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My mother in law explains that once in awhile i should buy my children Mcdonalds, Or some other Fast food joint. I limit the amount of soda & juice,and potato chips in my house. I want my children to be healthy. She said let them be kids, eat junk all day. However, my husband agrees with me, who do you agree with?

For lunch they eat sandwiches with an apple on the side and milk for a drink.

Am i doing anything wrong?

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
im in CT im not in the city its more of a smaller town
Well ive chosen not to talk to the school couselors since im almost graduated and wanted to just wait it out but its getting too much for me to take. I could stay with my Bf or close friend but i dont want to put a financial and emotional strain on them and their families. Ive always been taught to stay with the family and help the family but my ENTIRE family has screwed me over. I have absolutly no family other than my sister to take care of me and my sisters son is so close to me i couldnt take someone taking him away.

What is the chance I’ll need a pacemaker someday—

I’m 24–5’8–140 lbs–eat very healthy, no sweets, limit of salt–whole wheat foods–started exercising 4 times a week. The only bad thing is I drink 1-2 times a week (on weekends)–and I smoke cigerettes while drinking which is on weekends–I’ve been trying to quit the binge drinking b/c I have aniexty (hence the question I’m asking) and the alcohol increases it. I don’t smoke unless i”m drunk but it’s still bad.

Okay–my blood pressure is always low (well it’s normal for me b/c it’s always in same range, but for others it may be considered low)–and I can’t remember the numbers–my mom said it’s b/c I’m a relaxed person and don’t carry a lot of stress…anyways my pulse is usually mid 70′s (b/c I’m a hypocondriac I check it frequently).

My question is what’s the chance of me needing a pacemaker someday? See, my maternal grandfather died of heart problems (he had two bypass surgeries–in his 60′s–but that was in the 80′s and my mom said things have greatly changed)…and my maternal grandmother has a pacemaker..so both of my mom’s parents have heart related problems….my dad’s parents do not have heart problems…

Do you think that my low bp and my low pulse is an indicator that I will need a pacemaker someday?

Is there a way I can increase my blood pressure?

My number 1 fear is dying of a heart problem b/c it can happen in a blink of an eye and I won’t be able to say good-bye to anyone.

Sorry if I’m rambling….I know this is a silly question but it’s always on my mind…I’ve been to the ER so many times that the next time I go they will make me stay overnight and I don’t want to take any aniexty medicine b/c I don’t like medicine in my body.

:-/
I think I’m worried that b/c I have low heartbeats and my bp is low that my heart isn’t pumping enough and it will just stop one day…it’s horrible.

What is the chance I’ll need a pacemaker someday—

I’m 24–5’8–140 lbs–eat very healthy, no sweets, limit of salt–whole wheat foods–started exercising 4 times a week. The only bad thing is I drink 1-2 times a week (on weekends)–and I smoke cigerettes while drinking which is on weekends–I’ve been trying to quit the binge drinking b/c I have aniexty (hence the question I’m asking) and the alcohol increases it. I don’t smoke unless i”m drunk but it’s still bad.

Okay–my blood pressure is always low (well it’s normal for me b/c it’s always in same range, but for others it may be considered low)–and I can’t remember the numbers–my mom said it’s b/c I’m a relaxed person and don’t carry a lot of stress…anyways my pulse is usually mid 70′s (b/c I’m a hypocondriac I check it frequently).

My question is what’s the chance of me needing a pacemaker someday? See, my maternal grandfather died of heart problems (he had two bypass surgeries–in his 60′s–but that was in the 80′s and my mom said things have greatly changed)…and my maternal grandmother has a pacemaker..so both of my mom’s parents have heart related problems….my dad’s parents do not have heart problems…

Do you think that my low bp and my low pulse is an indicator that I will need a pacemaker someday?

Is there a way I can increase my blood pressure?

My number 1 fear is dying of a heart problem b/c it can happen in a blink of an eye and I won’t be able to say good-bye to anyone.

Sorry if I’m rambling….I know this is a silly question but it’s always on my mind…I’ve been to the ER so many times that the next time I go they will make me stay overnight and I don’t want to take any aniexty medicine b/c I don’t like medicine in my body.

