We will help you get your mom off drugs!

Ok so i hate my step mom. i have tried getting along with her and i cant. she is in short a bitch. and i am about to explode. My dad wont divorce her no matter how many times she goes to jail she is addicted to stealing prescription drugs she is anerexic and balemic and she is ocd about the house beng clean past every spec of dust. she hates me and my sisters she is obviously gold digging wont eat at the table. hardly eats at all. her daughter she raised to be a brt. how do i get rid of her? I am desperate.
Dont be a smaart ass. and i have contiplated suicide because of her. cmon people im serious
Nice thought but my grandpa is dying of cancer he dosnt need ayone else around and my real mom has stolen upwards of 10,000 dollars in coins from me…as well as writing fake checks and other frauds

My step kids mom is a coke addicted useless bartender. She is not financially responsible for these kids. She gets them on the weekends. She beats her other smaller kids as does her husband. She left coke straws where her stepdaughters baby could find one and play with it. Her kids have found drugs in her purse and in her laundry. She doesnt spend time with them doing anything for them. She doesnt read to them, help them with homework, have rules, or anything. The twins are like 9 now and already have had police called on them and are dysfunctional at best. Why is it then that my step son in particular sticks up for her? She doesnt do anything to help us out, nothing for anyone but herself. WTF!!! I pray daily that she would overdose and do the world a favor.

After my dad died two years ago my mom let’s me visit her sometimes. I’m fourteen. And I way rather live with my step mom. But my mom is to selfish to let me. At my stepmoms there’s a better house better community. Plus that’s where my two very close step sisters are and my half little sister and half little brother which i love them all withh my heart and would risk everything for them and my step mom. And I have family that lives close and my two older sisters real dad and step mom live close also. And i love them dearly also. But my mother still won’t let me live with them. I have to live in alabam with Charlie my step dad who I don’t like atttt all! Which my school is filled with drug addicts, drug dealers, and there’s a fight everyday! And I don’t live in the ghetto or anything and it’s still like that. I just need a way to talk my mom into let me living with my step mom again. Any advice?

My mom and dad and my sister’s mom (dads ex wife) aren’t exactly on good terms. By that, I mean they had a nasty divorce. A few days ago, my sisters informed me that they weren’t coming to Thanksgiving dinner unless their mom was invited. This would upset my mom extremely, and it just an awkward situation. My sisters don’t understand that so it makes my dad and I torn. Although, I also feel kind of betrayed. Also, their mom isn’t exactly sober (drug addict) so we don’t exactly want her coming over and crashing on the sofa whenever.

I don’t know what to do! Help!

My mom and dad and my sister’s mom (dads ex wife) aren’t exactly on good terms. By that, I mean they had a nasty divorce. A few days ago, my sisters informed me that they weren’t coming to Thanksgiving dinner unless their mom was invited. This would upset my mom extremely, and it just an awkward situation. My sisters don’t understand that so it makes my dad and I torn. Although, I also feel kind of betrayed. Also, their mom isn’t exactly sober (drug addict) so we don’t exactly want her coming over and crashing on the sofa whenever.

I don’t know what to do! Help!
Thanks…I accidently put it in this section.

I have posted on this before, my husband found out he has a daughter he knew nothing about…she’s 10 and lives in Australia with her Mother and her half brother. We were so surprised when the Mother got in touch a few months ago, did a paternity test and yes she’s my husbands. We wondered why the MOther had suddenly decided to get in touch and I was a bit suspicious, now we find out that her and her husband (who though the little girl was his) are divorcing and he is going for custody…the Mother is an ex prostitute and drug addict, it is looking like he will get custody of his son but there is a question mark over the little girl…I dont think the Mother is being straight with us…courts dont tend to award custody to Dads unless the Mother is a bad one right? Now she has asked if the little girl can stay with my husband and our family for two weeks in July whislt she the Mother goes to Ireland for a holiday with her friends…my husband has planned to go to Oz in JAn. to meet his
Daughter anyway…but I am so suspicious of the MOther…she seems to be not telling the whole story to us…she says the her ex husband is violent…but why would the court grant him custody of his son if this were the case…alarm bells are ringing in my head…my MIL and my Mum agree with me…what’s her game? My husband is naieve at the best of times…what is going on here?

i woke up in the middle of the night . i walked to the bathroom . i seen my step daughter naked in the living room having phone sex on the sofa , when she seen me she throw the phone away . and acted like sleeping . i told her mother she said she is s girl and leave her alone . she is only 12 yrs . and i wanna tell something ,,, her mother addicted to phone sex too … so what do u think ?

