We will help you get your mom off drugs!

He lost his cusines to foster care , his drug addict mom came back into his life and then in feburary of 07 his dad (who is biologicaly his grandfather) died. I know he is not a bad kid. The life he has had would be hard for an adult to cope with . he is doing what he feels he has to to survive. I need to know how to help him .there is alot more to his story i could right a novel . but any suggestions would help and please dont condem him . thats part of the reason he is where he is now .
he was not born to be bad
my parents adopted him from my sister they have had him since birth his real dad wants nothing to do with him

If you have been thorough this but never got help:

12- parents divorced
14- first love killed himself
15-grandfather died of skin cancer
15-step-dad committed suicide
17-close friend dies in drunk driving accident
19- very close friend dies on xmas eve from someone runnin redlight
17-23 was verbally/physically abused by b/f
Brother is a drug addict
Mom has horrible anxiety and work-a-holic

I am sad alll the time. I just want to be able to smile. I wonder why I am so sad, and think maybe I should face all these things? i am almost 25.
I think I am bi-polar. Should I of gotten help a long time ago? Or does everyone go through this and i am just complaining?

Let’s start with I live in a crappy row house that always gets water bugs & stuff always dirty (im the only one that cleans) Its packed with my grandparents,aunt,aunts bf,baby on the way,cousin,2 dogs,bird,& 2 friends of my grandparents that use our house as a flop house & me (3 bedroom house 1 bathroom). Im so tired of living in a crappy place but i dont have much choices. i get screwed from all angles because everywhere i pick im hurting myself or someone else. im not supposed to move till highschool but i cant wait any longer. my other choices are my overprotective aunt & uncle,drug addict mom & old woman grandmom (no offence to either),or where i am now. im always getting yelled at & told wat to do & my dreams are being crushed by the choices of my family. how do i bring it up that i want to leave without hurting anyone,where should i go & to make it better technically i dont belong to anyone considering half custody is nothing when my moms out of jail. please help?!!

I grew up in an odd way. My dad was an alcoholic and drug addict. My mom was as well, but not nearly as bad as my dad. Whenever my dad smoked marijuana, life was great. However, he never just smoked marijuana…he got drunk most nights and he was a very violent drunk. When he mixed his alcohol with pills, he was dangerous. When I was little, my stomach hurt me all the time because it was always in knots from stress.

My dad was a good man…he was just messed up. He played guitar, sang, painted, wrote poetry and so forth. He lived a rock star life in a small town. When I was 11, my mom divorced my dad and ran off with a man worse than my dad (my dad had been in jail countless times, but they were all misdemeanors…this man had been in jail for shit like rape). I stayed with my mom for a while, but when her boyfriend hit me I left. I lived with my dad in a 1 room trailer that had no water, electricity, heat or anything. We had 1 piece of furniture…a love seat in which most nights my dad was passed out on, so I slept on the floor. We had a kerosine heater that cooked our food and kept us warm. We had cement blocks stacked up out back that we could do our “business” on. Despite everything that was bad, I was happy. Sure, my dad put me through hell…but, he was my dad and I loved him.

When I was 13 my dad left me. I moved in with my mamaw. My dad had moved about an hour and a half away…we know because the hospital in his new town had to call us several times because he was a regular patient (he got the crap beat out of him a lot apparently..but he didn’t feel or remember anything because he would be drunk). That’s all I’m going to say about that time in his life, because I can’t stand to think about it.

When I was 14, my dad died of a drug overdose. My heart became broken beyond repair it seems. For a year after he died, I didn’t leave my room except to go to school…and I’m not exaggerating. I didn’t leave the house for anything…well, around Christmas time I did go to the store to buy my grandparents presents. But that was it.

I wanted to die. I contemplated suicide every day…I even had a suicide not. However, I never acted…I was too afraid of what would happen afterward. I was like that for 3 years. In the past year, I’ve improved some. I’m still not happy, but I don’t hide in my room anymore. Sure, every other day I want to tell the world to f*ck off and go listen to Pink Floyd…but I don’t. Will I get better? Or am I forever screwed up?

