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I am going to be a junior this year, at a very respected public school in MN. I’m beginning to look into competitive colleges, and I understand that disadvantaged backgrounds can give you an edge over students who came from well-off/stable/highly educated families. Or, put another way, your achievements are (to some extent) viewed within the context of the environment you were raised in. How much of an edge, if any at all, can come from these factors?

-Neither of my parents received degrees beyond high school—each attended college for a short time and dropped out (father was community college, mother a state school)
-My family is economically classified as the Working Poor. I live in a single-parent household (mom only) with an annual income of somewhere between $20,000 and $30,000… our EFC is $0
-This is probably not (as) relevant, but there has been legally-recognized domestic abuse in my family as well as alcoholism over the past 2 years

Say I’m comparable to other applicants at competitive schools (15-50% admissions rate) in every academic way. Side note: I am a Caucasian female

I am stressed out ALL of the time. I am a married mother of 3 boys ages 19, 16, and 12, I will be 37 this year. I don’t drink, smoke, or abuse drugs. I am on a anti-depressant, and have been prescribed Xanax for anxiety. I try to live a healthy life, but I am wondering as crazy as this may sound, if my husbands drinking is what is making me sick. I have been reading about Co-Dependancy, and as immature as this may sound, why am I the one who has to suffer for his alcoholism? I am not suicidal, but just feel like I can’t go on. I am tired, I am sick, and my body just aches all of the time. I have even been perscribed Ambien to help me sleep. I just don’t know how to get out of this slump. I am unable to work, because of my depression, and I have severe panic attacks. I have only 1 friend, because my husband has ran the rest off, just by being a jerk, and my family doesn’t want to “watch” me live my life like this with him, so they are no longer in my life. I know this sounds stupid, but I don’t know how to leave. I have been with him since I was 14, and I am going to be 37. I just know I can’t keep living like this. I am losing everything, and everyone. My mom lives out of state, and so does my dad, I am the oldest of my siblings, by many years, so I can’t stay with them. I don’t want to continue to live this way, but being in a town where the population is 3,700 and everyone knows your buisness, and there aren’t any “outlets” what can I do? Please be nice……….. I am not dumb, I know this relationship isn’t healthy, I am just scared, lost, and mentally and physically worn out. Somedays it is hard just to get out of bed. I have started councling, but this has been very recent, and I just feel like I will never be able to leave. I really can’t elaborate more than this, because this is pretty much it. :(

I joked around with a girl in my class and we smelled hand sanitizer because it smelled really good. I know that it’s impossible to get high off of it, we were just joking. Some kid in my class started calling me a drug addict, and he said that “someone” is going to tell on me tomorrow. My mother will contact the school, but how much trouble could I get into if the stupid staff at my school believes the kid?

Of all the actions that have been forbidden and declared sin in the bible, why is homosexuality one of the worst of them? Among homosexuality, the bible lists adultery, prostitution, alcoholism, libel, and swindling. In the old testament it is regarded along the same lines as sex with an animal, sex with one’s mother, sex with one’s aunt, and other things.

I define homosexuality to be sex with other consenting *human adults* of the same sex who are not relatives, or animals. The latter two are harmful to the parties involved in some way, or are harmful to the children that they have. However, in gay relationships no children can be produced, and with protection as much harm is likely to come as in a heterosexual relationship.

In a consenting relationship with human adults who are not relatives or animals…such a relationship causes no harm. Why is it, then, that homosexuality is considered especially detestable?

Based on a reference section in the back of my bible, there are MANY verses that refer to homosexuality, most of which *are* in the NT. They are as follows, read them and then read the rest of the question:

Leviticus 18:22, 20:13 —– 18:22 Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman. That is detestable….20:13 If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

(By the way, this is kinda old, and it’s in the same book that forbids eating shellfish, but its classified under sexual immorality, with many things still considered immoral today…by our standards…so, idk ? Did Jesus say to omit this book or what?)

Romans 1:18-32 (most notably verse 27) 18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.

24Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.

26Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

28Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

(What is “Due penalty for their perversion,” as defined by Paul?)

