
I am married to an addict. He is both an alcoholic and addicted to pills. He has not drank in almost 6 months. But I know he is still taking pills and the worst thing about it is, his mother is giving them to him. He of course denies it, but I know because I have confronted her previously about it and told her if she continued to give him pills that she would not be welcome to our home again and that she is killing her son and causing problems in our marriage. She said she would stop, but he continues to get them. Feel she is still doing it. She has been giving him pills and enabling him since he was a teenager. He is now 37. What do I do? I am trying and have been trying to make our marriage work, but the lies, deceit, and BS are just more than I can stand. All trust is gone. I have nobody to go to for support. He has told all of his family that all I do is nag and gripe, of course this may be partly true, but only when I know he is lying to me and hiding things. I am so tired of it all, and have been going through depression because of it. We have no sex life and I feel like I am fighting a losing battle. Any help or a friendly suggestion would be appreciated.
He has no insurance, and we have no money for rehab. His mother is on Parole and I have thought about making a call, but it isn’t illegal for her to have pills she has prescriptions for and I can’t prove she is giving them to him unless I get on video… don’t see that happening. I have considered the first two suggestions, and yes, I know there is basically one way or the other. Either he gets help or I go. I guess the investment of 8 years is hard to just walk away from. This is my second marriage and I think I am trying harder this time to make it work. I do love him, but it is really hard to keep loving a person I can’t trust. I don’t want to be a bitter old lonely woman. I am still young, but not getting younger… ya know. I am scared of taking the step to leave, but I may have to. I don’t want to be the cause of his mother going to jail, I don’t know what else to do.