I can’t afford to see a psychiatrist so I’m hoping some of you can give me some kind words. Thanks!
Sorry, I meant to tell you my age. I’m 18.

I am 17 years old and I am really thinking about running away from home… Everything is going wrong that could go wrong im flunking out of school, my mom is a drug addict, and I cant live with my dad. I live with my drug addict mom at the moment and we are fighting constantly I really cannot live here I am almost 18 I will be in 6 months but I don’t know where I will go for now and what I can do to finish my senior year. Can I go to a shelter and go to a public school without my parents permission? Please help me
Yes I am a christian the bible and church has really helped me… But I still am thinking about moving this house

I am an alcoholic and have been doing good on and off and I need to know if it is me or the people around me!?
I want to know if it is me or I am crazy,Please help, Ok Im 27years old I have been drinking on and off for years and for the last three weekends I have came home and drank I live with my boyfriend of two years whom I love very much, and he does not work and pays no bills(also he paid 2400$ to get us in this place and in his eyes I have forever been in debt to him) and my mothers husband just lost his leg in a motorcycle accident I have been very stressed and trying not to drink but I have been coming home every weekend to find that my house is a mess,and he needs me to drive him to the store etc.and the cats have not been taken care of,also my boyfriend has been smoking pot with our female neighbor and speaking w her while im gone all week and this bothered me very much and I would come home and not had any intentions to drink and he would start in right away telling me Are you gonna drink ******* alcoholic slut basically anything he can to hurt me and I begged pleaded and cryd and told him I cant have him hanging out with that neighbor smoking pot and conversating (he is not supposed to be smoking at this point)……soooo he promises me he wont….low and behold he quits smoking pot and continues talking to this woman while im gone working and paying the bills(mind you he has no car and I have to drive him anywhere)also he says its just friends and to be honest I don’t think its appropriate to do so while im gone all week knowing it makes me uncomfortable……sooo this last weekend I come home early go to the store buy steaks n good eats for the night and rented a movie(also not I did not buy any alcohol cause I did not intend to drink at all) …. first thing he says to me is I know all about you and you have done this and that and it would take me to long to right point being also while I was gone he started talking to my cousin sadie and she told him basically 1/3 truth and 2/3rds absolute bullshit and I went ballistic because I being attacked by him and he was believing all the crap she was telling him(also it was not about cheating or anything it was things about my alcoholism from the past and she lied about things I have done she told him that I had wrecked my grandmothers car that I had burnt alot of bridges and crazy **** that he ate up in a heart beat not to mention she is very pretty and he falls for that crap) sooooo I was crying and very upset and told him I couldn’t take this anymore and low and behold I left and got very very drunk (bad descion) ultimately it boils down to this am I crazy drunk or do I need to remove myself from this situation please help!!

Also his reasoning behind stressing me out is that hes concernd about my well being and thats why he was talking to them but I think thats crap when I make an effort and out and out tell him what will help me and I cant see how calling someone names and accusing them of lies and saying yaa go put all your money down your throat thats what your gonna do anyways I know all about you, is gonna help any alcoholic but please tell me if im wrong I need answers

