We will help you get your mom off drugs!

First off: This book is written in first person, by Tim, a moody metal head. It is written very realisticaly, no romanticism. It is also based off of the song “Swing Life Away” by Rise Against.
He feels like his life is going nowhere. He thinks he will be living with his drug addict mom and step dad and promiscuous half sister, in a 12×12 section of the basement working at the music shop for minimum wage.

He is in love with this girl, Lanelle. She’s bright and optimistic. She calls him her “good luck charm” because he saved her life a while back. They all hang out in the same group, but one days she invites him over her house.

The whole thing goes on, and Lanelle has a boyfriend. He’s sort of a jerk. Sebby guilted her into having sex with him, and she regrets it. She wants to break up with him, but swears he will kill her and Tim if she does. She winds up cheating on him. Sebby finds out and beats Tim very badly.

Tim stays away from Lanelle for a while, but they eventually start hanging out again. Just talking. They had a lot more in common than they thought. Lanelle eventually gets the courage to break up with Sebby. That night, she’s in the car with Tim. Sebby “accidentally” hits their car with his. He’s fine, Tim is fine, but Lanelle falls into a concussion. She get’s better, but finds out she has cancer. On top of that, she is pregnant, from Sebby.

In the end, she dies. Her last words at “I love you” to Tim. It was Valentines Day, They don’t know why she dies. The cancer was curable, the baby was still alive, surprisingly. But, they’re dead.

Tim tries to kill himself. He tries to jump in front of the train, but his best friend stops him. He makes him realize that Lanelle brought a lot of hope and beauty into his life. He realizes that Lanelle would want him to continue living, and better himself. It ends pretty openly. Maybe he changes, maybe he doesn’t.

What do you think? Should I change anything?
I’ve never read a walk to remember.
But I probably didn’t explain the book well enough. It’s really not as cliche as you guys are making it out to seem.
It is brutally realistic, and it shows a lot of the bad side of Staten Island. The age group is 18-20.
I should have added a lot more detail to that I suppose :/

He wants to get joint custody because I do not want my daughter around his drug addicted family! His mom was a bad heroine addict back in the day, she was in jail/out of jail, has warrants out the wazoo and is now on methadone. She is a nice lady but falls asleep like that. I remember when my daughter was born she was about 4 hours old and his mom was falling asleep almost dropped my daughter. His older sister is in and out of jail steeling things and is on drugs very bad. Has three kids who were born off drugs. Just a whole bad scene. It’s unfair to me not to know what going on my my daughter. Yes he is a great dad..i would never keep her from him. He sees her All the time everyday he is at my house. He gives money when he needs to .. food. clothes.. etc. He wants his mom to watch her etc. (b/c she wants to be with my daughter) So he wants joint custody. We have no agreement through court right now. I have my daughter more since he lives with his mom until he finds a job. If we go to court will i have to pay him? I don’t make a lot, i’m not living off minium wage or the state.. i’m just your average class woman working and paying bills. When he did work he made more than me and never paid me a penny not that i ever asked but still. People are just saying ill have to pay him..How is this fair?? He gives his family money for cigarettes gas..etc etc.. i don’t want my money given to them? ugghh what can i do? Maybe Im selfish.. But i just don’t want my daughter growing up in that environment. If he gets his own house i know he will make sure nothing happens to her, i’m always scared his mom will come over then he will take a nap or walk whatever, & she’ll get her shining moment to “babysit”

I have to write an essay about sugar. Here’s my essay so far.
Could i have some feedback?

Sugar
Sugar is very high on the glycemic index. It’s digested quickly and provides calories but has very little nutritional value. There are different kinds of sugar and some are worse than others. Fruit sugar, fructose, is less harmful than refined sugar. People have evolved to like the taste of sugar because the sweetest fruits are often the ones that have the most nutrients.