My 19 year old step son is currently in re-hab for OD on methadone. He arrived at our house 3 months ago from his mother’s. She sent with him Clonopin, Triazadone, Paxil and Loratab because she claimed he was having panic attack, addicted to Xanax etc. His father and I never saw these behaviors in him when he lived with us for 6 months. The mother has been continuously nasty and unbearing to us. I snapped and wrote her a letter asking her to please relinquish her own insecurities and identify with her own problems so that we could work together to help the son. She retaliated with a 5 page letter attacking me personally with half truths and downright lies. I do not care about her attack on me, I am concerned that the son will be coming out of rehab to live with us and “mom” is thoroughly not pleased with this. I would like suggestions from others on how a step-mother can best handle dealing with the step-son’s recovery while battling the control/craziness of the mother. Thanks
Suggested books or web-sites welcomed

My husband and i have been married for about 6 years he has a 13 year old son from a previous relationship. Well his son is coming to live with us he just got out of Rehab for Heroin addiction and his mom wants nothing to do with him at all. Well hubby and i have three son’s of our own 2.4,6 and so as you can imagine i am concerned for there safty and well being but at the same time i also believe in Redemption so to speak everyone makes mistakes and i understand that so i am trying not to hold any preconceived notions about the kid but at the same time never had to really be a step parent to this kid and everything. I mean honestly i am more worried about him relapsing into it because he got into it to begin with because his gf was into it heavily and then she introduced him to it and then she died because of in OD so he got into it heavily trying to block out his pain and everything. Sorry for blabbing i just don’t know what to do with the kid hubby thinks there isn’t a threat and that he will be fine and that we just need to love on him but at the same time i don’t want him here =/. Advice?

I know that this may sound selfish and I should know better at 48 but when I met this woman a year ago, we totally fell for each other and then came the 10 yr old daughter. I know enough about how difficult this is and it’s the whole package or none, but it’s very difficult. You can’t be the father and it’s hard to discipline someone else child. It frustrates me because this child is literally disconnected from the world in front of a TV like no one I have ever seen and so addicted to it. She constantly is making a pig pin out of my house when they spend weekends with me. Stays up til 1-2 in the morning interrupting any alone time I have with her mother, and everything revolves around her. Yes she’s a kid and only 10, but give me a break, how do you get past all that. I’m always biting my tongue and wish I could straighten her out once and for all but I’m not her dad. I love her mother but I’m afraid this will be the thing that could destroy our relationship. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
She is a sweet and outgoing child and I know she loves me, but what do I do?

My husband’s sister got pregnant at 16 years old. Apparantly she was wild teen, drinking etc leading up to her pregnancy. Their mother was not a shining example of parentings finest. She bought my husband beer at 15. I digress…so now my SIL has a 12 year old daughter. This child wears entire too much makeup, revealing clothing and is basically allowed to do whatever she wants. Actually the 12 year old TELLS her mother what she is going to do, she never actually asks permission. So sunday night my SIL allowed her child to attend a CONCERT and then bailed her out of school early on Monday because she wasn’t feeling well. She dropped her child off at our house because there would be noone home at her house. My husband informs me yesterday that his niece (the 12 yr old) was throwing up and he smelled alcohol on her. He also told me that several weeks ago her mother (my SIL) found wine coolers in the child’s bedroom. Is it just me or is history repeating itself and this child is either headed for teen pregnancy or alcoholism by 16? Do I say something? As a family member I feel I need to do something…what do you all think?
wow Mike do you feel better having called them white trash?
BTW Mike, there was no reason to state the obvious. And as far as my husband is concerned he has MORE than risen above his upbringing and we are actually considered upper middle class by our income and education level. Our 2 year old daughter will NEVER grow up like he and his sister did.

