We will help you get your mom off drugs!

My fiancee still wipes his 8 year olds butt and thinks he should still be sleeping with us. I honestly thought the little boy was afraid to be alone I didn’t realize he still needed his but wiped when he used the bathroom. Grandma does this too. This kid yells for them to come to the bathroom and wipe his but. I told my fiancee when we moved in together I was not sleeping in the same bed with him because a lawyer advised against it in case allegations would be made by his drug addict mom if she came back. My fiancee sleeps with him now and not me. I think they are hurting his independence. I am pregnant and I think these people have some screwed up parenting going on and I am worried. Isn’t 8 too old to need your but wiped? Shouldn’t he be sleeping in his own room? I was a daycare worker and I have noticed some red flags in this little boy for serious problems and I think these people are making them worse. Do you have any advice?

Heya.
I am a 24 year old female.. I am a single Mum, and live a pretty stressful life..
My dad is an alcoholic.. And alcoholism runs in my family. I have seen myself be like my Dad.. And that scares me.
I was just wondering if marijuana is really that bad? I worry alot if i am a good enough Mother.. Would it make me a horrible Mother smoking some marijuana once in a while when my Daughter is in bed? I have read up on both opinions..
Some other single Mothers have described it as being like a temporary holiday in their head. Helps them to relax etc. Some are totally against it.. and says it would make me a terrible Mother.
I used to drink alcohol every so often for stress.. i just end up sad and hung over.. That cant be good for my Daughter right?
Put aside it being illegal…. Is it better for me to smoke Pot or drink alcohol in times of need for stress ? Cheers.

1.(Points: 2.5)
The leading cause of premature adult death recognized by the World Health
Organization is:

a. obesity.

b. cancer.

c. alcoholism.

d. smoking.

2.(Points: 2.5)
A common outcome when in vitro fertilization is used to assist in reproduction in the
United States is that:

a. many of the babies develop learning disabilities in later childhood.

b. almost half of the pregnancies result in low-birthweight twins or triplets.

c. asthma is common in IVF children.

d. mothers are slow to bond with their babies.

3.(Points: 2.5)
Gus has been picking up some extra shifts at work to make ends meet, including taking
some all-night shifts. He has been making some costly errors on the job that he’s never
made before, even when he worked longer hours. What has caused the change?

a. The work is more stressful now that he is older.

b. His lack of sleep slows his thinking and his problem-solving abilities.

c. His age-related farsightedness is affecting his work.

d. Trying to keep up with the younger workers makes him nervous.

4.(Points: 2.5)
Desmond and Lucy, both in their mid-50s, wish to maintain their excellent brain
functioning into their 70s, 80s, and even beyond. The best way to accomplish their goal
is to:

a. solve crossword puzzles daily.

b. get at least 30 minutes of aerobic exercise daily.

c. maintain good general health.

d. include at least five servings of fruits and vegetables in their daily diet.

5.(Points: 2.5)
Gender differences in senescence indicate that:

a. men age more slowly.

b. women age more slowly.

c. men and women age at comparable rates.

d. women age more quickly but refuse to admit it.

I’m a 19 year old male. After a bad decision I made one night, a woman I slept with is now pregnant. She is claiming that it is my child, however I do have some doubts.

A little history about her: She has had several issues in her past. Eating disorders, alcoholism, etc. She has also had very many sexual partners (I didn’t find out about this until after wards) so this is where I get the doubt that it could be my child. I have expressed to her that she either needs to have an abortion or place it up for adoption if she does have the child once it’s born.

I’m a college student and, in my opinion, not ready for a child.

What are my rights as far as giving the child up for abortion if she does keep it? I cannot afford the child at this age and how much I am working. I don’t work a lot, because of school.

If anyone can help me, please please tell me my rights as a potential father and if there is anything I can do?

I don’t mean to come off as a bad young man, I just cannot do this right now. I realize I am responsible for what I have done, so I’m not looking for the mother talk here. So if anyone can help me please, anything with suffice
This has nothing to do with “stepping up and being a man.” I understand the consequences of my actions, I am only looking for simple advice. Furthermore, I cannot drop down to being a part-time student. I would lose my insurance and I’m trying to go to law school. So I need to be a full-time student.

