i need help because my mom is an alcoholic, like when she is drunk (pretty much every night) she gets mad for no reason, screams, and says shes going to kill myself, and says with us to go live with our dad(parents are divorced). but my dad is always working, and i just hate it at his house. my stepmom is really a biitch so i cant go to there house either, plus i have ulcers in my stomach now so i really dont know what to do
ok my mom’s rehab friend is coming over and my dad has to leave like at night, so i was like your friend better not stay after dad leaves… and she was like well were gonna watch two or three movies.. and he might like drink or something cuz HE HAD TO PAY ALOT TO COME TO OUR HOUSE CUZ HE IS IN REHAB!!!!
What should i do????!
is a pattern of mental and physical defects which develops in some unborn babies when the mother drinks excessive alcohol during pregnancy Alcohol crosses the placental barrier and can stunt fetal growth or weight, create distinctive facial stigmata, damage neurons and brain structures, and cause other physical, mental, or behavioral problems.The main effect of FAS is permanent central nervous system damage, especially to the brain. Developing brain cells and structures are underdeveloped or malformed by prenatal alcohol exposure, often creating an array of primary cognitive and functional disabilities (including poor memory, attention deficits, impulsive behavior, and poor cause-effect reasoning) as well as secondary disabilities (for example, mental health problems, and drug addiction)
knowing that this is 100% preventable, do you think mothers that drink while pregnant should go to jail?
ok my mom’s rehab friend is coming over and my dad has to leave like at night, so i was like your friend better not stay after dad leaves… and she was like well were gonna watch two or three movies.. and he might like drink or something cuz HE HAD TO PAY ALOT TO COME TO OUR HOUSE CUZ HE IS IN REHAB!!!!
What should i do????!
I’m 18 and my mom is kind of strict, I think.
All through high school I wasn’t allowed to have a cell phone. Just last month for my 18th birthday I got my first cell phone but my mom set it so that I can only make calls to her. I tried to buy myself one a few years ago but when she saw it she took it away.
I’m not allowed to get my license or have a car. I know that if I even tried to get my license she’d take it away.
I got a C+ in a class two years ago and I’m supposed to keep all B’s or higher.. even though it’s really all A’s because my mom gets mad if I get a B. My mom took away my laptop and never gave it back, even over breaks like summer. I just got it, too.
I’m always late arriving to school because I don’t have an alarm and my mom always sleeps in and forgets to wake me up. I’ve had so many tardies and I always get detentions because of it. But this year my school gives out fines instead of detentions for tardies, and it kind of sucks because my mom makes me pay them with my allowance.
My mom picks me up from school every day. I’m not allowed to get rides from friends and she always picks me up really late because she works in retail and can’t choose when her breaks are. School gets out at 2:30 and usually she’s there by 5 or 6. One time she didn’t pick me up until about 8:30 – 9 and I was the only one at school and I had to wait outside in the dark all alone and I had no phone to call her and ask where she was. My school is in a bad area, too.
Once she does pick me up I’m not allowed to go home. I mean, I can’t be home alone. So I always have to go to her work and do my homework in the break room. It used to not be so bad because they had a computer but when they found out I was going on myspace they blocked it. Same with facebook and just about any fun website. I can’t even go on instant messenger, so it’s really lonely in there. Sometimes I’l sneak phone calls though, but only if no one else is in the break room with me.
Usually I don’t get home until after 11, and then I’ll eat dinner. I usually don’t go to bed until about 3 if at all because I have to study. If I don’t keep good grades my mom will take away my dog. The only reason I got my dog in the first place was because I kept all A’s in middle school and that was my reward. The cell phone was my high school reward for my grades but my mom said I can’t call other people until I get all A’s. I don’t know what will happen if I don’t get all A’s by the end of the year, I probably won’t be able to call anyone else all summer, but once I go to college I can work to get all A’s and then get to call anyone.
I know she loves me but I’m really cut off from all my friends.
I’m not even allowed to hang out with my friends on the weekends, especially if she doesn’t like them. Then I can never see them, even if she has the wrong impression about them. Like my friend Mary. Mary’s sister used to be drug addict before she went to rehab, but even after she had gone to rehab my mom wouldn’t let me hang out with Mary because she thought that her sister could relapse at any time and then Mary would have access to her drugs. And she said Mary could become an addict too because addiction normally runs in the family. I guess she’s right, but Mary was my best friend at the time and I’m not even allowed to talk to her anymore. But if she does like my friends, I can go to big public places like the movies and she picks me up. Usually my curfew is nine or ten depending on how much she likes the person, but sometimes she lets me stay out really late until like eleven if I’m with my cousin.
She never lets me go to parties – even birthday parties and graduation parties and stuff, unless there is a parent or I let her go with me.
