How Do I Get My Mom Off Drugs » living http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com We will help you get your mom off drugs! Thu, 15 Dec 2011 03:27:56 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 my fiance’s brother is in a big mess. he is depressed and doing drugs with no job living in a motel. help? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/26/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-6/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/26/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-6/#comments Mon, 26 Sep 2011 09:27:50 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/26/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-6/ My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

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UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/25/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-5/feed/ 1 my fiance’s brother is in a big mess. he is depressed and doing drugs with no job living in a motel. help? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/23/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-4/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/23/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-4/#comments Fri, 23 Sep 2011 15:29:03 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/23/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-4/ My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/23/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-4/feed/ 1 my fiance’s brother is in a big mess. he is depressed and doing drugs with no job living in a motel. help? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-2/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-2/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 19:28:38 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-2/ My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help-2/feed/ 1 my fiance’s brother is in a big mess. he is depressed and doing drugs with no job living in a motel. help? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/20/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/20/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help/#comments Tue, 20 Sep 2011 21:28:09 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/20/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help/ My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/20/my-fiances-brother-is-in-a-big-mess-he-is-depressed-and-doing-drugs-with-no-job-living-in-a-motel-help/feed/ 1 How to deal with an alcoholic violent brother living under the same house? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/09/how-to-deal-with-an-alcoholic-violent-brother-living-under-the-same-house/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/09/how-to-deal-with-an-alcoholic-violent-brother-living-under-the-same-house/#comments Sat, 10 Sep 2011 02:37:06 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/09/how-to-deal-with-an-alcoholic-violent-brother-living-under-the-same-house/ My brother is 25 years old and he drinks everyday beer, when he gets drunk he becomes verbally abusive, he has got into violent arguments with me, he also tells my little brothers bad things, he also plays his music very loud and smokes pot, my mom won’t kick him out of the house,me and my mom and my little brothers are scared of him, we cannot help him with his alcoholism only he can, I’m living at my mom and step dad’s house I’m a single mother of a 2 year old and pregnant, that is why I cannot get my own place, I won’t get hired nowhere at this period of time, how can we deal with this family member?

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/09/how-to-deal-with-an-alcoholic-violent-brother-living-under-the-same-house/feed/ 1 What are the chances of a 6 month baby being birthed early living? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/02/what-are-the-chances-of-a-6-month-baby-being-birthed-early-living/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/02/what-are-the-chances-of-a-6-month-baby-being-birthed-early-living/#comments Fri, 02 Sep 2011 17:37:49 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/02/what-are-the-chances-of-a-6-month-baby-being-birthed-early-living/ The mother was drunk the night before then had birth 3 months early. What are the chances for the poor thing?

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/02/what-are-the-chances-of-a-6-month-baby-being-birthed-early-living/feed/ 1 Im living with my mother in law and im under eightteen can she claim me and my son on her taxes? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/08/im-living-with-my-mother-in-law-and-im-under-eightteen-can-she-claim-me-and-my-son-on-her-taxes/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/08/im-living-with-my-mother-in-law-and-im-under-eightteen-can-she-claim-me-and-my-son-on-her-taxes/#comments Sat, 09 Jul 2011 05:38:33 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/08/im-living-with-my-mother-in-law-and-im-under-eightteen-can-she-claim-me-and-my-son-on-her-taxes/ I wasn’t living with my mom because she smokes and drinks and now i live with my boyfriend and mothe in law with my son. Can my mother in law claim me and my son on her taxes?

