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My friends and I organized a pool party at one of our friend’s house for our grade school reunion, overnight to double the fun. Of course, I’m very excited. Who wouldn’t be?
I was talking to a lot of people in organizing this reunion to make this night fun.
Today – the turning point. I decided to ask permission to my mom. I did it after the planning of the party because I thought she’ll allow me to go. But actually, the exact opposite happened. Apparently, she had these paranoid reasons that there might be some sort of drugs inside their house! How would some parent allow her house to be filled with drug addicts? What the hell!
I’m college student who has a dream to catch, inspired by a lot of people so I’m living a decent life, not like people who live in the slums who get drunk each and every night.
I also never had extreme psychological problems like attempted suicide or sniff marijuana and other drugs. I only drink at parties which I seldom go to and she knows that.
How can I convince her? This is so unfair!

I was just a young mother-to-be when I caught my mother kissing my husband. I was so young, scared and intimidated that I detached from what I had seen; I later found out that they had been having a full on affair ( while I was pregnant and then for a few years ) My mother has never apologized. Our family has been literally fractured. I realize that my mother and my (now)ex husband are sex addicts that were attracted in their addiction . People cross unimaginable boundaries looking for “love” and attention. It has taken so many years and much therapy to overcome the depression, get the anger out, deal with the aftermath of this and let go of my bitterness. I am a stronger woman than I probably ever would have been, but have always had trust issues.I am calloused for life.
I wonder if this has ever happened to anyone else ? sometimes I feel very alone with this betrayal of my own mother. All I can say is that this thing , regardless of therapy/ time, has ruined an entire family.

My new puppy is 5 1/2 weeks old, and is currently being wiened from the mother. He is a full blood Chihuahua. He will not drink water. We’ve given it to him in multiple forms and dishes, but he will not drink water. He keeps going back to the mother to nurse, but she isn’t really letting him anymore, I’m worried that he might get dehydrated if he doesn’t drink something soon.

Any real suggestions would be greatly appriciated!!! Thank you!

her mother constantly bugs about me telling her that I’m not right for her. she insist that she should patch things up with her baby’s father but he is a drug addict who is currently serving time in jail. she tells me she want not to do with the loser. I need avdvice she is twenty-three and I’m 38

Hi. I’m eighteen years old and still live with my parents. I go out at least once a week and take home applications to try to get a job. I’ve been trying for almost two years now, and I’ve had no luck. I’ve been told many times how bad the economy is, so it’ll be hard for me to get one, but anyway.

I still live with my parents, and every single day my mother gets drunk. Sometimes she’ll start drinking before it’s even noon. She drinks a lot, and no matter how many drinks she’s had she always claims she isn’t drunk. Whenever my dad and I confront her about this, she screams and yells and tells us she hates us etc.

This has been going on for years. Whenever she starts drinking, she gets mean and vicious. There are times when I won’t even be in the same room as her and she’ll start yelling at me, telling me I’m lazy and fat and that I’m a loser (and to be fair, yeah, I don’t have a job, but I have a 3.4 GPA in college and I’m majoring in nursing, I can’t say I’m a loser. She didn’t even go to college.) and how much she hates me. Then she and my dad will get into a fight, and once he leaves (either to go to work or because he’s had enough of her) she screams at me saying I always ‘stick up for him’ even when I’m not involved in the conversation. She then tells me how I treat her like sh*t because I’m not there to stick up for her in a fight and that I’m useless etc.

When she’s drunk she’ll do mean and rude things and she doesn’t care when I confront her about it. She’ll tell me it’s my fault for her alcoholism and when I ask her why, she can’t give me an answer. She usually replies with “I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “I can’t stand you” etc. and then won’t let me get a word in.

I can’t explain all the things she does when she’s drunk but she’s insufferable. She’s mean and cruel to me and my dad, and she’ll yell and scare my dogs to badly that they hide under tables and stuff. I don’t understand what made her this way, but I can’t take it anymore.