The average BMI in North America is 27.1, which is overweight. Sugar is clinically proven to cause obesity, which causes heart attacks. Sugar can cause a variety of medical conditions including alcoholism, Multiple sclerosis and ovarian cancer. Sugar also causes skin to age faster. Too much sugar can affect your brain and make it harder for you to learn. It can also cause depression, emotional instability and epilepsy. Sugar is in almost everything we eat, even places where we don’t expect it. Sugar also causes dental carries, because the bacteria in your mouth eat it and produce acid as a by-product when they digest it.

Most people consume more that their body weight in sugar every year. For the first time in history, there are more obese people in the world that starving people

Sugar is very harmful to pregnant women and the fetuses. It can be as harmful as caffeine or alcohol, but because there is less social pressure for women to stop eating sugar during pregnancy, they are lass likely to stop. There is also less information available to pregnant mothers about the effects of sugar. Although women are supposed o gain weight during pregnancy, the weight is not supposed to be from having extra fat. It can also cause the baby to be born already overweight.

The most disturbing part about sugar, however, is its long history of being grown by slaves. About 85% of the sugar we eat today is grown by slaves. Most of the modern slaves are dept, slaves, but they only get paid $2.00 for picking a tonne of sugar, and they owe huge amounts of money to the company store. Because most sugar slaves today are dept slaves, sugar plantation owners today don’t even acknowledge that they are using slave labour to grow their crops.

In the 1700 hundreds, Thomas Clarkson was the first person to fight for the abolition of slavery. Most of the slaves at that time were also used to grow sugar. He faced a lot of controversy and, when he tried to prosecute slave owners for murder, the owners of sugar plantations actually devised a plan to have him assassinated. Luckily, he escaped.

The persecution of those who try to fight against sugar and sugar slavery, however, has not stopped. In the 1970s, many people who tried to spread information about the negative effects of sugar lost their jobs. Sugar manufacturers still claim that the evidence against sugar is not proven. They will not admit that sugar does damage to people.

I have been married for 8 years and have 2 boys. I feel that there is no hope for my marriage. I am not loved by my husband, who states that he is still here because of the children. If I stay, my children will be exposed to alcoholism and verbal abuse but if I leave there is the possibilty that the children will lose their father to alcohol. My mind keeps telling me that it’s not my fault and what he says to me is not true. I’m not the perfect wife and not the perfect mother. But I’m not God awful either. It’s like I’m dammed if I stay and I’m dammed if Ieave. I cannot bear another episode of hearing put downs when my husband is drunk. I can’t help but fear that I will blamed by his family if I leave and he drinks himself to death. He doesn’t drink everyday, but he goes on binges when we have unresolved issues. The issues are mainly about cooking or that I don’t take care of him the way I should. It’s getting worse and I don’t know where to turn for help

I have been married for 8 years and have 2 boys. I feel that there is no hope for my marriage. I am not loved by my husband, who states that he is still here because of the children. If I stay, my children will be exposed to alcoholism and verbal abuse but if I leave there is the possibilty that the children will lose their father to alcohol. My mind keeps telling me that it’s not my fault and what he says to me is not true. I’m not the perfect wife and not the perfect mother. But I’m not God awful either. It’s like I’m dammed if I stay and I’m dammed if Ieave. I cannot bear another episode of hearing put downs when my husband is drunk. I can’t help but fear that I will blamed by his family if I leave and he drinks himself to death. He doesn’t drink everyday, but he goes on binges when we have unresolved issues. The issues are mainly about cooking or that I don’t take care of him the way I should. It’s getting worse and I don’t know where to turn for help

