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So my mom is a very good woman, but unfortunatly hasn’t made the right decisions all the time. We around 3 years ago we bought a house, and we could afford it, but now that the economy is so bad it is like we are living out of our means, and my parents don’t want to lose the house, and I understand that the bills and mortgage are first prioraty.

My mom is VERY upset because she is not going to be able to affored to give us a good christmas this year. my little brother is 5 and my sister is 12. I am 18 now, so I DO NOT expect ANYTHING! My mom doesn’t understand this because she was still getting gifts at 18 with her parents. So she is really bent out of shape over this whole christmas thing, and she reallly wants me to have some stuff, as well as the other siblings. I keep telling her no but she gets so upset.

My mom does home day care because it is the best paying job that she can get at this point, and I think it is really really getting to her. I am so scared for her heath because she is on anti depressants and other types of medication, and she is taking over the recommended doses at times, she also has started to drink heavily after wook and on the weekends, because she says it takes her stress away, but honestly, I grew up with an alcholalic and drug addict father, he is clean now as far as drugs, but he still drinks everyday when he gets home from work. I don’t want my little brother and sister to have to go through the same thing .. my mom is not herself when she drinks ..

Can someone please help me? Give me some suggestions how to deal with the problems we are facing as a family. I go to counciling, and I think it would really help my mom, too. Even my dad if he would be willing to go. I really need some help because my mom says if things keep going the way they are going she is going to break down .. and I feel the same way. I cannot take this anymore and this is not a joke, or anything like that. It is true comming from the heart.

thanks ..

By the way, my mom is also very, very tired all the time. I know daycare is a hard job, but it seems like she is in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 everynight .. it is like she doesn’t have a life anymore. On the weekends she sleeps for sometimes the entire weekend.
Just wanted to let you guys all know that i’m reading every answer, all the advise is great and thank you so much for taking me seriously, and taking the time to read what I wrote.

So my mom is a very good woman, but unfortunatly hasn’t made the right decisions all the time. We around 3 years ago we bought a house, and we could afford it, but now that the economy is so bad it is like we are living out of our means, and my parents don’t want to lose the house, and I understand that the bills and mortgage are first prioraty.

My mom is VERY upset because she is not going to be able to affored to give us a good christmas this year. my little brother is 5 and my sister is 12. I am 18 now, so I DO NOT expect ANYTHING! My mom doesn’t understand this because she was still getting gifts at 18 with her parents. So she is really bent out of shape over this whole christmas thing, and she reallly wants me to have some stuff, as well as the other siblings. I keep telling her no but she gets so upset.

My mom does home day care because it is the best paying job that she can get at this point, and I think it is really really getting to her. I am so scared for her heath because she is on anti depressants and other types of medication, and she is taking over the recommended doses at times, she also has started to drink heavily after wook and on the weekends, because she says it takes her stress away, but honestly, I grew up with an alcholalic and drug addict father, he is clean now as far as drugs, but he still drinks everyday when he gets home from work. I don’t want my little brother and sister to have to go through the same thing .. my mom is not herself when she drinks ..

Can someone please help me? Give me some suggestions how to deal with the problems we are facing as a family. I go to counciling, and I think it would really help my mom, too. Even my dad if he would be willing to go. I really need some help because my mom says if things keep going the way they are going she is going to break down .. and I feel the same way. I cannot take this anymore and this is not a joke, or anything like that. It is true comming from the heart.

thanks ..

By the way, my mom is also very, very tired all the time. I know daycare is a hard job, but it seems like she is in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 everynight .. it is like she doesn’t have a life anymore. On the weekends she sleeps for sometimes the entire weekend.
Just wanted to let you guys all know that i’m reading every answer, all the advise is great and thank you so much for taking me seriously, and taking the time to read what I wrote.

So my mom is a very good woman, but unfortunatly hasn’t made the right decisions all the time. We around 3 years ago we bought a house, and we could afford it, but now that the economy is so bad it is like we are living out of our means, and my parents don’t want to lose the house, and I understand that the bills and mortgage are first prioraty.

My mom is VERY upset because she is not going to be able to affored to give us a good christmas this year. my little brother is 5 and my sister is 12. I am 18 now, so I DO NOT expect ANYTHING! My mom doesn’t understand this because she was still getting gifts at 18 with her parents. So she is really bent out of shape over this whole christmas thing, and she reallly wants me to have some stuff, as well as the other siblings. I keep telling her no but she gets so upset.

