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Men do you find it attractive when women do things such as drink, smoke, and curse?

My whole life my dad brought me up to never ever curse, drink, or smoke. Or do other things like sleep around, I was always brought up to be really femine and respectful, and I wouldn’t say “keep my mouth shut” but it was more like a respect your elders, and not sound obnoxious.

Don’t get me wrong I am highly opinionated and went through my faze in my teens where I did all the bad things I could lol. I am no angel but I just find it so trashy when women smoke and curse I think it makes them seem unrefined and not very pretty. I like to exude a somewhat tough exterior but I don’t do it by acting like a grungy dude.

My boyfriends friends date these girls who are so trailer parkish, I mean looking at them I know if any of them ever started something with me I could kick their butts but I don’t make it a point to intimidate them or try to make them feel uncomfortable. Furthermore, I am wondering do his friends really find these skeezy girls attractive cursing wile smoking a cigarette joking about perverted things along with them being all loud? I think its repulsive and I just think if they had my dad he would slap them upside their nasty heads lol.

There are plenty of people who were raised like me, I mean it was on the strict side and my mom and dad made a million mistakes, but honestly I feel like I demonstrate more inner beauty by being just old fashioned lady like. I mean one day I am going to be a mother to a little child and so will they (and some already have kids.)

I know I don’t want my future daughter acting like this. I don’t think it makes them seem tough either, it only makes them seem MORE insecure, as if they are trying to hide that really they are frightened to act themselves.

I choose not to drink or smoke because one alcoholism runs in my family, I cannot be productive when I smoke weed, and cigarettes are just nasty and personally I like fresh breath and white teeth.

I am only 21 and even when I was a younger rebel I NEVER acted trashy. I have only ever been with one guy and will someday hopefully marry him. However, that doesn’t mean I do not wonder what other guys think.

I don’t think tattoo’s are trashy I do think they tend to make women look older once they hit 30+. But they look cute on younger girls too bad they age right lol. I will personally never get one simply because I change my mind twice a day lol.

I dunno guys what do you think? Do you perfer women who do everything you do or do you like classy girls who keep their wild side hidden?
Fried kitten- does a little girls start out drinking and cursing and acting trashy??? those are learned traits people adapt because other people are doing them.

furthermore I forget who said I was stuck up, I am far from it and all through out highschool befriended people everyone else was cruel to. I care about other peoples emotions which is why I choose to carry myself the way I do. There is no reason to act damaged and untamed and represent yourself poorly because you feel it defines who you are.

I can see how this question could make me seem “stuck up.” But in reality I have never been called that.

I smoke weed but only when im alone because I dont want people to think im dumb but i think im addicted and my mom was on all drugs when she was pregnant with me. I want to smoke but i dont.

My mother drinks and smokes. when she dose that she go out and she will not come for 3 days. She blames every stress and mistakes in her life on my father. She wanted to move on and have a divorce, so I told her it is okay..and my father told her it is okay since she is having an affair…but the funny thing is she keeps on coming back….”I don’t know why” My mother is a housewife and she got married when she was 20 years old…so she has been with my father for 28 years…She dress like a 16 years old, drinks and smoke and hang out with young kids…when i comfront her —- she tells, “me that am just jelous of her”…She drinks everyday if she has money..
I love my mom dear and to dead… but she is going around telling lies about my dad so people can give her money and young kids cloths so she can wear them…
and now everybody thinks that my dad is a bad man and I don’t give a shit about my mother…but I just can’t deal with this anymore.

Do people really need to smoke it?
There are so many different types of medications
doctors can prescribe to help aleviate your problems.
I get so sick of people saying that there are no
facts to support how weed negatively affects people.
There are.I’ll prove it-whenever I smell weed,of any-
kind,my head starts throbbing in pain.So don’t tell me
it has no bad affect toward people.Because the last
time I checked,I am a person.This nonsense about people
using it “medicinally” is a load of horse-s***! These dumb-
asses just like smoking weed.I often hear people and read
about people who say that “pot-heads” aren’t bothering anyone.
They’re just getting high.

You know,this isn’t the year 1966 ok.Eventhough
I never condoned smoking pot,atleast back in those days people
were able to rationally justify their need to smoke it.But guess
what-it’s 2011! We aren’t at war with Vietnam,and the Cold
War has been over since ’89;get over yourselves. I think the
people who smoke ANYTHING are among the most selfish people
in existence.All they care about is their own self gratification.I
mean seriously,are their lives really that f****d up,that they constantly
have to find an “escape”? This word cracks me up.Because in reality{which
is no where near close to where these people are living};all doing weed does
is f***s up your life even more.This crap about how marijuana opens your mind
is precisely that-CRAP!