:-/
I think I’m worried that b/c I have low heartbeats and my bp is low that my heart isn’t pumping enough and it will just stop one day…it’s horrible.

What is the chance I’ll need a pacemaker someday—

I’m 24–5’8–140 lbs–eat very healthy, no sweets, limit of salt–whole wheat foods–started exercising 4 times a week. The only bad thing is I drink 1-2 times a week (on weekends)–and I smoke cigerettes while drinking which is on weekends–I’ve been trying to quit the binge drinking b/c I have aniexty (hence the question I’m asking) and the alcohol increases it. I don’t smoke unless i”m drunk but it’s still bad.

Okay–my blood pressure is always low (well it’s normal for me b/c it’s always in same range, but for others it may be considered low)–and I can’t remember the numbers–my mom said it’s b/c I’m a relaxed person and don’t carry a lot of stress…anyways my pulse is usually mid 70′s (b/c I’m a hypocondriac I check it frequently).

My question is what’s the chance of me needing a pacemaker someday? See, my maternal grandfather died of heart problems (he had two bypass surgeries–in his 60′s–but that was in the 80′s and my mom said things have greatly changed)…and my maternal grandmother has a pacemaker..so both of my mom’s parents have heart related problems….my dad’s parents do not have heart problems…

Do you think that my low bp and my low pulse is an indicator that I will need a pacemaker someday?

Is there a way I can increase my blood pressure?

My number 1 fear is dying of a heart problem b/c it can happen in a blink of an eye and I won’t be able to say good-bye to anyone.

Sorry if I’m rambling….I know this is a silly question but it’s always on my mind…I’ve been to the ER so many times that the next time I go they will make me stay overnight and I don’t want to take any aniexty medicine b/c I don’t like medicine in my body.

:-/
I think I’m worried that b/c I have low heartbeats and my bp is low that my heart isn’t pumping enough and it will just stop one day…it’s horrible.

To cut a very long story short, my ex and I split up over 6 years ago. We have two children, a son 10 and a daughter 8. He does NOT have parental responsibility. Our daughter has global learning delay so therefore disaled and in a special needs school. Our son has had severe behavioural problems and has just been suspended from school for 3 days. My current partner and i are trying extremely hard to get him assessed for high functioning autism.

During the 6 years his contact has been very irregular. Minimal phone calls etc. At one point i decided this was doing them no good and stopped contact. He then involved solicitors asking for contact – he wanted 1 day a month. I refused and said it shuld be one weekend a month minimum. ANyway he eventually agreed and stuck to it for a while.

For the past year or more it has become less regular and phone calls almost non existant. Then his father died a year ago. Very upsetting for everyone, and although i took our son to the funeral, Im not sure he was old enough to completely understand or even emotonally capable – ie autism. He did say that although he was sad, he didnt actually get on that well with his paternal grandfather as he always shouted at him etc and would have been sadder if it had been my dad. I told him feelings liek this were normal, but best to keep them to himself infront of his dad and p grandmother as they were obviously very upset.

Forward over 6mths – end of last year – my son comes home from his fathers in tears saying his grandmother had verbally abused me, telling him what a bad person i was for ending the relationship (6 years previously due to his alcoholism and our physcal fights). I wasnt too concerned with this – am used to it, but she shoutedd at my son that he didnt care when his grandfather died etc etc. I think this was an dispicable thing to say to a 10yr old – she still hasnt apologised to him.

Then this xmas boxing day, my children went to their fathers (his lives with his mother still) and while they were there they witness him and his current GF fighting. She slapped and scratched him so deeply there was ‘blood everywhere’ he then had her on the floor and was dragging her by the leg out the house. According to my son there was lots of shouting and it was all because the GF disagreed with my ex’s drinking while the children were in his care and the fact he was hiding/lying about it. I only have my sons word on this but my dad also collected the children from their dad and confirmed he had scratches down his face. Hearing this from my kids absolutely filled me with horror!! It is like history repeating itself, this is the reason i left him in the 1st place as it wasnt the right environment for my kids!! Cant say i condone the actions of his GF but i totally understand her frustration.

