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My mom has many problems. One of them is alcoholism. But by far, the biggest is her immaturity. And the fact that she doesn’t have a single friend. Her only friend is her niece, and she’s 23 years younger than her! I’m pretty sure that’s what leads her to acting that way… Every time I or my brother have a friend over, she acts as if they’re her friends.. Like when she sees them, she says “what’s up man” or something like that and gives them a high-five. I mean, wth! Who even gives high-fives to great each other! I don’t know if she thinks that’s cool or not, but really, it’s not! Along those lines, every time we have friends over (i’m 16 and my brother is just about to turn 15), she always hangs around us and try to get into our conversations… And the worst part is probably that our friends don’t even seem to mind! They just act as if she was part of us! And even when our friends aern’t over, she still acts the same! She’s always getting drunk and asking us to get drunk with her (yeah. i know). Good thing that i’m mature enough to understand that this is not the way things should be! I mean, is it normal that a 16 year old teen is the most mature person in the household (My parents are split)? And another thing… When her boyfriend comes over (like today), they always do “it”, and when they do, they moan very loudly and me and my brother hear it all the time… How gross can she be! She’s our mom for god’s sake! Sex doesn’t usually gross me out… But my mom doing it?? I mean, I know she does, but do I really have to hear her do it? And on my 16th birthday.. Oh boy that wasn’t pretty… Me and some friends decided to have a couple of beers while playing poker… Well some of us drank a bit too much. Well my mom thought that she should too. So she got drunk. ON MY 16TH BIRTHDAY PARTY. Another thing, she uses my F’ing camera to take pictures of herself half naked! WTF MAN!! She’s my mom, I don’t wanna see that! So that’s basicaly it… Is there anything I could do to make her stop?
I know’s it’s a bit long.. lol…

My mom has many problems. One of them is alcoholism. But by far, the biggest is her immaturity. And the fact that she doesn’t have a single friend. Her only friend is her niece, and she’s 23 years younger than her! I’m pretty sure that’s what leads her to acting that way… Every time I or my brother have a friend over, she acts as if they’re her friends.. Like when she sees them, she says “what’s up man” or something like that and gives them a high-five. I mean, wth! Who even gives high-fives to great each other! I don’t know if she thinks that’s cool or not, but really, it’s not! Along those lines, every time we have friends over (i’m 16 and my brother is just about to turn 15), she always hangs around us and try to get into our conversations… And the worst part is probably that our friends don’t even seem to mind! They just act as if she was part of us! And even when our friends aern’t over, she still acts the same! She’s always getting drunk and asking us to get drunk with her (yeah. i know). Good thing that i’m mature enough to understand that this is not the way things should be! I mean, is it normal that a 16 year old teen is the most mature person in the household (My parents are split)? And another thing… When her boyfriend comes over (like today), they always do “it”, and when they do, they moan very loudly and me and my brother hear it all the time… How gross can she be! She’s our mom for god’s sake! Sex doesn’t usually gross me out… But my mom doing it?? I mean, I know she does, but do I really have to hear her do it? And on my 16th birthday.. Oh boy that wasn’t pretty… Me and some friends decided to have a couple of beers while playing poker… Well some of us drank a bit too much. Well my mom thought that she should too. So she got drunk. ON MY 16TH BIRTHDAY PARTY. Another thing, she uses my F’ing camera to take pictures of herself half naked! WTF MAN!! She’s my mom, I don’t wanna see that! So that’s basicaly it… Is there anything I could do to make her stop?
I know’s it’s a bit long.. lol…

My husband and I have been married for 11 years (and together for 19). Just over two years we split up for a year after he hit rock bottom and ended up in rehab for alcoholism. His mother, brother, and sister all blamed me for this. Which I KNOW is untrue.

So we are back together and doing really well for all that has happened, he attends meetings, and we have done a lot of work on effectively communicating. His family however has not accepted our reunion…. Last year I wasn’t invited for the traditional holiday gathering, it was very hurtful, his Mom said “it was too soon.” I was not acknowledged at all even though all of the gifts were jointly given. My husband went without me, but of course felt bad about it and vowed not to do it again, we learned with counseling that we are a team.

So a year has gone by and we are still on this island away from his family. He feels that if he goes for Christmas then I should go too, but does he ask permission?

Frankly, I am angry that the power is in their hands, whether to accept me or not.

I also feel it is unfair that I would have to face the entire “den of wolves” in one shot, I am actually afraid that I would be very cold because of a need to protect myself emotionally. I am just not sure I am a big enough person. I feel betrayed by them.

