ok i sitting in my mothers basmemtn on a 1 dialup computer i need help
i am very addicted to crack
i use to jsut use ti soemmtimes but now i have no job, no house, no car
i am now suckign dick for crack… and thats still not enough i need help what should i do
i recently started tryign herion but i had to give sex for it i need help please wat to do
Im 14 years old.Im 110lb 5’6
Two years ago i was anorexic but somehow i started to binge&purge,that’s when this nightmare began.
Firstly i was doing that 3 times a week,then it get worse and i started to throw up every day.Very soon my mom found out about it and took me to the psychiatrist who get me to the hospital for addicts.I was there 2 weeks and i was doing good.But when i came home it started again,even worse,i lied that i am healed because i was afraid..I was spending all my money on food and stalked money from my mom to buy it..I started to throw up 3 or more times a day..My mom became so depressed because she couldn’t help me so she gave up,she would sometimes tell me that she doesn’t have money for anything because she constantly buyes food for me…month ago i started modeling for one very famous agency and things became EVEN worse..Today i binged and purged 8 times,i have spend 20e for food today and emptied the fridge so its empty like always..i just cant stop feel like there is devil in me who wont top util he kills me..Please help me,i appriciate any honest help
x
We can’t have a baby and it is devastating. We are not in a financial position to have one, which is why. We live in a crummy apt complex and I got laid off from a high paying job and my new job doesn’t pay nearly as well, and I’m getting an HSA bc their regular insurance is extremely expensive.
5 people where I work are pregnant and it is like a slap in my face when other coworkers bring in their newborn babies. Which happens 2 to 3 times a week because I work for a rather large company and they are family oriented.
On top of that, most of my friends on FB can’t stop showing off their baby photos and it makes me get angry and want to cry at the same time.
It is also a rough time because my mom and I are not speaking. She was abusive to me physically, mentally, and emotionally…I thought this was normal before my husband (then bf) helped me see that I did not deserve to be treated that way. I talked with my mom still, even made her bridesmaid at my wedding (she asked and I couldn’t say no) but I drew the line when he insulted my husbands race (he is mexican) and threatened to leave the reception if they didn’t get a whole table for their family…so my husbands parents moved just so my parents could have their own table and it broke my husbands heart.
This among other things lead me to stop talking to my mom…
How do I deal with this rough mothers day?? I’m laying in bed depressed out of my mind wondering if I should start binge eating again (I stress eat when I am upset which is how I gained 20 lbs)
HELP!
She is boarderline homeless draws SSI and is in icu with all her belongings…when and if she gets out she expects my garnadmother to ENABLE her. She was held last year and had my bro. been in the country we could have sighned her into an asyllym now he’s here and she is in a place for use to help her what options do we have???????
my mom is in home care hospice ta home with me thee are nurses here 24-7 she may go at any time now – my question is this -
should i stay in the same building and get a 1 bd room when she does pass — this is a not very nice section 8 building in a downtown area – it would be hard to budget it out every month but it could be done – i am on disability for severe migraines and only get 600 a month rent would be 150 or a tiny bit less -
i have a sister and father who also live in the same building
they are both very screwed up he is 78 is a manic depressive that doesnt take any meds for it and is also a compulsive gambler she is 47 and is a very bad drug addict that uses about 100 dollars worth of drugs every day with her one friend that buys it all
i have no real great prospects here but at least i would have my own place and not be at any ones mercy and under their rules and their roof i am 32 and single no children never married
the other choice is to go and live with
my mosm friend who sounds like a control freak and is very tight she wants me to help take care of her grand daughter and then ride a bike every where is very wealthy but doesnt want to help me get a cheap used car or anything at all and i mean anything at all .. she sounds like a night mare should i go live with her in order to get out of here downtown – or just stay put ? she lives 2 hours away and if i go and stay with her i probably would just be stuck there – i am afraid of that very much so -
i am afraid of being at her mercy please help me and thank you
thank you all so much i really value your input – it has helped me to clear my thoughts and to think more clearly
i think i will stay here and get a smaller apt in the same building i am now in
The mother starts dating a man that is involved in bad things and turns her on to drinking and drugs.