I appreciate all the advice I am being given. Thank you all

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Sorry gintable I am new to Yahoo Answers; that was my first question! I don’t know if I am sending THIS RIGHT ! You seem threatened and offended by my beliefs. I understand! I will try to find the CORRECT category. Thanks
I use to be threatened by differences in thinking and beliefs, but I get to know who you are that way! Go ahead and bash me and the “entertainment” I choose. It makes me stronger as astrology has taught me!
Okay, it does kinda bother me for you to relate to me that way, but at the same time it excites me because, again, I get to know you. For a person to be a “not nice” with his way of communicating to someone he doesn’t even know says something about him!
gintable, it’s obvious that you don’t get astrology very well because you would know that your sun sign isn’t the tell all of the personality. I’m sure you will come back and say that is because it’s all bullshit LOL. any sign can be a “jag off” as you so eloquently put it. I like you, gintable! Keep it coming! I’m better with the “feel” of you, not the “logic” of what sign you are!
Iridflare, did you conduct this research yourself? If so, how did you conduct your research? Do you know yourself, really know yourself to know if it’s worthless? Or do you not like what astrology has to say about you? If it’s useless, why do you care? Why did you have to reply?-but please do. I like to get to know you!
Jim D, not gintable I’ve been communicating with, right? Wrong use of name!
EDIT: Thanks Oklatonola! LMAO. I felt they were bullies. I have been bullied most of my life so am learning how to handle them. 3 years! Well, if they want to mess with me, then I’m ready! It’s hilarious and I don’t take people of that nature as seriously as I used to. I just speak my truth and give them what they give me. Thanks for the parenting advice! Even without astrology, if a parent (wants) to do better, she can try her best! Good luck to you and your friend.

I come from a very plutonian/neptunian family. I am one myself. My son has moon in scorpio and my daughter has moon square pluto. I know this is only a small piece of the personality. But, every moon/pluto person I know was either emotionally or physically abused or had a parent suffering alcoholism. My mom abandoned me. My dad was great most times, but he was a liar, manipulator and he physically assaulted me and every wife or girlfriend he has ever had. I know that’s strange to say that he was great most times, but it’s true. I could “see” his heart, which was great, but his ego was out of control! My kids’ also have moon square pluto and he can never have a “real” conversation with his mom; she never validates his feelings and experiences. she also used to cry before he could even express his perspective of her. He’d say, “mom, in childhood I couldn’t go out with friends and….” but she would have tears rolling down her face before he could finish his sentence. “Well if you think I’m a bad mother, why don’t you right down all the horrible things you think about me and I’ll stay away since I’m not wanted,” she would reply. Our parents/family labeled us as the sensitive one, but they were the ones being abusive or pouting all the time.

Now we are afraid that we will be like our parents. Can we change for our children? Even if we do better than our parents is it fate for our kids to feel the same about us as we do our own parents. Sometimes it seems that, based on a person’s inherited personality traits, he or she will interpret the parent(s) based on their own outlook-he or she will “hold onto” certain parts of the parent. Because, as I said, my dad had many great qualities. I just can’t let go of the hurtful ones!

I want to be a good mother. Even more than that, I don’t want to do anything to cause deep psychological scars to my babies. I know no parent is perfect, I just need any type of HELPFUL info! We can’t go to our families for advice; those plutonians don’t want to HEAL!
Sorry gintable I am new to Yahoo Answers; that was my first question! I don’t know if I am sending THIS RIGHT ! You seem threatened and offended by my beliefs. I understand! I will try to find the CORRECT category. Thanks
I use to be threatened by differences in thinking and beliefs, but I get to know who you are that way! Go ahead and bash me and the “entertainment” I choose. It makes me stronger as astrology has taught me!
Okay, it does kinda bother me for you to relate to me that way, but at the same time it excites me because, again, I get to know you. For a person to be a “not nice” with his way of communicating to someone he doesn’t even know says something about him!
gintable, it’s obvious that you don’t get astrology very well because you would know that your sun sign isn’t the tell all of the personality. I’m sure you will come back and say that is because it’s all bullshit LOL. any sign can be a “jag off” as you so eloquently put it. I like you, gintable! Keep it coming! I’m better with the “feel” of you, not the “logic” of what sign you are!
Iridflare, did you conduct this research yourself? If so, how did you conduct your research? Do you know yourself, really know yourself to know if it’s worthless? Or do you not like what astrology has to say about you? If it’s useless, why do you care? Why did you have to reply?-but please do. I like to get to know you!
Jim D, not gintable I’ve been communicating with, right? Wrong use of name!
EDIT: Thanks Oklatonola! LMAO. I felt they were bullies. I have been bullied most of my life so am learning how to handle them. 3 years! Well, if they want to mess with me, then I’m ready! It’s hilarious and I don’t take people of that nature as seriously as I used to. I just speak my truth and give them what they give me. Thanks for the parenting advice! Even without astrology, if a parent (wants) to do better, she can try her best! Good luck to you and your friend.