To top things off, my Mom died this spring, so I am anticipating the holidays to be hard enough.

I am at a loss. I do truly believe family is important, and want for him to be able to be with them on the holidays, especially the kids. Should I encourage him to go on his own?

sorry this is long but i desperately need help im 14
so my mother has bipolar disorder and has always hated her life and my dad left when i was a baby.my sister said my mom got pregnant with me when he wanted to leave so she wouldnt have to be alone and she became very attached to me when i was little(not anymore..)and caused me to be very attached to her too because she was the only one that loved me,my sister and brother hated me because i got so much attention from her at the time.and as shes gotten older shes been losing her mind more.my sister said she was really put together when my sister was growing up but shes been getting more and more neurotic..she gets completely drunk every single night and takes xanex? and ambien and shes also anorexic so she used to call my brother fat when he was actually skinny and that made him be hospitalized for anorexia and has made all of us blame ourselves for why she hated her life.i researched this..READ THIS PLZ>>
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcoholism_in_family_systems#Correlates)
and i have all the symptoms under “correlates”

so now that im not a child anymore i obviously dont cry all the time like i used to and im not scared of school anymore but still how do i get rid of all these problems???

Recently two teens have been accused of murdering one of their moms. The boy (he is 18) and the girl (her mom) (she is 15 or 16) were living in the home with her mother, a chronic alcoholic.
What do you think about the terror that goes on if someone is
drinking since you were born. I think this is such an important factor in the entire situation since the girl has been asking for help all of her life, and now admits she has the same illiness.
I am not condoning the murder, just wondering if any of you have grown up with alcohol and can you tell me how bad it gets?

My uncle doesn’t have respect for my mother. He keep seeing this lady who smoke crack. They done kicked her out plenty of times. My uncle stays with my mom. She told him that she don’t want her on her property. He just brought her back today. My mom didn’t do nothing. the lady he see’s stole from my mom before and she stole from him plenty of times. When she gets high she act all out of control and wants to fight and argue. That’s why she’s not allowed on the property. My mom still doesn’t want on her property. My uncle is not listening. I’m tired of going through calling the police, staying up all night when she (unlcle girlfriend) are arguing and fighting. My mom is scary what should i do? Her sister told her to kick him out.

I have a panic disorder and a psychotic disorder. My mother is drinking herself to death and my father is going senile. I have a supportive by very pushy girlfriend. What can I do with my mother? She will not go into treatment and right now she’s laying in her chair drunk and vomiting. My father can do nothing but help as much as he can. My girlfriend is good to me but she pushes me to get off of my medication and pushes me into extremely uncomfortable situations in order to try to break my illness.
Right now I’m getting a cold and I am freaking out. I have no health insurance and my medication is running out. Please help me. I’d commit suicide if it weren’t for my girlfriend and my own fear of death.

The twist is that I’m 20, my grandparents adopted me and my real mother just moved out(she doesn’t drink but is very ill with depression). Now no one can take care of my while my adopted parents suffer. I just want to die, there’s no one I can turn to. I don’t know how to live a normal life like everyone else. please help me.

we have a 5 year old we’ve raised since 6months old ,she acts terrible sometimes,she very smart,she can be so mean sometimes.She has not been around mom in 4 years

Hello, I’m 16. I went through a hell of a lot when I was a kid. My mother and aunt were alcoholics. My aunt died from it. I moved away. My father ditched me, so I live with my granny.
Now,
I can’t focus on most things because my mind wanders and I daydream when someone is telling me a story or something. I always get distracted by noises, my mind always gets focused on the noise that distracts me then starts to irritate me sometimes. I walk out places and can’t remember what was said.
I cry and almost everything. I have sad feelings and feelings of not wanting to be here anymore. I constantly worry about things that bother me or when someone is nasty to me I get butterflies and continue to worry. I’m scared to talk to people because I’m so shy and have no confidence. I keep to myself alot also.
My mind goes blank and ‘zones’ out most times when people talk.
Things like this. What is this? I really need help before I got nuts. Please don’t tell me to go to a doctor. I just wanted other opinions.

Thank you:)

My younger brother is 20. He has been in rehab twice for drug/alcohol problems. At one point he was taking 30+ Xanax ‘bars’ a day until we got him into a program and detoxed.

Every time he gets out of rehab, he eventually goes out and gets his ‘fix’ again and gets hooked.

He even moved 2,000 miles away for a while to live with my Mother in CA. He did not know a soul there and still managed to find dope.

