Because today is Mothers Day, I wanted to cook all 3 meals today for my mom. But I was wondering WHAT should I cook for my mom? My mom does not let me use the stove but my brother can cook simple meals on the stove like canned soup or Macaroni & Cheese. So, what should I cook for breakfast, lunch, & dinner AND an appetizer, snack, side dish, & drinks. Thanks!
My dad had a very bad problem with alcoholism, but he has been sober for 10 yeas. I’m an adult now, but I’m still hurt by his decisions. He owns his own business and it’s not going so well, and so he’s not making much money. My mom is basically supporting them, and they can barely make their house payments. I just can’t believe he has the audacity to do this to my mother. He used to just drink beer, but lately when I see him, he smells like he took a bath in rum. He was wasted at my grandmother’s WAKE last night. He’s driving all over drunk. My mom told him 10 years ago that if he didn’t stop drinking she would leave him, and if he ever started again it was over. I’m sure that she knows that he’s drinking again.
My question is…what do I do? Should I confront them about it? Should I just confront my dad about it? I know that it will just get worse and I’m thinking of all the bad things that could happen. My parents have been married for 23 years so this would just kill my brother and I.
(I don’t really know if this is the right category for this but I felt it was better than my other options)
I had a friend who I dated off and on for 3 years. I recently had to call everything off with her because of her alcoholism. Her behavior was becoming more and more unacceptable. I came to a startling conclusion a few weeks ago that I had been enabling her this whole time, and I feel bad about it. All of her “friends” do the same thing. Her parents are the worse though. She is a single mother and she often has her parents watch her 10 year old son so that she can go to the bar. Of course that’s not what she tells them. She gets drunk and takes guys home and says she’s being responsible because she could not drive. These guys often get her favors for there “kindness” and she has developed quite a reputation. She is unemployed so she does not have much money, but her parents pay almost all her bills for her. Which means more money for drinking. Over the years I got to know them pretty well and they know she has a problem, but not the extent. Should I sit down with them and explain the situation?
Well, I was born into a family with a whole lot of issues, my mom had me at 14, and then a few years later she got with my step-father who’s she still with until this very day.From my infant years through my toddler year my step dad treated me like his own even financially supported me since my biological father wasn’t in the picture, but as I got older he started to resent me.I know there was a time where I wasn’t such a good kid because I would talk-back or not always do as I was told.However I didn’t deserve a lot of the things he would do to me.My father would constantly belittle by calling me stupid, fat, sometimes he would beat me for the mallest things, one time he even made my younger siblings tell me how stupid I was, but worst of all my mother never really did anything to stop it.For the most part she would always blame me or make endless excuses for his bahavior especially when it comes to his alcoholism.
Well, anyway I’m grown now but due to some personl things that happened to me while I was growing up I wasn’t able to complete my high-school education.I was working as a dental assistant for almost three years up until may, but I had to quit because I was being harrassed at work all of the time.Now I’m stuck at home going through some of the same things that I went through as a child, the only difference is now my 18 year old brother is starting to belittle me just like my father did, and all my mom ever does is laugh about like its some sick joke.I try to carry myself in an adult manner but living here in this house brings out the worst in me, and sometimes I even find myself acting like them. I know ultimately the best thing for me to do would be for me to move, however I don’t have any money.So what should I do in the mean time?
I had a friend who I dated off and on for 3 years. I recently had to call everything off with her because of her alcoholism. Her behavior was becoming more and more unacceptable. I came to a startling conclusion a few weeks ago that I had been enabling her this whole time, and I feel bad about it. All of her “friends” do the same thing. Her parents are the worse though. She is a single mother and she often has her parents watch her 10 year old son so that she can go to the bar. Of course that’s not what she tells them. She gets drunk and takes guys home and says she’s being responsible because she could not drive. These guys often get her favors for there “kindness” and she has developed quite a reputation. She is unemployed so she does not have much money, but her parents pay almost all her bills for her. Which means more money for drinking. Over the years I got to know them pretty well and they know she has a problem, but not the extent. Should I sit down with them and explain the situation?
Which boook should i chooseee ?
so for an Eng. assignment we have to read a book from a list, and i chose these too but i dont know which one is better :$
in your opinon, would you rather read
You Don`T Know Me by Klass David
(review below)
Every day, 14-year-old John wonders if he will be alive by the next sunrise.
On the surface, John is just like most teens: he goes to high school every day, where he has several good friends and pines over the most popular girl. However, no one knows that every evening John is abused by his soon-to-be-stepfather.
