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I lost my father when i was 8 years old to drugs and alcoholism, i have three brothers and two sisters, my mom didn’t work and wasn’t in school when he died so money has been scarce ever since. I am 24 years old now and i lost my grandpa and step dad this past year and a half. I am extremely down, and my mother is the only person i have but she is moving away and i am left with no where to live, i am struggling to find a job right now i feel extremely stressed and depressed, also my girlfriend is moving for about 6 months a long ways a way and i probably won’t get to see her for at least 3 to 4 months. I need support and guidance right now and wish i could find it in god, but i feel i don’t know how to pray or know any other way to connect with him.
I honestly haven’t felt alone like i do right now, i have doubt in myself, in my girlfriend, i feel abandoned. My girlfriend really was my only friend, my best friend. The only joy i have is feeling these lonely tears run down my cheeks. I am afraid and don’t want to be alone my whole life. My mom is almost in the same position, i can somewhat deal with my fathers passing, but knowing my mom is giving up and staying with her sister breaks my heart. I have no support from friends or even my family and really just need some love right now.

i think i have:
- adhd- i get so distracted. i fidget and it takes me way longer than it should to do school work especially at home. i always get off track. like now im supposed to be writing an essay but i just went on yahoo answers without even thinking…
- ocd- things have to be perfect. ive gotten up in the middle of class to go and turn all the markers on the white board sill thing so they face the same way and stuff.
- eating disorders- ok im 100% sure i have an eating disorder. i binge and cant stop. its because im a bit overweight and seeing my brother and super-skinny friends pig out on everything unhealthy and it just makes me want to and then i eat more as i feel bad about when i eat i get fat. ive almost made myself throw up but ive stopped myself.
- bone pops out or something? below my chest and above my rib cage on the right, when i turn my body to the left, a bone will lik pop in and out or ssomething? its doesnt hurt but it really doesnt seem right
and more.

but like its so ridiculous. ive mentioned it to one of my friends and shes goes “you dont have all those problems you think you have!” and ive been mentioning a few things i think is wrong with me to my mom recently and she goes “oh you dont have that”. theres more things i think i have problems with but no one will believe me! i feel so messed up!
and i really want a therapist but my mom would never pay for one but i need to tell someone all my probs especially personal ones like my eating disorder to someone i dont know and only is there to help me. my friends would just tell and id feel betrayed although i know theyre trying to help, and my mom it would be awkward. i want to talk it out with a therapist, and NOT my school guidance counselors or “trusted adults”.

please please please help!

Mature advice only please. I am serious. I need honest mature opinions to this problem. I am trying to save my marriage. I have a big problem. My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has been sober from alcohol for almost 6 months. He is also addicted to pills, mainly xanax and lortabs. He does good for a while, then relapses. I understand this is one of the hardest addictions to try and stop on your own and I am trying to give him all the support I can to help him through this. The problem is… his mother keeps giving him pills behind my back. He finally confessed it to me and now I am stuck with a hard decision to make. What to do about his mother. Do I cut her out of our lives? She is on parole for drug charges herself as she is an addict.. Family traditions huh? I am so angry, I am considering calling her Parole Officer explaining my situation and informing him that she is still doing drugs and every time they call her in for her drug test, she has been using a detox to pee clean, and the shampoo for the hair follicle test. I know this because she told me this. She has already peed dirty once and she denied it and I guess the PO let it slide. Should I go to her PO and tell him what I know to get her out of our lives and away from my husband? Shouldn’t I do something to keep her away? I need help… Please
I have talked to her repeatedly about giving pills to her son and the last time I talked to her, she said, “Well you know he’s never going to quit taking pills”, so I told her, “Not if you keep supplying them he won’t” and she left mad. She knows how I feel, but she doesn’t care. She has been giving him pills since he was a young child, only then she gave him Valium so he would go to bed early so she could stay up and party with her friends. I know this because my husband told me this. He and I are being honest with each other at last. I hate making my husband feel like he is stuck in the middle as he is going through a hard enough time trying to kick his addictions, but his mother has been an enabler to him for so long now. I told him I don’t want her coming to my home that she is not welcome because I can’t trust her to support him or me in our marriage and his recovery. He and I have been going to a church for a year now to find help through the Lord and trying to get our lives straightened out. The devil keeps sending people in our lives trying to mess things up. And on top of all that, his mother decided to come to our church this morning. But not alone…she had brought along a woman who my husband used to go out with and has recently “befriended”, and she knows I can’t stand her. She is trying to cause problems in my life. How do I put a stop to it

My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

I asked this earlier today but i got 0 answers, so im reposting it. Thanks so much if you can help.

