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My father is a severe alcoholic and it has recently come to my attention that he is more than likely abusing prescription medications (opiates) as well. On average I have seen him drink a 6 pack of bud and 2 22oz bottles every day, sometimes starting as early as 10 am and never waiting till after 5 pm. The other day I noticed that he didn’t drink at all but showed no signs or symptoms of withdrawal, seeing as how he has had this habit for well over 15 years I am wondering how this was possible or what else he took to keep from exhibiting any signs of detox. I am concerned for him but have long since learned that I cannot control his abuse, and now I am 9 months pregnant and living with him due to the recent loss of my mother. I am more concerned about how out of hand his addiction overall is and what harm this could bring to my daughter once I bring her home. I have already started looking at alternate living situations due to these concerns but in the mean time I would really like to know about how much danger we are in. I have caught him using “bath salts” that he purchased online and I know he gets a prescription of hydrocodone on a regular basis, on top of all the medications he has stolen from me (I was on xanax and percocet and am still getting prescriptions for them due to my own disability, I have discontinued the frequent use of these medications under a doctors supervision but am still prescribed them as needed- which he steals). I am fortunate that I can control my own addictions as well as I have been and not take the medications habitually to the point of addiction, but I can clearly see this is not the case with him. I am pretty well educated on substance abuse issues after having been on such highly addictive medications for over 10 years and also have a degree in social science with a minor in chemical dependency. I just don’t have first hand knowledge of alcoholism to this extent and am still an undergraduate so I don’t know what the chances are that this wouldn’t affect him greatly (going without the constant heavy usage of alcohol unless under the influence of another substance) or what could possibly hide the withdrawal of the alcohol that well. Any help is appreciated.

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
her boyfriend thats the babys father is in Boston, another state from us and the baby goes up there every few months fro a few weeks but she and him fight so they wont stay together for too long and she wont leave the baby up there b.c she doesnt want his father to have him. My sister wont hire a babysitter b.c shes too cheap and would rather have me do it b.c she doesnt “trust” anyone else. I cant hire one b.c i have no money

any examples?
like How i met your mother I was addicted to that but got tired of waiting for the mother

This is just a one off its for sports day

ok my sister (22) is my guardian and has been for about 11 months. She took me in when my past gaurdian my uncle james went back to his alcoholic addiction and started abusing me. My mother abandoned me at age 12 and i have no idea where she is. My sister is a CNA and works about 5 days a week. She goes out 6-7 days out of the week to the pub or club and has been non stop for 5 months. Her son (2) is with me for 12 hours a day. From the moment she leaves for work to the moment she comes back from the bar 230-3 am. I am 17 and a senior in highschool and i am watching a 2 year old boy all those hours 5 days a week. and when shes not working she still goes out and sometimes doesnt get home till 4 am. While shes out the baby doesnt sleep and i have to stay up and take care of him. ITs exhausting and my grades have suffered, ive failed my pre cal class. I only have a few months left before collage but i dont even think i can last that long with her. She uses me for a babysitter constantly and my social life and boyfriend are suffering. I cant go out and my bf and i have no privrate time b.c im always watching the baby. When ever i confront her she says i have an attitude and that if i dont like it i can leave, and that she pays the bills. I had to quit my job to watch her son, she cant pay the bills unless i watch him and i of course cant leave. It hurts when she says this since i have been in foster care and have heard that for years over and over. I feel like i dont have a home and i feel used. I cant argue with her about her alcoholism b.c she KNOWS shes an alcoholic and just wont do anything about it. I need some serious help please, sorry its so long..
im in CT im not in the city its more of a smaller town
Well ive chosen not to talk to the school couselors since im almost graduated and wanted to just wait it out but its getting too much for me to take. I could stay with my Bf or close friend but i dont want to put a financial and emotional strain on them and their families. Ive always been taught to stay with the family and help the family but my ENTIRE family has screwed me over. I have absolutly no family other than my sister to take care of me and my sisters son is so close to me i couldnt take someone taking him away.