I want to know if it is me or I am crazy,Please help, Ok Im 27years old I have been drinking on and off for years and for the last three weekends I have came home and drank I live with my boyfriend of two years whom I love very much, and he does not work and pays no bills(also he paid 2400$ to get us in this place and in his eyes I have forever been in debt to him) and my mothers husband just lost his leg in a motorcycle accident I have been very stressed and trying not to drink but I have been coming home every weekend to find that my house is a mess,and he needs me to drive him to the store etc.and the cats have not been taken care of,also my boyfriend has been smoking pot with our female neighbor and speaking w her while im gone all week and this bothered me very much and I would come home and not had any intentions to drink and he would start in right away telling me Are you gonna drink fucking alcoholic slut basically anything he can to hurt me and I begged pleaded and cryd and told him I cant have him hanging out with that neighbor smoking pot and conversating (he is not supposed to be smoking at this point)……soooo he promises me he wont….low and behold he quits smoking pot and continues talking to this woman while im gone working and paying the bills(mind you he has no car and I have to drive him anywhere)also he says its just friends and to be honest I don’t think its appropriate to do so while im gone all week knowing it makes me uncomfortable……sooo this last weekend I come home early go to the store buy steaks n good eats for the night and rented a movie(also not I did not buy any alcohol cause I did not intend to drink at all) …. first thing he says to me is I know all about you and you have done this and that and it would take me to long to right point being also while I was gone he started talking to my cousin sadie and she told him basically 1/3 truth and 2/3rds absolute bullshit and I went ballistic because I being attacked by him and he was believing all the crap she was telling him(also it was not about cheating or anything it was things about my alcoholism from the past and she lied about things I have done she told him that I had wrecked my grandmothers car that I had burnt alot of bridges and crazy shit that he ate up in a heart beat not to mention she is very pretty and he falls for that crap) sooooo I was crying and very upset and told him I couldn’t take this anymore and low and behold I left and got very very drunk (bad descion) ultimately it boils down to this am I crazy drunk or do I need to remove myself from this situation please help!!
Also his reasoning behind stressing me out is that hes concernd about my well being and thats why he was talking to them but I think thats crap when I make an effort and out and out tell him what will help me and I cant see how calling someone names and accusing them of lies and saying yaa go put all your money down your throat thats what your gonna do anyways I know all about you, is gonna help any alcoholic but please tell me if im wrong I need answers

I have my mother in laws daughter like if she was just a phoster child gets to visit her mom once out of the week for one hour.my husband lets them visit longer and i think it’s a problem because when she don’t see her mom she doesn’t wine or pout,but she tells her mom that i don’t feed her after she gets home from school i don’t give her a full meal just a fruite so she don’t spoil her dinner that’s at 6:00pm and her mom tells her over the phone that she needs to tell us she needs to have gram crakers and milk when she gets home from school.the kid is only phoster till June we have the choice to have her as legal guardian of adopt her my husband don’t want to adopt her because he don’t want to take her away from his mom the lady is a drug addict and munipulates the little girl when she sees her now the little girl think that what i make for all to eat she should get different.I have three kids of my own and the smallest is already trying to pout if he don’t get his way.what can i do?

My mom was a drug addict. I couldnt save her but i feel it is my obligation to help others. What would i have to go to college for and how long?

I am a 29 year old mother of three kids and was married fir eleven years to a drug dealing spouse and though he did that line of work he never paid bills always was out in the streets doing who knows what and recently in July of 2010 he dropped me and my kids off in another state which is my home state to basically fend for ourselves.I have no money no credit and just got a little piece of a job to support myself and kids.I live with my bipolar coke head mom and my dad is a vietnam vet suffering from alcoholism.My husbands parents are here too,but his mom just doesn’t acknowledge myself and my children she won’t even help babysit while I go to work and she is fully capable and alot safer than my own mom.Instead she would rather her son,my husband abandon us even longer to so called get himself together,but he can’t survive without my support so that will be never and on top of that he says he has a new girlfriend that attends law school and he is really into her,this hurts me because I could have been doing that and much more had I not been so gullible for him and doing everything that he said to do….Basically I am on here looking for a life coach to help me get my life back and keep me positive.Please is there anyone out there? I am not looking for handouts just a helping hand and resources.

