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My mom has this “friend” that is a bit stalker-ish
she’s a drug (pain killer) addict, and my moms trying to get clean
and whenever she’s around “Kathy” it drives her crazy because she’s high all the time.
Kathy has been texting my mom, asking her if she could come over or talk

she’s said before, Tell me if you want me to stop calling you, and i’ll stop
i just want to talk to you about billy!
Hey i’m in town for billys doctor appointments, can i come over for a little while??
i’m just in town to pick up my meds, can i come over and talk?

she texts my mom almost every day with excuses
every time she calls my mom she anwsers with a NO.
kathy is not the victim in this. my mom is trying to start a new clean life
and kathy will not leave her alone..
she says over and over again “are you sure you want me to leave you alone”
and my mom says yes! leave me alone, please!

I just need to know what does she need to say to make her stop trying to talk her???
Yes, everything you guys have said my mom has tried.
ignoring her, telling her to stop calling,
and she WILL NOT listen to my mom.
i need to know what my mom can say to make her stop hassling her
for good.

if your neighbors below were constantly doing drugs. you smelt weed, chemicals and the perm solution smell along with burning plastic all the time sometimes the chemicals were very strong, would you report them to the police?? if you did and they started retaliating, would you move or what would u do??
yeah it old and it seems no one cares. then to top it off i have a tot and htey even have a baby. isnt that child abuse?

I’m 18 and my mom is kind of strict, I think.
All through high school I wasn’t allowed to have a cell phone. Just last month for my 18th birthday I got my first cell phone but my mom set it so that I can only make calls to her. I tried to buy myself one a few years ago but when she saw it she took it away.
I’m not allowed to get my license or have a car. I know that if I even tried to get my license she’d take it away.
I got a C+ in a class two years ago and I’m supposed to keep all B’s or higher.. even though it’s really all A’s because my mom gets mad if I get a B. My mom took away my laptop and never gave it back, even over breaks like summer. I just got it, too.
I’m always late arriving to school because I don’t have an alarm and my mom always sleeps in and forgets to wake me up. I’ve had so many tardies and I always get detentions because of it. But this year my school gives out fines instead of detentions for tardies, and it kind of sucks because my mom makes me pay them with my allowance.
My mom picks me up from school every day. I’m not allowed to get rides from friends and she always picks me up really late because she works in retail and can’t choose when her breaks are. School gets out at 2:30 and usually she’s there by 5 or 6. One time she didn’t pick me up until about 8:30 – 9 and I was the only one at school and I had to wait outside in the dark all alone and I had no phone to call her and ask where she was. My school is in a bad area, too.
Once she does pick me up I’m not allowed to go home. I mean, I can’t be home alone. So I always have to go to her work and do my homework in the break room. It used to not be so bad because they had a computer but when they found out I was going on myspace they blocked it. Same with facebook and just about any fun website. I can’t even go on instant messenger, so it’s really lonely in there. Sometimes I’l sneak phone calls though, but only if no one else is in the break room with me.
Usually I don’t get home until after 11, and then I’ll eat dinner. I usually don’t go to bed until about 3 if at all because I have to study. If I don’t keep good grades my mom will take away my dog. The only reason I got my dog in the first place was because I kept all A’s in middle school and that was my reward. The cell phone was my high school reward for my grades but my mom said I can’t call other people until I get all A’s. I don’t know what will happen if I don’t get all A’s by the end of the year, I probably won’t be able to call anyone else all summer, but once I go to college I can work to get all A’s and then get to call anyone.
I know she loves me but I’m really cut off from all my friends.
I’m not even allowed to hang out with my friends on the weekends, especially if she doesn’t like them. Then I can never see them, even if she has the wrong impression about them. Like my friend Mary. Mary’s sister used to be drug addict before she went to rehab, but even after she had gone to rehab my mom wouldn’t let me hang out with Mary because she thought that her sister could relapse at any time and then Mary would have access to her drugs. And she said Mary could become an addict too because addiction normally runs in the family. I guess she’s right, but Mary was my best friend at the time and I’m not even allowed to talk to her anymore. But if she does like my friends, I can go to big public places like the movies and she picks me up. Usually my curfew is nine or ten depending on how much she likes the person, but sometimes she lets me stay out really late until like eleven if I’m with my cousin.
She never lets me go to parties – even birthday parties and graduation parties and stuff, unless there is a parent or I let her go with me.
I’m not really allowed to date and when I give a boy my phone number I have to give them my mom’s because they can’t call me on mine. And when she answers they get all weirded out. She scares them too. One time my boyfriend called me during finals week and she told him to break up with me because he was a distraction and to never call her phone again. But I didn’t even know at the time because she didn’t tell me he even called and I have no other way to contact him. She usually doesn’t tell me if a boy calls and if a friend calls that she doesn’t like she won’t tell me either.
Even when I was dating my boyfriend – he broke up with me because of her – she would follow us on our dates. If we went to see a movie, she would sit in the row behind us though, so at least she wasn’t right next to us. And when we would walk around after she would walk a few feet behind us.
Since I can’t use the computer in her break room anymore, I use proxies on the library computers sometimes to go on myspace. But when she found out I had one because a friend accidently mentioned it in the car, she demaded to see everything on it and then deleted it.
Despite my good grades I’m not allowed to leave home. I have to go to community college next year.

