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My step kids mom is a coke addicted useless bartender. She is not financially responsible for these kids. She gets them on the weekends. She beats her other smaller kids as does her husband. She left coke straws where her stepdaughters baby could find one and play with it. Her kids have found drugs in her purse and in her laundry. She doesnt spend time with them doing anything for them. She doesnt read to them, help them with homework, have rules, or anything. The twins are like 9 now and already have had police called on them and are dysfunctional at best. Why is it then that my step son in particular sticks up for her? She doesnt do anything to help us out, nothing for anyone but herself. WTF!!! I pray daily that she would overdose and do the world a favor.

My mom is a drug addict who doesnt love herself and neither of her seven kids. I think she just gave birth to collect money. My father doesnt care what any of us do. When i’m with brandon it feels so right. I also think I have alot of jealous people in my family because they never experienced the love we have, so they try to sabatage my relationship. Brandon brings these facts to me everytime something goes wrong. Now I live with Brandon and couldnt be more happier until my family puts there two cents in my life. I’m a grown woman who knows what I want, but its hard sometimes when all they do especially my mom opens her mouth and try’s to ruin everything? So should I just chalk my family up as a loss and do my own thing? more info about this is, my mom is divorced and lives a horrible life!!! maybe she is jealous?? what do you think?

just abuse even though my grandmother raised me she was just as mean as my mother. Honeslty out the too. I would say my grandmoter was the worst she did the nastiest thing. I think my mother WOULD NEVER DO. Anyway one day I asked my grandmother can she ask my mother why she dont love me or treat me so cruel, my grandmother said in a nasty tone you ask her yourself. My grandmother knew I was so, so scared of my mother even just to talk to her. me and my mom never talked I dont know why.

Now my mother is dead and I dont regret asking her, cause I was scared I just wanted to know why didn’t my grandmother wanted to do that for me, and why was she just as mean to me. Do you think she was mean to my mother. I heard my grandmother took me away from my mother so she can always have a check. My grandmother was a drug addict real bad. but why did my mother treated me so bad also.
thanks too the both of you. Anon that was pretty deep.

I love my x fiance very much..and i know in my heart he loves me..We ended in a bad break up which a lot of his family had to do with…His family was making thier 20 year old son run a business and deal with his dads alcoholism..in a lot of ways he was the parent of the household. I saw how this was bringing him down for hte last 8 months so i told him enough was enough…his parents began to get sneaky and my fiance could not see it…so his mother basically persuaded him to dump me…without actually saying dump me if that makes sense..and now his whole family has teamed up against me…i flipped out on him bc he hurt me so much..right now my grandma is in the hospital and he hasnt asked me at all how she is doing…i havent talked to him in 3 days but he has left me 3 messages saying he loves me at least every day…i love him and i think we both need space..bc i dont know how to make us work right now and i want to wait before i talk to him…not that he has tried to call me or anything really to appologize for dumping me without an explanation. I did get pretty mean with him and said terrible things only bc i wanted to protect him…how do i get him back and how long do u think it will take for him to contact me?

just abuse even though my grandmother raised me she was just as mean as my mother. Honeslty out the too. I would say my grandmoter was the worst she did the nastiest thing. I think my mother WOULD NEVER DO. Anyway one day I asked my grandmother can she ask my mother why she dont love me or treat me so cruel, my grandmother said in a nasty tone you ask her yourself. My grandmother knew I was so, so scared of my mother even just to talk to her. me and my mom never talked I dont know why.

Now my mother is dead and I dont regret asking her, cause I was scared I just wanted to know why didn’t my grandmother wanted to do that for me, and why was she just as mean to me. Do you think she was mean to my mother. I heard my grandmother took me away from my mother so she can always have a check. My grandmother was a drug addict real bad. but why did my mother treated me so bad also.

This person was abandoned by the father at age 3 and the mother would not have survived where it not for her father and her siblings who help support of them. This person turns out to be a drunkard, and is a drug addict. He has all the vices you can think of. How can we forgive? He is dangerous and his presence is a pain in the ass.

her mother constantly bugs about me telling her that I’m not right for her. she insist that she should patch things up with her baby’s father but he is a drug addict who is currently serving time in jail. she tells me she want not to do with the loser. I need avdvice she is twenty-three and I’m 38

The new show on A&E called “The Cleaner” ,starring Benjamin Bratt as William Banks. Anyways there is a song at the end of episode 3 “The Joneses” about a mother addicted to Oxycontin. The chorus goes…. “Hey what are you going to say.. what are you going to do when it’s all said and done..” Kind of a sad slow song. If someone knows the artist and the name of the song it would be greatly appreciated…..
Thanks
It is sung by a female.