I’m not really allowed to date and when I give a boy my phone number I have to give them my mom’s because they can’t call me on mine. And when she answers they get all weirded out. She scares them too. One time my boyfriend called me during finals week and she told him to break up with me because he was a distraction and to never call her phone again. But I didn’t even know at the time because she didn’t tell me he even called and I have no other way to contact him. She usually doesn’t tell me if a boy calls and if a friend calls that she doesn’t like she won’t tell me either.
Even when I was dating my boyfriend – he broke up with me because of her – she would follow us on our dates. If we went to see a movie, she would sit in the row behind us though, so at least she wasn’t right next to us. And when we would walk around after she would walk a few feet behind us.
Since I can’t use the computer in her break room anymore, I use proxies on the library computers sometimes to go on myspace. But when she found out I had one because a friend accidently mentioned it in the car, she demaded to see everything on it and then deleted it.
Despite my good grades I’m not allowed to leave home. I have to go to community college next year.
We’ve done everything to try to help her, she isn’t ready so we stopped. Now her parents have blown their retirement supporting her and we can’t convince them its ‘enabling’ her. (They pay for her house, bills, groceries) And now they are broke, my grandpa had to take a job and he is in no shape for that.
Im gonna go sneak some of my moms absolute vodka, but after i do, im not sure if they would notice. They keep it in a cuboard for one, so what if after i filled some water in there to the point where it looks like i didnt take any? would that work? id have to keep it room temperture though
your answers suck, besides the first one.
Heres the down load story and I hope you get it all and it doesn’t confuse you.. It may and I’m uber sorry. My mother and I used to have a fantastic relation ship and we were, more so best friends, or you could say sisters. She is 38, and I’m 17, recently she moved me to Bear Creek Texas so she could be with her long lost husband (even though he just got sent to prison) so, we sold everything we owned, I had to give my friends all my pictures I had, and all we came down here with was our car, three cats, and a dog, and three fish ( idk why the fish but they were special) any who, we’ve been down here starting on our fourth month, but when getting here we had to stay at my grandmas house (her husbands mom) and I didn’t even know her she was a stranger. I was going to go to public school but they didn’t accept half of my washington credits and they were trying to bump me back two grades and i wouldn’t have that, so now I’m home schooled. Anyways, we have been fighting since we have been down here because I haven’t met one friend yet, I was working for a while but it was a very bad enviroment, I want to work again so I can get out of the hosue because I’m in the house seven days a week, but I don’t get my car for awhile. So now, my mom has left her husband because she met a family friend and so aparently shes in love with him,
Before it just used to be me and my mom, and I get it that people say “well its probably because you are jealous” but thats it, its not that, i agreed to move down here so SHE would be happy. she devoted her whole life to me, so i thought she deserved to be happy, and truthfully she still does, but her new boyfriend, he tries getting money out of her, and he smokes weed, and he does cocain ( I think that’s crack) she gave him 900 dollars so that he could get a truck of his own but he spent it on drugs. I do try to tell her how i feel and it didnt turn out well, all we do is end up fighting and she started hitting me (which is a sign of her changeing because she never hits me) and i hit her back (and I WOULD NEVER HIT MY MOM) but for some reason i just had to..
anyways, and he just RANDOMLY moved in, and what i hate the most is that he yells at me, i’ve known him for a week or so and he YELLS at me, and tells me im a maniac for crying becasue I want to go home, and I yell back at him and tell him he knows nothing about me and he says your behavior tells it all. My behavior? for being upset that i sit in a room seven days a week?
My mom has always bought me whatever I wanted, I’m not trying to sound spoiled but its the truth shes never said no, but shes only bought me whatever I wanted because she trys to buy my happiness she always has, and her boyfriend, his name is patrick when he was yelling at me he started saying “my name is cari, i want a 500 dollar cell phone, a lap top, a flat screen in my room, a new car, a ticket back to washington, i want eveyrthing to revole around me” but the truth of the matter is, i never asked for any of those things, she asked me and i said sure, and the only reason why i said yesis because i’ve been sitting here for four months not doing a damn thing, hell i was in public school and now im home schooled, I just don’t know how to fix our relation ship, as much as I try i can’t. It hurt my feelings because he was gone on the weekend, and his birthday is today (tuesday) mine is on sunday, and ive never had a good birthday for three years i did nothing, the power went out one year, i baby sat one year, just holidays don’t go so well for me, but my mom seems to always forget my brithday. Last year she didn’t even get me a card because she forgot, and shes never spend a lot of money on me for my brithday. no presents arent everything but just hear me out, so this weekend i was happy because I was finally out of the house, and all she could think about was buying him expensive stuff at harley davison store and driving around all texas buying him stuff, and i was like…”mom my brithday is sunday ya know” and she goes, oh i totally forgot. I mean how does that make me feel? I know my mom, she has nothing up her sleeve, or anything I just don’t know what to do.