My Fiance and I have been engaged for about 2 years and we will be getting married in about 6 months. We picked our bridal party almost immediatly after getting engaged so his best man has been set for a while now. Shortly after that his best man (who is also his brother) had a falling out with their dad and their dad’s entire side of the family. He was living with his father and step mother, abusing drugs, bringing drugs into their home, lieing, sneaking out. They gave him several chances to straighten up (Sent him to therapy rehab etc) and after him refusing to live by their house rules (He was 20 at the time) they told him he had to leave. He used everyone for rides for money, but when he came back claiming he was sober and clean they took him back into their home and family. People did question him and check on him to make sure he was sticking on track and then he was mad at everyone for not believing him when he said he was clean and sober (after only a few short months). Well he refuses to be near any of them. He even sent back a birthday card his dad sent him with return to sender scribbled in big red letters across it. He has made it clear that if he is going to be the best man he has some guidlines that my fiance is to follow. He is going to his house to talk about these issues and guidlines to night. My question is if he asks for things that my fiance does not want to give in to would it be ok for him to be asked to step down? The whole family is willing to be with him and even completely leave him alone if that’s what he wants, but he doesn’t know if he is even willing to be in the same room with them. Like I know one thing is the rehersal is being planned by their dad and step-mom so they will be there along with most of the family since they have parts in our wedding… If he refuses to come to the rehersal is it reasonable to ask him to step down? My fiance literally cried on my shoulder for an hour when his brother called him about all of this because he doesn’t know what to do… I feel just awful for him. So I guess my main questions would be Is it bad etiquette to ask the best man to step down in this situation? Would you ask your Best man to step down in this situation? Why or Why not? What, if anything, would make you ask your best man to step down?
I really want to thank you all for your opinions and to whoever said it I agree this is my fiance’s desicion to make and he knows I will give him my opinion if he asks and if not I’ll just be there for him and stand behind what ever he decides. He is going to talk with his brother tonight then come home and think about what he wants to do before making the desicion. Again thank you all so much I will pick a best answer tomorrow.
Last night went well in my fiance’s eyes… It took 2 hrs and finally agreed that he would be the best man and he would be cordial at the wedding, but my fiance refuses to have a bachelor party that his family cannot attend and his brother refuses to throw one where they are invited so my fiance will not be having a bachelor party… and he also wont get ready for the wedding with his father… My fiance asked me what I thought. I was honest and said I really don’t agree with these conditions, and I’m worried his brother will see he was given that inch and take a mile (Because that is his personality)but if this is what he wants then of course I will zip my lip… He already spoke to his best friend (a groomsman) about what’s going on and his friend told him if his brother does anything wrong or drops the ball he will step in for him in a heartbeat. I thought he should have chosen his best friend in the first place… Thank you all so much!
I was right his brother tried to take the inch my fiance gave him and ask for another mile. My fiance’s father and uncles will be singing as I walk down the aisle and his brother said he wont be up there with them… It’s a small chruch so they really can’t go anywhere else and my fiance will not keep his father and uncles from singing for us on our wedding day. So his brother has been told they will be up there and if he can’t do it my fiance understands and he would still like him to come as a guest. We’ll see what happens.

every time we have a family get together she sits by my husband, instead of me or the grandkids.She also wanders off with him everytime she is around, and acts like a totl bitch to me, but defends him, even when he is an alcoholic, and not perfect, but she act like he is.How can you tell when a woman, step mom or other, is not just in lust, but in love withyour man????

Every once in a while my mom will “beat” me. She’s bloddied my nose, tore out chunks of hair, punch me and even beat me with a blow dryer… she says its okay because she was raised like that but idont agree… my step dad drinks like crazy and he had a n affair but talked his way out of it. he doesn’t like me too much because i’m always tryng to prove to my mom how he’s a huge mistake and to leave him. i want to move in with my biological dad in texas but i dont know what its going to take. i’m 16 years old and i’m a girl. helpppppp

When I was eighteen I moved in with a girl who’s children were in temporary dcs custody, pending her completion of a parenting couse. Her kids were six weeks and two years then. She got them back within three weeks of my moving in.

After about four months, she lost custody again (she got mad and grabbed the oldest, and broke her elbow), and since I had been the primary caregiver for the kids (I bought their clothes, food, etc. and took care of them – rearanging my schedule so I worked while they were in day care) and I was granted temp. guardianship – provided I moved out, which I did.

When dcs declared her able to care for the children again they were a little over two and four years old. Now, I found out from a mutual friend that she has permantaly lost the kids (they are seven and nine now, and her boyfriend (the girl’s father) is being charged with raping the seven year old).

Where I had temp. custody of them before could I attempt to get perm. custody? Should I? I really loved those girls and my husband and I have always talked about adopting children, even though we already have three right now.

So I’m pretty torn with this. I don’t want the girls to be seperated, since they have ovbviously been through enough. But I’m not sure what the legal issue would be.

They’re grandmother on the mom’s side doesn’t want anything to do with the kids (since they’re mom – my past roommate – was a drug addict and did some heavy drugs while pregnant with the younget (the youngest has a lot of vision problems and went through withdrawels when she was first born – her mom did a lot of heroin and coke); and the grandparents of the father don’t believe their his and won’t talk to them.