The problem is, I don’t have the money (no job) to move out or get a dorm, and I don’t know if what she’s doing constitutes as illegal and/or abusive because she’s not physically hitting me or anything.

But I really need help, and I need out of this. I’ve tried taking her to family counseling before, which ended badly. We (my dad, her, and myself) were trying to work things out when my mom just got up and left. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Please don’t tell me to try to talk to her because my dad and I have been trying for years and she doesn’t care at all, she always blames us for it (and can never explain why).
My dad has tried to divorce her but she… for a lack of better terms, won’t let him. As well, almost all our family lives in a different state.
I need this question answered: Is what she’s doing illegal?

Can she get arrested for it?

Idrink way 2 much i passed out had seizures and was dry heaving 4 ours i peed on my friends they had to drag me everywhere i was completely knocked out its been 2 days ndi still feel sick but im 15 cant go o the doctor they will call my mom

My nephew is a very intelligent young man. He gets all A’s in school and is very well mannered. His mother loves him very much and spoils him to death. She has him so spoiled that she still allows him to sleep in the bed with her. He is 16 and in the 10th grade. He also still drinks out of the same sippy cup that he had when he was 2 years old. I was shocked at this. He came to my house one day and when I offered him a soda, he pulled out the sippy cup and poured it in their to drink out of it.
I tried talking to his mother and letting her know that I don’t think that this behavior is normal. She got offended and felt that I was calling her a bad mother. I don’t think that she is a bad mother but I don’t think that a 16 year old should still be sleeping in his mother’s bed or drinking out of a sippy cup. What do you think? Advice please!

Someone is going to be giving my family a kitten. She’s 7 weeks old and the person said that they can’t give it just yet because it’s STILL drinking from it’s mother. Is that normal?
Uh…no, she’ll be 8 weeks by the time I get her. When I took my puppy in for shots I asked if the kitten would be old enough to take home and she said yes.

My life and the life of my family has been severly bruised by the theories of psychiatry.
I still do not understand how people believe blindly in chemical imbalances without getting themselves information on how psychiatry becamse what it is today and the complete lack of scientific proof behind their theories.
I am scared because it may mean that people have lost their common sense and have stopped to believe in their hearts and soul.
Psychiatry is so common, so accepted, yet so misundesrtood.
For example, my dad used to drink alcohol, at this moment I have not being explained why he did it. Probably to avoid reality. If so, instead of looking deep into his reality and see why he was feeling so sad he was said he had the sickness of alcoholism and clinical depression. In other words that he was going to be sick for life. He was prescribed prozac and got lots of elecroshocks. My mother was brainwashed that my dad was “crazy” so my dad was unable to express an opinion because it wasnt taken seriously. This caused serious marital issues and with the high doses of Prozac and electroshocks my became severly distrubed, hopeless and commited suici
His death was very disturbing for my mother. I was still a child and was told my dad had a heart attack so it didnt affect me that terribly. The bad part is that my mom became a very cold cruel person. Despite this I was a very intelligent, happy child most of my adolescence. But then when I was 18 I became severly sick of my thryoid. My illness made me very fat, very sick, my body ached, my memory became bad, so school became really stressful, I was obviously really sad cause I was just starting life and I was told I was gong to be like this my entire life. I got really discouraged.
Well, I was diagnosed as chemically imbalanced just like my dad.
My mother instead of giving me love and support rationalized I needed a psychiatric drug because I was ‘mentally ill”. Obviously I was just feeling sad because my body ached like crap and I didnt know how to manage life with so much body pain.
I escaped my home because it was really horrible to be looked as a mentally sick person.
I married a guy who was aggresive and controlling. Of course I was sad because I did not trust him.
He rationalized I couldnt love him because I was “mentallhy sick”.
One time I asked help in a crisis hotline, I told them I was very alone, very sad, I didnt have support in my life, that I didnt know if I could move on.
They sent me an ambulance and forced me into a mental hospital because they said I was suicidal.
That place was horrific. Like a jail. No freedom, and forced to take psychiatric drugs.
I divorced, complety separated from my family. Started a new life.