I’m 18 and my mom is kind of strict, I think.
All through high school I wasn’t allowed to have a cell phone. Just last month for my 18th birthday I got my first cell phone but my mom set it so that I can only make calls to her. I tried to buy myself one a few years ago but when she saw it she took it away.
I’m not allowed to get my license or have a car. I know that if I even tried to get my license she’d take it away.
I got a C+ in a class two years ago and I’m supposed to keep all B’s or higher.. even though it’s really all A’s because my mom gets mad if I get a B. My mom took away my laptop and never gave it back, even over breaks like summer. I just got it, too.
I’m always late arriving to school because I don’t have an alarm and my mom always sleeps in and forgets to wake me up. I’ve had so many tardies and I always get detentions because of it. But this year my school gives out fines instead of detentions for tardies, and it kind of sucks because my mom makes me pay them with my allowance.
My mom picks me up from school every day. I’m not allowed to get rides from friends and she always picks me up really late because she works in retail and can’t choose when her breaks are. School gets out at 2:30 and usually she’s there by 5 or 6. One time she didn’t pick me up until about 8:30 – 9 and I was the only one at school and I had to wait outside in the dark all alone and I had no phone to call her and ask where she was. My school is in a bad area, too.
Once she does pick me up I’m not allowed to go home. I mean, I can’t be home alone. So I always have to go to her work and do my homework in the break room. It used to not be so bad because they had a computer but when they found out I was going on myspace they blocked it. Same with facebook and just about any fun website. I can’t even go on instant messenger, so it’s really lonely in there. Sometimes I’l sneak phone calls though, but only if no one else is in the break room with me.
Usually I don’t get home until after 11, and then I’ll eat dinner. I usually don’t go to bed until about 3 if at all because I have to study. If I don’t keep good grades my mom will take away my dog. The only reason I got my dog in the first place was because I kept all A’s in middle school and that was my reward. The cell phone was my high school reward for my grades but my mom said I can’t call other people until I get all A’s. I don’t know what will happen if I don’t get all A’s by the end of the year, I probably won’t be able to call anyone else all summer, but once I go to college I can work to get all A’s and then get to call anyone.
I know she loves me but I’m really cut off from all my friends.
I’m not even allowed to hang out with my friends on the weekends, especially if she doesn’t like them. Then I can never see them, even if she has the wrong impression about them. Like my friend Mary. Mary’s sister used to be drug addict before she went to rehab, but even after she had gone to rehab my mom wouldn’t let me hang out with Mary because she thought that her sister could relapse at any time and then Mary would have access to her drugs. And she said Mary could become an addict too because addiction normally runs in the family. I guess she’s right, but Mary was my best friend at the time and I’m not even allowed to talk to her anymore. But if she does like my friends, I can go to big public places like the movies and she picks me up. Usually my curfew is nine or ten depending on how much she likes the person, but sometimes she lets me stay out really late until like eleven if I’m with my cousin.
She never lets me go to parties – even birthday parties and graduation parties and stuff, unless there is a parent or I let her go with me.
I’m not really allowed to date and when I give a boy my phone number I have to give them my mom’s because they can’t call me on mine. And when she answers they get all weirded out. She scares them too. One time my boyfriend called me during finals week and she told him to break up with me because he was a distraction and to never call her phone again. But I didn’t even know at the time because she didn’t tell me he even called and I have no other way to contact him. She usually doesn’t tell me if a boy calls and if a friend calls that she doesn’t like she won’t tell me either.
Even when I was dating my boyfriend – he broke up with me because of her – she would follow us on our dates. If we went to see a movie, she would sit in the row behind us though, so at least she wasn’t right next to us. And when we would walk around after she would walk a few feet behind us.
Since I can’t use the computer in her break room anymore, I use proxies on the library computers sometimes to go on myspace. But when she found out I had one because a friend accidently mentioned it in the car, she demaded to see everything on it and then deleted it.
Despite my good grades I’m not allowed to leave home. I have to go to community college next year.