Sorry if NONE of this made any sense, and sorry if i just waisted about fifteen mintues of your time, if you don’t answer back I understand I’m just lost. We’ve been fighting for two whole weeks, I haven’t even been able to look at her stright in the face, and it never used to be this way. of all the hurtful things she and her boyfriend said its like i have nothing left to give
She has been drinking for 8 years. She is verbally abusive when drunk. I fear she will die before she gets help.
I’ve had interventions. She’s gone in rehab twice. All she does there is make friends to drink with.
I can put up with seeing her, but it seems pointless because all she does is verbally insult me, for example, I walk in without saying a word to her house, she’ll say, “Yes b—h… I’m f—ing drunk. Leave me alone.”
Most of the time she doesn’t even remember seeing me because she blacks out.
It hurts to see her.
It hurts not to see her.
I think maybe not seeing her until she gets help could be one more bit of motivation to get her to get help.
However I also think she could use it as an excuse to kill herself, the lonliness pushing her over.
Its the ultimate if it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.
I really want it to make her want to get help to be strong
I am in a state (MI) where families cannot force someone to be committed, otherwise I would try
She has been drinking for 8 years. She is verbally abusive when drunk. I fear she will die before she gets help.
I’ve had interventions. She’s gone in rehab twice. All she does there is make friends to drink with.
I can put up with seeing her, but it seems pointless because all she does is verbally insult me, for example, I walk in without saying a word to her house, she’ll say, “Yes b—h… I’m f—ing drunk. Leave me alone.”
Most of the time she doesn’t even remember seeing me because she blacks out.
It hurts to see her.
It hurts not to see her.
I think maybe not seeing her until she gets help could be one more bit of motivation to get her to get help.
However I also think she could use it as an excuse to kill herself, the lonliness pushing her over.
Its the ultimate if it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.
I really want it to make her want to get help to be strong
I am in a state (MI) where families cannot force someone to be committed, otherwise I would try
She has been drinking for 8 years. She is verbally abusive when drunk. I fear she will die before she gets help.
I’ve had interventions. She’s gone in rehab twice. All she does there is make friends to drink with.
I can put up with seeing her, but it seems pointless because all she does is verbally insult me, for example, I walk in without saying a word to her house, she’ll say, “Yes b—h… I’m f—ing drunk. Leave me alone.”
Most of the time she doesn’t even remember seeing me because she blacks out.
It hurts to see her.
It hurts not to see her.
I think maybe not seeing her until she gets help could be one more bit of motivation to get her to get help.
However I also think she could use it as an excuse to kill herself, the lonliness pushing her over.
Its the ultimate if it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.
I really want it to make her want to get help to be strong
I am in a state (MI) where families cannot force someone to be committed, otherwise I would try
My mom used to drink alcohol on an everyday basis to the point of being absurdly drunk. I’m 18 now, she was drinking from the day I was born up until I was 14, when she ODed on anti-depressants and drank a crapload of alcohol, causing her to end up in the ER on Christmas Eve.
When my mom got drunk, she would be verbally abusive and thank God she hasn’t gotten drunk since. When she ODed, she ended up going to a psychiatrist and thankfully she stopped drinking, her doctors advised her not to drink again – because it would just tempt her to start doing it again.
It’s been like four years since she’s drank, but she’s been progressively starting to drink again. She’ll have shandy’s (half beer, half sprite) and irish creame coffees (whiskey and coffee) everyday, aand she’ll make stupid remarks like, “We’ll need to get wine in for Christmas, since it’s a holiday I deserve a special treat.”
Everytime she says she wants to drink, I’ll be quick to tell her she won’t and she’ll get mad. Everyone in my family drinks, so I think she wants to do it just to fit in with them, I just don’t understand what to do. Am I overreacting? I’ve tried to sit her down and tell her, I’ve also discussed this with my sisters, I don’t think they understand, as they are very older then me, and didn’t deal with my alcoholism as much as I did.
Thanks to anyone who read this, please let me know what you think!!
My mom used to drink alcohol on an everyday basis to the point of being absurdly drunk. I’m 18 now, she was drinking from the day I was born up until I was 14, when she ODed on anti-depressants and drank a crapload of alcohol, causing her to end up in the ER on Christmas Eve.
When my mom got drunk, she would be verbally abusive and thank God she hasn’t gotten drunk since. When she ODed, she ended up going to a psychiatrist and thankfully she stopped drinking, her doctors advised her not to drink again – because it would just tempt her to start doing it again.
It’s been like four years since she’s drank, but she’s been progressively starting to drink again. She’ll have shandy’s (half beer, half sprite) and irish creame coffees (whiskey and coffee) everyday, aand she’ll make stupid remarks like, “We’ll need to get wine in for Christmas, since it’s a holiday I deserve a special treat.”
