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My brother Michael commited suicide on August 2nd in 2002, His son’s second birthday. His son is still alive today and lives with my mother for his mother is a stripper and a drug addict who has hit rock bottom and is in rehab.
My mother had a heart attack after hearing that my brother’s death might not have been suicide.
Now, she drinks Vodka like crazy and makes my little sister make them for her. She yells at anyone who tries to help and last week, she was drunk for the entire week and locked my little sister out of the house.
She’s slowly going into depression, what can I do to help her or does this call for professinal help?
She has blamed me for being her drunk and I try to reason with her but she instists that I am to blame.
She also blames me for his death because I was there when it happened. I couldn’t stop him at all.
He had a gun, what was I supposed to do?
The little boy’s mother called him up Friday and told him she would take him to Chuckie E. Cheese’s and now it is Monday early morning and he show no emotion about it.

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mot
BTW? I have another profile on YAHOO and I DON”T mind reading about someone else’s problems and have helped quite a few… If you feel you must give “useless” answers “to get points” then I feel sorry for you… I DO CARE about other people. I AM an empath…
To ALL of you that have given sincere responses?.. I send you my very sincere thanks!!! Bless you ALL!

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own moth

I have 2 sons, 20 and 25. My 25 year old who is @ 6’4″ – 225lbs, is known to abuse drugs/alcohol. He and my younger son have a “co-dependent” relationship. I went to Texas to help my younger son with paperwork for a new “job adventure” that he and my older son took on, (both A.D.H.D.) my older son (with an “instigating” girlfriend) started cussing me and when told to leave me alone yanked me off the floor by my hair, hit me several times and pushing me down to the floor several times. I HAD to call the law. I put a warrant out for his arrest and had an emergency protective order put in. I told my younger son that he best call his brother and girlfriend to tell them they better get a hotel room until I got out of there and back to Alabama. He was extremely angry with me about calling the law. He did not call his brother and he and the girlfriend showed back up, I had the “deadbolt” locked. They started beating on the door really mad. My youngest son got so mad at me because I told him I was calling the police (because of the “protective order”)..he let them in anyway. I barricaded myself inside a bedroom until the law got there. My youngest son was not present at the time this happened yet kept telling me, because of the older son’s irrational behavior and temper that we were going to “get another place”. We never did. The older son was telling his little brother that I attacked him…etc… He actually believed it…( I am disabled, have neuro-vascular problems, degenerative disk disease in my total spine and muscle weakness upon repetitive or extreme exertion, 5’4″ and 125lbs) After the oldest was taken into custody, the younger son wanted to “bail” him out that very moment on a $50,000.00 bond. He couldn’t find his wallet (I was always “keeping up” with everything he kept losing) He decided to call the law on me and told the police that I stole his wallet and had his brother falsely arrested… which he called back to tell them “he found his wallet”… He and my older son’s “girlfriend” started cussing me so horribly because they were mad that I had my son arrested… I had bruises all over me and now having more difficulty walking… The youngest son would not pay me what he owed me, saying wait until HE got paid..(he has PLENTY of money already from his dad’s death in 2000).. The day before he had me to hold onto some cash for him from a refund. It was about $110.00. I wanted to get back home and away from the abuse (not the first time and I was already abused by their late father and and his father years back)… He didn’t want to pay me so I used his cash I was holding to pay a taxi to take me to an airport, I rented a car in which I was thankful I had enough money in my checking account to cover. I drove almost 8 hours to get home in quite a bit of pain. The next day I was really feeling the after affects..physically as well as emotionally… (“WHY”?) My husband took me to the hospital to get checked. As we were thier waiting we found where my oldest son had sent an extremely violent and profane text message threatening my husband and I both. I called in this to the Alabama police. They gave me a case number, etc.. He DID show for his hearing in Texas and will be “arraigned” in a couple of weeks.
I spoke with the Asst. D.A. in Texas. My son did not enter a plea at all. Was told to get an attorney. I know that my son could spend year or more in jail yet the Asst. DA asked what I would want done…?
I personally hold both of my sons responsible, including the girlfriend… I told the DA something to the effect of REHAB, counseling, probation, etc… but I really don’t think that is going to help my son(s) learn that you don’t abuse ANY women… I know for a fact that MONEY is the most important thing in their life, admitted by both sons, sadly enough. I left “money” and “abuse” to get MY life in perspective after a 16 year marriage. It seems that this “abuse” of women runs in the family… I never thought I would be traumatized again as my current husband and I have what others call and I would agree a “perfect marriage”, what I deserved and what I was blessed with after all the traumatizing events that I have endured throughout my life.