After i got over my shock, I decided that contact with him wasnt healthy for the kids and i wouldnt allow him to see them for now. I havent stopped calls, but he has a bad habit of completely forgetting or calling during the day while im home alone – i dont answer because it never stays as a convo about the kids, he either creates an argument or gets personal.

Now im in a it of a dilemma, my son misses his dad and asks to see him (mostly when he’s in trouble). There were more than a handful of occassions last year when he decided he’d rather not see his dad on the agreed time, and i enouraged but never forced him. He often didnt go. When this happened, my ex would also cancel our daughters visit. He rarely speaks to her on the phone and is constantly complaining about her – well she has special needs duh!!! She absolutely adores her dad, but then she does anyone who gives her a little attention. She has on mmore than one occassion in the last couple of weeks said ‘ GF hit daddy and daddy hit GF’. She doesnt understand and i’m obv concrned she was even exposed to this – she has a mental age of approx 4.
My son has also had a lot of behavioural problems and we have seen many different people to try and deal with it. Nothing has worked and now he seems to be getting worse. He was suspended from school on friday until thurs for swearing, spitting, lashing out and flatly refusing to do any work. Its the 1st time suspended, but not for this behavour.

My question is where do i stand. My daughter loves her dad, my son does when he feels he has something to gain from him, but with both their medical, mental and behavioural issues i truely dont think them seeing him is benefitting them in any way. In fact im concerned seeing what he has, this may be partly to blme for my sons behaviour. I wan tthe best for them and i think this is to cut contact with the ex and family. I would rather they saw the GF than him, at least she has the same ideas re drinking while they are in his care – not the violence though.
Just to add, I’m now with a new partner (over 5yrs) we have a son and another on the way. My partner is the sole provider for our family and i am a stay at home mum due to childcare cost and needing to be around for my daughters appointments with varous proffesionals – needless to say the many meetings with the school re my sons behaviour. We manage but are ona very tight budget and would really struggle to afford legal/court costs. I dont believe we are entitled to legal aid

I apologise for my speling and grammer – it is very heard to type quickly everythign that i needed to say on a laptop with sticky keys!

I wuld also like to say that no, Iam not innocent of any wrong doing, I may be a nag, and anythign else you wish to accuse me of, but I dont use violence, drink or drugs, certainly not infront of my children who have issues anyway.

I would also like to say that, yes, possibly i did drive him to drink, but as he was on drugs before i met him and in our early relationship, maybe it wasnt just me and he has an addictive personality.

I met him when i was 16 and tried to keep the relationship going for 7 years. Not once have i denied him contact once we separated unless i thought it was detrimental to my childrens well being, infact i have constantly encouraged him to see them more regularly as I didnt feel he was able to forge a good relationship with them by seeing them only once a month.

I sure you, Christopher, have had a bad experience, and giv
His drinking isnt a couple of cans, but as many as he can to get blotto – HE IS AN ALCOHOLIC!!!!

There is no court order.

I’d rather not check out Fathers For Justice –
I’m more in favour of Justice For Children!!!

What is the chance I’ll need a pacemaker someday—

I’m 24–5’8–140 lbs–eat very healthy, no sweets, limit of salt–whole wheat foods–started exercising 4 times a week. The only bad thing is I drink 1-2 times a week (on weekends)–and I smoke cigerettes while drinking which is on weekends–I’ve been trying to quit the binge drinking b/c I have aniexty (hence the question I’m asking) and the alcohol increases it. I don’t smoke unless i”m drunk but it’s still bad.

Okay–my blood pressure is always low (well it’s normal for me b/c it’s always in same range, but for others it may be considered low)–and I can’t remember the numbers–my mom said it’s b/c I’m a relaxed person and don’t carry a lot of stress…anyways my pulse is usually mid 70′s (b/c I’m a hypocondriac I check it frequently).

My question is what’s the chance of me needing a pacemaker someday? See, my maternal grandfather died of heart problems (he had two bypass surgeries–in his 60′s–but that was in the 80′s and my mom said things have greatly changed)…and my maternal grandmother has a pacemaker..so both of my mom’s parents have heart related problems….my dad’s parents do not have heart problems…

Do you think that my low bp and my low pulse is an indicator that I will need a pacemaker someday?