Okay my dad is an alcoholic, and I tried once to confront him on his problem knowing full well that he would blame-shift to try and justify his addiction when the truth was delivered to him respectfully by me in an attempt to allow him to see that he indeed is an alcoholic and that this is a problem.
But instead the direct result was him while sober becoming so violent that he tried to strike me because I referred to him by the name of his dad who died from alcoholism. I did this reference on purpose mind you, in an attempt to bridge a link to what he is doing will eventually kill him, and that I care enough to step up to the plate of the futile task of trying to talk sense to him.
But when he who is 48 yrs old is also addicted to playing facebook poker from 5pm-2:30am on average while slamming the beer when he knows he has work at 5:30am is unacceptable and it has gotten to the point where I am loosing sleep at night because I have to wake up at 5:30am when his alarm goes off to pester my mother (whom which her and I are currently unemployed and job searching actively) to wake up my dad to make sure he goes to work, and frankly I am tired of reverse parenting, because a 24 yr should be seeking guidance from his 48 yr old father, not raise him!
His habits have grown to become out of control he calls off work because he has a crap load of paid vacation days but still it’s unacceptable especially when your a professional IT like he is. Also he has almost all together given up eating supper claiming he is never hungry all he does his play facebook poker, and farm town all day, refuses to do regular house chores like a responsible adult. He has not taken a shower since last year around this time not even once, but washes his hair only when he has work. He stopped grooming himself, except for shaving because he is not allowed to have a full beard.
He has become recluse for the most part only going to Walmart for groceries, going to work, taking the car to the garage during inspection time, beer runs including cigarettes, and on occasion out to eat. But he fails to go visit my brother to see his grandchilden which is awful because my brother only lives on the other side of town which is only a 10 min drive…..see my point?
My mother and I physically, emotionally, and mentally can not continue with baby sitting a drunk. We are thinking about calling his boss to inform him of why he is missing work and why his habits changed. This has been made aware to my dad by me personally when I confronted him that I will not stay silent very long before going to his older brother for help, his boss whatever I can do that will help him forcefully because I’m not concerned whether he likes it or not mind you, because to me that’s trivial and unimportant, as he stated that he doesn’t care if he dies from alcoholism and sadly I believe him.
Sorry for making this long but there is just no way to simplify it to get a good proper answer from someone who is just not looking to score an easy 10 points, because unfortunately this is the only place I myself have to turn for council so please don’t give me moronic answers, that would be highly appreciated.
Thanks for your time!
other information I live in the commonwealth of PA if that is needed I dunno. :)
(sorry for it being so long but please read i woould apreciate it thanks)
Hello when younger i was abused physicaly,emotionaly by my unstable druggy drunk mother. I rember how when she woukld be done smoking some cocaine or maurijanna she would hit me till i their was blood al over the kitchen floor. She would spend all her money on drungs and acholhal rratgher then feeding my brother and i. To save us my brother would try to get jobs or sell drugs himself just keep us alive eventually one after my mom kept hiting me he was sick of it and walked out. We foudn out 2 weeks late he was shot by 2 gang memebrs because he was taking their “profits”. We lived in bad cities 1 bedroom apartments i had to sleep on the floor huddle againts the heater to keep warm. She would neglect me often make fun of me. When she didnt have enough money for her crack she would go cicotic and hit me over and over till i agreed to climb into my neighbors apartment and steal their money for her. It was horrible. In school i was amde fun of because i wore the same thing and had bruises. She would make fun of me because i had ADD, OCD, shy,Minor Bipolor, learning dysablilitys,dislexia ( i know i have MANY problems)My dad was in the marines while i was born and was shot and had depression espicialy after findiung out he was a father to get rid of depression he would drink and do any drug he could find. Eventualy around 11 one of my neigbors reported my mother because one day she left the door open and neighbors saw the coke on the table. Then they reportaded me having bruises. Cps came and took me away where i went to foster care. During that time one of the orphans their a 17 year old who lost her whole family was depressed and sexually abused me for 5 months. At the time i didnt no what sexual abuse was so i didnt tell anyone. My grandparents adopted me and i live with them now i am 14 1/2 and ever since everything that hapened i dream about it