She is going in and out of wanting to be left alone and then begins to see things and talk to herself. She came out of it last night and acted like the mother I know. Does this continue. She got dialisys because of a tumor growing near her kidney that she refused to have a biopsy on. Any info will help. Is it also common for a person to refuse food and drink. Do not sleep. We cannot take her to the doctors without permisson from her since she has no power of attorney. Sadly, I live in arizona and my mother in California. Here in Cali I have ten siblings and most of them do not help. I hope this never happens to other people.

Of all the actions that have been forbidden and declared sin in the bible, why is homosexuality one of the worst of them? Among homosexuality, the bible lists adultery, prostitution, alcoholism, libel, and swindling. In the old testament it is regarded along the same lines as sex with an animal, sex with one’s mother, sex with one’s aunt, and other things.

I define homosexuality to be sex with other consenting *human adults* of the same sex who are not relatives, or animals. The latter two are harmful to the parties involved in some way, or are harmful to the children that they have. However, in gay relationships no children can be produced, and with protection as much harm is likely to come as in a heterosexual relationship.

In a consenting relationship with human adults who are not relatives or animals…such a relationship causes no harm. Why is it, then, that homosexuality is considered especially detestable?

Based on a reference section in the back of my bible, there are MANY verses that refer to homosexuality, most of which *are* in the NT. They are as follows, read them and then read the rest of the question:

Leviticus 18:22, 20:13 —– 18:22 Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman. That is detestable….20:13 If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.

(By the way, this is kinda old, and it’s in the same book that forbids eating shellfish, but its classified under sexual immorality, with many things still considered immoral today…by our standards…so, idk ? Did Jesus say to omit this book or what?)

Romans 1:18-32 (most notably verse 27) 18The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
21For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.

24Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.

26Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.

28Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. 29They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

(What is “Due penalty for their perversion,” as defined by Paul?)

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexual immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10Nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of god. 11And that is what some of you ere, But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

(What does Paul mean by “Homosexual offender”? Does that mean someone who has sex with members of the same sex, or someone who consents within themselves that they want to have sex with members of the same sex?)

1 Timothy 1:9-11 9We also know that law is made not for the righteous, but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious; for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers, 10for adulterers and perverts, for slave traders and liars and perjurers -and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine that conforms to the glorio

My father has cirrhosis due to alcoholism. He drinks about 1L of vodka daily and probably eats about 500 calories worth of food. He has lost about 50lbs in the last year, and his face and arms are covered in lesions. His stomach is large, but the rest of him is skin and bones. He has drank heavily for the last decade, but his condition has really deteriorated over the last year. He also has Type II diabetes, but he stopped taking his medication. My question is how long can I expect him to live? He will not stop or slow his drinking. I am just worried about my mother and brother because they are in a horrible situation. My brother decided to wait to go to college because he did not want to leave my mom alone with my dad.
I am not trying to be cold. I spent years begging my father to stop drinking. He does not want to. He has stated several times that he has no desire to live and doesn’t care how anyone else feels. He refuses to see a doctor anymore. I just worry about the damage this is doing to my little brother.