alcoholism has trapped his mind body and soul
for year/ this disease effected his life to the
point he couldn’t go a day with out liquor or beer/
he lost his job his family and his wife/
he lost his friends his self respect and his life/
he living all alone inside of his car/drinking
has been the only thing left that he had so far/
its this guy used to be the the man he had
every thing/he was living the American dream
a life fit just for a king/but as time went
by things slowly stared to fall apart/
his mother warned his about this
from the start/liquor was like
rent it was always billing him/
but he had no idea that liquor
was killing him/fast forward
to that tragic mourning were
he would die/he was dressed
to go some were wearing a
suit and a tie/he was driving
and then he stared drinking/
driving out of control what
was he thinking/speeding
on the high way and then
it happen his car flipped
over and crashed/ the
impacted from the
accident killed him in a flash/
if only he gotten a chance
to quit alcohol to stay out/
but it to late now its just
another sad story about
a man who couldn’t find
no way out/

so heres the situation: i saw a picture of her smoking a cigar with young friends down at city walk (cali). to let you know more about us (so you can help):
we are both 17 (she’s 3 months exactly older than me). she acts 17 (duh) has 10 siblings most younger and only a couple friends that are 20. i was raised with adults and have no younger siblings and only have 2 friends under 19 (the rest are 30-). everyone treats me as an adult and thinks i’m 25 when they meet me. i work, i pull my own weight, and have bought my own clothes since i was twelve.
she was raised over the top conservitive and homeschooled, wasnt aloud to where pants until she was sixteen and wasnt alowed male friends untill 15. her mother is english, my father is dutch….so you can imagine. idk how english people raise there kids i just know that in my house, with a DUTCH dad, you have a job when your six, you wake up on time, and you dont sit in the living room unless company is over (in other words, i was raised to be VERY responsible and independant). to make it short, she was raised obviously different than me. i (and my siblings) have a LOT of freedom because we were raised extremely responsible (you can smoke cigars and drink at ocasions (yes under age) BECAUSE you have grown into the responibility of not over doing it and have a full understanding of what alchohol (and cigars) can do. she had NO freedom what so ever untill actually about 6 months ago an she was aloud to have her own group of friends that the family didnt meet (btw my dad wont let me ahve friends he hasnt met)
the things is…..i got SO protective of her when i saw that picture! and i dont know why! i honestly want to know why can someone please help? i know i have YEARS of experience and wisdom on her from being raised the way i was and by adults. ALSO having led my own life independantly of my family forever (thats just the dutch way). her parents STILL control everything she does (and her 20 year old sister that lives at home). so i was thinking maybe thats why!?? its because i know EXACTLY that “scene” i know what happens when you do that and you DONT have the wisdom of a person who’s done it a LONG time. its like living with an alcoholic and not knowing a thing about alcoholism or knowing even what alcoholic is. so seeing her ALONE in LA (where i’m from (she’s not)) with NO male or anyone older than 17, smoking, walking in the dark in heels and a short dress is like watching someone shoot heroine in a glass room when you abnging on the door and they cant here you. because i know that SO well and she doesnt at all, i lived in nashville too…you just dont go walkin at night with only girls in a short dress and heels where there are no lights.
i’m not sure ;( that really feels like the reason but maybe its not.

I had to write an essay on the show family guy and how it shows the role of the family hero, problem child, lost child, alcoholic, family clown and co- dependent. They are relate back to an alcoholism family. I’ve never seen this show so I tried my best but I felt that I should make some changes any ideas?

Peter Griffin is the father of the family and is also known as the alcoholic. Peter has a tendency to go out and drink with his friends when he should be home with his wife and children. He spends the families’ money on drinks rather than their education. Lois is Peter’s wife and mother to Meg, Chris and Stewie. Lois is known as the co- dependent and enabler of the family. She allows Peter to go out and drink with his friends because she feels that he has no problem with alcohol. Meg who is Peter’s daughter is known as he lost child. In the family no one appreciates nor listens to what Meg has to say. Meg is often ignored by her family and is in the shadow. Chris the teenage son is the mascot and family clown of the family. Chris is always laughing, having a good time, and has a great sense of humor. Stewie is the youngest of out of the children and plays the role of the problem child. Stewie is always getting himself into trouble and acts out inappropriately towards his family and peers. Brian who is the dog of the family is known as the family hero. Brian is always trying to do the right thing while looking out for the family’s best interest.