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexual immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10Nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of god. 11And that is what some of you ere, But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

(What does Paul mean by “Homosexual offender”? Does that mean someone who has sex with members of the same sex, or someone who consents within themselves that they want to have sex with members of the same sex?)

1 Timothy 1:9-11 9We also know that law is made not for the righteous, but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious; for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10for adulterers and perverts, for slave traders and liars and perjurers -and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine that conforms to the glorio

I am 17, came home a bit drunk last week. This has only ever happened twice, I am usually careful about what I drink. The first time was Halloween and I was grounded for a month, this time it has been a week and my dad still wont talk to me. We were supposed to go to my nans for dinner that Sunday but she said she didn’t want to see me after my dad had told her. I wasnt sick or anything, I tripped on my way in but that’s all.
What I dont get is that my dad used to be an alcoholic, he still attends meetings, but he is always talking about the days he was ‘on the drink’ and all the cars he crashed etc, him and my mother had me when they were 20… he was a far from perfect teen, dropping out of high school, alcoholism, getting in trouble. I dnt understand how if I come home drunk for the second time, 5 months away from being 18 how now I am the disgrace of the family.
He wont talk to me, when he has to in cases such as someone on the phone looking me he calls me with such hatred and venom. I cry out of anger at him, I do not feel like I deserve this, I work hard etc… make two mistakes and I am being treated like I murdered someone.
What do I do? =( I cant cope, I have already lost weight from only eating at dinner because I am afraid to leave my room and I feel like a thief if I take even an apple =(

I’m 18 and my Dad divorced my mum FOURTEEN years ago. My sister who is 5 years older said at the time she first noticed my Mum bringing home a bottle of wine in the evenings to drink.
I still see my Dad regularly, I don’t resent him or anything, he left because he was unhappy – my Mum is a difficult person to live with.

Anyways, every day from work she brings home a bottle of wine and always finishes it before bed. On weekends she starts drinking the second it strikes midday and continues until she falls asleep in the chair at around 7pm, before stumblind up to bed at 10pm. By this time she may have gotten through 3 bottles of wine!
She seems to be a “functional” alcoholic in that she still goes to work and looks after her responsilbities and such but I hardly see that as normal behaviour. She is 52 now and I just wondered how long she can continue the way she is. She knows she drinks too much and mentions if occassionally, but I daren’t say anything because she twists the subject “well you spend hours on the internet!” etc.
Recently she felt pain in her liver and it clearly scared her as she got paranoid and completely quit drinking for 2 months. Following this she had one relaxing glass of wine one evening and it spiralled back to her usual behaviour.

I just wondered if anyone else has a Mother who behaves similarly? Please don’t say “talk to your Mother, or phone AA or something” as it really isn’t an option.

Thanks in Advance.
Edit: She does have friends yes, she drinks before even going out with them. They all drink whilst out but they probably don’t suspect she drinks every single day. I think it started as unhappiness and now is just pure habit/addiction. She drinks even when happy.

I am a severe chronic pain patient. I take 6 30mg of oxycodone a day. I am not an addict. No euphoria etc. I recently found out my mother is dying. I need xanax or something to keep me from spiraling out of control. Very stressful. How much xanax can I safely take with the amt of oxycodone that I use?

hi, I’m 14 and my mother drinks excessively. I’m tired of being patient and sympathetic. I try and be a better son so she doesn’t drink as much but apparently I’m just not worth it. I don’t talk much at school because of this and used to get beat up and then started cutting and got sent to therapy, but my mum pulled me out because she didn’t want me telling people she was an alcoholic.She always drives to get more wine and i know one day she wont make it back, but idc if ill care by then, wtf do i do. i wanna make her better.

