We will help you get your mom off drugs!

just abuse even though my grandmother raised me she was just as mean as my mother. Honeslty out the too. I would say my grandmoter was the worst she did the nastiest thing. I think my mother WOULD NEVER DO. Anyway one day I asked my grandmother can she ask my mother why she dont love me or treat me so cruel, my grandmother said in a nasty tone you ask her yourself. My grandmother knew I was so, so scared of my mother even just to talk to her. me and my mom never talked I dont know why.

Now my mother is dead and I dont regret asking her, cause I was scared I just wanted to know why didn’t my grandmother wanted to do that for me, and why was she just as mean to me. Do you think she was mean to my mother. I heard my grandmother took me away from my mother so she can always have a check. My grandmother was a drug addict real bad. but why did my mother treated me so bad also.
thanks too the both of you. Anon that was pretty deep.

I am going to be a junior this year, at a very respected public school in MN. I’m beginning to look into competitive colleges, and I understand that disadvantaged backgrounds can give you an edge over students who came from well-off/stable/highly educated families. Or, put another way, your achievements are (to some extent) viewed within the context of the environment you were raised in. How much of an edge, if any at all, can come from these factors?

-Neither of my parents received degrees beyond high school—each attended college for a short time and dropped out (father was community college, mother a state school)
-My family is economically classified as the Working Poor. I live in a single-parent household (mom only) with an annual income of somewhere between $20,000 and $30,000… our EFC is $0
-This is probably not (as) relevant, but there has been legally-recognized domestic abuse in my family as well as alcoholism over the past 2 years

Say I’m comparable to other applicants at competitive schools (15-50% admissions rate) in every academic way. Side note: I am a Caucasian female

My mom just bought tons and tons of sweets and junk food! I mean she bought so much that you could open a whole bakery! And when she came home I almost fell over and told her that I was going to be strong and not binge. Then she said that I was almost too health consincous and to be a kid! I understand what she’s saying but I don’t think she get it. What do I do? I am scared that I am going binge and blow my whole diet! Please give me some advice on what to do!
Also if I burn 500 calories everyday on the treadmill or just by exercising will I lose weight?
Thanks!!!!!!!! :)
Thanks!!!!!!!! :)

I have their costumes all ready and had planned to take them around the neighbourhood with their trick-or-treat bags as soon as it is dark, but my wife says I’m drunk and is threatening to have her fat mother come over and sit on me so I can’t leave the house.

I live near my mother so I tend to see her on an everyday basis. I’m also in the process of purchasing my first washer/dryer so I’ve been using hers at her house.

We have always had an “okay” relationship. She is a recovering drug addict and still very much “selfish.” I try to talk to her and ask her to do things with us, but she just looks at me like I’m crazy and starts watching t.v. She’s very very dominant and aggressive. If I did something when I was a teenager, say leave the door unlocked when I left she’ll ALWAYS remember and never let it go and always think I’ll do it again so I’m constantly being *itched at by her about things I’ve done and how I have to make sure I dont do them again.

I feel that I’m trying to gain her acceptance but she just doesn’t care much about how I feel. Earlier I was at her house cleaning up some for her, and I lit her candles to make the house smell a little fresh and forgot to take her lighter back to her and she came into the room and started cursing at me saying, where’s my *ucking lighter, i can’t ever keep a *ucking lighter, get your own GD lighter. It really hurt my feelings…..especially b/c I’m the only one of her kids she’ll treat this way. She would never talk to my brothers this way and….I dunno

She has been 3 years sober from drugs, but has a gambling problem and if we bring that up in any type of way she’ll flip her lid, although she goes to the casino almost everyday and can spend up to 60 dollars if not more at a time and it’s really starting to “hurt” my stepdads funds…What can I do to help my relationship with my mom? She and I are just so different I don’t know how to mend our relationship. Sorry if this is kinda long

Boyfriend left me for another women?
We dated for three months and after three weeks he said “I love you”. Better yet, he wrote this email to me on facebook stating that he wished that I would never leave him and that he loved me. So about two weeks before we broke up he said that he didn’t love me and that he didn’t know what love was. Then he tried to break up with me a week later but I persuaded him to wait it out and give me another week to see it anything changed.