Hi there.
My mother constantly lies to me. She makes up stories that never happened like a child trying to impress new friends would do. The stories are extreme and worrisome, like she once said somebody tried to rape her! She brags to people constantly, but it’s always exaggerated to an extreme degree or completely false.
When she asked me to help her with some of her online accounts, I discovered that she e-mails men behind my father’s back. She makes up lies about our family and herself. She also offers to buy things for these people!
Sometimes the lies are minimal. Like, her and my father help pay for my college and she will say that “UGH! I would love to go to Florida (though she’s never mentioned wanting to go, I feel like some things she just says to say), but I have to pay for my daughter’s tuition/apartment/etc!” This isn’t true. I have a job and pay for my own expenses. But it’s a small lie. She will also exaggerate her illnesses and tell people when I have small infections.
But sometimes the lies are huge. (ie; the rape one, lies she has said about my dad, telling people my brother is addicted to drugs.)
They aren’t always negative lies though. Sometimes it will be about positive things. “My daughter is going to be a lawyer!” “My husband makes 500,000 dollars a year!”

I think it’s just so odd. And I can’t take it anymore! I just try not to snap at her every moment I’m with her. She constantly calls me to load me with more lies. I love her, but I don’t like her.

Does anyone have any ideas about her behavior? Like why does she feel the need to lie all the time?! and any tips for handling this? Please, it’s driving me crazy. I’ve been dealing with this my whole life and I’ve since systematically been trying to get away from her, but she keeps haunting me with it!

He is 38 … he has not worked for years, and when he did have a job, it was never really consistent. He lives with him mother.

He is an alcoholic, and he had three DUIs. He has never sought help for his alcoholism. He also uses street drugs (marijuana and crack cocaine). He talks about suicide fairly frequently and has anxiety attacks.

He has had a number of short term relationships with women. They never last longer than six months or so. When anymore tries to get “too close” to him, he gets defensive, sarcastic, and ends up pushing them away.

If you had to diagnosis him, what do you think is wrong with him?

A young guy that is 23 years of age I know loves to get drunk…in fact he can drink a 24 case of beer in just one sitting. I know the signs of an alcoholic because, a close family members is a recovering alcoholic…you know, hiding the liquor, drinking alone, feeling bad about drinking and etc. This young man says he doesn’t feel bad about his drinking, he doesn’t drink alone, and he doesn’t feel bad about it and doesn’t see anything wrong with getting “messed up” and “stupid drunk” every weekend or several times a week if that is what he chooses to do. He just admitted recently that he is a drunk, but that it doesn’t affect him holding down a job and taking care of his personal business. I see it as a possible problem because, I have witness him in his drunkenness; he gets into fights with innocent people, he grab some woman’s butt one time at a beer fest and then he refused to apologize, he is either really nice or really mean and hostile when drunk, he will lose his wallet and phone…there were two instances where he got so drunk that he landed him in the hospital and another time he was stranded somewhere unknown in the dead of winter. This guy tells me that it is “normal” for his culture to drink (he is Mexican) and that it’s something he will slow down with age, but I beg to differ. Knowing how alcohol addiction can affect the addict and the loved ones, it’s not something that you wake up one day and say “I won’t drink anymore” it progresses. So if he has been drinking since the age of 15 and he is 23 now, at one point does he think he will be able to “slow down?” Esp. if he sees nothing wrong with it and his friends and family are drinking to drunk as well. I told him that it’s not enough to just have a job and take care of business, if he continues to think that drinking to get drunk is a way of having fun, he will ruin not only his life, but his health as well…his mother has talked to him about it, but he won’t stop…he says he won’t rather he will just “slow down” as he gets older.

What do you guys think? Is he right about just being a drunk and not an alcoholic? Is there a difference (I think it is based on my research and personal exp. in dealing with a loved one suffering from liver disease due to alcoholism)?