pulled and notcied that i have more jaw and ear pain then ever before i clecnh my teeth a lot ,but never thought i grinded them. the dentist told me my teeth were alomst flat i have never worn braces brush and floss etc… and keep good hygiene i was diagnosed with anxiety/panic 3 years ago which i mhealing with cognotive therapy im an over worrier and obssessor im going to the dentist tom also, when i went to get my wisdom teeth pulled they did xrays if i had tmj would they have picked that up? my mouth i can open at times i hear popping/cracking sound ,but not too too severe!and its mainly my ear.jaw joints that are in pain like i have an ear infection type what can i do for it i have tylenol 3 with codeine ,but i try to avoid medicines only if i have too i dont drink or smoke i exercise and eat healthy at times yes i have stress financially/mother/wife stressors but…what natural things could help i have been on youtbe doing exercised for tmj and i dont know if i have it!lol please help

i’m 18 years old, male, and i just get really depressed about stuff alot, and sometime just find myself crying while laying in my bed at night, or getting unnecessarily drunk to help me deal with the pain, whenever i think about my mom bailing on us, or even when she was around, just a bad environment, with her screaming at me and my little sister back in the day, and when i was a really little kid i was really scared of my dad, he used to beat me on a whim, i would have nightmares about him (had to go through 2 pretty bad divorces once as a lil kid, and once when i was like 12) , or cant find a girl who’s right for me(i think some of my girl troubles have alot to do with the relationship with my mom, but i dont know), and me and my dad ain’t that close, i mean we are cool, but i can’t really talk to him about this sh1t, and now my mom is addicted to drugs somewhere, i keep to myself about my problems for the most part, sorry if this is unorganized, i have a hard time putting it down
..and believe me i’m not someone who just wallows around in self pity, and looking for sympathy from everyone… in fact i have pretty much no one that i can really open up to..so i guess ill try it here. i honestly feel like a btch for feeling the way i do

I have been with the same guy for a little over 4 years. We live together, and we have a child together. I am, by far, not saying I am perfect. I tend to get grumpy at times, and I have a bad temper. But I have always been faithful, I do not lie to him, and I do everything in my power to keep him happy. As far as I know, he has never cheated on me, although there have been times where I have wondered. Here is my question:
I can be a moody person, but there are times when he is down right MEAN. He says really mean things, not only to me, but to my daughter. (This is not the child I have with him. This is my older daughter (6), who he got along great with when we first got together until we had out son 2 years ago. Then he totally changed his attitude towards her.)
He tries to pick fights with me, by saying things like I don’t do anything around the house (which I do my best at. Since July I have had 2 surgeries to fix problems that were causing me severe pain.), that I contribute nothing to our household because I do not work, (I am a stay at home mom of 2).
I do not think he has ever actually cheated, but I once found where he had been looking up only girls of a certain age and that were single, in the town he worked in, on Myspace. (He said he was looking for people he worked with.)
He tells me all the time that I should move out, or go find another guy. He will say he does not care if I leave, but he gets to keep our son. Then he will say that he just says that, he does not mean it, its just to make me mad.
He refuses to talk about any relationship problems. If I try, he will change the subject, or just ignore me.
Even though I am the one who stays home with our son all the time, and I have to be the one to punish him because he will not, he calls me a bad mother. He tells our son “Mommy doesn’t love you” and “Mommys mean to you”, all the time, especially when I do have to punish him. He tells our son to hit, kick and bite me.
Tonight is the 2nd night in less than 2 months where he has gone to a friends house and not come home. I get no phone call or anything.
The money he makes is HIS. If I need anything at all, I have to beg for it, and he usually will not give me any. I have to get money from my grandmother or my mother if there is anything I need. He says since he is the only one that works, it is only his money, and I have no say in how it is spent or what it is spent on.
He always yells at me for not working, but any time I have tried he will say “What? You want to leave our baby?”
I have to ask permission to use our car (which I helped buy, but it is in his name), and he watches the mileage and barely lets me use it, even for important things. I have to get rides from other people most of the time.
Three years ago, he gave me an engagement ring. A year ago I took it off after a bad fight about his drinking and I left for a few days. He has not tried to give it back to me, and he says he does not ever want to get married, when before he said he did. If I try to bring it up, he says “Why would I marry YOU?”
Like I said, I am not perfect. I do get upset about things, and I do yell when I am mad. But that is usually because of things he says to me and my daughter. I do get after him about drinking, because he gets really mean when he drinks, and he has alcoholism in his family. I have it really bad in mine, and I told him right from the start that I was NOT going to have my children growning up around alcohol. Because of this, he says that I am no fun and I just am trying to ruin his fun.
Should I just call it quits with him? I am looking for advice, because I have no one else really to ask. My family, who used to think he was great, do not like him that much anymore. He talks bad to me in front of them, and they do not like the way he acts about money and the car. Even members of his own family say he is too mean, and they do not understand why I stay with him.
Really, no mean comments. I am just looking for advice.

