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I would like to move out of state but have questions about custody of 5 year old. I would like to accept a very promising job offer, however it is in Wisconsin, and I live in California. I have a five year old son who does have a relationship with his father, however, I am very worried that his father’s alcoholism is going to have a negative affect in the future. We don’t have any custody agreement in place, and my son has been in my care since he was born with and has had arranged visitiations with his father. His father doesn’t have his own place, he lives with his mother, and smokes a lot of pot, and of course drinks a lot (he’s had 3 DUIs), and has no license. If I tell him I’m moving, and he doens’t like it, what can he do to keep me here, and can I use his drinking and other habits to fight for full physical and legal custody? I don’t want to start a big fight, but can I go even if he doesn’t approve of the move? Should I file for full custody after I leave or before?

My sister is in a rehab facility for the , hmmmmm too many times to count how many times shes been in. she has a serious drug problem. I have a four month old daughter, and would like to go visit my sister. I’m not sure if it’s appropriate to bring my daughter with me or not. On one hand, I feel like my sister needs my support, and seeing her niece could be helpful and uplifting. On the other hand I feel like it might not be the best place to bring a four month old baby. am I being a paranoid mother? The Rehab is not in the best neighborhood, but that is not the biggest area of my concern. What do you think? (please don’t bother posting an answer telling me to let my sister go, give up , etc. ) I just need opinions on bringing the baby with , or not.

of one child removed and given to the father. She would not abide by court orders after being given nearly two years to take parenting classes, go to rehab and get off drugs, counceling, etc., and was arrested for harboring a fugitive during the time. During these four years after the first child, she miscarried one, and had a new infant. Upon birth, she knows who the father is sure enough to tell friends, but she does not tell the father. She lists “father unknown” on the child’s birth certificate. Should she be allowed to take another child home? What do you think about not listing the father or at least a paternity test? Should our laws allow such as this to happen? She has no steady job, no drivers license, no vehicle, and is currently living with prestigious parents that have thrown her out of the house three times.
She would not consider abortion.

Ive been depressed this year. My reputation at school went down the drain , i last over 30 plus pounds, and gained a weak rep at school. Am 15 , dealing with a drug addicted mom, who is not the perfect role model for me.
peopel have seen my waekness, i had emotional outbrust, people know about my sucidal attempts, ppl know about the physical fights that happen at home..and i feel that this year, the guiys in my school have used all of this to thier advanatage..Guys in my school start pinching, shoving, grabbing me..and i fight back, but all that comes with that is more hitting from th em.

am scared for my life right now..& worried about this up coming year.

am so sick of being the vitcum..

I just want to run away from everythign..where i live right now is not doing me justice. I feel like i practically have to raise my self.
I need a mother figure..i dont have anyboady else to live with. And i dont even know who my dad is…

I have a older sister, who see everythign that happenign yet, i feel as if she does’nt care.

I been so isolated.., it the only way that i deal with the pain..

my emotions & feelings are all intense.

everywhere i go, am the center of attention..am that person that peole think got it bad, and build thier confidence over.

am that girl that peolpe take advantage of..am do freaking sick of the BS, that is happening..i have no support system..

i can’t even get a job, because am only 15, turnign 16 in nov.

I dont thihnk ill ever be happy in highschool.

my rep is just bad, ppl think so negative of me, ant hat’s bcuz i have’nt stood up for myself..

Am getting thepay next week for my depression.

I use be to such a smart, happy girl, who did’nt care about other thought. I knew whati wanted, did good in school, cared about what i looked like, but lately..i just dont care anymore.

am use to be such a smart 2 year back, but lately i changing..my mind is clouded, can’t seem to think straight..cant hold conversation, been ioslated for a long time now..

any advice?

my step dad treats me badly also…
at times he calls me outside my name, and has even threaten me at one times or another when mom was’nt there..

i never told my mom about this.

i never have any fun..this is my youth years, and i feel like am 30 sumthing.

am a virgin, anly had one relationship whcih last 2 days..i want love, but i refuse to look for it in all the wrong places..but it so hard fighting the odds..

my school consulaer, teacher

they dont like me ethier based on my rep at school.

in novwmber am thinking about going to job crop..but i dont know how this will affect my life..i feel ike am running away from my problem instead of dealing with it..