Sharon is a 25-year-old woman brought to the emergency room by her boyfriend, who has become progressively more alarmed at her complaints, demands, and erratic behaviors. Her chief complaint to the staff is “I keep thinking about wanting to kill myself.” Sharon is a competent secretary, has her own apartment, and is self-supporting. She is also attending university classes in the evening because she wants to advance her education and does not “want to stay a secretary all her life.”
The current crisis began when her boyfriend, John, refused to consider her demands for marriage after a 2-year exclusive relationship. Sharon began to call him at work demanding more and more time, finally threatening to kill herself if he didn’t spend every evening with her. John reported that her demands, phone calls, and escalating threats were becoming intolerable and were making him want to break off the relationship entirely. On the evening John brought Sharon to the emergency room, he had told her that he had to go on a business trip and would be away for several days. Sharon insisted that he was doing this just to get away from her. She became severely agitated and began to talk wildly about killing herself. In the emergency room, Sharon angrily belittles her boyfriend in front of the staff and accuses him of using and then rejecting her. After physically separating the arguing couple, the staff is able to obtain a history of the progressive development of Sharon’s symptoms.
In response to the stress of the past several months, Sharon had developed fluctuating depressive moods, a tendency to oversleep (especially sleeping in the evenings and on weekends), and a tendency to binge eat that has resulted in a 20-pound weight gain. Sharon says she is constantly anxious and has been having increasing difficulty concentrating on her studies. She has continued to work throughout this stressful period, seeking support from those in her office. Attention from John or her co-workers produces a brightening of her mood that she is able to sustain while they are with her.
Sharon experiences her most severe symptoms when she is alone. These include prolonged fantasies about killing her boyfriend and a desire to hurt herself. She says that on several occasions she has cut her thighs with razor blades and describes watching herself do this as if from a distance, numb and dead inside and feeling little pain. Sharon says that at these times she feels fat and unattractive as well as completely unlovable and worthless. At such moments, she calls John on the phone and threatens to commit suicide unless he comes and keeps her company. John reports that she has also begun to lost control of her temper. For example, shortly before he brought her to the emergency room, she attacked him with her fists in the midst of an argument.
Sharon was the youngest of four children and one of two girls. Her parents separated and divorced when she was 3 years old because her father’s alcoholism and physical abuse of his wife and children. A family secret was that Sharon was sexually abused when she was 10 years old by a brother 5 years her senior.
In adolescence, Sharon associated with a rebellious group and became involved in drug abuse and early sexual behaviors to fit in. Sharon said that her mother attributed Sharon’s teenage rebellion to a need to “find a father” and that she thought Sharon had gotten “her sexual urges confused with wanting to be loved and cared for.” By age 16, Sharon had already embarked on the pattern of chaotic unstable involvements with men that continue to characterize her adult life.
Her first drug overdose occurred at age 17 in response to a perceived rejection by her boyfriend. A series of intense relationships followed this incident, each of which followed a similar pattern: Sharon would become progressively more clinging until she gradually alienated her partners. Each rejection was marked by a period of anger and self-abuse, followed quickly by a new and identical relationship. Sharon’s current boyfriend is only the latest in a long series of disappointing partners.

hey guys, im a 16 year old male. I have the classic, picturesque, suburb family. 2 brothers, me, and a sister and 2 parents (both work). My sister is an amazing basketball player (going to a division three school to play basketball) and gets good grades, and my whole family gets generally good grades. While my brothers are both involved in drugs, its sort of a taboo topic in my family, and not many know/talk about it. Also, there are rumors around school (taboo!) that my sister also smokes and drinks, but only rumors. I am the youngest, however, and am a very good kid! :)

every Saturday my mom drinks soooooo much wine….almost a whole bottle.
I HATE how she acts when she’s drunk, and always make sure to act cold and distant when she does.
so i got fed up and told her that i wouldn’t go to our spring break trip to Busch Gardens (the theme park) unless she promised not to drink.

she refused…as im sitting here writing this my sister, brother and mom are in Williamsburg, probably having a nice dinner without me…

Do you think it was stupid of me to miss out on the family trip, just for standing up to my ideals? My dad (who is the only one in my family who understands she has a problem) agrees with me, I think. He couldn’t go to because he has a new boss, and he can’t take off.