I believe it’s high time people come to terms with this realization
that “illegal” drugs are bad! And stop saying weed isn’t a drug.Because it obviously is.
Some will say,”Well if it came from mother Earth,how could it be bad for you?”Well
guess what;so does magma,uranium,mercury,tar,Amanita muscaria,hurricanes,and
earthquakes.Are these things you’d like to consume or experience? The fact is,most if
not all those who smoke or support those who smoke weed,do so,for selfish reasons.
If you have anxiety issues,take a pill like everyone else.Last time I checked,a person
taking a doctor prescribed pill never caused me a headache.Atleast it’s legal.
The thought that people can acquire “LICENCES” for smoking dope is comical,and really
points out the failure in our “War on Drugs”…

Before you start telling me i should not smoke, hear me out. Ever since i started middle school i feel into a deep depression. I lost over 60 lbs when i stopped eating. I had an alcoholic father who beat my mom before he was forced into rehab. He went 3 times and every time, the very day he got out, he would get piss drunk. I lived with all 4 of my sisters who enjoyed making me angry and cry just for a laugh. I’m not BSing you, they literally went out of their way to make me sad or uncomfortable. My recent friends began leaving me since i was so sad and the did not want to hang out with me, except for my close, personal friends. Around last year my suicidal thoughts were actually taking effect, i put a knife up to my neck every day for 3 days. by the 3rd day i was cutting it a little, but never had enough balls to do the deed. Every day i grew more and more ready to face my death when a pot-head of mine said i should smoke some weed. I thought “well im going to die soon, why not try it” and for the first time in about 3 years i had felt happy. For the next week, little or no sad thoughts came to mind and i started smoking a few times a weed. By the first month of smoking i actually felt happy, so happy that i almost cried because i had not felt like that in so long. It took away my anger management, i talked to my mom, and everything seemed all right. It has been over a month since i had last smoked and i have been under so much stress that i am beginning to have horrid thoughts in my head again. I wanted to tell my mom so she would allow me to smoke in my house so i have more free time to do so. Unfortunately the person she is makes me think i will never be able to. She is a deep-routed christian. She also believes all the propaganda that the government threw out during the ’50s and such. She was one of the main reasons as to why i smoked because all she did was either make me angry or yell at me for no reason. We are currently into a fight because whenever i see her, i instantly get into a bad mood, im not sure why but i just do. My sisters had become extreme Jehovah witnesses. By extreme i mean they don’t even let their kids watch cartoons or be around me. I know they will do anything to keep my from smoking if they found out. I just want to know how i can explain this to my mom, because no matter what she will always to whatever she thinks is right, or whatever her religion thinks is right. I just want to be able to be happy, because these thoughts are creeping back into my head. Yesterday i was so sad my girlfriend did not even want to be with me, and the second i got home my eyes swelled red and a few tears fell but i just sucked up my sadness. Please, i need help.

So I don’t drink, smoke, or do any drugs. For a few reasons. My mom is an alcoholic and my dad is a drug addict so these things just never appealed to me. I don’t know that many other people that don’t smoke or drink either. Just out of curiosity how many of you also don’t smoke or drink either?

When I met my bf he didnt smoke anything. Cigarettes or Pot, he didnt drink and told me that he didnt like alcohol because of his mom being a very bad alcoholic (my mother is as well, and her father died from alcoholism- which is genetic) a few months into of relationship he got to where he would have a few beers after work usually no more than 3. he got to where when he would drink he became angry at everything around him. i voiced my concern and told him i didnt like alcohol and i wished he would stop. he then told me the reason he drank is because he didnt have any pot. i was unaware that he even smoked it. ….. its been almost 2 years and he has continued to drink& smoke and has now picked up a new cigarette addiction. he goes to court on monday (3 days away) and has promised me since last monday that he would stop. he is supposed to be placed on 2yrs probation for the trouble he caused and im worried that even after he is place on probation that he will not stop. how to i make him realize that if he fails even 1 ua that they court will have him thrown in jail? i asked him tonight if he couldnt make himself quit then what could? and he said “when i sign my name ill stop”
please help
he will not be serving a jail term until he officially fails 3 drug tests.

Im 20 years old, and ive been smoking since i was 16, but miraculously my mom hasnt found out yet. Now i am sick of hiding it, and want her to know, but shes an alcoholic, shes depressed, and will most probably flip out completely, write a suicide note and relate on how her life is a huge failure. advice?

I just recently started. my mom is pretty against it and i asked her one time what she would do if she found out that i smoked weed and she said that she would send me to rehab! im only 16. I dont want to keep it a secret from her i want to tell her but i dont want her to hate me. how can i convince her that its not that bad? this question is to all the stoners!