The place we are having it is B.Y.O. alcohol. It’s a nice Italian restaurant so we thought it would be nice to bring wine. There will be about 20 people there who will be adults and able to drink. About how many bottles should I buy and of what kind… I know nothing about wine I don’t like it so if you also have suggestions on brands that would be great.

(Not including people who don’t drink, of course.) Also, how much do you have to drink in one sitting before it starts to cause damage to your liver? (Don’t give me that “1 beer will damage your liver” bullcrap, save it for the mom-of-the-year convention.)

Smart people only, please. ;)

(sorry for it being so long but please read i woould apreciate it thanks)

Hello when younger i was abused physicaly,emotionaly by my unstable druggy drunk mother. I rember how when she woukld be done smoking some cocaine or maurijanna she would hit me till i their was blood al over the kitchen floor. She would spend all her money on drungs and acholhal rratgher then feeding my brother and i. To save us my brother would try to get jobs or sell drugs himself just keep us alive eventually one after my mom kept hiting me he was sick of it and walked out. We foudn out 2 weeks late he was shot by 2 gang memebrs because he was taking their “profits”. We lived in bad cities 1 bedroom apartments i had to sleep on the floor huddle againts the heater to keep warm. She would neglect me often make fun of me. When she didnt have enough money for her crack she would go cicotic and hit me over and over till i agreed to climb into my neighbors apartment and steal their money for her. It was horrible. In school i was amde fun of because i wore the same thing and had bruises. She would make fun of me because i had ADD, OCD, shy,Minor Bipolor, learning dysablilitys,dislexia ( i know i have MANY problems)My dad was in the marines while i was born and was shot and had depression espicialy after findiung out he was a father to get rid of depression he would drink and do any drug he could find. Eventualy around 11 one of my neigbors reported my mother because one day she left the door open and neighbors saw the coke on the table. Then they reportaded me having bruises. Cps came and took me away where i went to foster care. During that time one of the orphans their a 17 year old who lost her whole family was depressed and sexually abused me for 5 months. At the time i didnt no what sexual abuse was so i didnt tell anyone. My grandparents adopted me and i live with them now i am 14 1/2 and ever since everything that hapened i dream about it i cant sleep cause of it. Even the sexual abuse leads me to diffrent girls every few days. I cry at night because i rember it all i have tryed medicine, cycoligists everything it never gets rid of one thing MEMORIES. My grandparents are extremley worried i think they think im going insane, but truthfully somtimes i feel like it i always have the same question on my mind WHY WOULD SHE DO ALL THE ABUSE TO ME, NEGLECT ME , MAKE ME WATCH HER GET HIGH OFF OF HER DRUGS. WHY! i cant take it she calls me every month from prison and i always try to ask but i just cant. I also cant help having sex and everything i read a book for school on how having secual abuse leads to yourself somtimes having sex young, to much. I think my grandparents think i am a bad kid i got into a few fights in school because kids said as a jok UR MOM! and i attacked them. I was nearly expelled for coming to school high but i stoped that because i remeberd my mom everything leads back to tha. I am always very depressed all the time and untrustowrthy(funny how i am teling you guys but dont tel ANYONE else.. Anyone who has a similar or near same storie who is ok now what did you do to help yourself? ANyone can answer their opinion i just want some advice
thank you very much

My mother is high blood now, She keep smoking and smoking, and drinking alcoholic drinks, The doctor said her one teeth couldn’t be pulled off because she is high blood, She keep eating meat/porks, drinking alcoholic drinks. Can this cause heart disease?, And the doctor said she should only drink hard alcoholic drinks like red wine champagne, Maria Clara Sangria.
Is that right?

How much say do you have when you pay child support?

ex: bad parenting, drug dealers around your youngest daughters, and etc.