At the last minute, before they were about to leave, my mom said once more: are you coming? I said: no, unless you promise to stop drinking. She chuckled and walked away. I yelled at her that that wasn’t an unreasonable request and she said “yes it is!”

sorry, i know i sound like im ranting but I don’t know who to tell…can someone (anyone) just give me any input/advice they have on the situation? Also: do you think she honestly prefers her wine over my company? i told her: if you choose to drink, that means you like the wine/alcohol’s company over mine…do you think that that’s right…does she prefer the wine over me? or is she just as confused as i am?

do you think it shows weakness that my mom a) got addicted to begin with and b) decided not to get better and doom me to a spring break of boredom?

(last thought, I swear) I try not to let this get to me, however. None of it. I know who I am. An inspiring, smart, determined young man who will have a happy, successful life. I usually don’t let my friends in on my life, because I feel like my family’s shitty reputation will be put on me. One time, when I did, however, my dad said that I shouldn’t take family matters outside of the family (I think he’d get mad if he knew I was doing this, quite honestly).
so, people say that i should avoid it/ its her problem…

so should I have gone to Busch Gardens w/ my family? was that stupid of me?

Hi, I am engaged to a man who has a 10 yr old daughter who he has full custody of, and who visits her mom every other weekend. So, almost 5 years ago, I moved in, and had a wonderful relationship with my stepdaughter for years. Her mother wanted nothing to do with her, and wouldn’t spend any time with her on her visitations. We ended up taking (the daughter) to counseling because she was having anxiety attacks, and her mom was always moving, and she admitted that her mother was doing drugs in front of her. Her mother was IRATE, and that same year we filed for child support enforcement which made her even more mad. From that point on, her mom and her mom’s family started harassing us. By phone, on the internet, you name it. We just dealt with it. During this time, I was extremely stressed out about an on the job injury, lack of sleep, and infertility problems. I began taking ambien. One night a few years ago, I took my sleeping pill and went to bed. I woke up an hour later in a parking lot in a totalled car. I had no idea what happened. I called the police. I was charged with a DUI, and I went through court appointed treatment, lost my license, etc. Well, 6 months ago, I was in another accident that was cause purely by weather (it was snowing and icy, and the tires were bald) even after I got my license back, I still didn’t drive his daughter around. Also, she was never in any danger. Well, based on my last accident, she got a harassment/protective order and I was kicked out of my home. I didn’t have time to get an attorney because I got served the day before I was to appear in court. I have now been living separately from my fiance, and have had no contact with my stepdaughter for six months. The kicker is that my stepdaughter’s mother currently is trying to get a continuance on the 6mo order (the judge didn’t even read mine and my family’s affidavits) just put the order in place, and let her lawyer call me a train wreck and a drug addict. So, I’m getting ready to fight this continuance with an attorney, and my stepdaughter’s mother has a warrant for her arrest from a fraud case back in 2005 where she used her daughter’s identity to open a bank account, and someone else’s ss#.. the bank figured it out, and closed the account to investigate… meanwhile, she wrote $1200 in fraudulent checks on the account after it had been closed. Anyway, long story short… the woman has multiple fraud, theft (one was our counties little league association for more than $10k) and she is always in court for this stuff.. but no drug charge, although she admits to using illegal drugs and says she won’t stop, but has stopped doing them in front of her daughter.

So, long story short, I have not harassed these people. It has been her mother harassing me for years, and my stepdaughter loved me before all of this. The problems is, is that now she feels like joining her mother in ganging up on me is the only way to gain her mother’s approval…She has told her dad that, and her grandma. She doesn’t want me to come home because her mom will be mad, and so, she’d just rather not see me, and have to deal with it all. And, It’s likely that I’ll win the case, and get the whole thing vacated, but… now I’m9 weeks pregnant with this girl’s little brother or sister, and she has no idea. I don’t want to raise my child or be in a war zone in my own home. What do I do? Serious answers only please, and please read all of the question.
Stephanie, I’m not sure what you’re confused about, but everyone else seems to have gotten it. Please don’t abuse the system by posting your flippant opinion just to rack up your points.