I think the reason he has such a hard time giving everything up is because he also has antisocial personality disorder. He seems to have no regard for other people’s feelings. He is very impulsive and a terrific liar and con. He plays on our (his family’s) emotions because he knows we want him to get help and always want to believe he is getting better….and then he will steal from us right under our nose.

I have been reading about antisocial personality disorder and know that the treatment of the disorder must be done first. He needs real behavior modification therapy to improve decision making skills. He could also use a mood stabilizer to help manage anger issues.

I guess what I would like to know is….how do you talk to someone about this disorder who has such blatant disregard for other people’s rights/feelings and even his own well being? How do you talk to someone who is virtually impossible to communicate with? How do you talk to someone who only indulges in conversation when there is some hidden motive to get something he wants?

How do you make someone realize the need for therapy?

For as long as I can remember, my mother and I have not been close. Since I was born, to when I was about the age of 14 she would always relapse, and sometimes we would have light physical fights. I would always have to stay with my grandparents, I would even have to change schools periodically, and leave all my friends, and become secluded while she would drink. Then, when she would want “help”, I would always have to take care of her, empty out her puke buckets, feed her, ect. I even remember when I was about 9, for about two weeks I took care of her by myself, I mean I was so young, I didn’t know what was wrong with her. We have had a few boyfriends move in with us, but I mean she always changes when a new one comes along, and she acts fake, and anytime we fight, she always acts like the victim.

I mean she has been a year and a half solber now, but the pain I endured from my childhood is not going away, and she can’t understand why I cannot get over it. She says that emoitonal pain is mine now, and I have to deal with it myself. I do not think its fair to say that when she caused me deep pain, for years on end, and she just expects when she is clean, for me to just deal with it. It makes me feel like since she is okay now, then all of my pain is just my problem, not hers. Like she just forgot about it, and now for the rest of my life, I have to deal with it.

Sure, she takes me to therapy, and gives me the essentials, and ect. But, I just don’t think I can forgive her, I mean its not like I can forgive her. She shouldn’t have drank, I mean sure, she has her everyday stresses about life, and other alcoholics do, but they went through it all, without drinking.

I mean, I am an alcoholic also, but she acts like my disease affects her more, and she makes it about her. She always has to be the victim, which I never understood.

So my question is, what should I do?
Should I just avoid this pain, that I have endured for a good part of my life, or should I move on, and forget about her?

Please help me.

(I am almost sixteen by the way)
I am not too young to be an alcoholic.

My mom has a history of drug addiction but has gone through rehab and has been of probation for about six months. My father moved out of state and cannot return because he is remarried. Do you think the judge will give custody to my mother even though her past is not the greatest? This is in the state of texas by the way. Thanks!

I was just wondering because some people have told me that yes even if the mother did not use drugs or alcohol but the father did the baby can still have major problems and even possibly be addicted as well.

I am not trying to get pregnant. But I was just wondering if this is true or not. Because my boyfriend does weed, and other drugs so I was just wondering.

THX.

My dad is hooked on prescription pills and he is making my family go bankrupt…. someone please help me. My dad had a car accident about 6 years ago and he broke his neck. Well they operated on him putting plates into his back to help support his neck and he became addicted to pain pills. He draws a disabilty check now but he takes between 10-15 prescription pills aday and when he runs out he goes and buys them off drug dealers. He draws a disability check, my mother works, and i work and we still cannot pay our bills for his problems. Recently I have thought about sucicide and have dreams of dieing. I really just want to die because of his problems. Someone please help me.

i don’t have any contact with my natural mother and haven’t for a long time, my whole life she hasn’t been around and on my 21st bday, she called and told me that it was another year that i ruined her life. she has lots of problems and i wish there was a way to help her, but i honestly don’t want any contact with her, this is mainly for my grandmothers sake who has had to deal with all this and i want to help her so she won’t have to anymore. any ideas?

Him and his girlfriend have a problem with me and my fiance’. they say they dont like her because of shit she has done in her past. My philosophy. The past is in the past. the past stayed in the past because it wasnt strong enough to make it to your future. i love my fiance to death and my brother is a nothing in my eyes . nothing but a worthless piece of shit drugg addict mother abuser who likes to think he runns the show since my father passed away. I need advice about what to do and how do u get a 20 yr old to go to a rehad willingfully.How do u get a girl to understand how much you love her no matter what the fucked up family says to and about her?

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relationship with my family is shit

how that thing i was talking about last time ended up working out, it was very fucked and interesting- fuck you to you too mom.

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