My mom does home day care because it is the best paying job that she can get at this point, and I think it is really really getting to her. I am so scared for her heath because she is on anti depressants and other types of medication, and she is taking over the recommended doses at times, she also has started to drink heavily after wook and on the weekends, because she says it takes her stress away, but honestly, I grew up with an alcholalic and drug addict father, he is clean now as far as drugs, but he still drinks everyday when he gets home from work. I don’t want my little brother and sister to have to go through the same thing .. my mom is not herself when she drinks ..

Can someone please help me? Give me some suggestions how to deal with the problems we are facing as a family. I go to counciling, and I think it would really help my mom, too. Even my dad if he would be willing to go. I really need some help because my mom says if things keep going the way they are going she is going to break down .. and I feel the same way. I cannot take this anymore and this is not a joke, or anything like that. It is true comming from the heart.

thanks ..

By the way, my mom is also very, very tired all the time. I know daycare is a hard job, but it seems like she is in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 everynight .. it is like she doesn’t have a life anymore. On the weekends she sleeps for sometimes the entire weekend.
Just wanted to let you guys all know that i’m reading every answer, all the advise is great and thank you so much for taking me seriously, and taking the time to read what I wrote.

My dad had a very bad problem with alcoholism, but he has been sober for 10 yeas. I’m an adult now, but I’m still hurt by his decisions. He owns his own business and it’s not going so well, and so he’s not making much money. My mom is basically supporting them, and they can barely make their house payments. I just can’t believe he has the audacity to do this to my mother. He used to just drink beer, but lately when I see him, he smells like he took a bath in rum. He was wasted at my grandmother’s WAKE last night. He’s driving all over drunk. My mom told him 10 years ago that if he didn’t stop drinking she would leave him, and if he ever started again it was over. I’m sure that she knows that he’s drinking again.

My question is…what do I do? Should I confront them about it? Should I just confront my dad about it? I know that it will just get worse and I’m thinking of all the bad things that could happen. My parents have been married for 23 years so this would just kill my brother and I.
(I don’t really know if this is the right category for this but I felt it was better than my other options)

HI im a 22 year old woman…my problem started abt 5 years ago…i started fad dieting..n lost a lot of weight…n then some doctors thought it was anorexia..some d
id not (iv bin to a lot of doctors)…after abt a year later…i started having anxiety attacks n a lot of depression…n a lot of binge eating…a doctor has put me on a tablet called clonil..for OCD…i took it for a year..the binge eating stopped…i went to another doctor n she asked me stop taking clonil…n immediately..the binge eating has started…n besides that…i have a lot of anxiety…depression…BAD mood swings..i become so impulsive all of a sudden…n i throw things at my mom n dad..i cant control myself..i even go 2 the extent of hitting them…i also cut myself using razor blades when im really frustrated…n when im depressed i cant even get out of bed..cant go to school…i hardly get out of the house…i feel im destroying my family coz all this is having an effect on them n my life is being destroyed too…im so totally lost..some doctors say i have Bipolar Disorder…do i??what disorder do i have??im so confused…i feel suicidal all the time…will i get better??is there help??

I’m currently trying to get into San Diego Christian College, I’ve got everything in including my:

Academic Rec
Spiritual Rec
Personal Essay

The last two things I need to turn in is my Transcript and My ACT scores (taking it in the morning)

I’m nervous about those two, because of personal issues my GPA is a 2.2.

My home life was horrible during high school, my mom dated drug addicts, alcoholics and they did everything you can think of to us, including stealing Christmas presents, stealing cars, doing drugs in the bathroom, hitting my mother, coming in drunk. and that caused me to sink into depression…and my grades suffered. But I’ve brought my GPA up a bunch since then, and I’ve done Choir, Chapel Worship, Volunteer work including SPAY Baton Rouge, and singing to the elderly.

I was also a newspaper journalist, and I got straight As and Bs my senior year, CC is not an option because I NEED to get away from my home life.

In my personal Essay I highlighted upon my hardships
My Academic and Spiritual Reccs and very good
I plan to score atleast a 28 on my ACT

Do you think this college will give me a chance, and what do you think my chances are?