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
her boyfriend thats the babys father is in Boston, another state from us and the baby goes up there every few months fro a few weeks but she and him fight so they wont stay together for too long and she wont leave the baby up there b.c she doesnt want his father to have him. My sister wont hire a babysitter b.c shes too cheap and would rather have me do it b.c she doesnt “trust” anyone else. I cant hire one b.c i have no money

I need any advise on how to ask for help and who I should trust with this without being judged as I am a mother and I have a wonderful job. I am sure people who know me would be shocked and may look at me in a different light.. My husband has no idea :(

OK, here goes. I plan on leaving the father of my two year old baby girl. He’s already stated that he’ll get custody, though I’m not sure why he says that… Let me give you some details. I live in New York State. He works during the day, I stay home with my little girl all day. At night, three nights a week, I work from five to ten thirty. He has her till eight those nights, ans at eight o’clock, she goes to bed. He had my nine year old daughter watch her a lot on the nights I work, and I would be working more, except that he really won’t let me, though after I move, I’ll be able to get more hours. I have custody of my oldest child, not through the courts, but her dad has no problem with her being with me at all, he sees her every weekend, and that’s working out just fine. I haven’t got a drinking problem, drug problem or alcoholism. I am going to school to be a teacher, and I have never abused or been mean to my children. Actually, I think I’m a really good mom. And so do my kids, my oldest and I are extremely close, and my baby and I are as well. I love them so damn much, and it’s stressing myself and my oldest out to be here, he’s possessive, controlling and mean spirited. He yells a lot, and I can’t do a thing, can’t leave the house, can’t do anything without being interrogated. I’m almost developing a nervous condition, and it’s time to go… My question is, I’m terrified when I go to court, he’ll make something up about me, in order to get my kids. My ex’s mother and sister are going in to be witnessed for me, but I’m not sure what is going to happen, and I can’t allow her to be raised by a short tempered man. I’m so scared I could lose her, and I need some advice or experiences from you guys… Please please take the time to answer me today… I’m sick over this, and paralyzed by fear of losing my baby. Please help. I want my life happy, with BOTH of my children.
John, Happy Hunter and KK. Thank you SO much. I need some reassurance through this time.. Unfortunately, Happy Hunter, I can’t put school off, since I’m already halfway through. In NYS, I know I need to have PHYSICAL witnesses, not just statements, or else I would have had a lot more. I know the law guardians will also talk to my eldest, and she will tell them what’s happening, although if I had it my way, I would leave her out of it altogether… On a more personal note, John and KK thank you for the complimentary answers as well, I needed the self confidence boost. Fighting for your child is like fighting for your life… Thank you so much.

first off, i am 5’1 and 100 lbs.and 15 years old. i know that i am still a low weight, but considering i am very very short, and i gain fat all over, and am very small boned. i need to weigh about 85-90 lbs. please dont answer if you are going to tell me to shut up.
i have gained about 20 lbs due to my bulimia, and i just cant get out of this cycle. a typical binge for me would be:(this is today)
2 cups cereal
1 can whipped cream
enough soymilk for the cereal
5 chocolate chip pancakes w/ butter and syrup
2 slices chocolate cake
a couple meal bars
5 slices of pizza
(this was breakfast)
i purged out only half of all of this

1 whole large package of perogies
about 5tbsp of butter
2 slices of cake
1 package of grapes
(i couldnt purge out any of this and i feel horrible! and completly sick)

this happens like everyday now, the littlest thing i eat sets off a whole binge and i hate it. i dont ever leave the house, and i always miss events, plus im getting bad grades in school- im a straight A student!

i cant tell my mom about this bc i had anorexia last year, and it put her into a big depression and she is still recovering from the shock.

please dont tell me not to worry about it bc its just one day and im still thin. i have gained 20 pounds from this, and its not stopping. please help me and what should i do to feel better??
im a girl……
i cant do that, i just cant:(

just abuse even though my grandmother raised me she was just as mean as my mother. Honeslty out the too. I would say my grandmoter was the worst she did the nastiest thing. I think my mother WOULD NEVER DO. Anyway one day I asked my grandmother can she ask my mother why she dont love me or treat me so cruel, my grandmother said in a nasty tone you ask her yourself. My grandmother knew I was so, so scared of my mother even just to talk to her. me and my mom never talked I dont know why.