This is a terribly sad novel that shows how easily an abused kid can slip through the cracks. Abused and hurt children like John are usually too scared to tell anyone. John is convinced no one knows or cares about him. He’s sure his teachers’ own lives are so unhappy that they want to make others miserable too. He thinks nothing of leaving his best friend when he’s in big trouble, knowing that his friend would do the same to him. And, because we know his secret, he is convinced that we, the readers, are the worst people of all. No one has rescued him yet. Everyone, even his own mother, has let John continue to live in fear. Why should he have faith in anyone?
John finally does get help — and he lucks out. Help comes without him ever having to speak up. In reality, victims of abuse almost always need to take the terrifying step of telling someone before they get help.
If you like a book that really gets into a character’s head or if you have an interest in psychology, this book is for you. Mixed in with his jaded thoughts, John has the same worries and feelings as any of us, making him a completely understandable and likable character. Without being overly dramatic, YOU DON’T KNOW ME packs a lot of action between its covers.
— Reviewed by Kate Torpie
or
Bitter Fruit by Keaney Brian
(review below)
It was like picking up some strange fruit that was black and glossy on the outside and biting into the flesh to find the taste was bitter beyond words. But she could not spit it out. She had to chew on that flesh and swallow every bit of the pulp.
Rebecca’s dad is so much stricter than her friends’ fathers. When she stays out late and comes home smelling of alcohol and smoke they have a blazing row and she tells him she hates him. Tragically, those are the last words she will ever say to him.
Grief at her father’s death is mixed with a terrible guilt, but while Rebecca is still trying to cope with these powerful emotions she finds out that her father had a secret life.
As she struggles to discover what he was really doing on the night he was killed, Rebecca must learn to deal with tragedy and face the truth about a world in which everything is much more complicated than it looks.
Orchard ISBN 1841210056
Please help! :]
“What is remarkable about this book is Keaney’s uncanny ability to delve into the heart of a teenage girl’s dilemmas and present them authentically and with clarity.”
Books For Keeps
“A gripping read that will have you in tears from start to finish.”
Sugar
so for an Eng. assignment we have to read a book from a list, and i chose these too but i dont know which one is better :$
in your opinon, would you rather read
You Don`T Know Me by Klass David
(review below)
Every day, 14-year-old John wonders if he will be alive by the next sunrise.
On the surface, John is just like most teens: he goes to high school every day, where he has several good friends and pines over the most popular girl. However, no one knows that every evening John is abused by his soon-to-be-stepfather.
This is a terribly sad novel that shows how easily an abused kid can slip through the cracks. Abused and hurt children like John are usually too scared to tell anyone. John is convinced no one knows or cares about him. He’s sure his teachers’ own lives are so unhappy that they want to make others miserable too. He thinks nothing of leaving his best friend when he’s in big trouble, knowing that his friend would do the same to him. And, because we know his secret, he is convinced that we, the readers, are the worst people of all. No one has rescued him yet. Everyone, even his own mother, has let John continue to live in fear. Why should he have faith in anyone?
John finally does get help — and he lucks out. Help comes without him ever having to speak up. In reality, victims of abuse almost always need to take the terrifying step of telling someone before they get help.
If you like a book that really gets into a character’s head or if you have an interest in psychology, this book is for you. Mixed in with his jaded thoughts, John has the same worries and feelings as any of us, making him a completely understandable and likable character. Without being overly dramatic, YOU DON’T KNOW ME packs a lot of action between its covers.
— Reviewed by Kate Torpie
or
Bitter Fruit by Keaney Brian
(review below)
It was like picking up some strange fruit that was black and glossy on the outside and biting into the flesh to find the taste was bitter beyond words. But she could not spit it out. She had to chew on that flesh and swallow every bit of the pulp.
Rebecca’s dad is so much stricter than her friends’ fathers. When she stays out late and comes home smelling of alcohol and smoke they have a blazing row and she tells him she hates him. Tragically, those are the last words she will ever say to him.
Grief at her father’s death is mixed with a terrible guilt, but while Rebecca is still trying to cope with these powerful emotions she finds out that her father had a secret life.
As she struggles to discover what he was really doing on the night he was killed, Rebecca must learn to deal with tragedy and face the truth about a world in which everything is much more complicated than it looks.
Orchard ISBN 1841210056
Please help! :]
“What is remarkable about this book is Keaney’s uncanny ability to delve into the heart of a teenage girl’s dilemmas and present them authentically and with clarity.”
Books For Keeps
“A gripping read that will have you in tears from start to finish.”