Well.. all i know is that the title has the word dream in it.. but its about a mom and her son. Theyre addicted to drugs, the mom to diet pills and the son to cocaine and crack. The mom wants to be on a television show and wear a red dress… and at some point it the movie they chant “juice by sarah juice by sarah gooo sarah..” i think. but it was a really weird movie when they took drugs you never saw it actually happen but it would clip it i guess its kind of hard to describe. the sons arm gets cut off also… if anybody knows could you let me know i would really appreciate it.
i believe one of the waynes brother is in it as well…

My mom is addicted to prescription drugs. She normally never acts high. But last night I came home and she was slurring, all giddy, pretty much like she was drunk, but she doesn’t drink and there was no alcohol in sight. She said that the doctor gave her some meds that work for pain, but would get her OFF the oxycodone she takes..without having to go through the withdrawl symptoms. Today she is still the “drunk” kind of high. She hit a car just barely driving today and the people said it was fine they let her leave because she didnt do any damage to there car. I don’t know what to believe. I dont see why they would give her something that gave her a even stronger high to get rid of something shes addicted to. Help?

Misunderstood
As I looked into your gentle eyes
I could see no harm
You were simply an uncle to me
A brother to my father
A son to my grandfather
A godfather to my sister
I couldn’t see the power you sought
When your mother passed away
And no one was there to favor you
The attention you craved
Reached and satisfied through fights with your loved ones
I didn’t understand why you had to clash with everyone
When you threw that first punch at my father’s face
Still wanting to act like a child
Because it was all you had left
I didn’t understand
When you became so withdrawn
From the love that your family shares
You’re caught in between two worlds
Trapped and consumed by your childlike behavior
The tension was unbearable
I couldn’t stand seeing the family torn
You know it shouldn’t be this way
You turn to alcohol as your only comfort
Lengthening the distance between you and your family
Why can’t things return to the way they used to be?
Seen through the eyes of a child
Flawless
But the alcoholism consumes you
You’re huger for power leaves you lonely
You can’t seem to comply
With the respect we had for you
Lost, forgotten, disrupted
Through the pain and tears you’ve caused

So I work with a ton of girls at my business. This isn’t the first time I have worked with girls that come from broken homes. A few of them have told me unsolicited and completely not on topic things like how their fathers are alcoholics and drug addicts or how they cheated on their mothers. Or about their sex lives.

I am not a very touchy freely or very good with this stuff. They seem to like to vent and I don’t know what should I give them advice or just let them vent. Does this mean that they trust me or something?

I lived with my mom up until I was 13 in Hemet and i moved away from her because she was unfit and moved to LA with my grandparents and at the time my dad was a drug addict. So I was alone until I was 14 then i moved back with my mom in hopes she CHANGED but sadly she didn’t. I’m on summer vacation and visiting my grandparents. My dad is now living with my grandparents temporarily. I end up falling in love while in LA with a boy who doesn’t live far from my grandparents. Should I stay in La? or go back to Hemet? I told everyone that I was going back but I secretly want to stay. If i go back to my mom I know what’s going to happen but she needs me, more than I need her. You see, its never been about me. When I lived with my grandparents they ALWAYS took great care of me and never hit me or shouted at me. My mom is a drunk…but she needs help. I’m only 15. Sometimes I feel like the parent. Should I be selfish or selfless? what do i Do!?

Jessica’s parents are drug addicts and try to stop their addiction while trying to live their lives in normal society they shun out all the friends they have made over the years except their friends who seem not to judge them.Jessica’ss parents are surprised when they hear that their only friends are having a child that is expected around the date that Jessica is born. When Marina is born Jessica’s parents friends child)Jessica’s parents are selfish and decide it is best that they give their daughter the best life possible.Jessica’s mother was raised in aorphanagee so she wasagainstt that instead her and her husband switched their friends baby with theirs (the children looked the same and were about the same age had the same hair skin etc) Jessica is raised by her parents friends and does not know that theyaren’tt her parents until Marina tries to explain to Jessica that she is another families daughter (marina was visited by Jessica’s mother and Jessica’s mother felt guilty about what she had done so she told Marina about what she had done). Jessica kills Marina because she is happy with her life and wont let anyone ruin it.

