We will help you get your mom off drugs!

He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

has destroyed everyone’s life stealing multiple items and money from my now dying mom, disabled brother, other brother, and apparently has broken into multiple houses to support his habit and it again homeless and jobless and was hanging around my mom’s house..broke into her house before Christmas last year and was fopund hiding and living in the attic and stole multiple expensive Christmas presents.

He has stolen from me a credit card and changed $1000 before discover, has my social security number or did as he stole my driver’s licence and in my lifetime 5 complete set of keys. He somehow gets in the houses and cars even if locks are changed. I have a shed at my mom’s and he broke dozens of locks anfd it appears he has stolen stuff but I am afraid to look due to him living in it and using the bathoom everywhere in his drugged up state..broke windows and dead squirrels may be in there and I am afraid of the virus they may carry so don’t even know what he took from there..(cont)
it was the gills and a mess and now appears
half full but he claims he threw everything in the back which may be..I can’t see as it is all stacked to the roof due to his moving everything around. Naturally I do not want him in there. He used to be obsessed with guns and made multiple threats to kill everyone in the family. Everyone is terrified of him (he is addicted to oxycontin & possible other drugs. ..his mother has disowned him due to threats by her husband (who isn’t his dad) to divorce her if she helps him in any way (she is wealthy) as the nephew has lid so many times, cheated her of money, she spent thousands trying to get him help..he lies and doesn’t go to treatment..he did just go and claimsd he is off and (as usual) notone will help him..gee I wonder why after he stole so much and lied so much and threatened to kill everyone violently). I doubt if he is off drugs like he claims as he lies all the time.

My mom is dying and has about a month to live of her
prognosis and can’t take his continual begging and stressing and all. Anyway, I went to fireworks with my brother and a picnic and apparently this nephew was in my car..I knew right away as brights were on, radio way up, back light on..my other brother said druggie was in the car as the alarm lights were flashing and a big stack of my papers from the car was on the bench where this kid (in his late 20′s) was sitting and going through..he claimed h was not in the car..I found a purse in the car missing and it was found in my mom’s back yard where this guy slept on the porch..so I know he took it (luckily I took my wallet and purse with me and the purse was empty)..I don’t see these papers my nephew had that my brother said he put in the car just for a couple..those have my address on it..he did not know where I lived but now does. He is skilled at stealing people’s identities as this is what he and an accomplish did when they broke in the housing..the jerk..I hate him. I am terrified
now feeling no safety..I just left my mom as I was preparing some food for tomorrow and it hit me on the way home, he has my address.

I am in my late 50′s and never had a computer until this year. I am disabled and have no way to replace the computer, and printer, vcrs, big stereo birthyday present and two TVs..it took my whole life to get this stuff. I now only have $100 for food and gas and clothers and misc after the bills so obviosly can’t replace stuff hre steals if he comes here and braks in..he knows my cr so can see if I am here or not..what can I do to protect my belongings? He got into my mom’s at christams with two sticks and a lock in the sliding door.

My chain lock was breoken by my apartment so it does not appear too study. I also have a slide lock and live on the first floor so he could break a window..* am worried he may have taken some preapproved credit card forms and might break in to get those activated and ruin my credit. I hate where I live and am locked in
in here for life almost in I don’t get out and I must have good credit to be approved for the subsidizedFFousing I have breen on the list for 16 months for and may get in in the next 2 years..if he ruins my credit then what..I cabn’t stand it here as so small. Please advise. I do not know if I have enough proof to get a restraining order which I was unable to get on shed as it is my mom’s property and she won’t file and now is too sick. I have no money for rehab..he lies and does not go..she is too ill to go get a restraining order and maybe afraid..brother who is guardian said not going cause he wasn’t the victim this time..he almost seems to enjoy freaking me out more..how can I protect my property

Ok, i just found a type of skin cancer on my nephew. for one, he has jet black hair and dark skin (mexican decent). he just turned 2 this past 3rd of September. i was in the middle of bathing him when i went to wash his hair i felt a little bump. first i thought it was dry skin from craddle cap, then i lifted up his hair and their it was. a pink little lump. oh my goodness. i couldn’t believe what i was seeing. get this right next to it another one seems to be growing. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING. what could have caused it. could it be from his mother who is a drug addict or her feeding him nothing but milk. poor baby he’s been through so much, now this. i plan on taking him to emergency in the morning. HIS MOTHER WON’T GIVE MY BROTHER MY NEPHEW’S INFO SO THAT WE CAN GET HIM MEDICAL INSURANCE, GEE HE JUST TURNED TWO AND HE NEEDS HIS IMMUNIZATION SHOTS, WHICH I DON’T BELIEVE SHE’S KEPT UPTO DATE ON THAT.
WHAT CAN I DO??
HOW CAN I GET FULL CUSTODY OF MY NEPHEW? AND GET HIM THE CARE HE NEEDS?