This would be the second Christmas without him. He was murdered Sept.17,2005.His family has invited me2 share the one year anniversary of his death, his birthday and they even celebrated what would have been our one-year anniversary together. Last year I bought them a nice china tea set. I have no clue what to purchase this year, or even if I should buy them a gift. Or do u think I should just send a card?
Also, my mom and I don’t get along, she showed no support 2 me during his death instead she got high and didnt come home that night 2take me2 his funeral, and then while I was at the funeral she stole money out of my drawer at home.But last x-mas she got jealous, and called me stupid for buying them a gift, cuz my boyfriend cheated when he was alive, even though his family bought me a nice 14kt gold necklace 4 X-mas.
What do I do about my mom, and should I get his mom a gift despit my drug addict mom?

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Oh yeah the Bed Bath and Beyond link is to the gift I got them for Christmas last year.It’s was differnt color tho, sorta like pastel type colors

she is on the run from the law and may go to jail and is drug Addict on meth wat do i need to get my twin sons from there grandfather im the bilogical father and want my sons

I lived with my mom up until I was 13 in Hemet and i moved away from her because she was unfit and moved to LA with my grandparents and at the time my dad was a drug addict. So I was alone until I was 14 then i moved back with my mom in hopes she CHANGED but sadly she didn’t. I’m on summer vacation and visiting my grandparents. My dad is now living with my grandparents temporarily. I end up falling in love while in LA with a boy who doesn’t live far from my grandparents. Should I stay in La? or go back to Hemet? I told everyone that I was going back but I secretly want to stay. If i go back to my mom I know what’s going to happen but she needs me, more than I need her. You see, its never been about me. When I lived with my grandparents they ALWAYS took great care of me and never hit me or shouted at me. My mom is a drunk…but she needs help. I’m only 15. Sometimes I feel like the parent. Should I be selfish or selfless? what do i Do!?

ok this is gonna be a long description but here we go. Before becoming a freshmen in high school my grandfather warned me about druggies and drug dealers in high school and that i should stay away from them and said drugs would ruin my life and that i would be living off the streets and said I would rob banks, kill people, steal purses for drugs and said drugs are like cigarettes if i do not do them I will never have to worry about quitting and he said they would kill me and used elvis presley as an example on how successful he was and he died. My grandfather told me they will end up like my step mother who was an alcoholic who ended up on the streets. Even a cop came in and told me stuff about drugs. He said how marijuana is addictive and how these kids in college got up in the morning and smoked after lunch they would smoke and after classes were all done they would smoke and after dinner they would smoke for the rest of the night. He said they had never passed college. He told our class how this guy got addicted to heroin through smoking a weed laced with it. He told us how some one died from heroin the first time at a party. He said he has never met any one who said drugs were the best decision they have ever made. He said if you would use them you could do things you would never thought you would do like steal from a friend or family member and so on. I even know some one who stole 100 dollars from his parents to get an ounce of weed. But when ever it comes to on line things i hear a bunch of other things like peoples opinions about things saying there is nothing wrong about getting drunk all the time or getting high. They say under age drinking does not cause alcoholism irresponsible idiots do but under age drinking is being irresponsible. I have heard so may different opinions about drugs when it comes from paces such as yahoo or other places saying what cops and people and parents tell you about drugs is lies they try to scare you from doing them it is fun to get high. They are under control of the media. When i was taught no drug ever makes a persons life better things could just get worse in the long run whether it is days, months, years from now. I have heard so many stories about marijuana. They say it is safe and not addictive. People say marijuana has helped improve their life and made them successful. Look at willie nelson and a rumor about the beatles saying they came up with their songs while being high. Look at San Antonio Holmes he is a foot ball player even has been caught with it and failed a drug test and was traded. I just do not know who to believe every ones opinions has changed my thinking about drugs whats true whats not. They say you you should get a very reliable source but getting drugs from drug dealers is not a safe thing at all. People on line have told me that ecstasy is safe and not addictive. Hell I even read that cocaine is not addictive and it is safe off of here. People say lsd will make your life awesome and it is safe and all that stuff and it is not addictive. there are people who say if you use drugs responsibly you will do fine or if you know the consequences and use them safely you will do fine. It is like people always try to come up with excuses to do drugs. But this is a place for people’s opinion it is just i do not know who to believe anymore. I just do not want to make a wrong decision. I do not know why i even ask this here i probably will not get a straight answer at all. I just need help.