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/08/im-living-with-my-mother-in-law-and-im-under-eightteen-can-she-claim-me-and-my-son-on-her-taxes/feed/ 3 What should i do about my dad/step mom and our living situation? (im no minor)? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/06/19/what-should-i-do-about-my-dadstep-mom-and-our-living-situation-im-no-minor/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/06/19/what-should-i-do-about-my-dadstep-mom-and-our-living-situation-im-no-minor/#comments Sun, 19 Jun 2011 18:36:29 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/06/19/what-should-i-do-about-my-dadstep-mom-and-our-living-situation-im-no-minor/ I was adopted at birth, and although my adoptive parents are great people just like everyone else they had issues. My mother is extremely bipolar and left unmediucated and my father died years back from his alcoholism. Then when I was 18 I had my daughter and was married. Then when my little girl turned two my husband started becoming abusive so I had to leave. I was left with no financial support and very little family left so I set out to find my birth father. We had an instant connection. We have soooo much in common its freaky. And since I’m in a jam he invited me to live w him n help me get back on my feet. I graciously accepted because I was one step away from being homeless w my three year old. At first things were great but now his wife of eleven years wants to leave now that I’m there. She’s very good person but is just very private and she’s having a hard time accepting the fact that she kinda has to share my dad now. It’s also hard cause we are close in age. I’m 22 she’s 30 and my dads forty. She’s not ugly to me at all…she just can’t handle me being there. So I told my dad I was moving out and he was hysterical and said if she wants to leave let her leave I don’t want to lose you and you need a stable home for your baby. But I just feel so rotten about potentially ruining their marriage. So…..should I stay or should I go??

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/06/19/what-should-i-do-about-my-dadstep-mom-and-our-living-situation-im-no-minor/feed/ 3 My sister is an alcoholic, abused & abuser living with my parents, what can I do? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/21/my-sister-is-an-alcoholic-abused-abuser-living-with-my-parents-what-can-i-do/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/21/my-sister-is-an-alcoholic-abused-abuser-living-with-my-parents-what-can-i-do/#comments Fri, 22 Apr 2011 05:35:53 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/21/my-sister-is-an-alcoholic-abused-abuser-living-with-my-parents-what-can-i-do/ How can I protect the kids? They are not being harmed right now and are away from their father who beats the mother. The mother is an alcoholic and has hit her daughter, but not the son yet. They are not in imminent danger so CPS won’t really do anything concrete and could scare my sister away from at least a safe environment with my parents. She won’t enter rehab or stop drinking either.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/21/my-sister-is-an-alcoholic-abused-abuser-living-with-my-parents-what-can-i-do/feed/ 17 can we do anything about my boyfriends ex having unfit people living with her and his 8 year old daughter? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/16/can-we-do-anything-about-my-boyfriends-ex-having-unfit-people-living-with-her-and-his-8-year-old-daughter/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/16/can-we-do-anything-about-my-boyfriends-ex-having-unfit-people-living-with-her-and-his-8-year-old-daughter/#comments Sat, 16 Apr 2011 21:41:36 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/16/can-we-do-anything-about-my-boyfriends-ex-having-unfit-people-living-with-her-and-his-8-year-old-daughter/ his ex has been having some girl living with her who i knew from years ago(she dated my cousin probably 15 years ago) this lady living with them is a known drug user crack and herion He has joint custody right now(we have her 6 months out of the year, week to week) This lady is bad news and the mother also has checked her self into rehab about 3 years ago. We have his daughter right now, and she doesnt want to go home anymore but the custody agreement says week to week the mother lives in a neighborhood that is not very nice and brook is not allowed outside over there Should we call CYS and can they really do anything about this person with only hearsay custody is such a horrible process but what can we do please help
we want her to come with us…love her like my own….i have raised 2 girls of my own who are 21 and 18……..we are calling the lawyer in the morning……..we just didnt know if CYS would investigate someone that is living with the mother
we just dropped the daughter off at camp this afternoon for a week so we have a week to figure something out before she gets back here

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/16/can-we-do-anything-about-my-boyfriends-ex-having-unfit-people-living-with-her-and-his-8-year-old-daughter/feed/ 0 Living with an alcoholic and forced to enable? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/14/living-with-an-alcoholic-and-forced-to-enable/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/14/living-with-an-alcoholic-and-forced-to-enable/#comments Thu, 14 Apr 2011 21:35:39 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/14/living-with-an-alcoholic-and-forced-to-enable/ My fiance and I live with his alcoholic mother. According to several help sites, she is in the later stages: denial, drinking in the morning, tardiness and absence from work, blaming us for ALL her problems, driving while drunk, and not able to pay her bills. We are in the process of moving out, while I look for a higher paying job (we are both still in college) so we don’t have to live in the dangerous city. We have tried to stop enabling her by not buying her beer and cigarettes and not driving her to get them. But she has trouble paying her half of the bills. One site told me to not pay her bills, because it is a form of enabling– but we need to pay them because we live there! And if we don’t give her money she threatens to evict us and tells us that we are just freeloading off of her, when we pay for nearly everything! When we move out, we will let her self destruct until she wants help, but until then, How do we stop enabling if we have to live with her? Thanks for any help.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/14/living-with-an-alcoholic-and-forced-to-enable/feed/ 4 Is it arrogant to assume that the women and children living in the mormon compound in Texas need our help? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/09/is-it-arrogant-to-assume-that-the-women-and-children-living-in-the-mormon-compound-in-texas-need-our-help/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/09/is-it-arrogant-to-assume-that-the-women-and-children-living-in-the-mormon-compound-in-texas-need-our-help/#comments Sat, 09 Apr 2011 13:35:42 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/09/is-it-arrogant-to-assume-that-the-women-and-children-living-in-the-mormon-compound-in-texas-need-our-help/ How many of them are raised by single mothers? Alcoholic parents? Drug abusing parents?