Now my mother is dead and I dont regret asking her, cause I was scared I just wanted to know why didn’t my grandmother wanted to do that for me, and why was she just as mean to me. Do you think she was mean to my mother. I heard my grandmother took me away from my mother so she can always have a check. My grandmother was a drug addict real bad. but why did my mother treated me so bad also.

im 14

i am struggling with my weight, i eat barely anything for a week and then binge and pile the weight back on, i need to be thin… i have tried healthy eating and exercise but i feel so guilty after i eat its unbearable…

and my mom is never there for me anymore, nor is my dad, and my brother is moving away in a few days. me and my moms boyfriend don’t get on, he is a nasty man. he has swore at me before, pushed me around and generally makes me feel small and worthless. my mom takes his side.

im getting suicidal thoughts again, i don’t want to go on being this ugly fat and worthless…

1.Which of the following is not a common side effect of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD)?

a. facial deformity
b. motor skill deficiencies
c. language difficulties
d. increased memory

2.What is the umbrella term that describes the range of effects that can occur in an individual whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy?
a Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder
b. Fetal Disorder Umbrella
c Alcohol Umbrella Syndrome
d Fetal Alcohol Variety Disorder

3.All of the following are symptoms of alcoholism except for:
a. craving
b. physical dependence
c. tolerance (you have to drink more and more to get 揵uzzed.?
d. self-control

My son is only 5 months old and he has been living with me and my parents since his birth. i am 18 years old and a first time mom. I may be young, but i am doing my best at raising my child. I am a full time college student seeking my nursing degree and since i got pregnant i have changed my entire life. I got my G.E.D and started college as soon as i found out i was pregnant. i do have a past with drugs and alcohol in high school but that was before i had my son. My son’s father, however, has not changed his life. He still uses and abuses drugs and works part-time at walmart. He has agreed to his parent’s petition for them to become my son’s guardians. he agree’s he is unfit and states that i am too. his parents believe that i have anger issues and do not have a stable environment for my son. i was staying at my boyfriends house often and would sometimes spend the night at his home with my son. My boyfriend has 2 children of his own that he sees every weekend and my son would sleep in his daughters crib when his children were with their mother. That is the only thing that could be considered “unstable”. they are trying to say i cant financially take care of my son because i dont have a job. welllllll hello, im working on my degree so i can have a good paying STABLE job. They have lots of money and have even told me they are expecting me to agree with them because i cant afford a lawyer. i did retain a lawyer and have been reponding to their petition. i DO NOT agree that they are proper caregivers. i am his mother and my son belongs with me. they may have money, and a decent home but so do i. they live right down the street from me. My son is 5 months old and doesnt need to be in the custody of his grandparents when they raised a drug addict and the drug addict still lives with them!!! not to mention he went to rehab and has overdosed and was even flatlined because of his addiction. please give me some reassurance. I feel lost and dont understand why someone would try to take my son from me when i am not doing anything abusive or neglectful to my child. i love him with everything i have and i am trying to make a better life for both of us by getting an education. i understand that i made a mistake my having a child with a drug addict but this baby deserves the world and im trying to give him above and beyond. he is happy, healthy, and when im at school he is with my babysitter whom is a responsible friend or he stays with my mother. please help…….

1.Which of the following is not a common side effect of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD)?

a. facial deformity
b. motor skill deficiencies
c. language difficulties
d. increased memory

2.What is the umbrella term that describes the range of effects that can occur in an individual whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy?
a Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder
b. Fetal Disorder Umbrella
c Alcohol Umbrella Syndrome
d Fetal Alcohol Variety Disorder

3.All of the following are symptoms of alcoholism except for:
a. craving
b. physical dependence
c. tolerance (you have to drink more and more to get 揵uzzed.?
d. self-control

1.Which of the following is not a common side effect of Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD)?

a. facial deformity
b. motor skill deficiencies
c. language difficulties
d. increased memory

2.What is the umbrella term that describes the range of effects that can occur in an individual whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy?
a Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder
b. Fetal Disorder Umbrella
c Alcohol Umbrella Syndrome
d Fetal Alcohol Variety Disorder

3.All of the following are symptoms of alcoholism except for:
a. craving
b. physical dependence
c. tolerance (you have to drink more and more to get 揵uzzed.?
d. self-control

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
im in CT im not in the city its more of a smaller town
Well ive chosen not to talk to the school couselors since im almost graduated and wanted to just wait it out but its getting too much for me to take. I could stay with my Bf or close friend but i dont want to put a financial and emotional strain on them and their families. Ive always been taught to stay with the family and help the family but my ENTIRE family has screwed me over. I have absolutly no family other than my sister to take care of me and my sisters son is so close to me i couldnt take someone taking him away.