Is there a way I can increase my blood pressure?

My number 1 fear is dying of a heart problem b/c it can happen in a blink of an eye and I won’t be able to say good-bye to anyone.

Sorry if I’m rambling….I know this is a silly question but it’s always on my mind…I’ve been to the ER so many times that the next time I go they will make me stay overnight and I don’t want to take any aniexty medicine b/c I don’t like medicine in my body.

:-/
I think I’m worried that b/c I have low heartbeats and my bp is low that my heart isn’t pumping enough and it will just stop one day…it’s horrible.

What is the chance I’ll need a pacemaker someday—

I’m 24–5’8–140 lbs–eat very healthy, no sweets, limit of salt–whole wheat foods–started exercising 4 times a week. The only bad thing is I drink 1-2 times a week (on weekends)–and I smoke cigerettes while drinking which is on weekends–I’ve been trying to quit the binge drinking b/c I have aniexty (hence the question I’m asking) and the alcohol increases it. I don’t smoke unless i”m drunk but it’s still bad.

Okay–my blood pressure is always low (well it’s normal for me b/c it’s always in same range, but for others it may be considered low)–and I can’t remember the numbers–my mom said it’s b/c I’m a relaxed person and don’t carry a lot of stress…anyways my pulse is usually mid 70′s (b/c I’m a hypocondriac I check it frequently).

My question is what’s the chance of me needing a pacemaker someday? See, my maternal grandfather died of heart problems (he had two bypass surgeries–in his 60′s–but that was in the 80′s and my mom said things have greatly changed)…and my maternal grandmother has a pacemaker..so both of my mom’s parents have heart related problems….my dad’s parents do not have heart problems…

Do you think that my low bp and my low pulse is an indicator that I will need a pacemaker someday?

Is there a way I can increase my blood pressure?

My number 1 fear is dying of a heart problem b/c it can happen in a blink of an eye and I won’t be able to say good-bye to anyone.

Sorry if I’m rambling….I know this is a silly question but it’s always on my mind…I’ve been to the ER so many times that the next time I go they will make me stay overnight and I don’t want to take any aniexty medicine b/c I don’t like medicine in my body.

:-/
I think I’m worried that b/c I have low heartbeats and my bp is low that my heart isn’t pumping enough and it will just stop one day…it’s horrible.

Ever since my father was 7 years old he has been drinking. His Grandfather started out giving him Southern Comfort everyday. My dad and mom divorced when I was little, my sister and I use to run and hide (he wasnt abusive though). We didn’t want anyone to see our tears. We were taught to be strong and independent. After the divorce was final, my mom gained custody. My dad would see us on the weekends and take us to his house occasionally to spend the night. Every time we did though, he was binge drinking. the years passed and my mother got sick. She got put on disability and lost her drivers lisense, because a drunk driver hit us. Eventually, we were living in my mothers car and she would drive without her lisense. We stayed at motels barely paying the money. And now we all live together. My mom and dad are friends and my dad pays the rent. But he drinks everynight and screams. I get all A’s in school and when i bring home a bad grade he calles me dumbass. Please help me.

HI im a 22 year old woman…my problem started abt 5 years ago…i started fad dieting..n lost a lot of weight…n then some doctors thought it was anorexia..some d
id not (iv bin to a lot of doctors)…after abt a year later…i started having anxiety attacks n a lot of depression…n a lot of binge eating…a doctor has put me on a tablet called clonil..for OCD…i took it for a year..the binge eating stopped…i went to another doctor n she asked me stop taking clonil…n immediately..the binge eating has started…n besides that…i have a lot of anxiety…depression…BAD mood swings..i become so impulsive all of a sudden…n i throw things at my mom n dad..i cant control myself..i even go 2 the extent of hitting them…i also cut myself using razor blades when im really frustrated…n when im depressed i cant even get out of bed..cant go to school…i hardly get out of the house…i feel im destroying my family coz all this is having an effect on them n my life is being destroyed too…im so totally lost..some doctors say i have Bipolar Disorder…do i??what disorder do i have??im so confused…i feel suicidal all the time…will i get better??is there help??