Sugar
I am a 25 year old female and have been dealing with an alcoholic father for my whole life as well as all of the ramifications of being an ACOA. He is not, nor has he ever been, physically abusive or *purposely* emotionally abusive (because I do consider alcoholism a disease I feel as though it isn’t completely his fault that he was angry and neglectful while we were growing up). He doesn’t drink everyday. In fact, I have never seen him with a drink, or beer, in his hand. Ever. He is a “closet drinker”. He will go weeks, months, even years without drinking (to my knowledge) and then binges alone in a bedroom or hotel room for days, or even weeks. When he was living with us (until I was 16) it was scary. He would pass out and there was nothing I could do to wake him up. I’d call my mom home from work (she was working nights), and tell her “Daddy won’t wake up”. I didn’t really understand. One time when she got home she called an ambulance because he was unresponsive. He has been to the hospital for detox many times, and has been to outpatient rehab. Unfortunately, he doesn’t not feel “AA is for him”. Most of his family and all of his friends are no longer in contact with him. After his last binge (within the last month), my sisters and I broke. We snapped. We can’t take it anymore. The inconsistency, the guilt, constantly blaming ourselves saying “maybe if we went to visit him more, he wouldn’t need to drink” etc. All 3 of us are in different stages of grief at the moment varying from numbness, to denial, to anger. For the time being, we had our mother call him and say “you need to find help, and you need to get better. You are doing no good for yourself, and you are damaging your daughters in the process. Please don’t contact them until you recover”. I feel like this will not doing him any good, but my sisters argue that it isn’t doing us any good either and we need to start worrying about ourselves for a change. I am exhausted. I am devastated. And I am lost. I don’t know what the right thing to do is. If we leave him, what will his motivation be to get better? He was never a great father, never 100% there but he’s still a human being and he still shares my blood. I feel like it’s my responsibility to be there and be supportive for him. My boyfriend thinks this is damaging me, and wants me to no longer speak with my father. He even suggested changing my last name. I think this is extreme, and the exact opposite of what my father needs. If he had a flat tire, my father would truly have no one to call. I’m currently reading books on alcoholism and families, including Perfect Daughters, How Al-Anon Works, and a few others I checked out of the library. They are very eye-opening, but don’t exactly give advice on this. I feel like I cannot abandon someone to be alone in this world, but I also can no longer keep getting hurt by him. I am going to work on myself, and hopefully seek help for myself soon (but JEEZ! Therapy is expensive! Even with insurance). I imagine that if I fix myself, answers will be more clear as to how to handle this situation but I fear I don’t have that much time. I worry that if he doesn’t seek help soon, he will drink himself to death… or possibly die from the health issues that surrounded his latest binge (gout, heart problems, internal bleeding of his kidney). Any words of wisdom, support, or advice would be greatly appreciated. I know I’m not alone… but it still hurts.
Thank you for taking the time to read this! I really appreciate it.
if they are found to be addicted to drugs and/or alcohol? I noticed on another question that many thought that addiction should be grounds for immediate removal from the natural mother. What about natural parents that are married, single or divorced or adoptive parents who are married, single or divorced who are abusing drugs and/or alcohol…shouldn’t their children (any age) also be immediately removed from the parents as well? Is there a difference in regards as to who is addicted and who gets to keep their kids or not? If so, why or why not? Personally I think alcoholics are just as damaging to their children as any drug addict…it’s still substance abuse. Should all alcoholics/heavy drinkers lose their children as well to fostercare, should the occasional pot-smoker lose his/her parental rights as well? Should only absolute non-drinkers (of the alcohol variety to include beer), no drug use of any kind people, be allowed to parent? Who determines who is engaging in total drug addiction vs occasional use or the died-in-the wool alcoholic vs the social drinker? Is there a double standard for substance abuse for women vs men, i.e. the married husband is the alcoholic/addict, should his children be removed from his household? At what point do people believe that alcoholism/drug abuse is damaging to the children who live in these households…do we hold different levels of acceptability based on marital status, economic status, home owner or renter?
ETA: The Brain said: “”Love how you throw the poverty issue in — trying to imply that “poverty is a reason children are in foster care.”"
UH! Excuse me where did I write the above in my question? If you are going to quote me, please, at least quote me correctly and not *falsely*. Thank you!
Guess my question has been diverted to “poverty”..OK!
http://www.faqs.org/childhood/Fa-Gr/Foster-Care.html
“”Others maintain that the inadequacy of the child welfare system stems from its inability to address the primary issue contributing to child neglect, abuse, and removal: poverty. Indeed, the overwhelming majority of children in foster care are born into poverty and some studies show that the primary predictor of child removal is not the severity of abuse but the level of the family’s income. Critics noted that in the early twenty-first century the United States had the highest rate of child poverty of any industrialized Western nation and argued the income and social supports more typical of Western European nations, such as family allowances, government-supported day care, family leave policies, more generous benefits for single mothers and their children, would reduce the number of American children in foster care.”"