I want to be a therapist. Most likely for recovering drug addicts and alcoholics (my mom is a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and I was addicted to pills in 7th grade and I’m fine now so I feel a need to help people who are into drugs and alcohol). Is there a specific name for a therapist who works with recovering drug/pill addicts and alcoholics and maybe sex addicts? Kinda like Dr. Drew. Lol thanks

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
her boyfriend thats the babys father is in Boston, another state from us and the baby goes up there every few months fro a few weeks but she and him fight so they wont stay together for too long and she wont leave the baby up there b.c she doesnt want his father to have him. My sister wont hire a babysitter b.c shes too cheap and would rather have me do it b.c she doesnt “trust” anyone else. I cant hire one b.c i have no money

A chronic liver disease caused by excessive alcohol consumption is known as:

Cardiac sympathy

Cirrhosis

Pancreatitis

Parkinson’s

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Gender, emotion, mental status, and amount of time throughout consumption are a few factors that can change the effects each time alcohol is consumed by an individual.

true

false

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All 50 states enacted a BAC limit of .08 as the legal limit for drunk drivers over the age of 21.

true

false

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The following does NOT have the same alcohol content as a 12 oz. beer:

Depends on the type of beer

5 oz. glass of wine

1.5 oz. of 80 proof distilled spirits (shot)

none of the above

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The best way to avoid a dangerous situation involving drunk driving is to:

Avoid alcohol and drugs altogether because you don’t need them anyway.

Do what your friends tell you to do.

Drink just a little or limit your drug intake.

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All of the following are symptoms of alcoholism except for:

craving

physical dependence

tolerance (you have to drink more and more to get “buzzed.”)

self-control

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Alcohol in the stomach…

is partially absorbed from the stomach.

interferes with digestion of essential vitamins and minerals.

can lead to gastritis and ulcers from long term use.

All answers are correct.

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Drinking alcohol can effect the heart, liver, stomach, and brain.

true

false

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If you are the driver of a vehicle, there is no safe level of alcohol consumption.

True
False

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Moderate to Excessive Binge Drinking can cause:

health benefits for the heart, including reducing chance of heart attack

Cardiac Arrhythmia (abnormal rhythms) and sudden cardiac death

reduction in blood pressure and/or chance of stroke

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Mandatory license plate revocation is ineffective against drunk driving.

true

false

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___________ are more likely to become alcoholics.

children

adults

woman

children of alcoholic parents

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Which of the following is a problem a baby may have if the mother drinks alcohol while she is pregnant?

motor skills problems

hearing and vision problems

premature birth

may include problems with motor skills, hearing and vision

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There are less alcohol-related fatalities for 18, 19, and 20 year olds than for the population over 21.

true

false

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According to research what would be the single most effective deterrent for drinking and driving?

Automatic license revocation

Inability to post bail if arrested

Jail sentence

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This law imposes potential liability on the host of a party if alcohol is served to an obviously intoxicated person or a minor.

adult liability

social host

MADD law

minor party law

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Blood Alcohol Content (BAC), is a standard used to:

Determine what type of alcohol had been consumed

Determine how many total drinks have been consumed

Determine between sobriety and intoxication

Determine how long since your last alcoholic drink

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Examples of important functional skills that are not visible to others, but are affected by alcohol, are thinking skills like evaluating risk and processing information. This means that steering, braking, lane changing, and response time could be affected in a driver that has been dr

