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ive been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half now without paying any bills and his mother also lives with him and she has been a drug addict for almost 20 years.I am currently going through with buying a house and want my boyfriend to live with me but i dont want his mom in my home using drugs and bringing it around like she does now..how do i tell my boyfriend its either her get help or i dont want her at my house in a “good” way were he wont be offended.???

A friend of mine is asking for my help because her mom is suffering from a case of prescription drug addiction. I never really thought that people can get addicted to prescription drugs. I really want to help them out.

Hello! I was raised with an alcoholic mother whom has, in the past 9 years, become seemingly severely mentally troubled. I wish I could post a name and you all could judge for yourself by tracking her status’ on a few of our most popular social sites. The past 9 years + have been rather unpleasant and can turn into a very long story but I will stick with the matter at hand. At around 16-17 I became involved with what I say is the love of my life. From the start of the relationship my mother disapproved, in her extremely “filter-less” way. Thus far, it has been a tumultuous roller coaster ride with her. She is wasting much of her time bullying my fiance and constantly doing anything within her power and feeble mind to bash this relationship and throw stones in the grinder. (She does this to many others as well, She calls herself the Crazy lady of Va***y Road) I know many of the ladies have devilish mother in laws but believe you me, this one is straight from hell. She can’t even hold a relationship with with her very own kids whom she vows are her own flesh and blood pride and joy and so on and so forth. It has recently become public bashings through “cyber” portals, with scandal and lies. She does the same thing with EVERYONE in her life, constantly finding it in her best interest to constantly be fighting with someone and bashing them to get the world on her side, many times with provable lies. The woman keeps winning, what can I do to silence her? I have lived the role of feeling bad for her and trying to keep civil for many years, abiding by the “Love thy mother and father” rule. But our tribulations have gone FAR beyond any ethical boundaries and I can no longer stand it. I have been angry with family, but words cannot describe the damage that my very own mother has caused. Somehow in some miracle she always finds a way around around even Johnny law. Even when she is totally wasted out of her mind and abusing my sister while saying she is going to kill herself. I get a return phone call from the officer saying she is fine, just drunk and there is nothing he can do. The latest is she is telling the population that my fiance is committing adultery with my very own father. Really, this crap needs to end. This whole dramatic ordeal is much deeper and lengthy than I am presenting at the moment, professional or first hand experience answers would be VERY VERY appreciated. It would be nice to grab her by the hair and drag her to a mental institution, but something tells me big brother wouldn’t let that fly, I need real solutions. We have a little boy on the way and need to be dealing with this bag of nuts no longer. Thank you very much in advance!

Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

Below is a fictional character in for treatment. I am to compare my treatment plan with those of other substance abuse counselors. Please provide a general treatment plan that you would develop based on the below information.

Bill is 32 years old.
Referred by probation department.
Received 2nd DUI 1 month ago, posted .22 BA level.
First DUI was 3 years ago posting a BA of .18.
Used pot since age 13 and was high on last arrest.
He barely remembers being arrested, but remembers drinking 24 beers and feeling “shaky” upon awakening in jail.
Most of his drinking occurs in the evening after work.
Usually consumes about 6-8. Use is higher on the weekends. The last use of alcohol was 3 days ago.
Bill states that his problem with beer and marijuana began when he started to hang out with older people. He says that he really did not like the way it tasted, but it made him feel different, and away from reality.
He has been married two times. He has two sons. His wife wants him to stop because of all the bills and fines. He also admits that they separated when he got so drunk four months ago that he hit her. Because of this he recalls slowing down for a while and even quitting for about a week or two, but started again when he couldn’t “sleep right”.
Relationship with father is strained with a sound relationship with his mother.
He has received his GED.
Socially, he reports a few friends, mostly drinking or work buddies.
He enjoys hunting and fishing.
He is working as a maintenance person for the past year. He admits that he has received several warning for coming in late.
Medically, he is healthy.
Financially, they are on the verge of bankruptcy.
He smokes about a quarter ounce of pot every 1-2 weeks.
He adamantly denies any other drug use.