So a week later, on a Friday, we were supposed to get together at my house but I canceled because I was tired and I wanted to sleep early. The next morning I got a call from his mother saying he never came home last night. What really happened was this: he went home, told his parents that he was going to go out again to see me to go iceskating or something but really he was out at a bar, drinking with this coworkers. He got wasted (he’s actually an alcoholic), and got a DUI. He was pretty much in jail.

So the evening of the next day, I wrote “dissapointed” as the status on my facebook. One of my friends commented and asked me what was wrong. I replied : “alcoholism”. After that, my then boyfriend un-friended me from facebook and pretty much broke up with me on a message on facebook. Stating that it was “over”. I asked who he was with two nights ago and pretty much had to squeeze the answer out of him, that it was his co-workers. He does security at a middle school M-F 3-6 pm. He is a year older than I am, we went to the same H.S, the same college, although we didn’t meet until college. And he lives within walking distance from me! ughhh!

He said that he had to work on himself, and get himself straightened out and that we couldn’t be together. That we had separate lives and that we were headed in different directions. What I want to know is, how could he go from fine to wanting nothing to do with me over one weekend. We didn’t even see each other. To this day, he won’t even talk to me. In person, over the phone, in email, whatever. He’s like a completely different person. He went from being this loving boyfriend to someone I don’t even know. I suspect that he was seeing one of his co-workers or perhaps someone he met at a bar , on the side and broke up with me to be with the other women. What do you think happened to him? Can you help me interpret his behavior?

So i have an 11 month old son and his father and i split up 7 months ago.
His father was a bit abussive towards me and told me he didnt love me and wanted my son and i to move out so we did. The first few months were hard as he just completely backed off and didnt pay much attention to being a father to our son.
He was living at our old place and i was giving him overnights every other weekend or more so whenever he asked.
He than moved into his mothers 3 months ago. His mother is rapoid-cycling bipolar and is an alcoholic. I never felt comfortable staying at her house when my ex and i were together as she tried to kill herself after a drinking binge on my exs 25th birthday when i was 8 months pregnant. I was the only sober one and i was left to deal with eveything. Most recently she left a voivemail completely intoxicated saying what a whore i am and saying that our son gave her herpes.
After that message i was not comfortable allowing our son to stay there over night. I discussed these matters with my lawyer and had our agreement pulled due to my lawyer saying she didnt feel comfortable with it either.
My ex and i were trying to get along and i said i would come to his moms to see if it was comfortable for me to have my son stay there. I still did not feel comfortable but my ex told me i was being a bad mother and not putting our son in my best interest by not allowing him to stay overnight there so i tried it once. my son came back throwing up and it took me 3 days to get him back onto schedule.
My ex and i are fighting again and he is demanding over nights at his mothers every other weekend. I am happy my ex wants to see our son and make an effort to be in his life but i just dont feel comfortable with my son staying over night as his mother tends to drink all night long.
I just wrote him an email stating that he can have our son every single saturday but not overnight and that will make up for the day he is missing on his over night visists. I said that he could have our son over night when he has his own place which is supposed to be in a month.
Am i being unfair by doing this? Am i being a bad mom? Does it seem as thoiugh i am trying ot keep our son from hima nd his mom? Any opinions would be helpful. Its been very hard for me and i just dont know what to do. My family and friends agree that i should not be giving overnights but he makes me feel as though i am doing something terribly wrong:(

Additional info to make things fair from both sides: My ex does pay child support and does on time.
I have often called him a dead beat dad when he does not participate as a father as much as i feel he should.
I feel he makes decisions based on his hatred towards me and not in the best interest of our son.
He has said that he requests that i write up a letter saying he doesnt have to pay child support and he will disappear as he doesnt want to deal with me for 18 years.
We have both exchanged many horrible words in rage of anger.
he has told my family members that he hates me for making the decision to keep our son and i feel that has an affect on how he acts as a father (is that wrong?)