I’m 18 and my mom is kind of strict, I think.
All through high school I wasn’t allowed to have a cell phone. Just last month for my 18th birthday I got my first cell phone but my mom set it so that I can only make calls to her. I tried to buy myself one a few years ago but when she saw it she took it away.
I’m not allowed to get my license or have a car. I know that if I even tried to get my license she’d take it away.
I got a C+ in a class two years ago and I’m supposed to keep all B’s or higher.. even though it’s really all A’s because my mom gets mad if I get a B. My mom took away my laptop and never gave it back, even over breaks like summer. I just got it, too.
I’m always late arriving to school because I don’t have an alarm and my mom always sleeps in and forgets to wake me up. I’ve had so many tardies and I always get detentions because of it. But this year my school gives out fines instead of detentions for tardies, and it kind of sucks because my mom makes me pay them with my allowance.
My mom picks me up from school every day. I’m not allowed to get rides from friends and she always picks me up really late because she works in retail and can’t choose when her breaks are. School gets out at 2:30 and usually she’s there by 5 or 6. One time she didn’t pick me up until about 8:30 – 9 and I was the only one at school and I had to wait outside in the dark all alone and I had no phone to call her and ask where she was. My school is in a bad area, too.
Once she does pick me up I’m not allowed to go home. I mean, I can’t be home alone. So I always have to go to her work and do my homework in the break room. It used to not be so bad because they had a computer but when they found out I was going on myspace they blocked it. Same with facebook and just about any fun website. I can’t even go on instant messenger, so it’s really lonely in there. Sometimes I’l sneak phone calls though, but only if no one else is in the break room with me.
Usually I don’t get home until after 11, and then I’ll eat dinner. I usually don’t go to bed until about 3 if at all because I have to study. If I don’t keep good grades my mom will take away my dog. The only reason I got my dog in the first place was because I kept all A’s in middle school and that was my reward. The cell phone was my high school reward for my grades but my mom said I can’t call other people until I get all A’s. I don’t know what will happen if I don’t get all A’s by the end of the year, I probably won’t be able to call anyone else all summer, but once I go to college I can work to get all A’s and then get to call anyone.
I know she loves me but I’m really cut off from all my friends.
I’m not even allowed to hang out with my friends on the weekends, especially if she doesn’t like them. Then I can never see them, even if she has the wrong impression about them. Like my friend Mary. Mary’s sister used to be drug addict before she went to rehab, but even after she had gone to rehab my mom wouldn’t let me hang out with Mary because she thought that her sister could relapse at any time and then Mary would have access to her drugs. And she said Mary could become an addict too because addiction normally runs in the family. I guess she’s right, but Mary was my best friend at the time and I’m not even allowed to talk to her anymore. But if she does like my friends, I can go to big public places like the movies and she picks me up. Usually my curfew is nine or ten depending on how much she likes the person, but sometimes she lets me stay out really late until like eleven if I’m with my cousin.
She never lets me go to parties – even birthday parties and graduation parties and stuff, unless there is a parent or I let her go with me.
I’m not really allowed to date and when I give a boy my phone number I have to give them my mom’s because they can’t call me on mine. And when she answers they get all weirded out. She scares them too. One time my boyfriend called me during finals week and she told him to break up with me because he was a distraction and to never call her phone again. But I didn’t even know at the time because she didn’t tell me he even called and I have no other way to contact him. She usually doesn’t tell me if a boy calls and if a friend calls that she doesn’t like she won’t tell me either.
Even when I was dating my boyfriend – he broke up with me because of her – she would follow us on our dates. If we went to see a movie, she would sit in the row behind us though, so at least she wasn’t right next to us. And when we would walk around after she would walk a few feet behind us.
Since I can’t use the computer in her break room anymore, I use proxies on the library computers sometimes to go on myspace. But when she found out I had one because a friend accidently mentioned it in the car, she demaded to see everything on it and then deleted it.
Despite my good grades I’m not allowed to leave home. I have to go to community college next year.