Also, I would like to add.. My fiance and I would have been married long ago, but with my injury, and all of the drama, we decided to wait. And, I call her my stepdaughter because I was the only mother figure in her life for 4 years. My fiance is as supportive as he can be, but what can he do? She’s his daughter’s mother? I admit, he’s not as black and white as I am as far as setting boundaries, and he’s not a vindictive person. he can’t even argue without getting flustered. he is incapable of insulting someone, or proving a point. It’s weird… so I have fought a lot of this battle alone. But, should I just leave? Move closer to my family? How do I deal with this little girl when I move back in. I am resentful (I hate that) but I love her and feel sorry for her too. Her mom is cruel.

So, I am going to be a bartender at my friend’s bar, but I have absolutely ZERO experience. I am trying to learn drinks and think it’d be easier for me to study if I knew which drinks have similar recipes. I know that an adios mother and long island have similar recipes with a different splash of something. Also, I know a bay breeze is similar to other drinks as well. So can anyone help me?

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I can remember it like it was yesterday. It may have been weeks ago, but I still feel like it just happened. Everything this past year has gone by in a blur. My memory has been fuzzy. But this is the only clear memory I have.
You see, my parents had sent me to a 30-Day rehab center after several punishments and groundings for ditching, drinking, smoking pot, doing coke, ecstacy, and shrooms. My parents had always been the lienient type. But this time they were really cracking the whip down hard. I had been sent to Circle Tree Ranch, two weeks before summer started.
Finally, I was being released. My parents had drove to Tuscon to pick me up and bring me back to Phoenix, I had offered to take a train or a bus, but they insisted to pick me up. So I let them.
They were so excited to see me. It felt good to know they weren’t just doing it to be against me, they wanted to help me. I had decided to forgive them for everything they had done to me. I know I wasn’t perfect or anything but at that point I only thought they were out to get me.
We were in the car, all of us talking, exchanging stories. Sort of like a real family, I was happy about it, really happy we were actually bonding. I had never been so excited. That’s when it all went to chaos.
The truck struck us head on on the highway. My father had died instantly. My mother, three hours later. Me stuck in there for a day, just some cuts and bruises. I was banged up badly in the accident, but some how I wasn’t the one to go.
My parents did all they could to help me all my life, They always believed in whatever it was I wanted to do, always saying “Kadence, you can do anything you set your mind to.” Just like any other parent. But I was just rude, impolite and selfish to them. I never did anything for them and they died, while I get to live.
I’m always thinking how it should be me. I’m the horrible one in the family and I turn out to be ‘touched by an angel’ it makes no sense to me.

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I’ve been in Reno for two weeks now, with no other family except my brother it was my only choice. I’m living in a small two bedroom apartment with Trevor and his girlfriend Rachael Woods. They don’t seem to serious though. So I don’t know why they live together.
Rachael was kind enough to set me up with my room, she got me a new bed and furniture. She even decorated it to my liking. Of course, this was all before I showed up in the Little Biggest City, I would have never allowed her to spend any money on worthless little me. Trevor tells me she is rich. I guess her only uncle died a year ago and he invented some kind of product that made him into a billionaire. He had no kids, and Rachael was his little girl, so she ended up inheriting it all. She’s staying in Reno I guess because it’s her true home and she would prefer an apartment over a nice house.
My walls are chocolate brown, they actually look really good with the red and gold accents around the room. My dressers are cherry stained wood, I happen to love them. My huge bed also matches the room, silky sheets and everything. She must be rich.
Now I sit in the living room, watching some movie about a man who gets all big and turns green if he gets angry or his heart rate raises. Trevor walks in, “Hey baby sista’.” I smile and nod my head giving an uneasy wave. I haven’t seen trevor since I was eleven and he was eighteen. I’m now seventeen, and he is twenty four, so it is a little awkward.
Interupting my thoughts on the subject, he pulls a baggy out of his pocket and a pipe. My heart sinks into my stomach. He loads a bowl, takes a hit. The thick smoke pouring out of his lips makes my head spin. Boy do I wanna take a puff. I say to myself.
As if he is reading my mind he passes it to me, with the aromma of pot dancing around the small room I can’t help but take the pipe from him, just this one hit, and I won’t touch weed ever again.\He tosses me the purple lighter and I light the bowl sucking deep and long, I let the smoke fill my lungs and dance around inside me for several seconds before blowing it out. I pass the pipe back to Trevor and I’m high. Not too high, but high enough to make me hit it again, and again, and again until it’s gone. Right now I don’t care about anything, haven’t thought that i’m doing something wrong. And I haven’t thought about my parents. The only thing I’m thinking about is how great I’m feeling and how bad i’ve missed my good ole friend mary jay.
I love the calm feeling it gives you, the way it fills your mind will tons of thoughts and by the time you know it your overwhelmed with memories, ideas, and thoughts about whats going on. It is amazing to just sit and thing, and oh those munchies. Everything just tastes so much better when your high. Its like pot makes your taste buds stronger.
I spring from the couch, “Want a