Will Obama help them take more of our freedom away?

Even if it’s kind of a problem, but not really; she drinks a lot but doesn’t get drunk a whole lot?

I have been with a girl for over a year now. I do everything for this girl. She treats me & her mother really bad at times & she treat her friends like gold. Especially when she is wanting her fix. She has a major drug and alcohol problem. She disappears for hours at a time doing drugs with her friends. She runs to the bad part of town aka drug city. Its hard telling what she is doing for these drugs. She has very little money. Me and her mother are the only ones who really care & support her. I cant stand this stuff. Will this get any better? I do love her or I would have left along time ago. I have given her chances to change many times. She promises to stop but starts it all back up a week or two later. I have not talked to her in two weeks. I have been ignoring her texts and calls. I am so mad & hurt. I just don’t think she will ever change. She has already been to rehab a few times in the past for drugs. Her mom said it didn’t help much. She was off drugs for a few weeks then right back on them. Should I keep on ignoring her & move on?

I have been with a girl for over a year now. I do everything for this girl. She treats me & her mother really bad at times & she treat her friends like gold. Especially when she is wanting her fix. She has a major drug and alcohol problem. She disappears for hours at a time doing drugs with her friends. She runs to the bad part of town aka drug city. Its hard telling what she is doing for these drugs. She has very little money. Me and her mother are the only ones who really care & support her. I cant stand this stuff. Will this get any better? I do love her or I would have left along time ago. I have given her chances to change many times. She promises to stop but starts it all back up a week or two later. I have not talked to her in two weeks. I have been ignoring her texts and calls. I am so mad & hurt. I just don’t think she will ever change. She has already been to rehab a few times in the past for drugs. Her mom said it didn’t help much. She was off drugs for a few weeks then right back on them. Should I keep on ignoring her & move on?

If a person grew up in a broken home with an absent father and drug addicted mom who was a prostitute. Will they know REAL LOVE when they see it. This guy I know is very bitter and he had a rough life. He had a child at 15 and was abusing his child’s mom as well. He seems to have difficulty showing love and compassion. Is it possible that he just doesn’t recognize REAL LOVE or his view of love differs from the correct way to show love way ?
This guy is 21 now !

CAN ANYBODY HELP !! ???

I’m 17 and I’m considering breaking up with my girlfriend Brooke. She is a drug addict and I’m sick of her drug use and lying about getting clean. She got pregnant and i was so excited and happy. She was in rehab and i got her out of rehab after she promised to never harm our baby with drugs. She later told me she had been using marijuana cocaine and heroin to calm down. She also told me how she felt unattractive. I told her she had to change for the baby and to quit using drugs and to stop lying to me. She promised she would and went back into to rehab. Yesterday she got an abortion without telling me. We had been arguing about an abortion she wanted one because she was afraid about no being a good mother because of the drugs. While i wanted her to keep the baby and to keeping rehabbing her addiction. She told me the baby was already damage and she made the right decision. I love her so much but I’m tried of the drugs and i am mad about the abortion and saddened by the loss of our baby. Should we break up or not?