Well, all was good until she moved school. She got into the wrong crowd – the kind of girls that are skipping school, smoking and causing problems all at age 13. She comes from a fantastic family and her mum is up to her wits end and cracked last night – saying she could ‘do whatever you want, i don’t care anymore’
Personally i think a mother should never give up on a child like that, but her daughter has been lying to her about certain things and its caused a massive fight between them.

Now, her daughter isn’t at school and she is at work.

This concerns me because i live with them, and my boyfriend is very depressed over it. He’s hardly spoken a word since, and his mum keeps trying to drag him into a battle that isn’t his. His parents are divorced.

Her mum is keeping tabs on her school attendance, she rings every morning to ask if she is at school and her daughter knows that.

She has also been spoiled her whole life, which is making her think she can do whatever she wants as she has no discipline.

What can we do? Sorry its so long :(
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Okay so i am 12 and my mother drinks and she already got arrested for DUI a couple of years ago and went to some like jail for people who do drugs and drink and stuff like that. But she still drinks. I know she has her little stash of wine in her closet. she gets drunk a lot and everyone in my house knows it. I gave her subtle signs like switching/hiding her wine, but she hasnt talked to anyone in my household about it. The last time i tried to confront her she said it was “hard to stop.” HA. that talk worked. that was a while ago though

What should i do? Thanks SO MUCH

below is a series of complaints sent in by various tenants to their landlords

I wish to complain that my father hurt his ankle very badly when he put his foot in the hole in his back passage

the lavatory is blocked; this is caused by the boys next door throwing their balls on the roof

this is to let you know that there is a smell coming fro the man next door

the toilet seat is cracked: where do i stand?

I am writing on behalf of my sink, which is running away from the wall

I request your permission to remove my drawers in the kitchen

our lavatory seat is broken in half and is now in three pieces

can you please tell me when our repairs are going to be done, as my wife is about to become an expectant mother

I want some repairs done to my stove as it has backfired and burnt my knob off

I am still having trouble with smoke in my built in drawers

the toilet is blocked and we cannot bather the children until it is cleared

the person next door has a large erection in his back garden, which is unsightly and dangerous

will you please send someone to mend our cracked sidewalk? Yesterday my wife tripped on it and is now pregnant

our kitchen floor is very damp, we have two children and would like a third, so will you please send someone to do something about it

will you please send a man to repair my downspout. I am an old age pensioner and need it straight away

could you please send someone to fix our bath tap? My wife got hr toe stuck in it and it is very uncomfortable for us

I want to complain about the farmer across the road. Every morning at 5.30 his cock wakes me up, and it is getting too much

When the workmen were here hey put their tools in my wife’s new drawers and made a mess. Please send men with clean tools to finish the job and keep my wife happy
**** means c-o-c-k

I have been with a girl for over a year now. I do everything for this girl. She treats me & her mother really bad at times & she treat her friends like gold. Especially when she is wanting her fix. She has a major drug and alcohol problem. She disappears for hours at a time doing drugs with her friends. She runs to the bad part of town aka drug city. Its hard telling what she is doing for these drugs. She has very little money. Me and her mother are the only ones who really care & support her. I cant stand this stuff. Will this get any better? I do love her or I would have left along time ago. I have given her chances to change many times. She promises to stop but starts it all back up a week or two later. I have not talked to her in two weeks. I have been ignoring her texts and calls. I am so mad & hurt. I just don’t think she will ever change. She has already been to rehab a few times in the past for drugs. Her mom said it didn’t help much. She was off drugs for a few weeks then right back on them. Should I keep on ignoring her & move on?