ok.
I need a Biblical perspective on this situation.
I have been married twice..the first one was sweet…but we had our issues including alcoholism and pornography and he was totally not motivated in life at ALL….
the second…he was just an abusive jerk!
So..here i am, it has been a year after the jerk and i split…devorce is final and here i am…just living life.
My grandpa dies and then i get a txt from my first ex. He isn’t trying to get all mushy or anything..so we end up txting… it is good i think…we can work out issues that we never could talk about before.
I am not saying i want to get back together with him or anything like that, but i am happy we are talking. My mother brought up a good point earlier in an IM conversation about how if one leaves the other the other is not to take them back..Does anyone have Biblical insight on this for me. I know someplace there is a verse like that, but i do not know it well enough to hunt it down. Also, do any of you have any advice. I know i should keep a record of the things that were wrong before, and i can see he has grown quite a lot since then…but any advice would help. I don’t want to hold a list of wrongs against him. Dont think that please.
please bear in mind this was years ago….that we split

So my mom is a very good woman, but unfortunatly hasn’t made the right decisions all the time. We around 3 years ago we bought a house, and we could afford it, but now that the economy is so bad it is like we are living out of our means, and my parents don’t want to lose the house, and I understand that the bills and mortgage are first prioraty.

My mom is VERY upset because she is not going to be able to affored to give us a good christmas this year. my little brother is 5 and my sister is 12. I am 18 now, so I DO NOT expect ANYTHING! My mom doesn’t understand this because she was still getting gifts at 18 with her parents. So she is really bent out of shape over this whole christmas thing, and she reallly wants me to have some stuff, as well as the other siblings. I keep telling her no but she gets so upset.

My mom does home day care because it is the best paying job that she can get at this point, and I think it is really really getting to her. I am so scared for her heath because she is on anti depressants and other types of medication, and she is taking over the recommended doses at times, she also has started to drink heavily after wook and on the weekends, because she says it takes her stress away, but honestly, I grew up with an alcholalic and drug addict father, he is clean now as far as drugs, but he still drinks everyday when he gets home from work. I don’t want my little brother and sister to have to go through the same thing .. my mom is not herself when she drinks ..

Can someone please help me? Give me some suggestions how to deal with the problems we are facing as a family. I go to counciling, and I think it would really help my mom, too. Even my dad if he would be willing to go. I really need some help because my mom says if things keep going the way they are going she is going to break down .. and I feel the same way. I cannot take this anymore and this is not a joke, or anything like that. It is true comming from the heart.

thanks ..
By the way, my mom is also very, very tired all the time. I know daycare is a hard job, but it seems like she is in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 everynight .. it is like she doesn’t have a life anymore. On the weekends she sleeps for sometimes the entire weekend.
Just wanted to let you guys all know that i’m reading every answer, all the advise is great and thank you so much for taking me seriously, and taking the time to read what I wrote.

So my mom is a very good woman, but unfortunatly hasn’t made the right decisions all the time. We around 3 years ago we bought a house, and we could afford it, but now that the economy is so bad it is like we are living out of our means, and my parents don’t want to lose the house, and I understand that the bills and mortgage are first prioraty.

My mom is VERY upset because she is not going to be able to affored to give us a good christmas this year. my little brother is 5 and my sister is 12. I am 18 now, so I DO NOT expect ANYTHING! My mom doesn’t understand this because she was still getting gifts at 18 with her parents. So she is really bent out of shape over this whole christmas thing, and she reallly wants me to have some stuff, as well as the other siblings. I keep telling her no but she gets so upset.

My mom does home day care because it is the best paying job that she can get at this point, and I think it is really really getting to her. I am so scared for her heath because she is on anti depressants and other types of medication, and she is taking over the recommended doses at times, she also has started to drink heavily after wook and on the weekends, because she says it takes her stress away, but honestly, I grew up with an alcholalic and drug addict father, he is clean now as far as drugs, but he still drinks everyday when he gets home from work. I don’t want my little brother and sister to have to go through the same thing .. my mom is not herself when she drinks ..

Can someone please help me? Give me some suggestions how to deal with the problems we are facing as a family. I go to counciling, and I think it would really help my mom, too. Even my dad if he would be willing to go. I really need some help because my mom says if things keep going the way they are going she is going to break down .. and I feel the same way. I cannot take this anymore and this is not a joke, or anything like that. It is true comming from the heart.

thanks ..
By the way, my mom is also very, very tired all the time. I know daycare is a hard job, but it seems like she is in bed by 7:30 or 8:00 everynight .. it is like she doesn’t have a life anymore. On the weekends she sleeps for sometimes the entire weekend.
Just wanted to let you guys all know that i’m reading every answer, all the advise is great and thank you so much for taking me seriously, and taking the time to read what I wrote.