It’s a complicated situation. I’m wondering if I’m over my head here. Should I leave this alone and let things just work out? I do want to help them, they’re great kids, they were just dealt a bad hand.

Any suggestions are welcome!
I understand both the girls are going to have “issues” and are going to need love, time and psychological care – all of which my husband and I are willing to do.
Anyone posting they’re own questions in here, your wasting your time. I completely ignore them.

I’m 15 by the way and I know that pretty much every where you have to be 16 to get emancipated I’ll be 16 end of September… if that helps or something.
I live in Colorado and so far all I can find about emancipation here is that they don’t emancipate minors they only recognize it.. I’m stuck in a huge rut. Another issue is my step dads son is coming to live with us possibly, when I was younger he molested me but I never told anyone and if I told them now I know they would believe me.
Because of him molesting me I started drinking, smoking pot/cigarettes,
developed an eating disorder, and started cutting.
My parents found out just a couple of months ago, they don’t give a shit… Before then I was living with my dad in Oklahoma but because of some things my mother and I said he doesn’t want me to come back to live with him though he knows about my step dads alcohol and drug abuse. So it’s a dead end.

Living here has messed me up… I was happy when I was away regardless of the situation with my father.

I have to many issues here with my step dad, step brother coming, & my mother.
Me and my mother never get a long we fight a lot… We have no connection, I feel unloved and unwanted. I was just a drunken accident in Germany, my little brother was planned. So I always feel like a should have been abortion to her.

Also having to see what my step dads drinking and drug use does to my mother and little brother upsets me… I’m the only one not able to live normally, my mother and little brother are very close… Leaving me feel even less welcome here.

I just need some help… I don’t want to stick around here being the kicking post for every fight they have… Every time there is an argument Me and my brother get yelled at & my step dad attacks my mom with my cutting telling her what a terrible mother she is and that her only daughter is a fucked up cut up mistake. While she doesn’t stand up for me any time my little brother is brought up in the fights she stick up for him… I just want to get out of here even if my father decided to let me come back to his home after knowing that he doesn’t want me there and all the things that were said I couldn’t stand being there and knowing all of that…

If there is anything any of you could come up with or find.. I would greatly appreciate the advice and answers.

Thanks for reading.
Rae
Yes I know I have to work and still go to school.. There was nothing in there that said I would not do those things.. I have a job now and could support my self.. & If I were to get emancipated I planned on moving so I could be near some family & my boyfriend again… I’ve looked at apartments and I have a couple job possibility’s… I’ve really looked into this and understand the responsibility’s involved. So yes I would still like to get emancipated.
My cutting, drinking, smoking pot, and eating disorder are on the mend.. I’m working at them with friends to stop I’m able to stop for weeks sometimes months but then something will trigger me to relapse into it… I’ve told a school councilor when I was younger but all she did was call social services and they showed up at my house for a couple of days.. My mom told me I wasn’t aloud to answer the door after a while they stopped coming. & I can’t really expose the things my step dad does my mother would have no source of income and we would be out on the streets.. She’s working at it at her own pace.. (Very slowly) Her and my brother are fine.. My mother says she can handle all of his yelling… I just can’t handle it here.. I just need to get out… I don’t want to end up doing something stupid… Like cutting to deep on accident.. Or something just as stupid and lethal.

What are my rights as a step dad? I have a 13 year old step son and a 5 year old daughter with the same woman. When ever it comes to disciplining him, she feels that she must protect him from me because I might make him mow the lawn or do the dishes when all he really wants to do is smoke pot and stay out till 2 a.m. It’s incredible that his mother would let this 6″ tall boy walk out the house and right past her as she mows the lawn, & argue with me when I say something about it! And frankly I’m F*%Kin sick & tired of it! He comes up pos. in a drug screen from his school, they tell me that they want him in an out patiant program or he’s going to be suspended come Sept.,& her responcse to me was”they did’nt tell me” and she acts as if it ain’t so. Come Sept. she’ll see. I got a 5 year girl I have to worry about too. He’s going to be an influance to her. I love him and I want to help him straighten out his life.His mama is may biggest adversary in helping him. Legally what are my rights!