ETA: Guess I didn’t get my point across in my question. I heard women screaming for the immediate removal of newborns from addicted mothers…no 2nd chance…yet now I hear it a little differently. Chances? for whom..the married couple, the single mom..who rates more chances? I also attended AL-Anon and ACA for a number of years, my life as a child was an absolute nightmare..no matter, looking back I still wouldn’t have wanted to be taken from my own mother…never! Best thing in our family…her husband dropped dead suddenly on the kitchen floor when some of my sibs (their bio dad that had a fed gov’t job) were quite young, they were spared the worst of the worst, for that I was most thankful! We all have our tales of woe.
My 15 year old son was at his friends house last night and called his mother to come and pick him up because he didn’t feel good. It turns out he took acid (lsd) and was having a bad trip. He had dillusions of death and was in constant fear for about five hours. He swears this is the first time he took this, and I do believe him. I never expected this from him as he is a pretty responsible, loving, athletic kid, and to this point, always said the right things about kids and drugs.
We had a long conversation about this, and told him I am going to take him to a Narcotics Anonymous meeting. I have gone to many Narcotics Anonymous meetings as I have abused prescription drugs in the past, and think he can benefit from hearing how normal, everyday people got caught up in drugs, and how it took over their lives. My question is, should I tell him I am a recovering addict and let hime know about my addiction? I am torn, because naturally I don’t want him to know, but it may hit home.
How is it possible to stop a mothers mental abuse
on her daughters own family? Where the father don´t no the culture in the country and has started drinking because he`s not alowed to care for the child, the child`s mother a partyfreak with 5 jobs and the 13 years old child has become weak with a suicidal mind. My concern is that the child is out of the line from the child convention.
I don´t have any authority to intervien because I´am not the mother or father of the child. In my country me and everybody else has social-welfair which makes it diffcult.
ive hidden from her and my family that im bisexual…..have done many drugs..been picked on in hs. was depressed through hs. and most of college..almost killed myself 2x..addicted to drugs. so much and i want her to know what i went through. should i? i want her to know how alone i felt…and why i am the way i am now.
Chapter one- No right turns
Just as I finished packing the final plates and glasses to move there was a smash,coming from the basement two floors down. It was loud enough the neighbors heard and came running over. “It’s ok,I think it was your brother with his box,”my mother said,with a deep sigh she went back to the moving truck. This wasn’t the last time we moved. We moved four other times from my dad being in the army. I carried the large box outside,taking a look at the house and absorbing the detail. The last time I would see the place where I had my first kiss on December 5th.
We piled into the mini van. Dad in front with mom and me and Andrew in back. My favorite song came on by Eminem INSANE,but mom changed it,cussing under her breath and the first word started. “Mom!”I moaned reaching forward and twisting the nob.
“No,I hate Eminem he stinks Molly.” I looked at Andrew who was propped up with two pillows and sleeping with a blanket over his body. Then reached into his pocket and pulled out his cigarettes,”Mom,I’m pulling up the divider,”I said,and fumbled with the button pressed it all the way up so she couldn’t smell the smoke. I lit it carefully and stuck it into my mouth. My lungs filled with and and I coughed,my eyes turned wide and that’s when I knew those things are disgusting!
We arrived at 5444 Westbrook,Connecticut. It was a bashe house,with green shutters and a cracked window. That’s All I have so far. I’m 11
My wife and I bid on an older home (blt 1958) seller came down $8000.00 ( which is $10,000.00 more than homes in area sold for ) after getting an inspector we found quite a few items wrong ,including foundation /pluming .Seller says work was done just can’t find paperwork (mother & father passed away) my question is do we go ahead but ask seller to come down = to repair cost or walk away . We like the house but we don’t want a money pit .all bathrooms leak ,cracks in walls ,doors hard to shut ,plus seller says roof was replaced 2 years ago but no proof /no smoke detect /no co2 detect ,I feel alot of little things add up quick.,my wife feels we could fix it up .
sorry …have a realtor ,inspector ,and have been pre-approved
My sister is an alcoholic. Her alcoholism has cost her her marriage her job and the custody of her children. I get along great with her kids step mother and I actually prefer the step mother company than my sister’s. The problem is that she comes to the family functions and always feels the need to bring up past issues up in front of my other sisters and brothers signifacte others that will embrass us. When we watch movies she cant seem to shut up and when you do call her on her lies she plays the victim. Her children want nothing to do with her. She lies to my parent and takes advantage of their generosity. Fails to pay her bills on time and lets my parents pick up the tab. She is 34 years old. It wasnt until her husband left her in 2006 that we even knew she had a problem with alcohol. We all have gone out of way to help her stay sober but she continues to drink and bring drama to our family. I’m at the point where I have anxiety when I know she is going 2 b around.
