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Okay, so my parents have been separated for two weeks. I was glad that they were separating, because I dislike my father.
Another thing, my mom is an alcoholic. She ruined my childhood because of her alcoholism. (She went to rehab FOUR times)
So last Friday, I found out that my mom started drinking again. I could tell something was different. I went into her bedroom, and right when I walked in, I could smell wine. After that, I didn’t know how to react. I was shocked because she has been sober for 60 days. She talked to me about it later on that night.
This evening, my mom started acting strange again. I could tell she was drinking… just about five minutes ago, I walked into the kitchen and I saw this one cup on the counter. I went over to smell it, and of course, it was wine. I am so fucking pissed off at her now.. I just don’t know what to do. My brother is with my dad at the moment, and I am home with my mother, who is drinking.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do in this situation? *sighs* I’ve been through it so many times.. but it’s just.. ugh…nevermind..
- I’m not depressed, I’m just extremely pissed off. I don’t know how to react..
- Also, I just heard a huge crash coming from my mom’s bedroom upstairs.. oh god..
Oh, my dad has OCD by the way

I have my mother in laws daughter like if she was just a phoster child gets to visit her mom once out of the week for one hour.my husband lets them visit longer and i think it’s a problem because when she don’t see her mom she doesn’t wine or pout,but she tells her mom that i don’t feed her after she gets home from school i don’t give her a full meal just a fruite so she don’t spoil her dinner that’s at 6:00pm and her mom tells her over the phone that she needs to tell us she needs to have gram crakers and milk when she gets home from school.the kid is only phoster till June we have the choice to have her as legal guardian of adopt her my husband don’t want to adopt her because he don’t want to take her away from his mom the lady is a drug addict and munipulates the little girl when she sees her now the little girl think that what i make for all to eat she should get different.I have three kids of my own and the smallest is already trying to pout if he don’t get his way.what can i do?

This would be the second Christmas without him. He was murdered Sept.17,2005.His family has invited me2 share the one year anniversary of his death, his birthday and they even celebrated what would have been our one-year anniversary together. Last year I bought them a nice china tea set. I have no clue what to purchase this year, or even if I should buy them a gift. Or do u think I should just send a card?
Also, my mom and I don’t get along, she showed no support 2 me during his death instead she got high and didnt come home that night 2take me2 his funeral, and then while I was at the funeral she stole money out of my drawer at home.But last x-mas she got jealous, and called me stupid for buying them a gift, cuz my boyfriend cheated when he was alive, even though his family bought me a nice 14kt gold necklace 4 X-mas.
What do I do about my mom, and should I get his mom a gift despit my drug addict mom?

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Oh yeah the Bed Bath and Beyond link is to the gift I got them for Christmas last year.It’s was differnt color tho, sorta like pastel type colors

I’m 20, my dad is 60 and has heart disease, works 5-6 days a week, drinks every night by himself, he’s on quite a lot of medication but his drinking has stepped up, today he must have consumed about 25-30 units of alcohol in beer. My brother who is also an alcoholic is in a similar situation but for now I’m worried about my dad. My mother died a decade ago, my dad has always been good to us, he had a drinking problem before but gave it up and about 5 years ago took it up again. He’s very sensitive about it, if I bring it up he doesn’t like it and I’m pretty sure a few years ago he got real defensive about it when I brought it up, he also said in the past it’s because the washing up is never done, now days I do 101 chores for the house but he seems to just change his reasons for drinking, almost as if they’re only excuses, he does work hard and if I bring it up he’ll probably say “ah it’s alright for you, you’re not the one working hard every day..” but I’m worried about his health, it’s going bad. My brother’s alcoholism and lifestyle is definitely affecting him and probably pushing him to drink more but my brother is the exact same story, denial denial denial, I can’t get through to these people, and don’t know where to start, please help.

Ive been dating my fiance for about 1 yr. His mom and bro are driving me insane. I don’t know if his mom is one of those people who just think everything is wrong with them or what, she takes at least 30 pills a day for various things…nothing is wrong with her, she is always zoned out of the world, when she was younger she use to be a druggie..I think she is taking her pills cause she needs to feel high from the drugs…then there’s his brother – he is addicted to a prescription drug – not sure which, but he buys them from his friends wife, and his mom gives them to him whenever he wants, he just tells her he’s in pain. He’s also addicted to marajuana. He doesn’t have a job – he’s collecting workmans comp because he was high at work and got hurt-they couldn’t prove he was high on the job. What I’m asking is should I end this relationship or try to make it. I love my fiance but I can’t stand to be around his mom or bro, I want kids-and I wouldn’t let them be around his bro, mom.??

