfriend call her all kind of bad names and kick her out with her child. There was also a time my boyfriend had to pick up his mother and loser boyfriend from a bad drug area on Thanksgiving. I did not know she smoked weed but that night is was clear. Im really not sure what she smoke because the way she was acting was very hard to tell if it could be crack. I dont wont my baby around them losers period. The grandmother called and said that she was coming to get the baby and I had to make up a lie so that she couldnt. Im really tired of being fake with this woman and cant understand how a 42 year old woman can be so low life and trashy. How can I tell her in a nice way I dont wont my child alone with them? What would you do if you was me?

only thing i remember was us drinking (heavily) and then i wake and shes asleep next to me on the couch naked and so am and then i start screaming grab my clothes and drive away and then i come back and still naked on the couch crying and i try to apolgize and she just keeps crying i packed some of my stuff and im staying at my friends house its been two weeks i tried to go back home and she wont let me in and i cant ask my friend for help what should i do to make amends
(im 24 moms 53)(dad ran away before i was born)( no negative comments plz and im not a troll

I babysit for a 3 year old full time and his 5 year old brother part time after school. Their dad is pretty much a single dad, as the kid’s mom is going to jail soon and is an alcoholic. When I first offered to be his babysitter, he said he was going to pay me, and he occasionally does, but not much. On average, I have the 3 year old 11 hours a day and the 5 year old 2 hours a day and then both of them for about 11 hours on saturdays. It’s been 3 weeks since I started and he’s only given me about $200. He keeps saying that he owes me money for last week or that he hasn’t made it to the bank yet, but then I don’t get paid. He’s a really nice guy and I feel sorry for him for all the crap he’s going thru with the kid’s mom and trying to raise them (he’s a really good dad!) and I wouldn’t mind so much if we didn’t need the money. I feel bad asking for money when I know he’s having tough times both emotionally and financially. Any advice? Thanks!

I babysit for a 3 year old full time and his 5 year old brother part time after school. Their dad is pretty much a single dad, as the kid’s mom is going to jail soon and is an alcoholic. When I first offered to be his babysitter, he said he was going to pay me, and he occasionally does, but not much. On average, I have the 3 year old 11 hours a day and the 5 year old 2 hours a day and then both of them for about 11 hours on saturdays. It’s been 3 weeks since I started and he’s only given me about $200. He keeps saying that he owes me money for last week or that he hasn’t made it to the bank yet, but then I don’t get paid. He’s a really nice guy and I feel sorry for him for all the crap he’s going thru with the kid’s mom and trying to raise them (he’s a really good dad!) and I wouldn’t mind so much if we didn’t need the money. I feel bad asking for money when I know he’s having tough times both emotionally and financially. Any advice? Thanks!

How can you help an alcoholic that won’t help themselves? Many will say that you often times have to hit rock-bottom to have the want to work yourself back up. But, what exactly is rock-bottom. To a 45 year old mother of 2, grandmother of 1, you would think that getting arrested 5 times in the past year, having 3 DUI’s in the past 3 months, spending a night in jail, going to 45+ AA classes, having your 17 year old daughter move out, and being physically abused by your alcoholic “boyfriend” THAT would be rock bottom. But, apparantly it is not…. or my mother has completely lost her mind.

In any event. How can you even begin to help an alcoholic that won’t help themselves? Or, for that matter, doesn’t care to?

I am almost 30, happily married & with two children. Problem is that my mother is a drug addict & has been one for over 15 years. She’s been in & out of rehab & jail even. She’s been married recently but to a low-life ex-con who only enabled her drug use. I recently made her go back to rehab after she relapsed – she was living in my house when this happened & I didn’t want that around my kids. She relapsed while in rehab & has been out in the streets for a month now. WTF do I do? I love her so much but my 1st responsibilty is to my kids & husband. She at least has called me every monday from a strange number the past few weeks but has yet to contact me this week. I’m just scared. Anyone else go thru this crap with loved ones? I want to give her tough love & be all hard a$$ but I love her. She is a good women when she’s clean. Help anyone. No smarta$$ answers!!!

My Mom, Dad, and Step Mom are alcoholics.
I Live with my mom, and her boyfriend. My dad lives in the UK with my step mom. I only see them twice a year.
But i want my mom to go. Last night, we got into yet another fight. She told me to get something from my closet, so i did, and she tryed to shove me and keep me in there. I knocked the door down (she locked it from the outside) and she get mad at me saying it was unnecicary, and she never locked me in there. So now im paying for a new closet door, and all damage done. She doesnt even remember any of this today. I can no longer take it, its gone on long enough. I want her to go, but she keeps making up excuses why she shouldnt go to Al-non. Help? How can i get her to go? She goes to al-non, or im out of here forever. i dont care where, as long as its not in this hell hole. She completly changes. In the day, she is my best friend. At night, i want to kill her. I want to do something to make her shut up, and not hit me. I cant take it. How can i convince her? Any advice? She doesnt admit shes an alcoholic either.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I asked her about & now she’s all like I can’t trust you anymore because I know how these situations start. My sister said she’s just trying to keep me out of bad situations because she knows how these things start but just because I want to be prevent an unwanted pregnancy that might happen in the future means I’m going to become a drug addict? I don’t know what to say to her anymore.
I want to use both though, condoms & birth control. Just in case.