When I was about 8 years old, my mom decided one child wasn’t enough and decided to adopt a 2 year old boy. He was a horrible little brat. He swore at her and my grandma multiple times, pulled my hair, behaved nasty to every one when he didn’t get his way, and abused me and my mom physically and my mom, emotionally.

While growing up with him, I learned to avoid his mischievous behavior from stealing toy cars from his kindergarten class and little things like that. He still was very nasty to my mom but loved my dad. I was pretty much in the background because he was such a hassle to take care of but I was about 12 by the time and knew how to take care of myself somewhat.

We moved when I was 14 and I was going to start high school. He started to run away and take things from my parents. He’s screamed at my mom and told her she was an attention-whore and almost punched her. He was verbally and emotionally attacking my mom and my dad was at work all the time so he wasn’t there for most of it. He then made it so worse that he manipulated my dad to move out with him and leave my mom and I alone. It was really bad. But I didn’t know the real reason why he moved out until recently.

Now, we have moved again and I am 20 years old and going to college, my brother 14, and he started drinking, smoking pot, chewing tobacco, disrespecting the house and my mom, trying to get my dad to move out again and leave my mom, and I’m in the middle of all of this. Just about 3 weeks ago, he got arrested for drinking, hanging out with gang members, and peeing in public. He’s in a substance abuse hospital and he’s claiming to my dad through phone calls that he’s getting better. Before all of this, he said he was fine and didn’t need help.

My mom has now wrapped herself in her own misery and is blaming my dad and I that we weren’t there for her and we’re not doing enough for her. I was there for her when my dad left and helped her recover from the tragedy. I was hurting too but it doesn’t seem to bother her that I have feelings too. She screams at me when I tell her how I feel and she makes me feel like I’m not important to her. She blames my dad for not protecting her and being a “united front” with her to protect her from her horrible mistake of adopting my brother. She yells at me, saying I don’t appreciate her and the things she’s done for me and that I don’t do anything for her. She’s making me feel like I am nothing and that I have don’t everything to make her unhappy.

I feel like I’m not good enough, lonely, and unimportant. She thinks my dad and I are plotting against her because we’re spending more time with each other. We don’t want to spend time with her because she’s always stuck on my brother and how he’s treated her and that she has to do EVERYTHING. I don’t know what to do any more. She is so self-absorbed and claiming that my dad and I are selfish and self-absorbed and pretty much saying “woe is me”.

I’ve asked to help her and she turns me down. I’ve asked her to go out to lunch with me and she turns it down. She claims I don’t do anything for her or with her when all I try to do is make her feel better! I don’t know what to do any more. I need help. She won’t go to a therapist because she thinks their loads of crap and she won’t let go of her past.