My boyfriend of 3 yrs. knows my deepest darkest secrets. I fell in love with him because he was my best friend .We shared everything. I had never been in love before, and I am 44. Here’s the question….due to circumstances beyond our control….long story …..my ex and child custody….etc…. We had to break up.
Now he threatens me …that he will tell my family that my Dad sexually molested me for ten years…no one knows this but my ex, my sister, and him. What do I do? He says if I don’t come back to him, he will write my Mom, who is 74, a letter by email and tell her the truth. I never told my mother because she had enough pain in her life due to my father’s alcoholism and all. Why would he do this? Do you think he will? Should I wait and see? Should I tell my Mom first? My Dad is 78 now and on a feeding tube. He had cancer and radiation and all the rest. I don’t know what my parents will do…it could cause them a heartattack or something. I don’t condone it.
By no means! I dealt with it as a child and buried it down deep. It started to bother me at 29 and I told my sister/husband. They never told anyone. So WHY would he threaten me with this? Desperate? I am afraid everyday that he will email my parents. Then my 3 kids will know. And I don’t want them to have bad memories of their grandfather right before he passes, if he does. Am I paranoid? Is he bluffing? What do I do? He is so angry right now that I had to choose my l2 yr. old daughter over him because of child custody stuff…but it is only temporary. I tried to explain we can get back together when all the court papers are signed. He can’t live with me now. Help
I love him. I really do. I think he is just insecure and afraid of losing me. He said if he had to hurt, so should other people. My mother has never met him. We live five hundred miles away from them. I live in another state with my daughter for now. We have been here 3 months. And he thinks that is too long to be apart.
my mother is a retired school teacher so she does know alot about the computer. She still has her right mind. She is in good shape except for rhuematoid arithritis. My Dad has his mind also and gets around pretty good..he drives.

My son (who thank God willingly went into rehab for a couple of weeks and is coming home on Monday) is just getting clean and is about to come home and i want to make sure that he is coming home to the most supportive and healthy envrioment. As an addict in recovery for over 8 yrs myself i know that an addict always ends up poisining there enviorment and the people around them end up becoming as sick as they are. As a parent it has been especially hard to not become an enabeler to my childs addiction, to not listen to the overwhelming desire within me that screams out for me to protect him and save him from the consequences of his poor choices and to follow my motherly instinct that drives me to want to fix everything and save him from every ounce of pain he might ever feel but thats not reality and it’s not the way to help him and while my mind knows that my heart doesnt. It is incredibly painful to stand back and just watch him go through so much unnecissary pain. So i while i go to therapy, he’ll start therapy now and we’ll also start family therapy i still felt like i needed something like an alanon to help me to have daily support to not enable and to get through the daily pain of possible relapse and the mainpulation of an addict, especially when that addict is your teenage son that knows his mother loves him desperatly and who has often used that love as a weapon against me. The problem with the idea of Alanon was that when i looked it up online it was strictly about drinkig. Now i know for me personally when i went to AA meetings i just substituted the words drinking for the word “drugging” in my mind because AA helped me stay clean but i emailed Alanon and they said they would not allow someone in there group that wasn’t dealing with an alcholic that they felt that might “stir up issues for other memebers” What the heck does that mean??? Also i was hoping they might have chat rooms or someting because i cant get to meetings due to being a single mom, having another child who is severly autistic and transportation issues. Anyone out there have any ideas or info?

I’m 25, she’s 51. I’m married, and blame my self for her problem. It has just gotten bad in the last 2 years. I lived with them (she’s still married to my dad) for the last year while my husband was deployed. I think that my son age 3 drove her farther than she was, but it was my fault for being there.
2 weeks ago I gave her the whole you need to stop and look at your self, your turning into the rest of your family lecture. Well she did slow down. Then Saturday night she was so drunk leaving a party she wrecked and didn’t even know it. I give her credit she don’t start drinking till late night, but she abuses it. Almost every night. I can’t name a day in the last 5 years she hasn’t smoked pot. (that’s at night too).
I don’t know what to do, she keeps my kids 1 day 1 week, and 2 days the next week, but only for 3 hours.
I’m torn about what to do. THIS IS MY MOM! I LOVE HER! BUT I DON’T WANT HER TO KILL HERSELF OR ANYONE ELSE FOR THAT MATTER!!!
To make all this worse I’m a nurse. I should have the answers here, but I don’t! I don’t know what to do! I’m ranting here more than asking for advise. I usually rant on my myspace, but since she reads that, ERH!
Let me add, that she has 2 brothers and 1 sister. ALL are pot heads, and both brothers are SERIOUS alcoholics!!! (One has been to several rehabs, the other has been in jail for several years, he’s been out now about 3 years) They all claim that there is a “genetic link” causing their addictions. Let me also add, that 3/4 have great degrees! Mom is an accountant, sister is CPA (accountant), and 1 brother is a Cad’s drafter. I mean seriously, and if you don’t know her personally, she plays off perfectly that she is a “clean” person. She’s my best friend. We have the relationship that every mother/daughter want. But I’m about to start pulling out of it. IT HURTS