In 2009 I was in jail serving time because I had an illegal gun in my possion. I was cleaning it and it went off through my apartment floor. Nobody was hurt thank god. It was stupid that I had it and I regret what happened and did my time. While I was in jail my ex wife decided to go out and shoot dope, leaving our son for weeks at a time with family members. One day she tried picking up our son at my mothers and she was high and with another man that she had been cheating on me with. My mother called the cops and our son was taken and sent to live with my mother in law. I had no clue any of this was going on until I was released from jail. When I was released I had no son, no wife, no house, no car, and no money. She spent everything on drugs and tattoos and crashed my car. I wasn’t allowed to see my son for 8 months after I was release from jail because DYFS wouldn’t allow it. When we finally went to court they gave her custody back because she got her G.E.D., went to a parenting class, and was taking methodone. They granted me visitations on weekends with my mother present. They told me I needed to complete outpatient rehab (even though I am not a drug addict and have no drug charges unlike my ex), complete parenting classes, and anger managment ( even though I have no anger problems and never had any charges against me for any type of violent act). Because my son means so much to me and I refuse to walk away from him like my father did to me I am doing all of those things that the court has ordered me to do even though it is ridiculous. I feel I did nothing wrong except make one stupid mistake of having an illegal gun ( I didn’t even know it was illegal because I didn’t know the law in the state of Virginia because I had just moved there). I feel that my ex was the one who made this all happen and I am the one being penalized. The courts and DYFS are making me out to look like the bad guy when really I was always the better parent and bonded more my our son from birth. He’s my world and this is tearing me up inside. I hate seeing him go through this. My ex is still hanging out with drug addict ex cons and getting drunk on a daily basis and smokes in front of our son who has allergies, and drives illegally. She would be homeless if her mother didn’t enable her by sending her money and buy her a car. She is also getting welfare and milking the system making them pay for half of her rent…little do they know her mother pays the other half and utilities. She is a horrible mother and DYFS is on her side. I’m seeking a lawyer and I want to file a complaint against DYFS. My caseworker is the worst and can’t do her job. I’ll call her 8 times a week and leave messages and get no response. When she does finally call back she can never seem to give me a straight answer and seems to be on my ex’s side. They don’t know her and how she is….if they did they would take my son away again and I wouldn’t be able to get custody because I don’t have a car. I don’t know what to do anymore…but I’m not giving up on my boy. I just want DYFS gone. They are ruining my son’s life. They are supposed to help children not take them away from the ones you love them. I don’t blame them howver for taking my son away from his mother, just blame them for taking him away from me.

A suicidal woman who is in and out of mental hospitals has a warrant for 3 years in Fl. addicted to pills hides for 3 years then gets an attorney and pays her fines and then gets a licence back and a judge orders a withdrawl of Capias w/ a previous history. The next day goes back to the mental hospital. This woman can move back to FL and a parent with full custody scared for his children can not ask for an emergency injunction because she did not threaten lives. She calls from the hospital says shes coming back to see the kids now that the warrant that her mother paid off is taken care of, she could come and take the children and we could never see them again. Where is the justice?
The court wont help because of no threat, what can we do to protect the children?

okay so im 13. me and my mom dont get along, ever. its really upsetting for me cause shes like my mother and i love her but i just feel like i cant talk to her and shes changed so much. (i was exagerating when i said we never get along. ocasionaly shes so nice and fun and supporting and just amazing. that keeps getting rarer though.) anyway, to start off im prettysure my moms an alcoholic. she would never admit but she drinks so much, not like heavy liquor or anything, just white wine but a massive amount, no matter the time of day. shes also depresses, like actually, i think shes on meds but there not working obviously. shes the most insecure person ive ever met, shes always goes back to friends who just use her and then constanly sobs about it, openly in front of me and my 2 little brothers. she has crazy mood swings, always overexagerates tremendously (to the point where about half of what she says is just a complete lie) and shes just mean. she tells me how awful of a daughter i am, how all of my friends probally hate me, and how i am the reason for all of her problems. i will admit it, i am a complete ***** to my mom aand i absolutley hate myself for it. but its just that ecery time i talk to her she gets mad at me for absolutly no reason and blames me for everything. i also just feel as though she is an incompetent mother. i think that her unstableness will cause me and my brothers to have major emotional problems and self confidence issues when we are older. and her drinking problem also puts us at risk. (she drinks while shes driving us, not just me and my bros, my carpool to when coming home from shchool. anyway i just dont know what to do about anything anymore. i try to be strong and nice but its just so hard. poeple always tell me how much im like her and it kills me to think that it could be true, that i might actually end up doing to my future children what she has done to me. ive tryd to confront her about some of the stuff before but she denies it, my dad always takes her side. oh yeah, my mom also always cries becasue she tells me how my dad doesnt love her, how hes gonna leave us. then she says shes gonna leave us, she actually implied to me before that she was gonna kill herself, or atleast never come back. but anyway, i just need help, i have noone to talk to. please tell me what to do.