Here is the situation. She goes to AA she is going to church people pray for her but she LIES to everybody. My parents believe everything she says. I have told them many times to let her fall on her face. They say they will but don’t. My thing is how do I deal with her so I dont beat her up when she makes a stupid comment and end up making myself look like the bad guy. I am tried of her. I am nice to her because I have to be and out of respect to my parents but my God yesterday it took all my might not to punch her in her face. I’m the quitest one in the family. I am nice to everyone but I cant seem to let go and get over the crap she has pulled at the family functions. Everyone else just ignores it I can’t anymore. Any suggestions?
I do avoid her and I don’t even talk to her. She feels the need to always bring up my name followed by a lie as if she is intentionaly looking to make me look bad in front of my family. After she leaves everyone is talking about can you beleive she said this and can you believe she said that yet they do not say anything to her face. I would stay away from my family functions but then I would be missing out on my neices and nephews lives. I just want to get over the anger and resent I have toward her. Oh most of which stems from the various drunk vm she left on my cell when she was angery for not seeing her kids. My other sister insists on intviting her to all the functions and so do my parents because they feel sorry that her kids do not want to have anything to do with her.
I do have visitation with my alcoholic sister’s children. I would be missing out on the fun with my other sisters and brothers the ones I actually get along with and their kids.
I have so many psycological problems. I’m bulimic and have been since I was 11, depressed, stupid, ugly, fat, and pathetic. I binge and purge all the time and sometimes I just don’t eat. Both my mom and my step dad know that I have an eating disorder and that I cut and they don’t care so dont tell me to tell my parents. I feel like I’m never good enough. I hate waking up. I know that I’m going to go through more hell that day. My mom doesn’t work and my step dad only makes a little bit of money and they both drink like crazy so the money’s usually gone. I’m not old enough to get a job I’ll be 15 on Tuesday. I make horrible grades. I get ridiculed at school because everyone knows I cut because of stupid ex friends of mine. I used to have great self esteem and now I don’t. I can’t take life anymore. I want to just run away and get away from it all. I hate myself for having an eating disorder, I hate myself for cutting, I hate myself for being depressed, and I hate myself for hating myself. I feel like I’ll never amount to anything. I’m all alone and have all of these problems with no one to help me and I just don’t think I can take it. What in the world should I do? I know suicide shouldn’t be the answer, but I really don’t think anyone would give one half of a damn. I think people at my school would be glad I died. I think my mom and step dad would too. The step dad told me that he hated my guts and my mom just sits there and lets him hit me. I’m just done. Should I just end it all?
I was adopted at birth, and although my adoptive parents are great people just like everyone else they had issues. My mother is extremely bipolar and left unmediucated and my father died years back from his alcoholism. Then when I was 18 I had my daughter and was married. Then when my little girl turned two my husband started becoming abusive so I had to leave. I was left with no financial support and very little family left so I set out to find my birth father. We had an instant connection. We have soooo much in common its freaky. And since I’m in a jam he invited me to live w him n help me get back on my feet. I graciously accepted because I was one step away from being homeless w my three year old. At first things were great but now his wife of eleven years wants to leave now that I’m there. She’s very good person but is just very private and she’s having a hard time accepting the fact that she kinda has to share my dad now. It’s also hard cause we are close in age. I’m 22 she’s 30 and my dads forty. She’s not ugly to me at all…she just can’t handle me being there. So I told my dad I was moving out and he was hysterical and said if she wants to leave let her leave I don’t want to lose you and you need a stable home for your baby. But I just feel so rotten about potentially ruining their marriage. So…..should I stay or should I go??
my chihuahua just gave birth to two adorable little puppies last night and one of them isn’t feeding off of itz mother!! it is smaller than the other baby and it seems to be the runt. i fed it a couple times with a baby pup bottle and baby pup milk..should i be doing that to help it out? i hope it will make it through..* praying
my chihuahua just gave birth to two adorable little puppies last night and one of them isn’t feeding off of itz mother!! it is smaller than the other baby and it seems to be the runt. i fed it a couple times with a baby pup bottle and baby pup milk..should i be doing that to help it out? i hope it will make it through..* praying
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