Me, my husband, and my 15 month old son are currently living with my husbands mother. she has been stealing from us, going through our belongings and my mail. She full on screaming fights with us about not paying rent when neither me or my husband have been able to find a job and we have only lived here for one month. I do get welfare but what I was getting last month was just barely enough for me and my son to survive. She doesnt provide anything. There is no food in the house for days-weeks at a time. I am 11 weeks pregnant and not getting nearly enough to eat. I really dont want my son around all this fighting and her alcoholism. We really need to get out of here. the situation is getting worse every day and we have no where to go. We have no money to get a $900 apartment. I dont know what options we have either. What can we do?
My husband has applied at over 42 places and no one has called him back. I have tried applying for jobs but they turn me down cause Im pregnant. We cant get food stamps until we live on our own.

I love my fiance and we are getting married in August. We are in a pretty crappy family situation right now. The background is that my fiance’s paretns are divorced–and very bitterly. They live on opposite sides of the world and hate each other. His father is remarried and refuses contact with my fiance becuase my fiance speaks to his mother. His teenage brothers are drug addicts, and very mean to us. So basically its nuts and his mother is the only semi-reasonable family he has.

BUT SHE IS DRIVING ME NUTS! she is really sweet and loving, and I enjoy her company, but she can also be controllling. She calls him like 5 times a day, and texts frequently. She lives in CA and we live in NY, and she comes almost once a month for a week and expects that we spend most our time with her. She is always trying to be in his business with his job as well. I ma dreading how she will be when we have children. She wants us to move near her, but with this kind of contact while were apart…i would lose it.

He has said that he wants to set boundries with her, but we don’t know how. she seems to feel like no topic is off limits. Id liek to ehar how other people deal with their in laws, what is normal? How much contact etc? Please help me.

my bestfriends mom said she would because she doesnt think my moms a good mother
my mom has been married 4 time, she just got a divorse this summer, not has a new boyfriend we have to live with,
earlier this year she was NVR home
she relapsed for alcoholism this year
she doesnt like to take her bi polar medicine
she allllwwwaaayyysss ignores me now that she has a new boyfriend
and i am just allways sad:/ like she makes me feel horrible

how would i go about doing this, i know my mom would not want someone to adopt me, but my friends mom is willing,
my aunt also doesnt think my mom is putting me in a good envirorment
would i need my moms consent to get adopted?
pls help me

how do i even do this, where do i go to start this adoption
shes also has hit me

okay. i’m 5’2 and 130 pounds. i’ve been trying for the past 2 months to lose weight. i run a mile on the treadmill every night. drink 4 bottles of water a day. and take in about 600 calories a day. HOWEVER, my sister who used to be the prettiest girl is school has now ballooned to 200 pounds. She and my mom who is also 200 pounds have been trying to lose weight for like 6 or 7 months. I’ve never had a good relationship with either of them and they pick on me so whenever they are around i pig out in front of them to drive them crazy. i will just go crazy and binge eat and they get so annoyed. i usually try and burn off all he calories from the binge but i’m usually left with 200 or so after wards.

my question is do you think the binges are contributing to my unsucessfulness to losing weight. i’ve only lost 3 pounds and i’m working really hard.

PLEASE please read it all, i need advice so that i do this right. and so you understand.