me and my husband both have daughters only my daughter is 2 years younger, very sweet and does everything she is told
me and my husband have been married for 2 years now and are planning to have another baby
however recently my step daughter have been living with us, since she got out of rehab for drug addiction and anorexia
she has had a very hard life, becuase her sister died when she was 4 and her mother an alcholic and drug abuser and my husband and her mother seperated and she took my step daughter because my husband wasnt in the state to look after her
soon the mother commited suicide and my husband was never informed of this, and went to live with her uncle where she was severally abused and raped
and after that jumped from foster home to foster home
it was only after her suicide attempt a year ago he eventually found her,and now she lives with us but her behavouir is outageous
she comes home at 4 in the morning drunk and high
ive found drugs in her room, and she cuts
herself, skips school and mouths off, ive even caught her having sex with some guy, she barely eats and listens to very heavy music, i dont think she sleep either, i dont know what to do, she yells at me when i talk to her

Hello
My name is Talina Walker and i would like to know if you have any ideas of what could be affecting my step father sorry if it gets drawn out but i am recently married and will be moving out of state leaving my mother and i think it would be easier if she knew what to do may put my mind at ease leaving her. We have already looked into Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s disease to vitamin deficiency and low blood sugar. Please help.

Background:
Military 20 yrs. deployed many times (few places Russia Finland: Utah) He was a tank mechanic and in Utah was around some poisons He has been around gun shots and lost some hearing ( i think it isnt just from that he has lost a significant amount of hearing when he retires he started working in Pest control he does have bad knees from football and i believe he has a caffeine addiction and he chain smokes. his mother is showing signs of forgetfulness as well and his sister has a brain tumor and i know another female on this mothers side has died of a brain tumor but im not sure who i think grandma.

Symptoms:

Forgetfulness- long term and short term even simple facts
sometimes when i ask him his age or birthday he cant tell me or his anniversary or what he ate or wore the day before has been getting worse every month it seems for 5 years or more

Loss of concentration-
In mid conversation he will forget he is talking to you or

Loss of awareness-
we can be yelling at the top of our lungs from the screen door right nest to his head
( him awake) and banging on the screen for him to open it and him not even know we are there

Zones out -
he will be talking to you and completely stop glaze over and look at you like you are crazy when you are like hello?! he also does this at random times while driving and watching tv while driving he just concentrates on driving any other time he is like a zombie glazed over and gone for long periods of time.
Stuttering- while speaking this is new to the last 5 months

Shaking and loss of balance- shaking is mostly in his hands and in the last 2 weeks has been all the time loss of balance seems to be random and he is a 6′ 3 240lb man a fall could do some damage.

Sleepiness- he falls asleep in his chair all day when he isnt working he may get up to make coffee or switch the channel then when my mom gets home he gets up talks for about 15 min falls asleep until dinner then falls asleep until he goes to bed this is new prob the last year had a gotten a lot worse in the last 2 months
Severe Night Terrors-
He will have then bad enough he runs through the house completely asleep yelling for everyone to get out the house is burning down or fight battles or invaders and he sometimes hurts himself by cracking his neck or kick or punching himself and once my mom and he remembers the dream when he wakes up.

Hearing Loss-
significant amount in the last year cannot hear someone in the same room as him my
mother has to get a surround sound system because he couldn’t hear the tv well

Blurred Vision & loss-
about 7 yrs ago he had better then 20/20 vision now he cannot see his paperwork also when he is reading he will have moments when his vision is completely gone like blurs out and im afraid it is happening when he is driving he has been drifting into opposite lanes and other things like that.

Loss of patience-
when someone is talking or my sister 4 year old is over any little think will set him off he will be so upset he will grit his teeth and just not know what to do he will be so nerve racked

Odd Thing:
He seems to remember his job (pest control) everything all bugs and techniques and measurement.Also his customers what they give him or facts they tell him or $ and conversations from now to years ago it is really weird.

Please help me im afraid to leave my mom and he forget who she and get scared and hurt her or her just being alone help me find some answers please!!!!!!!!!

My step father is an alcoholic and he has never been a nice guy to me and my siblings. I am 28, my sibs are 26 and 20. My mother stays at home, and babysits my kids (2 and 10) when they’re not in school. During one day, my step father took my 2 year old daughter to their farm and proceeded to drink beer and whiskey until he was drunk. My mother came to the farm to check on them and found him drunk and cursing with my daughter. He has had many violent episodes during his drinking binges in the past so this scared me. I have kept my kids from him and their farm ever since. I allow my mom to visit my kids at my house, but my step father is not allowed around me or my kids. I have forgiven my step father, but have chosen to keep him out of our lives. Is that fair to my mom?