SO?… Here I am not wanting to see my sons anymore(?) because of this, my motherhood has been ripped from my heart..and it’s going to take me quite some time to heal over the emotional scars that have been “re-opened”, being betrayed by my younger son… I have thought seriously about filing a civil suit against all 3… They have plenty of money..(I am on full disabilty)

.I have had my gas turned off over 4 months ago for a $194.00 bill. They are well aware of this yet I still have to take a cold shower or heat water to take a bath? They don’t care about me… they only come around when they “need some ‘advice’, feel sick, heartbreaks, tummy aches”…etc…They expect my undvided attention…I have given it… They are never there for “me”, their own mothe

My nephew got his girlfriend pregnant. Her home environment is horrible. She has an open protective services case due to physical abuse from her step father, as well as neglect from her mother, who is a recovering heroin addict. My brother and his wife want custody of their sons girlfriend, but how do they go about doing so? The pregnant girlfriend is still too young to go through emancipation in the state of Michigan.

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

I’m 17 and the mother of my 2 month old son Joesph wants to replace me with another guy and him have be his father. She hasn’t let me see him since we broke up because i don’t love her and i went back to my troubled EX but my true love Brooke. I cheated on Brooke with Joesph’s mom while she was in jail for a year on drug possession charges during a party. She got pregnant and had Joesph. Brooke got out of jail shortly after and we tried to repair our fractured relationship. Me and Brooke broke up not long after she got out and me and Joesph’s mom began dating. She is in love with me and was so excited. I quickly realized i didn’t love her despite my best attempts to learn. I missed Brooke sorely. I broke up with her and she was behind pissed she told me i was never gonna see Joesph again and that i abandoned him when he needed me the most. I haven’t seen him since and she wouldn’t answer my calls or texts. I was gonna sue for joint custody but Brooke told me she was pregnant and we got back together. Brooke began using again during her pregnancy after i let her leave rehab. I called the cops on her and she is in jail again. Joesph’s mom found out about this and was gonna use it against me in court. She texted me telling me she has got a boyfriend lined up to replace me as Joesph’s father. She said he will never know i am his real father and that i deserve it because i didn’t go along with destiny. She told me she still loves me and she doesn’t care about this guy she just doesn’t want me around “her” son. What should i do?
i love Brooke and she has redeeming qualities that make up for her shortcomings
Yes i signed his birth certificate and am paying child support

I’m so worried & confused… my son & his girlfriend have a 1 yr old son, and she just graduated from high school last month & joined the army. My son graduated last year and is a full time welder. They are always fighting, breaking up, getting back together. They aren’t married, & now they’re broken up. We just found out yesterday that she left for the army and signed over temp custody of her mom, who, by the way acts like she’s in jr. high, fighting, slashing tires, does crack, even gave her daughter to her ex mother in law to raise, and now she’s got my grandson. My son is also immature, he wanted to go into the military last yr but he didn’t so they could be a family, but they kept on fighting all the time. I’m 40, I’m a church secretary, my husband is a welder, I have a 9 yr & 11 yr old, my 18 yr old just graduated from h.s. & my 19 yr old has his own apt, 2 cars, he’s a hard worker, but he has a baby with this girl who just joined the army. I don’t understand why the army would let her give the baby to her mom instead of the baby’s father, my son, I’m sure I will raise the baby, which is what I want, since my son now wants to join the air force, he made a real high score on his asbab (can’t spell it) test. The air force guy said that he can’t join the military because the other parent beat him to it. What do I do? I know I’m gonna end up w/the baby eventually (which I’d love to have happen), except I don’t want the baby to be abused or negliected until then. I had a horrible childhood, I was raised by a drug addict single mom & just about everything bad that could happen, happened to me, but I turned out good, I went to college & gave my kids a better life than I had, I don’t want my grandbaby to go thru what I went thru. What should I do? My son’s too immature to raise his baby, but all his ex’s family has all had cps cases. Sooner or later the baby will be taken away from the other grandmother because she’s always in trouble with the law, dwi’s & what not. My son said he wants me to have the baby if he is able to join the military. What do I do??

I’m so worried & confused… my son & his girlfriend have a 1 yr old son, and she just graduated from high school last month & joined the army. My son graduated last year and is a full time welder. They are always fighting, breaking up, getting back together. They aren’t married, & now they’re broken up. We just found out yesterday that she left for the army and signed over temp custody of her mom, who, by the way acts like she’s in jr. high, fighting, slashing tires, does crack, even gave her daughter to her ex mother in law to raise, and now she’s got my grandson. My son is also immature, he wanted to go into the military last yr but he didn’t so they could be a family, but they kept on fighting all the time. I’m 40, I’m a church secretary, my husband is a welder, I have a 9 yr & 11 yr old, my 18 yr old just graduated from h.s. & my 19 yr old has his own apt, 2 cars, he’s a hard worker, but he has a baby with this girl who just joined the army. I don’t understand why the army would let her give the baby to her mom instead of the baby’s father, my son, I’m sure I will raise the baby, which is what I want, since my son now wants to join the air force, he made a real high score on his asbab (can’t spell it) test. The air force guy said that he can’t join the military because the other parent beat him to it. What do I do? I know I’m gonna end up w/the baby eventually (which I’d love to have happen), except I don’t want the baby to be abused or negliected until then. I had a horrible childhood, I was raised by a drug addict single mom & just about everything bad that could happen, happened to me, but I turned out good, I went to college & gave my kids a better life than I had, I don’t want my grandbaby to go thru what I went thru. What should I do? My son’s too immature to raise his baby, but all his ex’s family has all had cps cases. Sooner or later the baby will be taken away from the other grandmother because she’s always in trouble with the law, dwi’s & what not. My son said he wants me to have the baby if he is able to join the military. What do I do??