My mother has been an alcoholic all my life and has verbally abused me my whole life (and a few occassions physically). I was always a well behaved kid and did well through school, spent a lot of time looking after the family and things because of her alcoholism. My father is a good man, but has a very very nasty temper so it was a volatile childhood. He won’t do anything to get her to get help and one day I snapped and gave her an ultimatum that if she didnt get help she wouldn’t see me again. (Yes I know it doesnt work, it was a spur of the moment thing) She did admit that she has a problem , but refused to get help and I don’t think she ever will. I cannot trust her because of it all and because throughout my life at “home” with them I had no privacy and was banned from talking to people about what happened at home, she even tried to ban my auntie from supporting me (my auntie told her to get stuffed thankfully). My emails were constantly hacked into, my cellphones read if I accidently left them around and my room searched through when I wasn’t home.

As far as I’m concerned I could never see her again and it wouldn’t be a problem, we have no relationship but because she can’t remember anything when she wakes up the next morning from the nights before etc, she doesn’t think she’s been a bad mother and thinks Im just a horrible vindictive person.

I’m 19 now, moved out of home at 17 ….and yet I’m still battling this every single day.

I just want to know if that after all I have been through (and I haven’t explained it all here by any means) should I just forgive her for being who she is, or is it understandable that I can’t?
It’s a relief to see that people actually understand what I’m getting at.

I live in New Zealand and its a lot more difficult to get help here with things like AA and that. Not because we are a little hopeless country or anything, just because we tend to hold a “she’ll be right” attitude a lot and everyone is too proud to ask for help. Which makes it hard when you want to scream at the top of your lungs for help!

Thanks for your advice, I have no idea what I will do (probably nothing as it would put more stress on that I couldn’t cope with right now)…but at least I know that people know how it feels…

My mother has been an alcoholic all my life and has verbally abused me my whole life (and a few occassions physically). I was always a well behaved kid and did well through school, spent a lot of time looking after the family and things because of her alcoholism. My father is a good man, but has a very very nasty temper so it was a volatile childhood. He won’t do anything to get her to get help and one day I snapped and gave her an ultimatum that if she didnt get help she wouldn’t see me again. (Yes I know it doesnt work, it was a spur of the moment thing) She did admit that she has a problem , but refused to get help and I don’t think she ever will. I cannot trust her because of it all and because throughout my life at “home” with them I had no privacy and was banned from talking to people about what happened at home, she even tried to ban my auntie from supporting me (my auntie told her to get stuffed thankfully). My emails were constantly hacked into, my cellphones read if I accidently left them around and my room searched through when I wasn’t home.

As far as I’m concerned I could never see her again and it wouldn’t be a problem, we have no relationship but because she can’t remember anything when she wakes up the next morning from the nights before etc, she doesn’t think she’s been a bad mother and thinks Im just a horrible vindictive person.