Would your dad being a drug addict, always getting high, doesn’t really support your family, has no job, and you mom being a gamble addict a good reason to get emancipated? Please i need real answers before i can decide if I should get emancipated. My family has been like that sence i was in first grade.

We can’t have a baby and it is devastating. 5 people where I work are pregnant and it is like a slap in my face when other coworkers bring in their newborn babies. Which happens 2 to 3 times a week because I work for a rather large company and they are family oriented.

On top of that, most of my friends on FB can’t stop showing off their baby photos and it makes me get angry and want to cry at the same time.

It is also a rough time because my mom and I are not speaking. She was abusive to me physically, mentally, and emotionally…I thought this was normal before my husband (then bf) helped me see that I did not deserve to be treated that way. I talked with my mom still, even made her bridesmaid at my wedding (she asked and I couldn’t say no) but I drew the line when he insulted my husbands race (he is mexican) and threatened to leave the reception if they didn’t get a whole table for their family…so my husbands parents moved just so my parents could have their own table and it broke my husbands heart.

This among other things lead me to stop talking to my mom…

How do I deal with this rough mothers day?? I’m laying in bed depressed out of my mind wondering if I should start binge eating again (I stress eat when I am upset which is how I gained 20 lbs)
We can’t have baby bc we are not in the right financial position. We live in a crummy apt complex and I got laid off from a high paying job. My new job does not pay as much and health inurance is thru the roof so I had to sette for HSA
Its financial not physical

We can’t have a baby and it is devastating. We are not in a financial position to have one, which is why. We live in a crummy apt complex and I got laid off from a high paying job and my new job doesn’t pay nearly as well, and I’m getting an HSA bc their regular insurance is extremely expensive.

5 people where I work are pregnant and it is like a slap in my face when other coworkers bring in their newborn babies. Which happens 2 to 3 times a week because I work for a rather large company and they are family oriented.

On top of that, most of my friends on FB can’t stop showing off their baby photos and it makes me get angry and want to cry at the same time.

It is also a rough time because my mom and I are not speaking. She was abusive to me physically, mentally, and emotionally…I thought this was normal before my husband (then bf) helped me see that I did not deserve to be treated that way. I talked with my mom still, even made her bridesmaid at my wedding (she asked and I couldn’t say no) but I drew the line when he insulted my husbands race (he is mexican) and threatened to leave the reception if they didn’t get a whole table for their family…so my husbands parents moved just so my parents could have their own table and it broke my husbands heart.

This among other things lead me to stop talking to my mom…

How do I deal with this rough mothers day?? I’m laying in bed depressed out of my mind wondering if I should start binge eating again (I stress eat when I am upset which is how I gained 20 lbs)

So i was at my mom’s friend’s house. I noticed that she had this vase with some orange looking water and some white things floating. I noticed that the white things floated up and stayed up and them came down like nothing. She told me that the white things reproduced and that Mother Teresa gave them to people to heal any pain. They would just drink the orange liquid.

I think they’ve become far more neoprohibitionist over the years.’”

MADD has become “overzealous”

she also said ‘I thought the emphasis on .08 laws was not where the emphasis should have been placed’

What kind of a person do you think she is?
Brian the brain, you’re saying nobody has the right to criticize MADD? Not even their FOUNDER? Thatt’s who she is