If the law is being violated enforce it. But anyone who isn’t concerned by this raid and the incarceration of hundreds of children by government agents is in denial.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/09/is-it-arrogant-to-assume-that-the-women-and-children-living-in-the-mormon-compound-in-texas-need-our-help/feed/ 6 What to think, what to do regarding living with future in-laws!!? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/08/what-to-think-what-to-do-regarding-living-with-future-in-laws/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/08/what-to-think-what-to-do-regarding-living-with-future-in-laws/#comments Fri, 08 Apr 2011 17:36:35 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/04/08/what-to-think-what-to-do-regarding-living-with-future-in-laws/ I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the past 4 years of our relationship. Now that we’re engaged and marriage is looming in the next year or two, I’ve had a hard time coming to grips of our living situation. I basically goes down like this:

My fiance and his twin brother own the house they currently live in. It’s a mother-daughter type house were the first floor’s a separate apartment from the 2nd and 3rd floor. And while the house is quite comfortable and spacious, it isn’t occupied only by my fiancee and brother. Their parents live there as well. Since the father’s an alcoholic and the mother’s a housewife, they’re pretty much financially dependent on my fiance and his brother. His parents have a house of their own in Mexico (where they’re from) but have no desire to live there full-time. So they’re living with them full-time here in New York. Since I’ve gone this far (4 years) of living with them and haven’t ripped my hair out, I figure I can live in peace with them. For the most part they’re very helpful around the house. The mother cooks everyday, the father takes care of the up-keep of the house (his alcoholism isn’t as severe as in the past) and they’ve never EVER disrespected me. They’re very friendly and cordial. However the only thing that rubs me the wrong way sometimes is the lack of independence and privacy I feel whenever I want to be with my fiance.

Many times they depend on my fiance or his brother to drive them places (they can’t afford their own car), sometimes invade our privacy and other minor things that can be annoying. And while these things are minor, they can build up and I’m just not sure if this situation is going to continually be a good one. The main factor that’s stopping my fiancee and I from getting our own place is the economy. It’s nearly impossible to get approved for a home mortgage and unless I magically hit the lottery, we’ll be living like this for a few more years.

Sorry this question is more like a long monologue, but I just really need some insight as to what I should be feeling about things. I am madly in love with my fiance and KNOW that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It’s just unfortunate that due to circumstances that are out of our power to change, are keeping things on edge.

What would you do in my situation? Any feedback would be much appreciated!

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I’m 6.5 months pregnant and the stress is affecting the baby. He’s telling me that it’s my fault for letting his drinking stress me out, that I have the choice to let it stress me out. I’m a bad mother for letting it stress me out so much that it affects the child.

How do others live with an alocoholic and not let it get to them? I don’t want to be a bad mother, so I’m interested in techniques to help me with the stress.
fyi, we aren’t married, he’s been my boyfriend for 3 years.

He promises to live up to his responsibilities as a father and says he’ll quit when the time comes

He says if I leave him he’ll take me to court for custody and I’m terrified of losing… or even letting him have 50/50 because if I am not in his life, I will have no insight as to what is going on with my child and an alcoholic when the baby is with him. I guess I’m choosing to suffer rather than risk not having a say in what happens to my child when I’m not around, who the child is around, etc. His friends think it’s ok to drink excessively when kids are around, and they smoke pot etc, I don’t want the baby exposed to that

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