I have a friend that has had a real messed up life. No matter how much love I tried to give her nothing seems to even heal the scars in her past. No matter what I have always gave my attention and my full advice no matter how harsh. Truth is the truth. I started to become more than her friend. More like her mother. I just tried so hard to keep my cool when I knew that the horrible things she has been doing for her whole life. I didn’t judge her for the past I judged her for what she did recently. She calls me out of no where and tells me that she F-ed up and she smoked crack with her friends. She has done it before and it made me EXTREMELY MAD! I couldn’t even talk to her on account of me just being tomato faced red of embarrassment that my friend would pull a Whitney Houston. No longer did I hate her but I despised her actions. Soon a few days later she tells me that she had a one night stand with a abuser of an ex boyfriend. Then came to find out that she might be pregnant. THANK GOODNESS she wasn’t! But even the scare makes things stressful. Ive always known she had been taking meds like ceracil and lithium. HARD PRESCRIPTION! And recently I found out that she has been in a mental hospital for trying to committe suicide by taking 10 lithiums. I dont know what to do and how to react I really love and care for her but whats a girl to do when Ive never had a un normal friend. PLZ I have no clue what to do. I want to feel sorry for her but that doesnt seem enough.

I seen this story on the news tonight about a kid that was born addicted to heroin.He has all kinds of health problems and needs assistance just to read……. yet he has won an award for an Essay to pass a law that requires people on wellfare to be tested for drugs. if they fail and refuse rehab they lose their wellfare assistance.They should deffinetely pass that.his mother abanoned him when he was a baby but he has one of the most positive attitudes I’ve ever seen.

Im 24 years old…I have 3 sisters and 2 brothers that are younger then me 4 of them still live at home…I feel my mom is not being responsible and not taking care of the kids…Im thinking of trying to get custody of the kids or at least move and bring the kids with me….What would you do in this situation? When i was young my mom used to be a drug addict also i was like the mom and i would watch the kids in 7th grade i moved out cause i was tired of living that life….what do i do im so lost…i want to get them to be able to take care of them but worried my mom and the kids will hate me….what do i do any suggestions would help thanks i appreciate it…

The other day I was on my daughter’s computer checking out my stocks, and I stumbled (very seriously, completely accidental) upon porn on my daughter’s computer. I don’t know whether or not I should confront her about this situation. I was extremely disturbed, disgusted, and furious when I found it but she was at her father’s house for the weekend and I haven’t spoken to her yet. I really need to know what to do. I don’t want to hear that I am a snoop because I’m not. She really shouldn’t have milf-lesbos.com bookmarked next to mom’s stocks! And I also don’t approve of this. I know she’s probably curious and I would probably rather her be masturbating than having sex, but I am aware of how addicting porn can be, and I don’t want her to get hooked. Please take this seriously, I need to know what to do. I am a mother in need. Thank you very much.

Mom has always been addicted to alcohol. What can I do in this situation? I work in Brockton, Massachusetts. Are there any government or cooperative or private organizations would help me take the right steps?

Here’s a little background: my mother in law is 42 and has been married four times. Twice to the same man. There are three grown children from the first marriage and one nine yeah old child from the second. She was living with the man she has been divorced from twice. He got deployed and left her there. Since he has left things have gotten crazy. She has slept with several other guys–she does nothing to hide it and even has mentioned it in front of several people. She’s addicted to pain pills and smokes weed regularly. On top of that she has been drinking-not just drinking, but getting drunk every other night. Anyone is allowed to watch her son–if she bothers to get a babysitter; lately she’s been leaving him at home by himself all night. Last time she watched my two year old I caught her drinking at a bar while my daughter was being watched by a 13 year old girl I didn’t know. She’s never been a wonderful role model or anything but it’s been over the top lately. She is no longer allowed to keep my daughter unsupervised. Her boyfriend–or ex-ex-husband :D–sent me a message on Myspace saying he wanted to talk to me and it was important. I know it’s about her. I don’t care for this woman at all; there are other examples of her behavior I don’t care to list even if it is anonymously online. When he asks me what’s been going on should I lie to him? Personally I think she is an unfit mother and her child should be taken away from her while she is sent to a drug rehabilitation center. She is living in his house, doing drugs, partying, having men sleep over. My husband thinks it would be wrong for me to lie. But should I be the one to tell him? What should I say?
Can a report to DFAS be anonymous? Honestly I want to do something but I don’t understand why none of HER family will step in.. my husband, his sister, his dad, friends…