AXIS I: Alcohol Dependence, Marijuana abuse.
AXIS II: 301.70 Antisocial Personality Disorder
AXIS III: None reported by client
AXIS IV: Financial and legal problems,
AXIS V: Current GAF 69 Highest past year 72

Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

Substance abuse prevention speakers take the topic seriously, but sometimes I wonder just how many others do? I suppose as a substance abuse prevention speaker who knows the pain and torment personally from an experiential level, I am more apt to see the danger in substance abuse and drunk driving.

I grew up the son of a mother (a former high school cheerleader and honor graduate) who was an alcoholic and substance abuser. As a child I saw my beloved mother self-destruct and torment my grandparents as a result of alcoholism and using every drug imaginable. Ironically, my mother (a former drunk driver herself) was killed when crossing the road as a pedestrian when an 18 year-old drunk driver hit her – killing her on impact.

Dead on arrival, police awaited the return of the young drunk driver who left the scene of the accident. Upon returning, the police video (which I later painfully watched) showed the young man crying and screaming, “I can’t live with this on my mind!”

As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer I don’t drink alcohol to this day. Yet I don’t condemn those who do and kindly serve as the designated driver whenever anybody close to me drinks.

After a childhood of pain and hell as a result of substance abuse and drunk driving, I myself was hit and nearly killed in July 2008 by a drunk driver (a two-time DUI offender driving after her license was revoked). The 61 year-old lady barreling down the road in a large Chevy truck, driving drunk at 4:40PM on a Tuesday afternoon, hit my car repeatedly (completely totaling it and nearly killing me) without stopping, attempting to flee the scene of the accident, after which she hit and totaled a parked car before being arrested by police.

For nearly five months I drove numerous rental cars, while battling my insurance company to be financially compensated to purchase a replacement vehicle for my automobile totaled by the negligible drunk driver. Even worse I spent days and nights in hospitals and doctors’ offices receiving medical treatment after the accident for injuries, which still cause me pain and trouble to this day. The added stress and strain medically and financially also negatively affected my marriage, as logistically my wife and I shared the one vehicle the drunk driver totaled.

Personally encountering the crooked and fraudulent business practices of tow truck companies, medical professionals, insurance claims adjusters, and car salesmen added additional aggravation and suffering to my life at a time when I was most vulnerable.

Nevertheless I somehow persevered and battled through it all to stand tall, becoming a voice of conscience to substance abusers, drunk drivers, they who prey on victims of catastrophic accidents, and those suffering through seasons of tragedy turning their world upside down.

I guess God spared my life so I can speak to others.

I make a number of assumptions when conducting a substance use evaluation as part of a litigation process: 1) the individual’s use is usually not less than the individual reports, but it might often be more (or much more); 2) inaccurate accusations of substance abuse are common because there is usually little negative consequence for inaccurate accusations; 3) the parties to the litigation, and those connected with them, may provide biased and inaccurate information. Therefore outside corroboration of their reports is essential for determining the extent and consequences of substance use.

As a practical matter, getting outside corroboration (information from sources not connected with the litigation) is difficult because such information may simply not exist, or obtaining it would require work performed by other professionals (such as private investigators) rather than by psychologists. That work would be outside the scope of the psychological evaluation the individual has consented to. An evaluation that obtained outside corroboration could be conducted at great expense, but would require weeks to months of effort and at best would only establish the history of substance problems (or lack of them). Such an evaluation would be appropriate when litigation is only concerned with history and not with the future (as it is in child custody litigation).

In my typical evaluation I document what is reported by the parties, conduct basic psychological and addiction testing, review documentation, and interview collaterals, as appropriate to each case. In some cases I am able to identify reports that are unlikely or impossible (e.g., consuming only 2 beers would not result 90 minutes later in BAL of .22). In some cases the information I obtain allows me to offer a firm diagnostic opinion. However, in most cases I will not have a firm diagnostic opinion, because I will not have sufficient firm evidence.

Even with a firm diagnostic opinion, the prediction of future substance use is problematic. An individual’s substance use can change, suddenly, dramatically and without treatment or support group attendance, in response to changes in the environment. Litigation often produces substantial environmental changes, and therefore has the potential to lead to significant decreases (or increases) in substance use. The diagnostic manual (DSM-IV-TR, page 221) recognizes that “some individuals (perhaps 20% or more) with Alcohol Dependence achieve long-term sobriety even without active treatment.”