I’m extremely curious if it’s just me. I’m tired of feeling like this, and am too much of a pussy to seriously consider suicide as anything more than something to grasp for attention with.
I’ve had a lot of death in my life, especially of those close to me, and those who didn’t die, usually leave. I also have a history of alcoholism, in both myself, and my family. But my feeling of what began as depression, and led to my self-loathing tendencies began here:
When I was fifteen, I lost my Uncle Tim. He died abruptly, and he was one of my major role models. He died after having drank, and driven his motorcycle(An ’01 Kaw Ninja) I was supposed to spend some time with him the very next week after he died. I used to live with him, and my mom. For a long time, he was the dad I never had. He was the first man whom I’d known who’d died, who I cried over. The first one I really was effected by. Unfortunately, I never really let go. I inherited his truck. I also inherited his seeming inability to keep a relationship going. I loved this man more than I ever admitted while he was alive. He was everything I wanted to be when I grew up, and the man I try to emulate in every aspect of my life, without meaning to.
The months after his death, I got deep into drugs and alcohol. I stopped when my daughter was born. But I’ve never really been the same since he died.
The second, after going through a three year relationship that was half-forced love, and half-just staying for the kid, was my grandmother. She was the best grandmother a kid could have, and for the most part, raised me while I was very young. I fucked up a few years before her death, and she told me “Maybe we just put you on a pedestal, Mikey. We just expected more of you than we should’ve” and I’ve honestly felt ashamed of myself ever since. I’ve never really accepted losing her. The night she died, I saw her, at the hospital, and the very last words I spoke to her were ‘I’ll be right back. I love you, grandma’ And then I left, and let the next person who was going to see her go. I ended up heading back home, 2 hours away that night, to get a call saying she’d passed. She was begging for me to tell them to let her go. I’d always done everything she’d asked me to. I couldn’t, that time.
The night she died, I got drunk and started screaming at myself in a mirror. I cried for hours, and then passed out drunk, next to my daughter’s mother.

It seems likely that these incidents are related to my depression. I started off just depressed. Suicidal, at times, when I could bring about the courage to do so. I drank, and quit for awhile, only drinking socially, or when I really wanted to let loose. Normal drinking.
I’m twenty now, or will be in less than two weeks. I’ve recently lost my fiance. I cling to people just so that I don’t have to be alone. I proposed to her because honestly, I figured it was the only way to keep her around. I drink, to make myself feel real again. I hate myself. I hate everything about me. I sometimes just, eh, want to die, but I don’t have the balls to try that again. I’m odd in how I deal with people. If left to my own devices, I don’t go meet people. I don’t even leave the house, unless I’m seeing family. I usually cling to one person for social things. Everyone else is just collateral. I don’t want to stop drinking, and I’m not going to go on some christian god-trip(No offense to christians, I just don’t want that whole thing for me) I just want to be okay. I want to stop hating myself. I want to stop being afraid of being alone, because of what it looks like to other people. I want to be me, again.

Is this normal? Does everyone feel this way? Or eh, should I try to fix myself?

I want to be a therapist. Most likely for recovering drug addicts and alcoholics (my mom is a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and I was addicted to pills in 7th grade and I’m fine now so I feel a need to help people who are into drugs and alcohol). Is there a specific name for a therapist who works with recovering drug/pill addicts and alcoholics and maybe sex addicts? Kinda like Dr. Drew. Lol thanks

I need any advise on how to ask for help and who I should trust with this without being judged as I am a mother and I have a wonderful job. I am sure people who know me would be shocked and may look at me in a different light.. My husband has no idea :(