I met a great guy, VERY HUMAN at last. Affectionate. I do not suffer saddness, except when I remember how my family of origin is complety brokent. But it is natural, not an illness to feel sad. Ive been surrounding myself by people who understand people can feel sad withotu being labeled mentally ill. And that if you are sad you need support and affection, NOT MEDICATIONS that have no scientific basis, not BEING JAILED against your will.

I keep hoping that people start gettign informed and educated, instead of believing blindly.

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Some people seem to think I should still talk to him. That’s not happening. He chose to hit my mother, he chose to get drunk and abuse her, he chose to kick her down the stairs when she was 8 months pregnant with my baby brother. I never want anything to do with him. Would you, if you were me? I highly doubt it.

I’m going to a party tonight for my birthday and we’re planning to drink, I’m turning 19 so I can handle myself, I’m not a 12 year old running around drunk, but my mom is super strict, she smells alchohol from nearly a mile away, If i drink around 11 and I wash my face, drink alot of water, brush my teeth, drink alot of water and chew gum, do you think she’ll notice when she comes to pick me up around 2?

Just curious because my brothers had a very heated drunken argument out of no where the other night and i as just wondering what other people would say about this. (Not that my mother is a prostitute or anything they were just having a hypothetical argument, remember they were drunk)

My father beat up my mother when I was younger, from 1991-1994. She and I left one day when I was 4, when he was at work, we abandoned the house. He was a pathetic drunk, and wife-beater.

Several months ago, he tracked us down, saying he was sorry, and wanted to be in our lives. He even said he wanted to start seeing my mom again. She was granted an annulment many years ago, but he said he wanted to start again.

No way am I ever having anything to do with him. Just wondering, would you?

stroke that effected her right side. I am so sad she has been crying. It hurts me so. My question is two fold. She says she doesn’t want to stay in hospital after 3 days. I spoke to her Doctor today and he said she will be off to Rehab for 10 days. My Mom is on a fixed income with medicare and they only pay 80% she is worried about that It made her blood pressure go up. Also she left a durable health directive) NO POWER OF ATTORNEY for finances what do, her bills still need to get paid
and I work Part-time.Any suggestions help…….

My mom is Mormon and she has always wanted to try a “cordial” a really sweet liquor but of course being Mormon she can’t. Does anyone know a recipe or a place you can buy completely liquor free cordial that tastes good?

I’m all she has…

She’s an on and off drug addict. [crack]
Recently I sent her to rock bottom.
I told her I’m going to move in with my dad.
This makes her think I’ll never live with her again…
The thing is…
I want to live with her.
Thats why im doing this…
She she can get better
She’s telling me she will never get better again and kill herself.
She was suposed to go to rehab but doesnt want to now because she doesn’t have me to come back to.

I now know she means it when she says I’m her world.

This is making it so hard on me.
Basicly I feel as if I move… I loose my mother…
But if i don’t move… I have to live with her ups and downs.

It hurts so bad. I have been crying all day.

My dad had to do the same thing (leaving his drug addict mother whos better now)

But he never had a stong relationship like me and my mom.

I’m so lost. I want to just be by myself and not have to see or know other people. I want to be by myself and just cry.