I’ve never smoked but I used to drink at parties before, I obviously stopped when i found out i was pregnant, my baby is now 1 year old and i haven’t had a drink. I just don’t feel like drinking anymore, it seems kinda gross me now, i don’t’ know why. But I always knew I never want to be intoxicated around my child or have to leave her with someone so i could go out and party. I’m lucky my husbands supports me and actually feels the same way, he doesn’t want to be intoxicated around our baby either, he’s saying he will drink again when our baby girl is 21 so they can drink together. Some people around me don’t seem to understand that i don’t want to go out and party that i want to be with my baby, hey that’s why i had her, to spend time with her not to have others watch her while i still had my own life.
My MIL keeps trying to convince me drinking it’s ok, because she drank and smoked when she was pregnant and when her kids were babies, because it “helped her relax”, she also said she used to put a little bit of alcohol in the babies bottle sometimes so they would go to sleep faster…I hate that! To me it’s a form of child abuse…
Now she was trying to keep a stash of alcohol at my apartment for when she came over to spend time with the baby, i took it out fo the refrigerator and told her it wasn’t ok, at bbq’s or when we go out to eat it’s different, and she just didn’t understand…I don’t know how to deal with her…
I’m 23 and she’s in her 60s so there is big generation gap there and she’s very religious and just don’t use a lot common sense

Ok I’m 14 and have been going out with my first Boyfriend, who is also 14, since about March 2008. I’m Hispanic and he’s African American. I love him VERY much. We always talk on the phone ’till 1am even on school days. He has always been very quiet and looks very depressed sometimes. I always ask if he’s alright, and he always says ‘yea’, so I never really thought anything of it. But one night while talking on the phone with me, he just opened up to me that his Older Brother, Mom, and Dad do drugs. I was so shocked that I began tearing up, I tried to be strong but I could hear his quiver and then he began to cry and so I did the only thing I could think of; and cried on the phone with him. Every time I tried to calm down, more tears would come. We cried there for a good 20 minutes and in the middle of crying he told me that he wouldn’t know what to do without me and that he loved me and I told him the same. Once we finally calmed down he told me to promise never to tell anyone at all what he told me, and I did. But now I need help, I keep telling him to tell someone so they can help but he says he’s scared what will happen to them. I really don’t want to bring it up because I’m scared of seeing him like that again. I’ve been trying to go on the internet and search about going to rehab vs. going to jail but I still kind of confused on what the rules in Georgia are like for drug addicts. If anyone has any help to offer, PLEASE tell me. And Thank You for taking the time to read this.
I’m sorry, I know I must sound really stupid and overreacting. But this is the first time that anything like this (involving drugs) has happened before and I was tired of holding it in. So I’ll try to calm down a bit. Oh, and Thank You to everyone who answered back! They are helping me see how retarded I sounded and calmed me down so I can figure all this out. THANKS AGAIN!!

yeah, what the hell?
she got out a few weeks ago,
she knows I smoking,
but she’s hooked.
wtf is the point of that?
she was in rehab for drug abuse,
but mostly marijuana, her mom flipped
and sent her there.

drink

i understand cocaine and how a person uses that, but i don’t understand crack cocaine and how a person uses it. like what they use, etc…. i need infomation asap….a concerned mother.

I am straight as an arrow and I have been fighting hard to get full custody of my kids and get them away from their immature mother who doesn’t even have a job to support them, she just lives off child support. She told the courts I do drugs and that my girlfriend beats the kids, this is a complete lie! Now the social service woman is investigating me when they should be investigating her, she is such a liar and is trying to ruin my life. I just want my children away from her. What should I do?

COVINGTON KY – A 30-year-old Covington woman who taught a juvenile how to smoke crack cocaine was sentenced to five years behind bars Monday.

A lawyer for Tasha Simpson had argued that her client – a mother of seven children by six fathers – should get probation. She asked that Simpson be allowed to enter a residential drug-treatment program for women in Lexington to deal with her addictions.

http://news.nky.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/AB/20080325/NEWS0103/803250374

Is this what our welfare dollars are paying for? Also seven children by six different fathers at 30 years old. Doesn’t this scream of a typical welfare mother who should be ordered onto forced birth control? This is outrageous.

can it be dected in the baby after birth if the mother stops 3 weeks before giving birth?

l posted earlier about mothers who are dead beat mothers for smoking cigarettes while carrying their child and someone talked about crackbabies and the drugs they take. Crack effects both the baby and the mother. Cigarettes effects the baby, the mother and every one around them. Fact, cigarettes is a drug just like the rest of the poison that was made by man/woman so rather you are a cigarette smoker or a crackhead, either way, you are killing your baby slowly but surely and this is what makes you a unfit mother. and to ask do l smoke, why would l want to poison myself for. I love life and to say not to judge, don’t throw scripture in the picture when you are being corrected. You are what you are and that is a DEADBEAT MOTHER just like my mom is a deadbeat mother. l dont need to smoke to understand a addiction that takes effect of a child that has no choice and yes l am harsh because it is the tax payers who have to take care of that child when it’s deadbeat parents who can’t afford to take care of their child medical expense because they are too busy spending their medical money on legal drugs, CIGARETTES.

I’m 17 years old and my girlfriend is 15. Her mom stays gone for weeks at a time and they live with her mother (my girlfriend’s grandmother). I don’t know if there’s anything she can do and I don’t know what to tell her. When the people in authority are the people you can’t trust, who can you turn to? I need practical advice but I do appreciate any help you can spare.

I have a younger brother and sister (twins age 16) and they like to hang out at their friend’s mom’s house. I don’t know for sure that she lets them drink but they come home drunk a lot. My mom tells them they can’t leave the house anymore but they just sneak out.