I’ve been thinking of moving out with my boyfriend and starting a new chapter in my life. But I don’t think I could get a good job and keep up with rent for the apartment. I’m stuck but I want to leave. I want to be happy again. I don’t want to be blamed for something I didn’t do. I’ve tried everything, and even my dad has been trying everything to make her happy again. But the only solution she wants is my brother to be dead.

my moms ben drinkin since before i can remember. shes 48 years old and has had 4 kids. shes never had a job for more than a month and she lives on the streets..i had to live with my grandma almost all my life until i turned 13 and my dad quit doin drugs so could live with him…my moms ben in and out of my life since before i can remember…a couple weeks ago was my 16th birth day and i got no phone call from her this was weird because thats normaly the 1 time a year i hear from her…so i made a few phone calls trying to find her and someone gave me a number, they also said that shes in wose shape then ever. i called her the next morning (thats the one time of day i can get her sober) i got hold of her and she told me she was going to rehab. Ive heard all of this before and i didnt believe her..later that day i called that number again hopeing she would have gone but nope she answered the phone drunk……..the reason im writing this is because im sick of the bull shit all i want is my mom to be better i dont know what 2 say to her she dosnt listen i feel like im not worth it 2 her.

The place we are having it is B.Y.O. alcohol. It’s a nice Italian restaurant so we thought it would be nice to bring wine. There will be about 20 people there who will be adults and able to drink. About how many bottles should I buy and of what kind… I know nothing about wine I don’t like it so if you also have suggestions on brands that would be great.

I’m only 15. I dont think I should have to deal with my own mom every night getting drunk and keeping me up too 12 at night. Lately, my mom is getting bigger bottles. She normally gets small bottles, and only drinks one a night but it’s getting worse. She went fucking berzerk one night when I didnt give her the other half of her drink (which she said at least 4 times before that she didn’t want) I ran in my room and locked the door and sat behind the door while she slammed herself into it and made dents in it. It lasted about an hour and I was scared to death. That happened only last week. Another time is when I had my friend sleeping over (this was a few eyars ago) and my mom was making stew (soup) and she was doing it drunk. Then I noticed she was walking back and forth to the kitchen to the bathroom so I got up and there was pools of blood everywhere. She cut her finger off while cutting the carrots. Then she had to go to th E.R. My parents are devoiced (has bin for about 7 years) and she had to drive by herself (I was so scared I didn’t think about calling someone to help) so me and my friend got into the her car and drove away. We live about 45 min from a hospital and at night. We almost crashed a number of times. I dont know why me and my friend went, but we thought we could keep her from driving off the road (which we did). Anyway, how can I get my mom to stop drinking so much every night? She doesn’t have health ensurence so she can’t go to rehab. Do you know what I can do? I dread when it becomes night time and she takes her first shot. I know whats comeing and I hate it. She starts at 7 so its way to early to go to bed. Help? :(

My mom has been an alcholic since i was 7, and now i am 14 almost 15. She is mentally ill from the alcohal. I told her I wouldn’t ever talk to her until she got into an AAA program. Me, thinking that was nearly impossible thought I would never have to talk to her again. Now, she is in one, and I still dont want to talk to her. Is this wrong? What should I do about it?

I was thinking some kind of wine or gin and tonics, what do moms like?

My name is Jennifer and my mommy’s name is Brenda. I’m sixteen years old. I just want to write something on her wall not just like hey mom i love you, something a little more than that. She was basically both parents for fourteen years. My dad was an alcoholic ( he’s sober and there for me now though) She knows she means the world to me but i just want to remind her that i love her and thank her for always being there and doing EVERYTHING for me.

i’m16 how do i deal with this her drugs ruined our family personally i don’t know if i should be upset about it or glad shes getting help i mean she missed my birthday not even a card and i had to call her thats when i found out about the rehab thing dad kicked her out when i was little now she lives in flordia while me dad and cody all live in va i just don’t know how i should or what i should say or how to cope with this (i was a cutter in the past and i’m trying not to start again) i just need advice thanks for lisning