I’m currently trying to get into San Diego Christian College, I’ve got everything in including my:

Academic Rec
Spiritual Rec
Personal Essay

The last two things I need to turn in is my Transcript and My ACT scores (taking it in the morning)

I’m nervous about those two, because of personal issues my GPA is a 2.2.

My home life was horrible during high school, my mom dated drug addicts, alcoholics and they did everything you can think of to us, including stealing Christmas presents, stealing cars, doing drugs in the bathroom, hitting my mother, coming in drunk. and that caused me to sink into depression…and my grades suffered. But I’ve brought my GPA up a bunch since then, and I’ve done Choir, Chapel Worship, Volunteer work including SPAY Baton Rouge, and singing to the elderly.

I was also a newspaper journalist, and I got straight As and Bs my senior year, CC is not an option because I NEED to get away from my home life.

In my personal Essay I highlighted upon my hardships
My Academic and Spiritual Reccs and very good
I plan to score atleast a 28 on my ACT

Do you think this college will give me a chance, and what do you think my chances are?

I’m going to change names for the purpose of this question, thank you so much for reading and this would be a huge help to me if you could offer insight!

I grew up in a house of 7 half brothers and sisters. 3 from my mom’s side, all of her kids are in their mid-late 40s. My mom is 63 years old. 3 from my dad’s side, two of them are in their 40s and his third is 30. He is 70. THEN there’s me that they had “together”, and I’ll be 21 in a few weeks.

Our last name is Caswell. My mom is Sabrina Caswell.

A few weeks ago, I needed my birth certificate to file for something with insurance, and I had to order it from the state where I was born. On the birth certificate I noticed that my last name was Hoffner (the name from my mother’s first marriage), and my “Birth Mother” was Pamela Hoffner…which is MY SISTER’S NAME. My father was unknown.

I asked my mom about it and she said that when she was born, HER name was Pamela, but they had to change it at her baptism to a saints name, but she didn’t legally do so until after I was born, and the reason why my dad isn’t present on it, and the last name isn’t Caswell is because they weren’t married yet.

My sister Pam is 44 and she has two kids of her own who are 18 and 10. Her 18 year old John spent most of his time at my Aunt’s house when we were younger, and my sister is clean now so they both live with her. She used to have a really bad addiction to meth and etc, she’d go to programs in Brooklyn and stuff for it…

Her daughter Cassandra (the 10 year old) always calls me her sister. I thought it was just a cute little joke, but one time another little girl that was playing with us said “Yeah, but she’s not REALLY your sister, she’s really your aunt” and then Cassandra pulled her to the side and told her a “secret” and said “but don’t tell anyone” after it. Reason to be weirded out?

I asked my sister Natalie on my dad’s side about it and she said it sounded extremely legitimate and made so much sense.

I’m wondering if there could be a possibility that my sister actually IS my mother that got knocked up on a drug binge too young, and so “my mother” or “grandmother” intervined to save my life. I wouldn’t be mad if this were the case, but I feel like since it’s gone in hiding for so long, no one is really going to confess to it at this point. Is this plausible? I don’t know anything about this stuff, so I don’t even know if it’s possible for Parent’s to take children or if name changes like that are legitimate. I feel funny bringing it up for a second time, so I just need some advice…

We met in Jan 08 got serious in Mar 08. He seemed so composed until out of nowhere he fell off the wagon. That weekend he broke up with me for a stupid reason, his mom got sick(cancer), and he went on an alcohol and cocaine binge. I am so scared- I never expected him to relapse just like that.He said he went to a hotel, and in 24hrs had 2 bottles of vodka, 18 beers, $300 worth of cocaine, $300 worth of crack. He’s acting so strange since then I am almost scared to be around him. Please help. I dont what to do. I am respecting his wishes of not discussing this with my friends. I’m lost. I am not in AA by the way, and dont know what hes going through. Im scared he will do this next time we argue. In fact, I dont even want to have aboyfriend like that anymore. How do I break up with this person?
Hels also possesive, gets mad if I dont answer his calls, or dont want to stay at his house all night.
I live by myself.

I am worried for my mom. She was dating this man who narcisstic,violent,hideous,addicted to sex,drugs,tobacco and alcohol from Dec 14 2008 to April 18 2009 and I am worried because she said once that she might get back with him.I am worried because i hate this man sooooooooo much and he might hurt me and sean and my mom.I have told her I am really worried for your safety.they are still talking and he hasnt come around since November 13 2009.I want to get a restraining order against him so he wont come around anymore.

what should i do?