I’m at the point where I think I need to cut my mom out of my life for good. I need some opinions and maybe some advice on what I should do…

I am 19 years old (20 next month). I moved out of my mother’s house when I was 17, into my brother’s house. I moved out because my mother was physically and emotionally abusing me, and because I just couldn’t deal with her anymore. My father passed away when I was 16 and my mom went deeper into her drug addiction. She has been a drug addict since I was born, she just took it to the extreme when my father passed. My mom has also always abused me, I have scars on my head from her bashing me into walls, a cut on my eye from her trying to stab me, etc. I just decided that when I was 17 and a year of living with her by myself, I was done and over her abuse towards me.

I currently live with my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 15. He is everything to me, and without him I don’t know where I would be. I have lived with him since I turned 18.

Lately my mother has been calling me saying she is going to kill herself (because of me). Every time I come over to help her and to talk her out of it… I end up being the bad one. I end up being belittled and torn apart by her. Tonight was my last straw, she sat there and told me how I was a stupid b*tch, who meant nothing to her, how I am a f*ck up and how my boyfriend deserves from pretty and better than me. She continued to tell me how my father hated me, how I was a mistake, how my mother wished she would of had an abortion and how she doesn’t want me. Yet, when I don’t pick up her phone calls (because of her saying these things to me) I am the one who is wrong, and I am the one who doesn’t care.

What do I do? I am so sick of her, and I am so sick of being the one who is always “wrong.”
Does anyone have any advice on what I should do
Should probably mention.
She has tried to kill herself 2 other times, each time I found her. Once when I was 16 and the other when I was 18. I have also put her into rehab 4 times. Each time she is sober for 1 month and relapses. She is also engaged, so she is not alone.

I started taking Effexor 4 and a half years ago. They prescribed me 75 mgs once a day. I’m 30 years old and 190 pounds and had been feeling tired out. My new doctor said that the dose was way to low and bumped me up to 150 mgs per day. My condition initially was depression, anxiety, and OCD, with a bit of alcoholism. Since then I have quit drinking and feel like I’m not depressed. Also when I quit drinking about 2 years ago the anxiety went away. I didn’t realize but I was always hung over and drank a lot of Vodka, I believe the anxiety stemmed from a seizure I had in 11th grade and when I’d get an anxiety attack I felt just like when I had the gran mal seizure, so the anxiety increased.

I am now married with a beautiful son. I am sober and don’t feel depressed. However I went to my doc and told him I always feel tired and have to try to get motivated. My mother was bed ridden throughout my childhood with depression and all of her siblings have the same issues. The doctor said that my depression issues may be gone but the condition persists, thus the lack of energy. Should I continue with the increased dose or what. I’ve tries exercise and caffeine even Provigil which worked but my insurance will not cover. Will an increased dose help me. Thank you so much for reading my short story and I appreciate any help or advice.

I was in foster care for my whole life. And I’m starting to wonder about my real mom. I want to find her but the system makes it impossible to find her. I changed my last name so she can’t find me. I’m not sure what to do. Should I try or not bother.

She and my dad sold drugs. They were caught and my dad was deported back to Korea and passed away. Me and my sisters became PGO. I met some of my real family but their all crazy and drug addicts so their no use to me.

I have a great foster family I’m 20 and still live with them. But I need to know more about my history and my “new” family can’t answer my questions. Or social services. Could I find a way to talk with her or is it a lost cause.

The father (a physician) has had recurrent bouts with severe alcoholism. He has several DUIs. Is on probation with his professional career. Disapears into his home for day and becomes so ill we wonder if he’ll survive. The son worries sick because he feels he is all his father has and he should be wih him taking care of him. The mother ( his ex-wife/my sister) found it impossible to handle and left but the son feels unconditionally bound to the problem. She feels powerless as to how to counsel her son. She does not want her son to put his life on hold and leave the job he just began as a teacher overseas. However, his father can’t seem to pull it together and is in the midst of another episode. The situation seems so grave and has ben a burden to my nephew for years!
Is it possible to make someone enter a facility against the persons will. I agree, the son would be so relieved to know his fathe rwas getting the treatment he needs. But, ho wcan he make his fatehr eneter a facility?

Seven years ago, I lost my identity. I was the favorite child and sibling out of seven siblings, predestined to honor the family. My father depended on me to shine because my brothers and sisters were involved in alcoholism, financial obsession, jail time, etc. What a great identity I had! Sure, there was pressure to be successful, but I was trusted, admired, and loved. Then, I got pregnant. Not by my husband, but by a guy who didn’t get along with the family. This broke my father’s heart and let down the others. A year later, my father died of cancer. I have lost a lot of credibility/relationships since then. I enjoy being a mother, but something is missing. My question is, should I pick up where I left off and attempt to restore my former identity by pursuing a professional career (no, I’m not a robot doing it for the money), or should I let everything go (not sure I know how to) and find a new identity (whatever that is)?

and formula fed too. not just breast fed.