I am so absolutely sick and tired of my life. I go through the motions daily, because I owe it to my daughter. But, I don’t know how much more I can deal with. I am a 42 divorced (due to ex’s alcoholism-he turned cruel and mean) woman with a beautiful five year old daughter. I wasn’t a planned child—I was adopted at three days old, and at the age of six, I was told. By the age of 12, I knew too well that I was not ‘first picked’—I was never told or shown that I was loved……as an only child, I was verbally and psychologically abused until I finally had to leave. It still bothers me to this day—I never could understood how my own mother, and her ‘cronies’ could be so cruel—for no reason other than meanness. I volunteered at the library, ran errands for the elderly, walked/rode in -athons to raise money for charities, tutored kids who needed help, —-everyone else seemed to appreciate me except my own family. I was, and am still to a fault, a nurturer and empathizer. Yet, where one would think that people appreciate that in a person, it has caused me nothing but grief. If it weren’t for the teachers in my life, I would probably be living on welfare or some kind of addict. I have never experienced ‘true love’ or ‘unconditional love’….My daughter who is also adopted, since I suffered from ovarian cancer at age 19 and lost one ovary, is my only salvation——and it breaks my heart because I cannot give her all of me. I blame myself for ‘her daddy’ leaving……I tried so hard to help him, to get him help, to do whatever he wanted–yet he still left—two years ago……and his family ‘protected him’ although everything he did to us was cruel and vindictive——moved out and we lost our home, car, etc……..and he refused to help pay anything, he just moved in with some girl he just met—-and guess what, they have a little baby of their own now……I have no other family so to speak, so my daughter only has me, and I feel like a basket case all the time…….Since I was denied family stuff when I was a kid, I always promised that my family would always celebrate everything with family..yet for the two years since my ex took off we have been alone for everything—thanksgiving, christmas, birthdays, soccer games, EVERYTHING..my heart breaks just thinking about it. i have tried to reach out in so many ways to others, but I dont even have a friend in which to talk to. the few friends that I did have kinda went their own ways after the divorce. so, here I am all alone, trying to make a life for my little girl and me. I am terribly sad about what her life has become as well as extremely angry that all the people that were in our life have ‘abandoned us’ She did not deserve this. I just don’t know what to do. I could write on and on about this.. I gave so much my entire life, and my career is based on giving back to at risk kids—which I love, but no one has ever been there for us. I have tried churches, support groups, etc. It is like we are invisible. so, dont offer advice about ‘helping here or there’—I have helped out more than anyone I know and have never been the recipient of any such help. Not that it was ever a thought on my mind when I volunteered all the time, just looking back, it seems that I always gave (because I wanted to) and now, when I need someone, ANYONE, there is NO ONE. and the part that makes me bitter is that it is affecting my daughter, no matter how hard I try to keep it from doing so. She deserves the world. Both she and I have so much love to offer and we desperately want a family to share our lives with—it just seems hopeless

She drives me batty. If you knew her you’d understand. I need something to calm my nervous twitches.
Xanax might knock me completely out, which could be a good thing-I’ll never even know she was here.
but if drink, I can laugh the entire time she criticizes my housekeeping, my child rearing, my religion, my clothes, my choice of friends, or how my cat makes her sneeze.

So i have an 11 month old son and his father and i split up 7 months ago.
His father was a bit abussive towards me and told me he didnt love me and wanted my son and i to move out so we did. The first few months were hard as he just completely backed off and didnt pay much attention to being a father to our son.
He was living at our old place and i was giving him overnights every other weekend or more so whenever he asked.
He than moved into his mothers 3 months ago. His mother is rapoid-cycling bipolar and is an alcoholic. I never felt comfortable staying at her house when my ex and i were together as she tried to kill herself after a drinking binge on my exs 25th birthday when i was 8 months pregnant. I was the only sober one and i was left to deal with eveything. Most recently she left a voivemail completely intoxicated saying what a whore i am and saying that our son gave her herpes.
After that message i was not comfortable allowing our son to stay there over night. I discussed these matters with my lawyer and had our agreement pulled due to my lawyer saying she didnt feel comfortable with it either.
My ex and i were trying to get along and i said i would come to his moms to see if it was comfortable for me to have my son stay there. I still did not feel comfortable but my ex told me i was being a bad mother and not putting our son in my best interest by not allowing him to stay overnight there so i tried it once. my son came back throwing up and it took me 3 days to get him back onto schedule.
My ex and i are fighting again and he is demanding over nights at his mothers every other weekend. I am happy my ex wants to see our son and make an effort to be in his life but i just dont feel comfortable with my son staying over night as his mother tends to drink all night long.
I just wrote him an email stating that he can have our son every single saturday but not overnight and that will make up for the day he is missing on his over night visists. I said that he could have our son over night when he has his own place which is supposed to be in a month.
Am i being unfair by doing this? Am i being a bad mom? Does it seem as thoiugh i am trying ot keep our son from hima nd his mom? Any opinions would be helpful. Its been very hard for me and i just dont know what to do. My family and friends agree that i should not be giving overnights but he makes me feel as though i am doing something terribly wrong:(