I have been with my man for 6.5 years. His daughter is 7, we recently got custody of her because her mom is a drug addict and is now in prison. We always spent time with her growing up but now more and more she is getting on my nerves; that she is around all the time and bugging and comes to me rather than her dad for everything, she doesnt listen, has no respect, no common sense. Him and I talk about it but it is hard when we have only had her a year. I will not discipline her because she is not mine. Mainly if she was my kid, she would not be the way she is because she would’ve been raised differently. I want to be able to love her and be a good role model for her, and accept her for who and what she is, but it is so hard when I know that she was conceived by someone that is so sickening.
She is not mine. Should him and I have a child of our own as well, or do we just try to fix her and give her the family environment she always needed and if so HOW DO I DO IT AND KEEP MY SANITY!
he tried to get her (save her) years ago, it took this long going though the courts and paying thousands of dollars. Finally the mom got caught and the courts came to their senses.
I do not hate her…I simply do not want to be short with her or get so frustrated and feel like I would rather not do it at all. It is getting harder rather than easier and I dont know what to do about it.

A few nights ago, my girlfriend and I had a fight. We fought about us not being able to get a place together. She cries and leaves. Turns out, her father passed and she wanted to tell me, but because of our fight, she refrained. I went to her place to apologize where she then informed me of his passing.

I try to comfort her as we talk about his death. He had a 4th heart attack. Having experienced losing my father, I sympathize with her the best I can. It eases her to some degree, but not much.

However, she asked me if I loved her. I told her I liked her very much… We’ve only been together 3 months. I really liked her a lot, but that was an excuse I have learned to recognize.

It upset her when I told her, and I think I was being selfish. I asked a question previously, and a lady named Margaret K pointed out a few things that I didn’t recognize that I was doing.

My father died of alcoholism. My mother cheated on him and I didn’t want the same to become of me. I didn’t trust women for the longest time. I am 24, and this girl was my first girlfriend. I thought I was doing everything right by taking it slow. She is exactly like me in every way — I guess I was just scared.

I had a long talk with my mother about my father and her after Margaret K mentioned certain things I was doing. It felt really good — as if the world was removed from my shoulders. I learned to accept that things happen when you live life — just try to do your best and not let the mistakes of others dictate your future. It took me 24 years and the help of people on Yahoo! Answers to learn that.

For that, I thank you all. All of you. I do not let the past decide what I do for my future anymore. After realizing this, I became closer to my mother, and I am actually starting to enjoy life. I am not a p_ssed off person anymore. I feel absolute.

After talking with my mother, I wanted to do for my girlfriend what every Czech boy does for the girl he announces his love for: a cherry blossom held high above her head as he kisses her, preserving her beauty forever.

I bought a waxed-preserved cherry blossom to take to her. When I got to her place, she was kind of hesitant to talk to me. She actually just told me that I should just leave. I was feeling great, even though she told me to leave. I told her I had something to say, and she should listen.

I told her how I truly felt about my father and mother, and how I was afraid to end up the same. We talked about everything. It was about 3 hours before I was able to do what I came to do. When I did, I stood up and removed it from my hoodie.

She asked what it was, and I told her there is a Czech tradition that every Czech boy does for his girlfriend. I held it high above her head, and I kissed her for the longest time. Then, I handed her the blossom, told her beauty is preserved forever as the blossom is preserved within the wax. I then told her that I loved her.

I am not a sadist, but when she started crying, I couldn’t help but enjoy it. I don’t know. I guess it was because she was crying out of joy rather than sadness for a change. It has been pretty hard on her the last few days with the loss of her father. I don’t know.

But now, I feel like my skin is tightening around my bones. I feel so very scared to lose her now. I never thought I would actually be able to love a girl like I do her. She is just like me — we share more commonalities than the ocean shares with the sea. I know what she is thinking without her even telling me…same with her.

Did any of you feel the same when you announced your love? This is my first love, and I am more afraid to lose her than my own life. I feel so free, yet so attached… Is this a normal feeling? I know I am inexperienced, but it took me a long time to get here to this point.

Also, thanks to all of your for your help in all of my previous questions. I have gained more knowledge from you all than those dearest to me. For that, I thank you and am in your debt forever.