p.s. i forgot about this as well. so were kinda going through some money troubles because of the economy (im not sure how severe they are cause my dad doesnt like talking about it and i can never trust my mom) so i got to an expensive private school and have pretty rich friends, well my mom always trys to make me feel guilty about it (when my parents dont even pay for my school) and now she has to go back to work. well she conplains about it all the time and says how unhappy she is at the thought of working again. its jsut so annoying because i understand that she doesnt want to work, i do, but she i work everyday in school, my dad works everyday, most people work and have jobs, and we sure dont like it but they do it cause they have to, to support themselves and there families. she just tries to act like shes doing some hugley special heroic thing by going back when shes made it abundantly clear how much she doesnt wast to.

maybe im overreacting to everything. im truly not sure and thats why i need your help. i dont know if what shes doing is normal and im just being a spoiled brat or if there actally is a problem there. please help me and tell me what to do about it. thankyou so much, i really appreciate it.

Okay my dad is an alcoholic, and I tried once to confront him on his problem knowing full well that he would blame-shift to try and justify his addiction when the truth was delivered to him respectfully by me in an attempt to allow him to see that he indeed is an alcoholic and that this is a problem.

But instead the direct result was him while sober becoming so violent that he tried to strike me because I referred to him by the name of his dad who died from alcoholism. I did this reference on purpose mind you, in an attempt to bridge a link to what he is doing will eventually kill him, and that I care enough to step up to the plate of the futile task of trying to talk sense to him.

But when he who is 48 yrs old is also addicted to playing facebook poker from 5pm-2:30am on average while slamming the beer when he knows he has work at 5:30am is unacceptable and it has gotten to the point where I am loosing sleep at night because I have to wake up at 5:30am when his alarm goes off to pester my mother (whom which her and I are currently unemployed and job searching actively) to wake up my dad to make sure he goes to work, and frankly I am tired of reverse parenting, because a 24 yr should be seeking guidance from his 48 yr old father, not raise him!

His habits have grown to become out of control he calls off work because he has a crap load of paid vacation days but still it’s unacceptable especially when your a professional IT like he is. Also he has almost all together given up eating supper claiming he is never hungry all he does his play facebook poker, and farm town all day, refuses to do regular house chores like a responsible adult. He has not taken a shower since last year around this time not even once, but washes his hair only when he has work. He stopped grooming himself, except for shaving because he is not allowed to have a full beard.

He has become recluse for the most part only going to Walmart for groceries, going to work, taking the car to the garage during inspection time, beer runs including cigarettes, and on occasion out to eat. But he fails to go visit my brother to see his grandchilden which is awful because my brother only lives on the other side of town which is only a 10 min drive…..see my point?

My mother and I physically, emotionally, and mentally can not continue with baby sitting a drunk. We are thinking about calling his boss to inform him of why he is missing work and why his habits changed. This has been made aware to my dad by me personally when I confronted him that I will not stay silent very long before going to his older brother for help, his boss whatever I can do that will help him forcefully because I’m not concerned whether he likes it or not mind you, because to me that’s trivial and unimportant, as he stated that he doesn’t care if he dies from alcoholism and sadly I believe him.

Sorry for making this long but there is just no way to simplify it to get a good proper answer from someone who is just not looking to score an easy 10 points, because unfortunately this is the only place I myself have to turn for council so please don’t give me moronic answers, that would be highly appreciated.

Thanks for your time!
other information I live in the commonwealth of PA if that is needed I dunno. :)

All the troops do in korea is drink. They are only allowed off post in groups.as the korean people do not want americans there. He needs help before the army kicks him out. He is a new father and really needs to get help to keep his family togather. his wife is considering divorce, he is not physically or verbally abusive.I am a heartbroken Mom.

if the mother drinks alcohol during the pregnancy?