Additional info to make things fair from both sides: My ex does pay child support and does on time.
I have often called him a dead beat dad when he does not participate as a father as much as i feel he should.
I feel he makes decisions based on his hatred towards me and not in the best interest of our son.
He has said that he requests that i write up a letter saying he doesnt have to pay child support and he will disappear as he doesnt want to deal with me for 18 years.
We have both exchanged many horrible words in rage of anger.
he has told my family members that he hates me for making the decision to keep our son and i feel that has an affect on how he acts as a father (is that wrong?)

I don’t remember, I watched it long ago. The British kid hangs out with these boys n they spy on these girls changing. Then when the boy grows up he gets a job as a factory worker, then a postman. He meets a girl who takes him on her house, they have sex, but she has some disease that makes her die. Later, the boy becomes an alcoholic and slaps his mother

I have this really vague memory of a movie I saw on t.v. about this girl who goes to stay at her cousins house and their all hillbillies. I remember that the guy in it asks her to get honey and later on he rapes her in a boat (lol sorry this doesn’t make any sense) and at the end of the movie she gets on the plane with her mother and she’s addicted to coke. Does this ring a bell? Thanks in advance!

her mother constantly bugs about me telling her that I’m not right for her. she insist that she should patch things up with her baby’s father but he is a drug addict who is currently serving time in jail. she tells me she want not to do with the loser. I need avdvice she is twenty-three and I’m 38

PARENTING PARENTS
As Mary grew up, her parents had a happy marriage, and both held down well-paying jobs. Both parents suffered from alcoholism and smoked, but in most other ways, they were good parents. They always attended school functions and generally provided for a sound education, her good health, and her happiness. In high school, Mary dealt with some anxiety about her parents’ health by attending Al-Anon meetings to help her understand their addiction. She was comforted by her parents’ ability to continue functioning well despite their addiction, and Al-Anon’s suggestions for dealing with their choices.

After Mary left for college, however, she noticed changes in her parents. When she came home winter break from college, she noticed that her parents had new prescriptions for strong narcotic pain medication for “back pain,” which they had never suffered from before. They now used the medication as an additional intoxicant with their alcohol, and often in excess of the recommended dosage, clearly in violation of the warning labels. Mary felt as though her parents were abusing the drugs, and brought this up with them. They replied that there was nothing wrong with the medication, that it was legally prescribed, and that they had no intention of quitting use of the drug.

Over time, she noticed that their prescriptions increased in quantity and potency, and she became increasingly concerned. During summer vacation, she noticed that they would take the medication first thing in the morning, and continue taking it all day long. One morning, her mother forgot to take the medication and was sick by lunchtime. Mary felt certain that this was a side effect of strong addiction, and that something had to be done.

Mary was worried about how her possible actions might affect her relationship with her parents. She was concerned about the effects on her older brother, his wife, and two children. She knew that her parents were active in the community and at church, and she didn’t want to damage their reputations. She also wondered whether her parents’ doctor would even discuss their health with her given current privacy laws and doctor-patient privilege. Additionally, Mary was concerned that, if her parents lost a legal source for the medication, given the addiction she suspected they suffered from, they might seek similar drugs on the street which would be more costly and much more dangerous.

What should Mary do about her parents’ apparent abuse of and addiction to prescription drugs and alcohol?

My mom has cirrhosis and diabetes related to alcoholism. She has now been sober for five years, but did not attend AA, or receive any special counseling.

My problem is that my mom lies to me and my brother about her medical problems. She lives alone and needs monitoring for low blood sugar (from the diabetes) and confusion and encephalopathy (from the cirrhosis). Despite that she is in some very real danger, and that we have had numerous discussions/ fights, she is once again hiding very serious symptoms.

Is there a specific mental health condition in which patients repeatedly lie about ONE SPECIFIC thing, despite how it negatively affects their lives?

In this case, my mother could suffer coma and even death. Also, I have cut her out of my life in the past, and threatened to do so again; she is very attached to me and does not want this.

So why does she keep lying?