OK, here goes. I plan on leaving the father of my two year old baby girl. He’s already stated that he’ll get custody, though I’m not sure why he says that… Let me give you some details. I live in New York State. He works during the day, I stay home with my little girl all day. At night, three nights a week, I work from five to ten thirty. He has her till eight those nights, ans at eight o’clock, she goes to bed. He had my nine year old daughter watch her a lot on the nights I work, and I would be working more, except that he really won’t let me, though after I move, I’ll be able to get more hours. I have custody of my oldest child, not through the courts, but her dad has no problem with her being with me at all, he sees her every weekend, and that’s working out just fine. I haven’t got a drinking problem, drug problem or alcoholism. I am going to school to be a teacher, and I have never abused or been mean to my children. Actually, I think I’m a really good mom. And so do my kids, my oldest and I are extremely close, and my baby and I are as well. I love them so damn much, and it’s stressing myself and my oldest out to be here, he’s possessive, controlling and mean spirited. He yells a lot, and I can’t do a thing, can’t leave the house, can’t do anything without being interrogated. I’m almost developing a nervous condition, and it’s time to go… My question is, I’m terrified when I go to court, he’ll make something up about me, in order to get my kids. My ex’s mother and sister are going in to be witnessed for me, but I’m not sure what is going to happen, and I can’t allow her to be raised by a short tempered man. I’m so scared I could lose her, and I need some advice or experiences from you guys… Please please take the time to answer me today… I’m sick over this, and paralyzed by fear of losing my baby. Please help. I want my life happy, with BOTH of my children.
John, Happy Hunter and KK. Thank you SO much. I need some reassurance through this time.. Unfortunately, Happy Hunter, I can’t put school off, since I’m already halfway through. In NYS, I know I need to have PHYSICAL witnesses, not just statements, or else I would have had a lot more. I know the law guardians will also talk to my eldest, and she will tell them what’s happening, although if I had it my way, I would leave her out of it altogether… On a more personal note, John and KK thank you for the complimentary answers as well, I needed the self confidence boost. Fighting for your child is like fighting for your life… Thank you so much.

Boyfriend left me for another women?
We dated for three months and after three weeks he said “I love you”. Better yet, he wrote this email to me on facebook stating that he wished that I would never leave him and that he loved me. So about two weeks before we broke up he said that he didn’t love me and that he didn’t know what love was. Then he tried to break up with me a week later but I persuaded him to wait it out and give me another week to see it anything changed.

So a week later, on a Friday, we were supposed to get together at my house but I canceled because I was tired and I wanted to sleep early. The next morning I got a call from his mother saying he never came home last night. What really happened was this: he went home, told his parents that he was going to go out again to see me to go iceskating or something but really he was out at a bar, drinking with this coworkers. He got wasted (he’s actually an alcoholic), and got a DUI. He was pretty much in jail.

So the evening of the next day, I wrote “dissapointed” as the status on my facebook. One of my friends commented and asked me what was wrong. I replied : “alcoholism”. After that, my then boyfriend un-friended me from facebook and pretty much broke up with me on a message on facebook. Stating that it was “over”. I asked who he was with two nights ago and pretty much had to squeeze the answer out of him, that it was his co-workers. He does security at a middle school M-F 3-6 pm. He is a year older than I am, we went to the same H.S, the same college, although we didn’t meet until college. And he lives within walking distance from me! ughhh!

He said that he had to work on himself, and get himself straightened out and that we couldn’t be together. That we had separate lives and that we were headed in different directions. What I want to know is, how could he go from fine to wanting nothing to do with me over one weekend. We didn’t even see each other. To this day, he won’t even talk to me. In person, over the phone, in email, whatever. He’s like a completely different person. He went from being this loving boyfriend to someone I don’t even know. I suspect that he was seeing one of his co-workers or perhaps someone he met at a bar , on the side and broke up with me to be with the other women. What do you think happened to him? Can you help me interpret his behavior?

Ok the mother cat only has two nipples and is feeding six kittens we have supplemented when we needed to but they wont take a bottle so when can I start them on regular food or get them to drink formula without having to force it. They are three weeks old.