Ok, well my mom was actually sober (from what I know) for ALMOST a week. Well today and yesterday she had a mental break down and started drinking again. She was sooo angry and couldn’t stop trying to fighting with me. I had the hardest time not fighting back, but its not worth trying to talk sense into an intoxicated person. But from the couple days she was ok I started thinking. If she ever does stop drinking how can I just listen to her like nothing she did ever happened? How can I learn to just look past it? Because in that 5 days she didn’t drink she started acting like a mother (kinda meaner though because she wasn’t drinking.) I felt really angry. I just wasn’t use to it. How am I suppose to develop a relationship with her? I don’t even know if I like her as a person because in the past couple years I haven’t seen her sober for more than max. 2 weeks. I mean when she was ok and was actually in a decent mood I still felt like I didn’t know her. Like who is my mother? How can I even accept her as a mother after seeing her like this? How can I look up to someone and respect them when they do this to themselves? I just am really scared about the future. Tomorrow she might wake up and not drink or go on a drinking binge for the rest of the month. I don’t know how I am even suppose to start getting to know her. Whenever I get close to her she screws up again and drinks. And I can’t tell her anything because when she drinks she just uses it against me. She might just continue to drink for the rest of her life so should I ever get to know her? I’m just so confused…
she won’t go to meetings…and I can’t be driven to meetings either. Also, 2 years ago I had to stop “family therapy.” She has been to rehab 3 times and is not willing to go back. I’m just stuck and I hate it!
last time I talked to her right after she started drinking? How to avoid that?

He drives down the road looking out the front window looking at the clouds for Gods face, also everything we do he incorporates Jesus into. He told our preacher he seen his face in the clouds, and the preacher was like…….Psycho!!!! He also looks down on my mom for smoking, cause he swears it will pollute his so called “perfect” body!! But yet two years ago he was a CRACKHEAD!!!! Now instead of being addicted to drugs, He is addicted to Jesus, ( not saying i am astheies, but he is psychiotic!!!! How do i get this hippocrite to stop!!!

Ok, today on Oprah they were discussing the “truth” about motherhood. I’m the first to admit that I am no June Cleaver. Sure I’ve stayed up at night crying my eyes out along with my son (when he was an infant) at 5 a.m. b/c he was still awake. We all have our moments. However, I’m somewhat appalled at some of these mother’s confessions. One being that she peed in one of her kids diapers b/c she didn’t want to get the kids out of the car to go into a restroom. Another being they didn’t shower for several days. Come on….aren’t mother’s a little more than nasty, smelly slobs??? Sure, we all may heat up a TV dinner from time to time and call it a meal, but lets get real, mom’s deserve more credit than this. The whole show was filled with story after story that made moms seem a step lower than partying frat guys who have been on a three day drinking binge. So, what do you think?
I guess I should add that the whole thing was presented in a comedic light, that just bugs me that we don’t have higher standards than this and that people actually admit to it. I’m sorry, I just don’t find it funny, it’s just sad. I know that us mom’s can never have enough time or hands, but come on.

Ever since i could remember my mom has gone out partying almost everyweekend and came home drunk!
she also drinks during the week like 3 or 4 times.. and shes a mean drunk.
i know that writing this on here is stupid but i dno what to do!
she smokes wayy to much and drinks obsessivley. she pushed me into a wall once and always calls me a bitch when shes drunk. i cry and sometimes even wish that all this would kill her.
i drink to like on weekend with my friends but i dont go into her room completley smashed calling her a bitch and blahhh this is hard!!
is mom an alcoholic or am i just confused?

HISTORY:: My mom has been an alcoholic all my life… I remember when i was little I used to go to AA meetings with her, and I even remember how i couldnt see her cuz she was in drug rehab.
NOW: She’s supposably been sober for 3 months now, but the other day i went to go put my towel in her laundry basket and there was a COOLER inside. So i opened the cooler and there were water bottles with wine in them.
Then on xmas…my sister was acting all b*tchy, so my mom told her to take one of her tranquilizers? um…wow.
so now my moms drinking and taking tranquilizers? why?
I know she just got a new job and shes very stressed out about it… but shes just hurting herself more and more… I hate seeing her like this. I dont LIVE with her, but when i do visit her, it makes ME upset.
It is very hard for me to tell her this, and so i havnt said n e thing to her. I dont know what to do or what to say.
I need some advice. If AA isn’t going to help her…what WILL!?!?

It has lasted 10+ years and included domestic violence, ive considered rehab centers…help please