Consequently, if the litigation has a future focus, my normal recommendation is to obtain substance testing on a continuous basis. I will monitor the results of this testing if the court requests it. Random testing might work in some cases, but it allows a significant potential for delay in discovering problems. Such delay is unacceptable when the best interests of children are involved. Depending on the substances of concern, testing involves the individual stopping at a drug testing facility two to three times per week to provide a urine sample. Modifications to the basic plan need to be made if the individual tested is a reportedly moderate drinker, but in some instances such individuals are willing to abstain completely for the sake of eliminating suspicions about their having alcohol problems.

I normally recommend that the testing be paid for by the other party, and continued as long as the other party feels it is worth paying for. Solomon knew that the true mother would only want what was best for her child. Even Solomon did not try, simply based on the reports he received, to determine which mother was telling the truth.

People generally start taking drugs due to personal problems or due to failure in professional life or due to peer pressure. They think that this is the best way to sort out their problems. On the contrary, the youngsters come under the influence of peer groups and start taking drugs. After certain period of time, they become habitual of substance abuse and find it impossible to come out of this habit. Therefore, they need special rehab centers where they can get treated carefully and properly.

In fact, treatment for substance abuse is a complicated process; therefore, substance abuse counselors follow step by step method to treat the patients.

Detoxification: It is the first step under which toxic substance is removed from the body. Generally, it is done through medication and with the help of some conventional therapy.

Rehabilitation Therapy: It is the second step that assists individuals to stabilize themselves. There are two methods for rehabilitation i.e. physical therapy and occupational therapy. Physical therapy includes normal exercise, meditation, and some other treatments of such kinds that emphasize on the normal functioning of the body parts. Under the occupational therapy, the doctors and other experts emphasize on the individuals’ daily routine work.

Relapse program: If the treatment is not carried out properly, the patient again develops the same habit. Therefore, the experts control relapse through effective medication or relapse program.

Aftercare: In fact, after the final treatment there is still probability that people can again start taking drug or alcohol; therefore, substance abuse counselors provide aftercare. Under this treatment, individuals keep themselves in contact of counselors for a long period of time so that no problem happens in future. However, if any problem generates, it gets cured on time.

Apart from these basic steps, a few authentic and reliable centers keep on up grading their treatment procedures. They also use advance equipments for better and effective recovery. So, there is no need to bother; rather consult reliable counselors for the treatment of substance abuse.

This life is too short and needs to be lived in the most creative and constructive manner. We all suffer from times that are trying and testing and on many occasions feel that we just can’t carry forward anymore. Many among us feel that we do need the help of some external driving force to keep us moving forward. On many occasions we feel compelled to fall for the various addictions like alcohol addiction, drug addiction or become victim to some other types of disorders like eating disorders. On many occasions we feel that only such addictions can have the solutions to all of our problems. But that is definitely not the case. Addiction of any kind can never solve any of our problems howsoever big or small they are. The best thing is that the help is just round the corner. There are many drug addiction treatment centers as well as eating disorder treatment, alcohol rehabs and addiction treatment centers that can help the people who are suffering from any of the addictions.

The addiction treatment programs that are offered at these centers are designed scientifically and are meant to treat the patient comprehensively. A lot of professionals that are involved in the drug rehab or the addiction treatment are themselves recovering from the malaise and thus are quite knowledgeable about the behavior that can help the patient in his treatment. The drug rehab or the alcohol rehab or any other addiction treatment programs need a specialized effort. Care needs to be taken that once the patient is out of the rehab then he doesn’t falls into a relapse.

Another important aspect of the addiction treatment programs is that the family of the patient is also counseled appropriately. The near and dear ones of the patient play a very important role in the complete treatment of the patient.

Although my mother is not saying it, I know that she has problems. Lately, she always go out and drink at the nearest bar. She’s not really like this until now. I don’t really know how to talk to her because I don’t know how to deal with people involved in alcoholism. I feel like I need the help of an expert so I can speak with my mom and help her cope with too much drinking.