So we’ve been facebook friends for a month now blah..my family adopted me when i was a baby cause my mom was addicted to drugs and yeah they only adopted me cause i was related to them and Jessica my sister wasen’t cause I’m related to them on my dads side..so long story short and I sent her a message saying we should hang out soon and she didn’t reply. How do I get her to talk to me and how do I try to start a conversation with her? I’m 14 and she’s 24..I think it may be the age difference but she seems like my type. Yet, she is not the best example she was an alcoholic. But she seems really cool and she is super pretty! Please help?! Thanks so much i will pick best answer..im a girl btw

We met in Jan 08 got serious in Mar 08. He seemed so composed until out of nowhere he fell off the wagon. That weekend he broke up with me for a stupid reason, his mom got sick(cancer), and he went on an alcohol and cocaine binge. I am so scared- I never expected him to relapse just like that.He said he went to a hotel, and in 24hrs had 2 bottles of vodka, 18 beers, $300 worth of cocaine, $300 worth of crack. He’s acting so strange since then I am almost scared to be around him. Please help. I dont what to do. I am respecting his wishes of not discussing this with my friends. I’m lost. I am not in AA by the way, and dont know what hes going through. Im scared he will do this next time we argue. In fact, I dont even want to have aboyfriend like that anymore. How do I break up with this person?
Hels also possesive, gets mad if I dont answer his calls, or dont want to stay at his house all night.
I live by myself.

Ok, well, my fiance Patrick is an independent singer, and I’m his vocal coach. About a week and a half ago, Patrick started hanging out with this guy Nathaniel who records at the same studio as us. He’s 22, Patrick’s 26, and I’m 25. Well, Patrick’s invited him along to a couple parties and lunch with us, and just basically hanging out with him quite a bit. Well, at first, I found Nathaniel very irritating. He’s really over dramatic, and a bit overemotional… I brought it up a couple of days ago with Patrick saying, “I know you’re friends with him, but he’s a little… over dramatic and everything… He’s nice and everything, but you see it too, right?” and Patrick agreed, but he explained to me that up until about 2 years ago, Nathaniel had a really hard past… his mom was addicted to drugs and died, and he moved from family member to family member, but he seemed to lose everyone he loved. I feel really bad for kind of being on edge around him, and I can see how Patrick can put aside the over dramatic side of him, knowing his past. He came along with Patrick and I again at lunch today, and I realized how nice he actually is… I was also much nicer and I wasn’t on edge with him at all. I still feel really bad, though. I mean, I wasn’t “mean” to him, but I just acted irritated sometimes, though… I feel bad… How do I stop feeling like this?!

Hi, I’ll start by giving you some background information on myself. I’m 17 years old, in Year 12, and have spent my whole life being the good girl, getting good grades, being respectful, honest etc.
But recently something has snapped inside of me and I’m losing control. I think it stems from extreme school and work stress, as well as the pressure from my mother.
Where I once would only get drunk with my friends VERY rarely, i now get drunk Fri, Sat and Sun night every weekend. I’ve started smoking cigarettes and weed, despite the fact that I always promised myself I would never touch the stuff.
I’ve become prone to binge eating, and I have even started stealing whenever I can. Only jewellery and clothes at this stage, but Im afraid this will progress into stealing bigger, more expensive things and getting caught.
I was a virgin until a couple of months ago, but since then Ive done sexual acts and had sex with 13 guys-in a matter of two months!!

Im scared that if I continue this way I’ll get into worse drugs and alcoholism, get pregnant or acquire an STD, get caught by the police and that I’ll get a terrible HSC.

I need help, this is most definitely something I cannot tell my mother about, she brought me up on strict Christian values and would be devastated to hear this. It would no doubt kill her. I dont know what to do, I need to regain control over my life. I have tried to stop, but I just feel good when Im doing these things, despite how crap I feel AFTER doing these things.

Please, I know you dont know me, or have anything of real significance to gain from helping me, but Im desperate. this is my life and I must go back to how i used to be. Thankyou….