I feel so different.
I’m normal, but i’m not.
Lol, I don’t know what my deal is.
I have a mild form of ocd.
I think it’s mild, atleast.
My mom’s taken me to see if I was crazy before.. because my ocd was so weird.
I don’t know if I have a mild form of shizofrenia (skitzofrenia) too or what..
I’ve actually never even considered that before just now, lol wow.
I will like talk to… nothing because there MIGHT, just MIGHT be something there.
That’s how I think too.
I’m so confused.
And yes, I have smoked pot before.. lmfao.
I thought this way when i was like 2 though.
I have forever.
My dad passed away when I was 7.
So I dont know…..
I do believe in paranormal.
What is wrong with me?
You know that feeling when like, you have to poop.. but youre holding it in because youre in a class or something?
Well, I like that feeling… lmfaorofl.
Also, when I do poop, (excuse the crudity..lol) I dont find it gross at all to take it out, and look at it.
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I’ve even like, tasted it before.
I just put it on the tip of my tounge, and like bit it.. it was so gross.
Lol.!
But yeah, that’s another thing that makes me think… am I crazy?
Or is that just like a mild, weird form of being turned on my poop?
I know, I thought it was weird when i first heard that too.
I think I have the perfect midnt o be a big time scientist.
I’m a scorpio, so can someone tell me if that means anything?
I’m honestly, really miniuplative.

Also, the scorpio is the sex sign.. and I used to hateeee myself for knowing what that was when i was like 5.. i wanted to die because i hated knowing that. It grossed me out soo bad.. but yet i was honestly humping my bed post because it felt good.
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If you need to know, I am 14 years old, but I look around 18.. and i dont feel 14.
5’8 1/2.
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My mom took me to the doctor guy whe n i was like 11.
But I ony went once, and he didnt get anything out of me.
I was so confused back then.. didnt even know what my ocd was.
My mom told me a while ago that she had a mild form of ocd when she was a child herself, but what she said that stuck with me was “I know what you’re going through, you aren’t alone”

In my heart i dont think im crazy, i think im different.
A crazy person doesnt think, or know that theyre crazy.. so that couldnt be the case.. could it?
I honestly do not think that i am crazy.. just different.
But I might be crazy.. it’s undeniably secure in my mind.
I dont know who I am.
Also, I eat alotttt at night.
I used to stay up until 7 in the morning eating and watching tv, and being on the computer in my room.. but now im back on schedulle.
I dont look that fat at all.
Just a little chubby i guess you could say, but i get hit on by EVERONE i meet.
guy OR girl.. lmfao i love it.
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Also, I ued to be and still am determined to become an actress.. amous, or well known one.
I was going to mvoe to l.a. when i turn 20.
after 2 years of college.
Now that i think about it, the last 2 years of my life have been denial.
I kept telling myself that i can wait until im skinny to do any plays or anything.. and then i keep holding off on the gym, for some stupid reason.. and binge some days, and just not eat somedays.
I was convinced that I would be successful at acting, and dont need a baclup plan.
I have been told many many many times by even people who hate me that i am a very good actress, adn dont knwo how a girl my age could act like that.
I can cry on cue, very easy.. and lots of other things.
But.. now I’m starting to think it’s denial.
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Oh, by the way, I AM NOT A GUY!

I have a friend that has a alcohalic mother. All she does is sit around at home and drinks and is lazy. Thier home is dismembered, and scattered and kind of disturbing. What should my friend do to help her mother in this situation??

My mother-in-law is a drug addict. She constantly demands that I leave my five year old daughter alone with her for sleepovers and such. I’ve also seen some pretty scary things she’s done with my nephew like taking dozens of pictures of him naked. He’s almost six. She makes me extremely uncomfortable and I don’t trust her. Yet she gets outraged when we don’t do what she says. My husband won’t stand up to her. He’s stood back while she’s called me names, said I was a bad mother, and said she’d take us to court for grandparents rights. He gives into her every time and we’ve fought nonstop for six years over this. Personally, to me, she’s nothing but a piece of perverted garbage and I want to tear her throat out as well as my husbands. How do I protect my daughter’s and my own well being when I’m constantly being attacked???? Help me.

She drives me batty. If you knew her you’d understand. I need something to calm my nervous twitches.
Xanax might knock me completely out, which could be a good thing-I’ll never even know she was here.
but if drink, I can laugh the entire time she criticizes my housekeeping, my child rearing, my religion, my clothes, my choice of friends, or how my cat makes her sneeze.