so throughout my life very bad things have happened to me. So many memories of being abused and neglected by my mother.
getting a second degree burn on my arm and her telling me to put water on it and leave her be. Memories of being left alone in the foster care system after countless promises of her to get clean and get a job.
The day in the court room when my father was sent to prison for using and dealing drugs.
The foster homes that i was just beginning to love before i had to go and find a new one.
When i moved into my aunts house and her son verbally bullied me and made me cry. her doing nothing to stop it.
The teachers eyes when i had to share something about my family life in class.
The day that my aunt promised to give me back to my dad, but when she stood in the court she agreed to become my legal guardian.
The nights i spent alone in our house in Temecula, mary having to work two jobs.
Me eventually finding a new home where the people accepted me and loved me, like an adopted family in replacement for my lonely one back home. but no, the rent went up again, and we couldn’t find a new house in time before we starved.
so we moved 140 miles away from L.A. where my original family lives (just when we are starting to heal the wounds too) to the desert of 29 palms -a military town-.
when i moved here i fell into a deep depression after having to leave the only family that seemed to love me unconditionally (temecula).
but after about a year out here i decided i didn’t want to be unhappy anymore, so i stopped crying at night and tried to block it out, or bury it deep inside myself so that nobody could see.
and my emotions never got out of hand again. my friends all teased me about how i didn’t really ever get mad anymore or even get angry at the people who wronged me. it was all there still though, all the anger and loneliness and depression. it was like a well full of gasoline. deep underground. but whenever a spark of anger or sadness comes along the whole thing blows up.
and i find myself crying over things that i thought i had gotten over long ago. but the sparks just keep coming with this b .i.t.c. h.
Mary makes it a game to mess with my nerves and tries to break my calm attitude. she chews me out on a daily basis. she yells and bites and cuts me deep with her words.
and i already knew long ago that she didn’t really care for me or even love me. but every time my well blows up and it breaks me as a person to relive it all over again.
and i can’t just move out because my dad is still an ex con and my mom a drug addict. so my only solution to escape this (because i know i’ve tried to explain it to her-plenty) is to run away.

I won’t go into counseling because after my depression before they tried to send me, and it just didn’t work out. I won’t call child protective services and find another home that i will eventually have to leave.
Mary gives all to her son and none to me. and since everything in my room belongs to me(because i bought it myself, with babysitting money) i won’t feel any guilt about taking more than what i came to her with.
I live in the desert like i said, i can’t just walk to another town and live under a bridge.
I thought that maybe i could explain this to one of my closest friends (with a car) and they could take me to the train station with my fake I.D. (I do look over 18 btw) and i could travel a bit like i did with my mom when i was little. do all of this until they stopped looking for me,
then send some letters to my mom and dad telling them i’m ok. and that i will see them when i really do turn 18. i just want to get away from her, and she seems to have trapped me in every possible way.
sorry for the long message but i really need help. I’m 16 and have been wanting to run away from her since i was eight. i have seven thousand dollars saved in the bank account that my sister set up for me and i recently withdrew it all in cash (over time).
just a bit to make you understand that this is my only solution before you answer my question. so please some tips? advice for people on the run? i would really appreciate it.

So I have just recently came to the conclusion that I have anorexia and binge eating disorder. I starve myself during the day and tell myself that I am going to get realyl skinny and that motivates me. During the day I eat about 100-280 calories. Then I go to gymnastics and vigorously work out for four hours which is hard wehnyou dont have a lot of energy. Then I go home adn have a healthy dinner but then after I am still so hungry that I say screw it adn binge. I eat everything all junkfood, candy and its so good. But then I feel so sick after and regret it. I don’t know what to do this is seriously like an addiction and I don’t know how to stop it. I cant find a medium with eating like I feel like if I eat something (thats not in my starving day patterns) then I might as well jsut binge because I already ate. I’ve talked to a few friends but I only tell one of my freidns everything about it. I will not tell my parents and I have a nutritionist but I lied ot her which I know wasn’t right but she wants me to eat too much during the day. I really lied to her because my mo has to come with me and I can’ t tell her the truth in front of my mom. Does anyone have any tips for me, I really need help because I can’t keep getting sick every night. Thank you.

I was just wonderin Im in my first trimester and a friend told me not to really drink to much citrus b/c when pregnant I guess your not suppose to so is there any foods or drinks that you may have had a bad experience with during pregnancy that you can let me know about or of? Thank you and serious answer and not like acohol cause I know that!