Everytime she says she wants to drink, I’ll be quick to tell her she won’t and she’ll get mad. Everyone in my family drinks, so I think she wants to do it just to fit in with them, I just don’t understand what to do. Am I overreacting? I’ve tried to sit her down and tell her, I’ve also discussed this with my sisters, I don’t think they understand, as they are very older then me, and didn’t deal with my alcoholism as much as I did.
Thanks to anyone who read this, please let me know what you think!!
My mom used to drink alcohol on an everyday basis to the point of being absurdly drunk. I’m 18 now, she was drinking from the day I was born up until I was 14, when she ODed on anti-depressants and drank a crapload of alcohol, causing her to end up in the ER on Christmas Eve.
When my mom got drunk, she would be verbally abusive and thank God she hasn’t gotten drunk since. When she ODed, she ended up going to a psychiatrist and thankfully she stopped drinking, her doctors advised her not to drink again – because it would just tempt her to start doing it again.
It’s been like four years since she’s drank, but she’s been progressively starting to drink again. She’ll have shandy’s (half beer, half sprite) and irish creame coffees (whiskey and coffee) everyday, aand she’ll make stupid remarks like, “We’ll need to get wine in for Christmas, since it’s a holiday I deserve a special treat.”
Everytime she says she wants to drink, I’ll be quick to tell her she won’t and she’ll get mad. Everyone in my family drinks, so I think she wants to do it just to fit in with them, I just don’t understand what to do. Am I overreacting? I’ve tried to sit her down and tell her, I’ve also discussed this with my sisters, I don’t think they understand, as they are very older then me, and didn’t deal with my alcoholism as much as I did.
Thanks to anyone who read this, please let me know what you think!!
I was wondering how I could get her committed????
I want to know how I can committ her to a rehab center. I’m 21, I don’t live with her.She drives drunk all the time and is very verbally and physically abusive to others.
She refuses to go to the doctor or admit she’s an alcoholic. She starts drinking as soon as she gets up and doesn’t stop until she goes to bed everyday. She hasn’t went a day without drinking in over 8 years. She thinks alcoholics drink hard stuff not beer and she usually only drinks beer.
she hasn’t been drinking for a while now, but every once in a while she’ll act act weird (sometimes as much as 3 days a week) it’s not like she’s acting drunk necessarily, but she acts like a totally different person. i have no idea why this is happening and i would really like some answers. if anyone has experienced this or something similar please let me know. i would also like to know if anyone has any ideas as to why this is happening.
she hasn’t been drinking for a while now, but every once in a while she’ll act act weird (sometimes as much as 3 days a week) it’s not like she’s acting drunk necessarily, but she acts like a totally different person. i have no idea why this is happening and i would really like some answers. if anyone has experienced this or something similar please let me know. i would also like to know if anyone has any ideas as to why this is happening.
My mom’s an alcoholic, and ever since i was little when shes drunk, she makes stupid faces sort of like twitching, and she also makes repetitive hand gestures. She pretty much curls her lip after every sentence, its weird. I haven’t seen other people do this when they’re drunk, and I’m just curious on why she does this. Thank you, to whoever can answer this.
the other night my mom went through a withdraw of alcohol. now i learned she is going to go to a rehabilitation center in florida(we live in michigan) for 6 weeks. me and my family can not have any contact with her, and shes going to be gone for christmas. i know i should be happy for my mother that she is treating her alcoholism, but i can’t help but to blame God. i really don;t think i can live without my mother for a month. i’ve even tried to write poetry.(i write when i’m depressed to get my feelings out) . and i wrote a poem that would normally help me with my struggles with God, but now i just feel bitterness towards it. how can i even trust God anymore? its really hard to know hes real. what do you think about this?
by the way heres the poem i wrote.:
(please don’t laugh at the corny-ness; i know its stupid)
When dreams are reaped
When few survivors stand tall
When love doesn’t last
When all you can do is fall
When depression is encouraged
When people fail to learn
When your candle fades away
When suicide is what you yearn
When faith is never returned
When hell seems to near
When you receive what you didn’t deserve
When unconditional love is what you fear
When anger has turned to regret
When solitude is your main goal.
When your Heaven becomes a knife
When your heart is weakened, destroying the soul
When everything seems like life has turned against you.
When you can’t control your thoughts.
When it gets harder and harder to breath.
When you find it is you, you have fought.
When God becomes your scapegoat
When hate knows you better than yourself
When you think you can control the addiction
When this pain is nothing you’ve ever felt
When you want to be content
When you can’t do it on your own
When your hate is being questioned
When you’re tired of being alone.
When this happens to you.
God will always see you through.
When you realize you’re trapped in this darkened pit
Your lantern will be lit.
ro j- i actually pray a lot.
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