i cant sleep cause of it. Even the sexual abuse leads me to diffrent girls every few days. I cry at night because i rember it all i have tryed medicine, cycoligists everything it never gets rid of one thing MEMORIES. My grandparents are extremley worried i think they think im going insane, but truthfully somtimes i feel like it i always have the same question on my mind WHY WOULD SHE DO ALL THE ABUSE TO ME, NEGLECT ME , MAKE ME WATCH HER GET HIGH OFF OF HER DRUGS. WHY! i cant take it she calls me every month from prison and i always try to ask but i just cant. I also cant help having sex and everything i read a book for school on how having secual abuse leads to yourself somtimes having sex young, to much. I think my grandparents think i am a bad kid i got into a few fights in school because kids said as a jok UR MOM! and i attacked them. I was nearly expelled for coming to school high but i stoped that because i remeberd my mom everything leads back to tha. I am always very depressed all the time and untrustowrthy(funny how i am teling you guys but dont tel ANYONE else.. Anyone who has a similar or near same storie who is ok now what did you do to help yourself? ANyone can answer their opinion i just want some advice
thank you very much
I am 21 weeks along, but I am a little worried because I consumed alcohol before I found out I was pregnant. I found out 2 days before my missed period, so the total time I drank while actually pregnant was less than 2 weeks and the doctor has told me not to worry, but I can’t help it! Has anyone here drank 2-5 beers a day before finding out they were pregnant? I know there is very little blood exchange between mom and baby that early on, but it would be nice to hear other people’s stories. Thanks!
…able to make her see her sickness. Now, at age 41, I feel so guilty for not “making” her go into treatment, and now, I am viewing my sweet Dad as an enabler who could have done something to make her stop. Is this a common feeling among adult children of alcoholics? Thank you for your insight, in advance.
I’m young, i’m twenty, and i’ve seen how people act when they are drunk. When i’m drunk I act stupid, but I do nothing to harm anyone, no physical contact.
But some drunks go insane….real insane.
I live in New York City, and sometimes my mom goes out late at the night, and she’s in the subways.
A lot of drunk people use the subways, and i’m wondering what are the chances that they may just grab her, and throw her in the train tracks?
I’ve seen drunks on television, but…they are really “out there” when you meet them in reality. There’s no telling what they would do
I have tried over the counter medicine such as funurgen, polaramine and a small amount of valium but nothing works. She is about 16 years old and sleep most of day which I cannot stop as she below to my elderly mother and finds places to sleep where my mother cannot find her. My vet is reluctant to giver her anything and say that she might become addicted, at her age I don’t see that as a major issue.
I should mention in the night before I had this dream I hallucinated (new sleeping pill I was trying).
Anyways I had two little sisters (in real life I’m an only child) one 6-ish and one 8-ish and one sister close to my age (16) I don’t think she was older than me though. We lived with our mom who was an alcoholic (in real life my mom hardly ever touches alcohol). One day we had sort of a family reunion picnic and accidentally left the two younger sister’s behind at the park. We realized it later, panicked and called the police. We had to wait the 24 hours so we went to search for them ourselves until then. We found out that they had been kidnapped, raped, and killed by some creep. We found a camera they had with footage of us leaving them behind which crushed my sister, mom and I. It cut off before we see the guy. I start to try to hunt him to and kill him for what he did (at this point I think I may have become a guy for some reason). I bought a gun and got really serious about it. He decided he would be a jackass and come after me harassing me and telling me horrible things about how he raped and killed them and how easy it was to do. I’d chase him but never find him, kind of like grasping around in the dark. Our mother’s alcoholism got worse and she tried to ignore everything. My sister told me to let it go but I wouldn’t. One day I chased him (or maybe just found him) in a restaurant my friends my sister and I like to hang out in. He continued to taunt me. I started fist fighting with him and my sister stands up and says “thats enough” pulls a gun out from her purse but before she can shoot the guy throws something at her head and kills her. It was just me and my mother then. We put posters all around the restaurant in memory of my sister. I think they guy gets away. I become severely depressed and my mother is drowning in alcohol and self pity. Some how I get a second chance go back in time back to the moment before my older sister dies. I realized that all i have to do to keep her alive in hold my tongue and let the asshole talk all sorts of sh!t and leave. Not without difficulty I succeed and save my sister. I don’t remember anything from there.