I posted a question on here last week about my mom being an alcoholic & mothers day coming up. I wanted to know how to let her go, I was feeling sooo strongly about going to her one last time to try to “make up” with her again on mother’s day. I shut her out of our lives 2 yrs ago after I couldn’t take anymore abuse from her alcoholism. Now, I know why I was feeling sooo strongly about it. I am sooo sad, just wanted a mom, and now, I NEVER will, and I didn’t get to try one last time & say goodby! Has anyone gone through this? How did you overcome the quilty feelings of “I should’ve”? These feelings are going to eat me alive, unless I figure out how to deal with them! :( I’m sooo sad!

my mom is in home care hospice ta home with me thee are nurses here 24-7 she may go at any time now – my question is this -

should i stay in the same building and get a 1 bd room when she does pass — this is a not very nice section 8 building in a downtown area – it would be hard to budget it out every month but it could be done – i am on disability for severe migraines and only get 600 a month rent would be 150 or a tiny bit less -

i have a sister and father who also live in the same building
they are both very screwed up he is 78 is a manic depressive that doesnt take any meds for it and is also a compulsive gambler she is 47 and is a very bad drug addict that uses about 100 dollars worth of drugs every day with her one friend that buys it all

i have no real great prospects here but at least i would have my own place and not be at any ones mercy and under their rules and their roof i am 32 and single no children never married

the other choice is to go and live with
my mosm friend who sounds like a control freak and is very tight she wants me to help take care of her grand daughter and then ride a bike every where is very wealthy but doesnt want to help me get a cheap used car or anything at all and i mean anything at all .. she sounds like a night mare should i go live with her in order to get out of here downtown – or just stay put ? she lives 2 hours away and if i go and stay with her i probably would just be stuck there – i am afraid of that very much so -
i am afraid of being at her mercy please help me and thank you
thank you all so much i really value your input – it has helped me to clear my thoughts and to think more clearly

i think i will stay here and get a smaller apt in the same building i am now in

Take a look at:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnMlbZzjvt6eMnXbEauEcqHsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100227051415AAx6BAx

That’s my basic plot.

My Characters:
Chris – a severely dyslexic teenage boy, who suffers from huge mood swings. He blames his behaviour problems on the accident, and since then has become very protective of his brother, as he knows he is a target for casual cruelty. He is attracted to means of escape, which is why Landon’s offer seems like a beacon of hope to him; however he becomes trapped amidst the gang war and finds himself doing terrible things that he never thought he could ever do.

Landon (gang leader) – an incredibly manipulative teenage boy, who has always been given whatever he wants. He had a harsh childhood, and frequently witnessed his mother being beaten and raped by his stepfather. Since then, he has become very bitter, however he is very careful to hide it. He appears cool and calm on the surface; however he has surprising anger outbursts. Landon is an incredibly secretive and a dark character; he enjoys the thrill and fear that accompanies his name – that’s all he lives for.

David – left mentally retarded after an accident. He constantly strives to be like his brother, and doing so gets him beaten up by bullies. He is very easily manipulated and simplistic: he leans further and further towards Landon’s gang as Chris’s aggressive behaviour gets worse.

Evie – a very naive girl of about thirteen/fourteen, who has recently been introduced to drugs. She is very immature and vain, and is HIV positive and pregnant with Landon’s baby, however she has just given him HIV, which is why she is stabbed for revenge. She tries very hard to be different, however becomes just like many other girls in her situation, and is suffering from intense loneliness.

Ryan – Chris’s best friend, who is neglected as Chris delves deeper into the gang culture. He can be very cruel, however he is not the sort of person to do terrible things; he enjoys casual name-calling, but does not do it for any personal gain. Chris’s desertion, however, causes him to become very malicious; he is the one who suggests hurting Landon’s sister.

Martine (David and Chris’s mother) – a recovering alcoholic, who prides herself in being quite eccentric but can be very childish at times. She seeks faults in others constantly, though it is not something she intends to do. David’s accident brought her out of her alcoholism; however she has dark days frequently and is often desperately lonely and isolated. She now helps out at the Alcoholic centre.

Erin – a desperately unhappy teenager (about seventeen) who is Landon’s current girlfriend. She feels incredibly isolated – she cannot break up with him, because she knows how erratic his mood is, however if she stays with him long enough to tire of her, she doesn’t know what he’ll do.

****If you’ve read all that, thank you so much. Should I write in first or third person?