Most of the scenes in the show happen in the bar where they drink. What are they really drinking? I’m pretty sure it’s not really alcohol, right?

i use scissors to slight my arm…i never have used razors because i only want to punish myself…not kill myself…a bunch of people think emos are crazy…well try having divorced parents and a drug addict mom!!!

i want to drink for my birthday but my mother is a real shroo…. i need to do it so she dosen’t know

okay so im 13. me and my mom dont get along, ever. its really upsetting for me cause shes like my mother and i love her but i just feel like i cant talk to her and shes changed so much. (i was exagerating when i said we never get along. ocasionaly shes so nice and fun and supporting and just amazing. that keeps getting rarer though.) anyway, to start off im prettysure my moms an alcoholic. she would never admit but she drinks so much, not like heavy liquor or anything, just white wine but a massive amount, no matter the time of day. shes also depresses, like actually, i think shes on meds but there not working obviously. shes the most insecure person ive ever met, shes always goes back to friends who just use her and then constanly sobs about it, openly in front of me and my 2 little brothers. she has crazy mood swings, always overexagerates tremendously (to the point where about half of what she says is just a complete lie) and shes just mean. she tells me how awful of a daughter i am, how all of my friends probally hate me, and how i am the reason for all of her problems. i will admit it, i am a complete ***** to my mom aand i absolutley hate myself for it. but its just that ecery time i talk to her she gets mad at me for absolutly no reason and blames me for everything. i also just feel as though she is an incompetent mother. i think that her unstableness will cause me and my brothers to have major emotional problems and self confidence issues when we are older. and her drinking problem also puts us at risk. (she drinks while shes driving us, not just me and my bros, my carpool to when coming home from shchool. anyway i just dont know what to do about anything anymore. i try to be strong and nice but its just so hard. poeple always tell me how much im like her and it kills me to think that it could be true, that i might actually end up doing to my future children what she has done to me. ive tryd to confront her about some of the stuff before but she denies it, my dad always takes her side. oh yeah, my mom also always cries becasue she tells me how my dad doesnt love her, how hes gonna leave us. then she says shes gonna leave us, she actually implied to me before that she was gonna kill herself, or atleast never come back. but anyway, i just need help, i have noone to talk to. please tell me what to do.

p.s. i forgot about this as well. so were kinda going through some money troubles because of the economy (im not sure how severe they are cause my dad doesnt like talking about it and i can never trust my mom) so i got to an expensive private school and have pretty rich friends, well my mom always trys to make me feel guilty about it (when my parents dont even pay for my school) and now she has to go back to work. well she conplains about it all the time and says how unhappy she is at the thought of working again. its jsut so annoying because i understand that she doesnt want to work, i do, but she i work everyday in school, my dad works everyday, most people work and have jobs, and we sure dont like it but they do it cause they have to, to support themselves and there families. she just tries to act like shes doing some hugley special heroic thing by going back when shes made it abundantly clear how much she doesnt wast to.

maybe im overreacting to everything. im truly not sure and thats why i need your help. i dont know if what shes doing is normal and im just being a spoiled brat or if there actally is a problem there. please help me and tell me what to do about it. thankyou so much, i really appreciate it.

i play world of warcraft and this girl is so facinating. she is unlike any girl i have ever met. and she is a virgin like me. i have had my crushes and incorrect things of love, but this girl way different i think. but she lives far from me and she is dating and has been proposed to. she doesnt know if she wants to say yes.

i have heard her voice so i know she is a girl. there is only one person that i would give my life for and would hurt someone if they touched her and that is my sister. but this girl… i am jealous of her boy friend. which is weird for me. i may say they are lucky for having a sexy girl friend, but i havent seen her, her voice is so sweet, she is remarkably open.

my definition of a friend is some one that care more about you than you do yourself…
my definition of love is some one you are willing to die for. or in some cases if they die you go into such a depression and puts you on random binge drinking for the next 16 years. (My dad) my mom died.my dad quit cocaine for my mom. never went near it again.

I told a friend that I found alcohol bottles and my mom used to / has an alcoholism problem and I suspected a while ago that she did drugs. My friend reported it. Today, she got a call from a rehab center saying that, if she complies to a blood and drug test, they will give her a copy of the report and tell her who “anonymously” reported her to the rehab center. I guess my mom doesn’t have a problem after all because she laughed and decided to take the test (tomorrow) to see who reported her. I’m so scared; she’s going to be so mad at me– unbelievably mad at me– and there’s no way she would understand.

Will they REALLY tell her who reported her and give her a copy of what was said, or are the rehab people just telling her that to persuade her into it?
If you know, how do you know this? I just want to be sure…