What can be done if your worried? How do you go about this? My fiance may get his daughter to live with us, but we think his ex wife won’t take it so lightly if her money (child support) is put on the line. The daughter has a bad past with alcoholism, drugs, robbery and etc, spent $100k on rehab bills, daughter just got out in dec 2009 after a year and a half. she’s being allowed to party, drink, mother is allowing drug dealers in home unsupervised, literally. we need help please. He wants his daughter to live with us, in a better environment. How much say does he have with her parenting skills if daughter doesn’t want to move to a different city? or if the ex wife is going to fight this?

(this is help for my fiance, ideas, suggestions, etc to talk about. we’re at a loss)
I agree with you steven. It is unfair. That’s how i feel, my fiance’ pays out the nose for child support, which is fine, just wish he could actually see where the money is going, and maybe actually see some ‘suppport” going to the child. So we are talking about taking her, but she will fight if her money is put on the line. If we agree to pay her in full anyways, she won’t fight lol.
he did not neglect his duties, she had an affair, he left her with everything they’ve owned. took his hockey trophies and his truck. We send care packages to the kids, he drives 8hrs to pick them up, drive 8hrs to bring them here, in one day. he’s not a neglectful father and loves them very much. We suffered to put his daughter in rehab for $5k a month with not a cent coming from the mother. he would pay the moms flight to mexico so the daughter can see her mom. I hate that word ‘neglect’ or he wouldn’t be so worried and lost right now.

I prayed hard, went to church, had faith, and trusted in God. Now over 15 years of mental problems are gone! I used to be bipolar and had panic attacks, anxiety, anorexia, OCD, insomnia, and borderline personality disorder. Jesus set me free! I have peace, love, hope, strength, happiness, wisdom, and freedom. What do you think?******* He also set my brother free from drugs, saved his life, healed my friend’s disease, healed another friend’s cancer, set my relatives free from alcoholism, saved my uncle’s life, saved my Mother and Father’s marriage, sent me lots of money for no reason, gave me everything I wanted in life, gave my brother everything he wanted, and saved my life when all the doctors said I should have died. He’s done all of that and much, much more.
For those who asked, I had $2,730.00 deposited into my account from an unknown source. The bank said it wasn’t a mistake because I asked several times and after months it was still there. I don’t give people my bank information either. Most of the people who were healed or saved didn’t even think they would be so it wasn’t positive thinking.

My b/f and I have been together or over a year. In the beginning of our relationship I came across some paperwork from child support services in another county. I asked him about it and he denied having a child. Come to find out there was a possibility between him and 2 other guys but because he was the only one that hadn’t responded they charged him child support. I went ahead and filed for DNA testing through the courts. 2-3 months later we find out the kid is his. By this time the boy is 4-yrs-old. So he got in contact with the grandparents, who are the caregivers and we’ve been visitng him and having him every other weekend, which is our agreement out of court. We both get along really well with the maternal grandparents. The mom however, is strung out on pills dating a guy who just got caught selling prescription meds and just an all around wreck. She’s been given plenty of opportunity to join drug rehab or some other treatment program but has failed to show each time. When she calls my b/f she has excuse after excuse. Well this last visit we were having a hard time with him because he was tired and cranky. During this time the mother calls out of the blue (we’ve only heard from her 3 times in almost a year) and wants to talk to her son. She also states that she’s scared we’re going to take the boy from her. Okay… is she stupid??? She was given the opportunity and chose to put herself before her son. I, as of now, may be unable to have children of my own and luckily have grown very close to my b/f’s son. We consider and refer to him as ‘ours’. So 1. Is it wrong of me to be angry that she called during OUR visit???
and 2. I’m scared she will get better and take him from us… are these feelings warranted????

recently my mother moved in with my family because of a very serious illness. and since that day my husband has drank an ungodly amount of beer every night. he used to go through a 12 pack in a week. two days ago he purchased a keg and has already drank a third of it. i’m at my wits end alcoholism runs in his family and i don’t wnat our daughters growing up thinking it’s ok to get plastered every single day.

I ask this because it took years to get my dad to stop drinking (he used to drink almost everyday) but I don’t know how he started. Now my mom is drinking, not everyday but special occasions (ex: parties, etc.). I want to know if by drinking only on occasions like parties, eventually cause her to drink everyday? If not, that’s good, but can anyone please tell me how would alcohol cause you to drink everyday? Just so my mom won’t go in that situation

thanks