My nephew is a very intelligent young man. He gets all A’s in school and is very well mannered. His mother loves him very much and spoils him to death. She has him so spoiled that she still allows him to sleep in the bed with her. He is 16 and in the 10th grade. He also still drinks out of the same sippy cup that he had when he was 2 years old. I was shocked at this. He came to my house one day and when I offered him a soda, he pulled out the sippy cup and poured it in their to drink out of it.
I tried talking to his mother and letting her know that I don’t think that this behavior is normal. She got offended and felt that I was calling her a bad mother. I don’t think that she is a bad mother but I don’t think that a 16 year old should still be sleeping in his mother’s bed or drinking out of a sippy cup. What do you think? Advice please!

Their mom has 4 children, the 2 youngest being my brothers’ kids. The mom chose a party life and is now hard on drugs, and a party animal. She is definitely an unfit mother. My brother lives with us in our apartment, he got out of rehab last year for being addicted to pain killers. He still smokes pot. Me and my husband want to get full custody of the kids, but where do I even begin? Help!

This is going to be a long one guys, I apologize, but I really need some advice on this one, it’s complicated, but basically this mother is abusive towards her 7 year old son. Not in terms of physical, but more along the lines of verbal, emotional and psychological abuse daily. (which can be worse than physical) We (my husband and I) are in partnership with her sugar daddy, our financial lives r basically in his hands. Child Protective Services just called my phone (I was on the other line and did not pick up) the message that was left was for me to contact them so they can inquire about the little boys situation. (someone else called cps previously and they r doing a follow up call)The mother gave out only certain numbers the C.P.S. could call, so if I do say something, she will know it came from me (we have spoken about her drinking problem several times in the past, but of course she see’s no problem.) I know what I have to do. I must do what is right for the child. I am afraid of the repercussion’s in telling the truth. The mother and her sugar daddy have the power to ruin our lives financially, they could wipe us out. I know this sounds selfish, but I am scared. The situation needs to change for the little boys sake, but how do I do this without them knowing it was me? The rest of the family will do nothing but protect this drunk, vile, toxic woman. If she only gave out certain phone numbers, wouldn’t she know it was me who said something, since like I previously stated, the rest of the family will do nothing but protect her. I’ve made it perfectly clear to her how I feel and she knows I will do what I have to do to get the child away from her toxic ways…but again, her sugar daddy is financing our 8 month old company…we have NO savings…..what do I do?? Please do not think I am only thinking of ourselves, I love that child, but how will we live without income? Unemployment is not an option for us…My sincerest plea’s go out to you all. What would you do in our situation?

My sister is a single mother and her 15 year old son is addicted to drugs he doesn’t want to go to school and everytime he goes to school is to get in trouble (he is a trouble kid). I need help on where can she take him to help him out. Is there any kind of program u can reccomend me?

My mom is trying to get custody of her 10 month old niece and 7 year old nephew. They are the state’s property, even though my grandmother has custody of them. The kids’ mother got her kids taken away for doing drugs. They sent her to rehab, and 2 months later got on cocaine again. They are sending her back to rehab. What are the chances of my mom getting these two kids? Her lawyer has issued a home study, but I’m not sure when the home study will take place. Problem is the kids’ lawyer doesn’t want them leaving the state, and we live in a different state. But according to law, family gets rights first, before the kids go to foster parents. My grandmother is getting too old to take care of a growing baby and is soon needing to give up these kids. What are the chances of my mom getting these kids if we pass the home study? We have already been to court for these kids once and lost because of the lawyers not wanting the kids out of state. What are my moms chances of getting the kids?
Yes my grandmother lives in the same state as the children. And also, the kids’ mother didn’t show up for visitation for the past 2 scheduled dates. And Yes my mom has a lawyer.

ruining all our lives..he’s addited to oxycontin and other drugs. He lies constantly, bilks relatives from money, stole Christmas presents Christmas eve, was discovered sleeping in my mother’s attic where he had gotten through two sticks and a chain on the patio door, broken in apartments, refuses rehab, broken his mother’s heart, loses jobs, apartments, cars, a wife, and much more. He steals repeatedly from relatives and breaks in our sheds and my mom’s house often. Made many death threats..people are scared to turn him in as he may retaliate or he may just be using controlling behavior. he gets away with murder.