When I woke up the next morning I was terrified and couldn’t get my heart to stop pounding. I was having a very hard time functioning but thankfully I was in a hospital (psych unit) and I was able to talk to a person working there and she helped me calm down. I would still like to know what this dream could have meant. Please help, thanks!
I am now 26, and I would like to remedy this to the best of my ability, if any of you are willing to help.
I have really bad dreams at night, I went on here and asked people and they all said those are known as “anxiety” or “insecurity” dreams. I already know that I am very insecure, as my fiance who loves me very much tells me that I am. I always feel inferior. I never knew why, I felt maybe because I was picked on growing up, that was why. But inside, I always knew why.
It’s because of my parents and how they raised me, especially my mom. I don’t want to blame them though, because I love them so much and I know they love me…but growing up, my parents were always working, they left me home alone at 7 years old to watch myself because they could not afford a babysitter (they had me when they were teenagers and moved out and as a result, we were low income.) I had no friends, no brother and sister (I am an only child.) I was not allowed to leave the house, so I was VERY sheltered. Never went anywhere.
My dad drank all the time and passed out on the floor. They always yelled at me for stupid stuff. They laughed at me when I cried. My mom would throw fits (I think she is bipolar) and sometimes she would say she wished she had an abortion. I also remember her breaking a couple of my toys because I got her mad…RIGHT IN FRONT of my own eyes. She still gets like this to this very day….to this day she still hurts me but I keep running back because I know when she isn’t angry, she actually is a good person, she does nice things. She defended me when I was mistreated by others. She took me shopping, she bought me things to make up for her anger. She became like a friend. She just goes back and forth like Jekyll and Hyde.
My dad recovered from alcoholism when I was a teenager, he shaped up and became a much better dad, but I had such hidden resentment built up that when he did want to do things for me and with me like a good dad does I shut him out for a very long time. My mom, I kept close but was scared also at the same time…my fiance helped me to stand up to her bc she was controlling my friendships and my relationship with my fiance, now she is a little more understanding and she likes my fiance but she still insults people and freaks out over the smallest things, and this is why I think she is bipolar.
Now that I have recognized the source of all this pain and insecurity, how can I release this and let it go? And how can I deal with my mom’s abusive ways now, since I am now an adult who is marrying my fiance and I don’t live with her and have to answer to her any more?
My mother has many issues, alcoholism since I was a child, abusive, she left my dad and all of us when I was 16 and had no sense of remorse. She is remarried to an abuser and drug dealer and he physically abuses her. I have no relationship with her for personal reasons but I am very nervous now hearing what she now has gotten into. We think she is oh god this is hard…PLEASE BE KIND!! I think she is sleeping around to get money for dugs.
I am thinking of an intervention and I don’t know how to go about it. Even though I do not associate or talk to her and haven’t for 11 years I am worried. She is a compulsive liar and you never know when she is telling the truth. I do most of the time because what ever she says, think the opposite and that is it. My aunts (her sisters) want to help her. My oldest sister has her at her house all the time…I don’t know how to tell her. I try but she doesn’t want to find fault in “our mother”.
I want an intervention!!! She my mom is 52 years old !!!!
I have seeked therapy for myself because of all the abuse I grew up with and her abandoning her. I just know she is on a downfall really bad and know she needs help now. It’s hard to open my arms for her since she does not acknowledge any of us. Just my older sister who she spends every day with. Does anyone know who to contact as a therapist or who that person is that helps with an intervention???
Oh she is my mom by blood but not my mom by love. She has never loved us and we had to learn everything for ourselves…TRUST ME! SHE was always W*horing around.