My husband’s father, brother and sister have all been addicted to several different types of medications. Tramadol has always been the main one for some reason. We used to live four hours away from both of our families and never seemed to have any problems. My husband was so against them for popping pills. Then we moved back home… Its been three years now and my husband has been taking and addicted to tramadols this entire time. I found out a couple of years back when a few things just didn’t add up. Then came the lies, the unusual sweating, the mood swings, he didn’t eat as much as usual, and I had family members of his coming up to me in the local stores letting me know they had “trams” if he was interested. He started calling into work constantly, money went missing, bills wern’t getting paid, and he would dissappear for long periods of time. His dad would stop over and go to our basement, he would say he forgot something and then leave. I thought that was strange because this man is like a zombie and doesn’t go around too many people. He finally told me the truth two years ago. He said he was going to quit and be clean. He went through is w/d symptoms and I believed him. The funny thing is I really had no idea…I just put two and two together. I thought he was clean this whole time. Then in February, he od’d and was freaking out. He thought he was dying. I told him to just ride it out because they had been in his system for several hours at this point. Then he swore that, the incident was a big enough scare and he would NEVER do them again. In April, a strange woman came to our door yelling his name. He went to the door and went outside to talk to her. The window was open so I heard everything. She was trying to sell him pills and he said he didn’t need any, then she asked where his dad was cuz she needed to make some money. I flipped! I called his mother and told her to tell her husband to tell that crazy Bi**h to stay away from my house. I have two young children and the last thing I want is to have people like that coming to my door. I once again believed my husband of 10 years. These last couple of months I had a feeling something was up. Money was missing again..with no explanation, started calling into jobs, lost all of his jobs. He has been laid off since January 2010, maybe worked 1 month out of this entire year. Our bills are racking up, and he says he is just giving his dad the money because he needs it. ( Even if that was the case, his dad should know better than to ask his unemployed son with two kids to buy him pills). He made me feel like I was crazy, imagining things, too suspicious. I mean, I found 5 empty pill bottles, he said they were his dads. Finally, yesterday I literally caught him red handed. He had his hand closed, I asked what was in his hand, he would nt’ showed me until I forced him to. He said he had a headache and it was naproxen (like im some sort of idiot or something). I found the rest in a duffle bag, I flushed them, then looked them up online, and of course as, my suspicion was dead on. It was tramadol. I asked him for a divorce, I am over it! I dont’ want to deal with him or his pill popping family anymore. He says he will get help, but he lied about that before too. What do I do??????

Child Protection Svs. knows, by my 16 yr old’s own admission that the complaint they were investigating had no merit, but came back again, and then a **3rd time** and accused me of “emotional abuse” because I drink alcohol. My daughter doesn’t want me to drink (I am NOT an abusive person, drinking or not, and a member of AA since 1988), because she doesn’t think it’s “fair” that she entered rehab for drug problems and I still drink. That’s a short version of the story that still continues. Bottom line is that I was forced out of *my* home and threatened with repurcussions if I didn’t enter rehab. I’m currently not allowed to be in my house when my daughter is there, though I’ve never been given any documentation that says so. (Her mother lives there too but we were never married and split up years ago. I invited them to stay with me so that my kid could have some stability, a sense of family, and that’s another story.) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

she is trying to induce a miscarriage by getting really drunk every weekend, and if she doesn’t lose the baby she wants to keep it, how can she expect for me to be responsible for a baby she ruined?

5 children, and he is the youngest. 2 of us are step, 3 are biological to my step mother. we are now all grown up, Late 20′s and early 30′s. in highschool me and him hung out and were like best friends. did some trouble which i grew out of. He just kept doing more and more illegal stuff and got deep into drugs. oldest sister has a family with 3 very nice boys, other sister has always held a GREAT paying job which takes time away from her children (parents look down on this), older brother does construction and lives with otherside of his family. does well for himself but is not very family oriented, comes around when he wants to (with my family i understand why), Me…I am in the military, served 5 tours, 4 to Iraq 1 to afghanistan, own my own home, live comfortably with new cars and 2 amazingly well behaved happy children (I seem to be blamed for most drama and problems of step mothes life).. youngest son DID drugs, he has receintly served 6 months in a bootcamp style court mandated rehab (mother says he picked it to get help, he didnt want jail), he has not held down job, lived off welfare, did drugs, had a meth-lab in his 1yr old son’s room, and now just broke parol and left state to got to a concert where he got busted selling drugs. 5 felony counts. mother still thinks he is a wonderful father and very noble taking the full sentance because he didnt turn in his supplier and get a deal. keeps his family safe that way. I know the problem is with the step mother.. common denominator in ALL drama, but why does the pride still maily remain with the child that has gone nowhere? she even has a count of days he has served thus far… its offensive.