i would like custody but my name isn’t on the birth certificate, although he is 100% mine, but we split when she was pregnant.last night she texted me and said she was seeing her ex boyfriend who she has a 6yr old daughter with.but he is on heroin and violent and im really worried about my son , he is 7 mths old and i have him at weekends.what can i do?
i pay her money every week and i buy him clothes.
and we live in uk

My brother Michael commited suicide on August 2nd in 2002, His son’s second birthday. His son is still alive today and lives with my mother for his mother is a stripper and a drug addict who has hit rock bottom and is in rehab.
My mother had a heart attack after hearing that my brother’s death might not have been suicide.
Now, she drinks Vodka like crazy and makes my little sister make them for her. She yells at anyone who tries to help and last week, she was drunk for the entire week and locked my little sister out of the house.
She’s slowly going into depression, what can I do to help her or does this call for professinal help?
She has blamed me for being her drunk and I try to reason with her but she instists that I am to blame.
She also blames me for his death because I was there when it happened. I couldn’t stop him at all.
He had a gun, what was I supposed to do?
The little boy’s mother called him up Friday and told him she would take him to Chuckie E. Cheese’s and now it is Monday early morning and he show no emotion about it.

My son has been having reoccuring bleeding from the nose at night and sometimes in the day. Me and my wife have rarely bleed from nose so i know it can’t be passed down. But in the other hand our “babysitter” has been having the same, bloody noses and i have found lots of q-tips in the bathroom trash can full of her blood. One time i caught her with q-tip up her nose and said “my nose was bleeding , and i don’t know why”. This raised red flag in my head but what is also bodering me is that almost everytime we make contact with her she always has the “sniffles” like whipping her runny nose on her hand and if she really sniffs drugs this will make contact with my son. This is why i think that my son has a reoccuring bloody nose. In fact i know for sure she is a heroin user back in her old days, but once a user always a user. there is much more i want to say but please can anyone help me? im thinking of drug test, but how can you when the babysitter is mother-in-law? i know you are saying “this is your son you are talking about” but what if i’am wrong i would feel bad. But what if i’m right? I’ll send her to jail or rehab program. and never let her touch my baby again untill i know she is fully CLEAN! I NEED ANSWERS!

My brother Michael commited suicide on August 2nd in 2002, His son’s second birthday. His son is still alive today and lives with my mother for his mother is a stripper and a drug addict who has hit rock bottom and is in rehab.
My mother had a heart attack after hearing that my brother’s death might not have been suicide.
Now, she drinks Vodka like crazy and makes my little sister make them for her. She yells at anyone who tries to help and last week, she was drunk for the entire week and locked my little sister out of the house.
She’s slowly going into depression, what can I do to help her or does this call for professinal help?
She has blamed me for being her drunk and I try to reason with her but she instists that I am to blame.
She also blames me for his death because I was there when it happened. I couldn’t stop him at all.
He had a gun, what was I supposed to do?
The little boy’s mother called him up Friday and told him she would take him to Chuckie E. Cheese’s and now it is Monday early morning and he show no emotion about it.

Her parents are divorced and her mother has been in drug rehab in another state.
Her father is in the hospital for a brain aneurism and is lucky to have survived. He lives approx 3 hours away.
She has many brothers and sisters, but the family seems to be scattered since her parents divorce. She just doesnt seem to have much of a family life.
I would like to do something for her nice for Christmas. Any suggestions?

My nephew got his girlfriend pregnant. Her home environment is horrible. She has an open protective services case due to physical abuse from her step father, as well as neglect from her mother, who is a recovering heroin addict. My brother and his wife want custody of their sons girlfriend, but how do they go about doing so? The pregnant girlfriend is still too young to go through emancipation in the state of Michigan.

She has had a problem with depression in the past. Was taking Prozac and still has some in the house along with several other medications not listed.
Are these drugs usually prescribed to patients all together and for long periods of time?

he has no idea now but im sure he will wonder who is real mother is later. how do i telll him and should i keep pictures of her and his sister to let him know where his genes come from?