I’m 19 now, moved out of home at 17 ….and yet I’m still battling this every single day.

I just want to know if that after all I have been through (and I haven’t explained it all here by any means) should I just forgive her for being who she is, or is it understandable that I can’t?
It’s a relief to see that people actually understand what I’m getting at.

I live in New Zealand and its a lot more difficult to get help here with things like AA and that. Not because we are a little hopeless country or anything, just because we tend to hold a “she’ll be right” attitude a lot and everyone is too proud to ask for help. Which makes it hard when you want to scream at the top of your lungs for help!

Thanks for your advice, I have no idea what I will do (probably nothing as it would put more stress on that I couldn’t cope with right now)…but at least I know that people know how it feels…

My mother has been an alcoholic all my life and has verbally abused me my whole life (and a few occassions physically). I was always a well behaved kid and did well through school, spent a lot of time looking after the family and things because of her alcoholism. My father is a good man, but has a very very nasty temper so it was a volatile childhood. He won’t do anything to get her to get help and one day I snapped and gave her an ultimatum that if she didnt get help she wouldn’t see me again. (Yes I know it doesnt work, it was a spur of the moment thing) She did admit that she has a problem , but refused to get help and I don’t think she ever will. I cannot trust her because of it all and because throughout my life at “home” with them I had no privacy and was banned from talking to people about what happened at home, she even tried to ban my auntie from supporting me (my auntie told her to get stuffed thankfully). My emails were constantly hacked into, my cellphones read if I accidently left them around and my room searched through when I wasn’t home.

As far as I’m concerned I could never see her again and it wouldn’t be a problem, we have no relationship but because she can’t remember anything when she wakes up the next morning from the nights before etc, she doesn’t think she’s been a bad mother and thinks Im just a horrible vindictive person.

I’m 19 now, moved out of home at 17 ….and yet I’m still battling this every single day.

I just want to know if that after all I have been through (and I haven’t explained it all here by any means) should I just forgive her for being who she is, or is it understandable that I can’t?
It’s a relief to see that people actually understand what I’m getting at.

I live in New Zealand and its a lot more difficult to get help here with things like AA and that. Not because we are a little hopeless country or anything, just because we tend to hold a “she’ll be right” attitude a lot and everyone is too proud to ask for help. Which makes it hard when you want to scream at the top of your lungs for help!

Thanks for your advice, I have no idea what I will do (probably nothing as it would put more stress on that I couldn’t cope with right now)…but at least I know that people know how it feels…

Long story short : I used to be overweight. I lost 35 pounds. But after cutting my calories drastically I got a huge sweet tooth and lost control around sweets. I finally finished the last pint ice cream we bought, tonight and I am ABSOLUTELY not buying anymore, or anymore sweets for that matter. Plus, I’ve been over-eating lately because when I get home I binge on snacks and I’m not hungry for dinner but my mom makes me eat anyway.

I am not sure exactly of how much I gained but I’m sure I have, right? It’s not really THAT noticable but it bothers me. If I’ve gained anything, how long will it take to get it all off again?

I try to run 1-2 miles every day or at least 5x a week. (except when I have binges, because I feel too sick to even move afterward) Plus I usually eat anywhere from 900-1,700 calories. Would I need to cut my calories too? Or just eat healthy and exercise? How long would it take if I cut calories AND exercised vs. just exercise? What would YOU do, if you were me?

Thanks for any helps / tips! ;)
I’m reporting the next little fvcker who gives me one of those “If you wanna lose weight fast, click this link” answers…

Sorry, they are really starting to p!ss me off.

I drank only a little amount yesterday (at like 330ishpm) like maybe 10 sips of bud light beer. And I stayed home today cause i was sick my mom thinks im dehydrated again so she wants me to pee in a cup (shes a doctor so she will take it to work tomorrow) anyways i wasnt drunk i really am sik it was just bad timing but if i give her the urine sample will she be able to tell i drank at all?