MY heart is big even though she does not care for me but I hate to see people like this. I think about my nieces and nephews who talk about “grandma”. That’s what gets to me. She has lived this life LONG ENOUGH. She has been arrested and then after a few weeks let go. She has had her worst bottoms and I think a right intervention is what needs to be done!
I did go to a daughters of alcoholic women group and it helped greatly but not the drugs and sleeping around!!! UGH i’m disgusted. I just found out. I am over weighed in this. No one else really focuses on all her problems, they just say she works a lot. My siblings which we are 7 are in denial. I had already let go of her a few years ago but with this…I don’t know it’s really upsetting.!!!!!She is my mom and I don’t want her living on the street!
OH I’ve seen a Phsychologist and Psychitrist for years. That’s why I know she needs help. I’m just scared to get involved because when I do she brings me down. She wears me down!
I have not spoken to her since I was 16 when she left me to care for my younger siblings all 4. I haven’t forgiven her for it because she feels no remorse. Ugh…i’m just really stressed because I know my siblings will not want to help much. She needs treatment and she doesn’t have insurance. I feel like i’m stuck. She is in so much trouble left and right i’m scared if I offer her my home she will steal from me or take advantage and lie as usual.
I just don’t want her to die and know I have the intelligence to help but didn’t force her to.
I know it takes the person to change but sometimes she needs to see she has people behind her. She is not close to us so this will be VERY VERY hard!
I am 23 and live with my mother while I finish college (per her request). I have two siblings (32yo sister and 21yo brother). My sister is married and lives a while away and my brother is in the Navy and is stationed in Virginia. Our parents divorced 10 years ago and they hate eachother, which I think may fuel the problem. My mother has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember since her and my dad divorced. She has extreemlely high blood pressure and as he doctor said could have a stroke at any time. She is 49. I have tried to talk to her, pleaded with her to stop. She doesn’t. She doesn’t even think people know she drinks because she thinks she hides it. I have had several calls in the last few years that she has been rushed to the hospital and is in the ER because of various things. Then the doctors ask if she drinks and she tells them no. My sister thinks we need to “intervene” next time by brother is on leave. My mom is not open to this as I have learned. HELP
My daughter sleeps in the room with my mom and I opened the door and my mother was smoking crack with my daughter in the room. Personally I dont care if she smokes crack anymore because for 20 years she has been making excuses (“sometimes, i slip up”, or “I’m sorry”) so if she wants to kill herself oh well…Im not saying I dont love her but she is dead wrong…she is trying to kill my baby by having her breath in that stuff. I already have a case with ACS because of my grandmother,she was trying to get custody of my baby so she can get some money, which is what she did to me and my brother. I recently found a job but I have no place to stay and my boyfriend recently got kicked out of his apartment, and he has the money for one but he just can’t find a suitable one. If he gets the apartment I can stay with him and my mom will NEVER see my baby again. This is her FIRST grandchild and she doesn’t even care. That really hurts, she is always letting me down. Im not gonna let my baby down.
SHE COULD HAVE AT LEAST PUT MY BABY IN THE ROOM WITH ME OR MY SISTER
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I have a brother who is 15 years old, and he is DEFF. addicted to runescape. He wakes up in the morning , plays. Goes to school, comes back, plays. He doesn`t get good grades anymore. Sometimes he CUTS SCHOOL just to play on runescape. He plays about 10 hours a day. . . Doesn`t have ANY FRIENDS anymore ( except on runescape of course ) , He has NO interest in girls either. Whenever we go on vacation , he screams and causes tantrums like a maniac because he doesn`t want to be away from the computer . . . He curses at my mom , fights with her , made my mother cry a lot , he cries, basically the whole house is crazy. My mom tried taking away his wire, and hiding it her room and locking it. He searches EVERYWHERE for it. ONCE HE BROKE DOWN THE DOOR. He just acts like a physco. His attitude is also changing . . to me he acts really mean all the time. And i`m his twin sister =[ Idk he needs help. LIKE NOW .
What should I do ?
How can i delete his account?
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