Do they know they are ruining their lives and many others? Do they care? Is only thre drug important? What makes them quit? Need more insight..
how can you make them want rehab…I feel prison might get him off drugs..his mom pays and gets him in programs and he doesn’t show up, lies and says he went and then they find out he didn’t etc.

That’s the problem…we all decided not to give him money etc but his grandma (and sometimes) brother get the most begging and sometimes break down and help him…they are hounded and the “strong ones” generally are not approaced..his mom also breaks down sometimes and helps him behind her husband’s back who has thrreatened divorce if she helps him but she feels sorry for him when he is freezing and homeless…he also threathens his grandma a lot and she has helped him most (except maybe his mom)…he has ruined her life and she is dying and he is so stressing her out and hastening her death that is no more than 6 months away according to the doctor. We do need to be united but then he breaks in if we don’t help..somehow he cons his way in..a master manipulator and liar and stupid grandma
keeps buying his bull crp stories.
Abhishek Joshi –you offered some real insight into things. It’s true..I think this is a kid (well he’s 28 now but a kid to me still) who is full of anger. His dad was a jerk–never there…abandoned him..bought him drugs they took together when a teen, broke promises he’s visit all the time. This was a kid noone liked banging doors and cussing everyone out when only 2 years old..how we disliked him and talked about how rotten he was as he was..stole five sets of keys from me and apparently threw them in the gully and slashed my tires as a kid cause I wouldn’t let my son (who he liked) stay all night a few times so I’d bre forced to stay..breaking in houses as a teen and just a troublemaker. Spoiled like crazy by a mom who felt sorry for him that noone liked him with no parental insight and very permissive, buying him things like chinese stars, bb guns, minicars, bow and arrows (which he proudly and loudly announced much to my emabarrassment at the museam I took him to when
looking at stuffed birds that he loved shooting them between the eyes ith slingshots and such at about 5 years old..bought him things like garbage pail kids sticker and all these things at the inappropriate ages of 2-7 and saying to me don’t buy hiom toys for Christmas he doesn’t like them…sorry he got toys from me..what am I gonna buy him…weapons? She bought this bratty. ungrateful kid who cussed out teachers and threw chairs at them $300 shoes and jackets. he was very dependent on his mom and adept at xontrolling her….until she remarried at his age 18 where they essentially threw him aside for their own lives and the two males hated each other…Steve (the kid) blaming Mick (the new husband) for taking away his mom who he had frustrated but wrapped around his finger..Mick was also controlling with Sue (the mom) fake names in the middle torn between husband and son..the husband mostly won and it was then I felt sorry for the kid throw away in my opinion the son who had been
all becoming nothing although she still helps him sometimes behind husband’s back)…I think as you said the kid is full of anger..the family is disfunctional and people have been judging him from birth he feels unloved and is gonna make everyone pay even if it destroys him in the process. He was obsessed with guns and is an angry kid..angry at the world and his family and life..he sees himself homeless, suffering, losing jobs and possessions and wife and family and homes and blames everyone and the drug is his relief from the anger and pain and makes him happy and forget. It is a sad situation but whast you said helped me have more compassion for him.

threatens her life, breaks in her house….she is afraid of threats and that if he loses his trucker’s license, he will always hang around..at least this ways they get a two or three month break from this stress till he loses his job. He keeps hanging around. They (my brother) called police where they found out he was in attic and broke in house without their knowledge and stole Christmas presents and other items. How can we get her to quit enabling him as she falls for his lies and sob stories..He on crushed and snorted oxycontin and maybe other drugs. he ignored attempts at rehab..after calling police and saying pressing charges..she gave him a blanket Chrsitmas eve and let him sleep on back patio.
well, we tried..we had a meeting once and all agreed not to give him money, items or food and help him reach bottom quicker and seek help as when his mom pays for rehab and he agrees to go, he doesn’t or he lies and says he went but he renigs on it. I think the death threats by gun and instability and his impulsiveness and blaming everyone else fo his problems stiffle stciking with calling police..plus he is hard to catch..the fear he is controlling us with is a factor and permissivemess and difficulty with saying no to his pleas and not feeling sorry for him mess things up..the ones firm in not helping him or not afraid of him, he leaves alone. what can we do?
that should be grandson not nephew
good suggestion, free to chat, but I don’t think they will call police due to how they are…siometimes but not consistency and that can mnullify the order.
thank you, little peewee for your compassionate answer and offers to help…it is making it hard on my mom..but it is up to the males in the family who are braver and younger to intervene. I am a 57 year old disabled woman. I do give suggestions but they are often ignored. It is very frustrating. He makes me so angry adding to my mom’s intense suffering as she is in real pain.