Ok so.. since march i guess, i would overeat emotionally (binge eating, if you will? :/) because of so much problems in my life. i started to over excersize shortly after i did the binging, then in early june, i started purging. (not exacly for weight-loss, because i know that purging doesn’t make you lose weight. i just did it to let out some food cause my stomach would really hurt after i overate) so saturday i purged alot..and i mean ALOT. so i got scared and kind of broke down and told my aunt (i never tell my mom anything, shes mean to me and judges me) then she ended up telling my mom. my mom called the doctors today and made me an appointment friday, what should i expect to happen? what happens from there? i’m not too far down. its not like i purge everyday.

He WAS a violent alcoholic, but he has since gone through a treatment program. I really miss him, but I think my parents and friends would go APE on me if I did get back together with him. But, I love him, and I did take my marriage vows, “for better or for worse”… Alcoholism is an illness, right? “In sickness and in health”… I never would have separated from him in the first place, but someone I know reported it to the police after he held a gun to my head, strangled me, punched me in the face and threw me across the hall. And then my mom came out and marched me to my lawyer’s office to file for a divorce. I never would have made that choice myself. I love him.

One more thing… He is almost 30 years older than me. He’s older than my mother, but he’s a month and 19 days younger than my father. Just in case that makes a difference in your answer.

Thanks for the advice!

PARENTING PARENTS
As Mary grew up, her parents had a happy marriage, and both held down well-paying jobs. Both parents suffered from alcoholism and smoked, but in most other ways, they were good parents. They always attended school functions and generally provided for a sound education, her good health, and her happiness. In high school, Mary dealt with some anxiety about her parents’ health by attending Al-Anon meetings to help her understand their addiction. She was comforted by her parents’ ability to continue functioning well despite their addiction, and Al-Anon’s suggestions for dealing with their choices.

After Mary left for college, however, she noticed changes in her parents. When she came home winter break from college, she noticed that her parents had new prescriptions for strong narcotic pain medication for “back pain,” which they had never suffered from before. They now used the medication as an additional intoxicant with their alcohol, and often in excess of the recommended dosage, clearly in violation of the warning labels. Mary felt as though her parents were abusing the drugs, and brought this up with them. They replied that there was nothing wrong with the medication, that it was legally prescribed, and that they had no intention of quitting use of the drug.

Over time, she noticed that their prescriptions increased in quantity and potency, and she became increasingly concerned. During summer vacation, she noticed that they would take the medication first thing in the morning, and continue taking it all day long. One morning, her mother forgot to take the medication and was sick by lunchtime. Mary felt certain that this was a side effect of strong addiction, and that something had to be done.

Mary was worried about how her possible actions might affect her relationship with her parents. She was concerned about the effects on her older brother, his wife, and two children. She knew that her parents were active in the community and at church, and she didn’t want to damage their reputations. She also wondered whether her parents’ doctor would even discuss their health with her given current privacy laws and doctor-patient privilege. Additionally, Mary was concerned that, if her parents lost a legal source for the medication, given the addiction she suspected they suffered from, they might seek similar drugs on the street which would be more costly and much more dangerous.

What should Mary do about her parents’ apparent abuse of and addiction to prescription drugs and alcohol?

So, this is going to be lengthy, so I will try to keep it concise.

My Husbands mom is crazy. She has had numerous health problems which have rendered her a drug addict (prescription drugs). She is “high” all of the time and has difficulty maintaining a normal life. She struggles with keeping the home, basic personal hygiene, healthy relationships with others etc.

She is verbally abusive toward her husband and children (including my husband). And has been physically abusive in the past ( I have not witnessed it, but have heard stories from enough first hand witnesses so I know it’s true).

Lately I have really been questioning whether or not she is a good person to have in our lives. This became especially apparent last week when she took her youngest daughter and her new granddaughter out to dinner. They ended up getting drunk of margaritas and then drove home…with the baby in the car. I was just appalled!!!!! I find those kind of actions childish, immature, dangerous and just plain STUPID!!!!

Furthermore, my husband and I have a 4 year old son. He has called his Nana 2 times in the last month or so, and has not received a return phone call yet. I mean seriously, how hard is it to pick up the phone and place a call?!?!?!?

‘m stuck at this place of confusion because I want to do what is best for myself and my son ( I would never ask my hubby to not have a relationship with his mother). Does God want me to keep being kind to her and loving her or is it OK to not speak to someone who is like her???

P.S. This woman is 45 years old- so don’t be picturing the frail geriatric type.

her mother constantly bugs about me telling her that I’m not right for her. she insist that she should patch things up with her baby’s father but he is a drug addict who is currently serving time in jail. she tells me she want not to do with the loser. I need avdvice she is twenty-three and I’m 38