1. i wish to complain that my father hurt his ankle very badly when he put his foot in the hole in his back passage
2. the lavatory is blocked; this is caused by the boys next door throwing their balls on the roof
3. this is to let you know that there is a smell coming from the man next door
4. the toilet seat is cracked: where do i stand
5. i am writing on behalf of my sink, which is running away from the wall
6. i request your permission to remove my drawers in the kitchen
7. our lavatory seat is broken in half and is now in three pieces
8. can you please tell me when our repairs are going to be done, as my wife is about to become an expectant mother
9. i want some repairs done to my stove as it has backfired and burnt my knob off
10 i am still having trouble with smoke in my built in drawers
11 the toilet is blocked and we connot bathe the children until it is cleared
12 the person next door has a large erection in his back garden, which is unsightly and dangerous

I’m writing a book and I’m only sixteen. I’m not really familiar with the divorce thing so could you guys help me out? I would really appreciate it.

See, if a mother is a drug addict and the father knew about this. He’s now planning to file a divorce but in order to do this… Do you need TWO lawyers? I mean, couldn’t the dad get a lawyer and file a divorce? and the mother doesn’t have a lawyer, is that possible? Or you really need two lawyers on both parties to divorce? What if the mother suggests to go to rehab first and then work on the divorce, is that possible? and what about the custody? Will the mother still see her kids?

Please answer the questions above ^ that’s basically everything that I need for my book but if you have any more things to say, please do.

Thank you so much! x
God bless.
Please note that I’m NOT writing a book about divorce. Please people, I asked for help not you’re nonsense opinions.

Well, a year ago i started dating my current boyfriend. Ever since my mom has changed. I can’t go out cause i’m a girl and i don’t have the right to. But then my boyfriend came over and talked to her then she changed it to coming on before 9:30 on the weekdays and before 12:00 on the weekends. But ever since i started doing that, all she has been doing is scream and such at me because of that.

When im with my boyfriend, my day is wonderful. She knows that he makes me happy, so she calls and makes up excusess to get me home. When im home, all i do is watch my sister while shes out having FUN with her friends.

Before meeting my bf, i had this friend. She told me my life would be miserable without her. But now shes on drugs, in and out of rehab and pregnant, oh and also into gangs. My mom also knows that, but instead of being proud of me, she just tends to make me unhappy.

She always told me that she loves me as much as she lovesmy lil sister and my older brother. But she spoils my lil sister AND my older brother.

My mom has also kicked me out, but when i pack my things and bout to head of the door. She threatens to call the cops and stops me.

She knows that i want to get out of the house, but she knows if i go, she won’t have any favors done for herr.

Im just confused. My boyfriend just tells me to try to ignore it and get through it and before i kno it i’ll be out of the house for good. But everyday of this nonsense is hard and i just can’t take much of it anymore.
oh AND.. my brother wants to move out but my mom won’t let him. She told me that if i left she would be happy and that it would make her life complete, but she even freaks out when im gone for the day.

if she thinks that, she needs to let me go. But she just doesn’t.

I was just wondering because some people have told me that yes even if the mother did not use drugs or alcohol but the father did the baby can still have major problems and even possibly be addicted as well.

I am not trying to get pregnant. But I was just wondering if this is true or not. Because my boyfriend does weed, and other drugs so I was just wondering.

THX.

it is called alcoholism and being an addict. I think that he has more to drink then the other. He is struggling hard every day. There is not a single day to where he can pass without having a drink. I am writting to also tell you that I am afraid we will lose him soon. I am also afraid that his sons will find him once he is gone. He is yellow again and in the hospital all day and not in the emergency yet I don’t think. Please pray that he doesn’t get worst and I am asking you to pray for him. Will you? If he if something gets worst, I hope he will see my dad his brother on the other side. He has gone through this before to the point that he almost died. My dad his first massive heartattack long time ago and he only had 1% chance of servival he made it until the fourth one. They found him cold but he looked like he was in pease. He called before he died and said “I am going to sleep now mommy,I love you” He used to say that when he was sick as a little boy to his mother.