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My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My brother is 25 years old and he drinks everyday beer, when he gets drunk he becomes verbally abusive, he has got into violent arguments with me, he also tells my little brothers bad things, he also plays his music very loud and smokes pot, my mom won’t kick him out of the house,me and my mom and my little brothers are scared of him, we cannot help him with his alcoholism only he can, I’m living at my mom and step dad’s house I’m a single mother of a 2 year old and pregnant, that is why I cannot get my own place, I won’t get hired nowhere at this period of time, how can we deal with this family member?

The mother was drunk the night before then had birth 3 months early. What are the chances for the poor thing?

I wasn’t living with my mom because she smokes and drinks and now i live with my boyfriend and mothe in law with my son. Can my mother in law claim me and my son on her taxes?

I was adopted at birth, and although my adoptive parents are great people just like everyone else they had issues. My mother is extremely bipolar and left unmediucated and my father died years back from his alcoholism. Then when I was 18 I had my daughter and was married. Then when my little girl turned two my husband started becoming abusive so I had to leave. I was left with no financial support and very little family left so I set out to find my birth father. We had an instant connection. We have soooo much in common its freaky. And since I’m in a jam he invited me to live w him n help me get back on my feet. I graciously accepted because I was one step away from being homeless w my three year old. At first things were great but now his wife of eleven years wants to leave now that I’m there. She’s very good person but is just very private and she’s having a hard time accepting the fact that she kinda has to share my dad now. It’s also hard cause we are close in age. I’m 22 she’s 30 and my dads forty. She’s not ugly to me at all…she just can’t handle me being there. So I told my dad I was moving out and he was hysterical and said if she wants to leave let her leave I don’t want to lose you and you need a stable home for your baby. But I just feel so rotten about potentially ruining their marriage. So…..should I stay or should I go??

How can I protect the kids? They are not being harmed right now and are away from their father who beats the mother. The mother is an alcoholic and has hit her daughter, but not the son yet. They are not in imminent danger so CPS won’t really do anything concrete and could scare my sister away from at least a safe environment with my parents. She won’t enter rehab or stop drinking either.

his ex has been having some girl living with her who i knew from years ago(she dated my cousin probably 15 years ago) this lady living with them is a known drug user crack and herion He has joint custody right now(we have her 6 months out of the year, week to week) This lady is bad news and the mother also has checked her self into rehab about 3 years ago. We have his daughter right now, and she doesnt want to go home anymore but the custody agreement says week to week the mother lives in a neighborhood that is not very nice and brook is not allowed outside over there Should we call CYS and can they really do anything about this person with only hearsay custody is such a horrible process but what can we do please help
we want her to come with us…love her like my own….i have raised 2 girls of my own who are 21 and 18……..we are calling the lawyer in the morning……..we just didnt know if CYS would investigate someone that is living with the mother
we just dropped the daughter off at camp this afternoon for a week so we have a week to figure something out before she gets back here

My fiance and I live with his alcoholic mother. According to several help sites, she is in the later stages: denial, drinking in the morning, tardiness and absence from work, blaming us for ALL her problems, driving while drunk, and not able to pay her bills. We are in the process of moving out, while I look for a higher paying job (we are both still in college) so we don’t have to live in the dangerous city. We have tried to stop enabling her by not buying her beer and cigarettes and not driving her to get them. But she has trouble paying her half of the bills. One site told me to not pay her bills, because it is a form of enabling– but we need to pay them because we live there! And if we don’t give her money she threatens to evict us and tells us that we are just freeloading off of her, when we pay for nearly everything! When we move out, we will let her self destruct until she wants help, but until then, How do we stop enabling if we have to live with her? Thanks for any help.

How many of them are raised by single mothers? Alcoholic parents? Drug abusing parents?

If the law is being violated enforce it. But anyone who isn’t concerned by this raid and the incarceration of hundreds of children by government agents is in denial.

I have been living with my boyfriend of 5 years for the past 4 years of our relationship. Now that we’re engaged and marriage is looming in the next year or two, I’ve had a hard time coming to grips of our living situation. I basically goes down like this:

My fiance and his twin brother own the house they currently live in. It’s a mother-daughter type house were the first floor’s a separate apartment from the 2nd and 3rd floor. And while the house is quite comfortable and spacious, it isn’t occupied only by my fiancee and brother. Their parents live there as well. Since the father’s an alcoholic and the mother’s a housewife, they’re pretty much financially dependent on my fiance and his brother. His parents have a house of their own in Mexico (where they’re from) but have no desire to live there full-time. So they’re living with them full-time here in New York. Since I’ve gone this far (4 years) of living with them and haven’t ripped my hair out, I figure I can live in peace with them. For the most part they’re very helpful around the house. The mother cooks everyday, the father takes care of the up-keep of the house (his alcoholism isn’t as severe as in the past) and they’ve never EVER disrespected me. They’re very friendly and cordial. However the only thing that rubs me the wrong way sometimes is the lack of independence and privacy I feel whenever I want to be with my fiance.

Many times they depend on my fiance or his brother to drive them places (they can’t afford their own car), sometimes invade our privacy and other minor things that can be annoying. And while these things are minor, they can build up and I’m just not sure if this situation is going to continually be a good one. The main factor that’s stopping my fiancee and I from getting our own place is the economy. It’s nearly impossible to get approved for a home mortgage and unless I magically hit the lottery, we’ll be living like this for a few more years.

Sorry this question is more like a long monologue, but I just really need some insight as to what I should be feeling about things. I am madly in love with my fiance and KNOW that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It’s just unfortunate that due to circumstances that are out of our power to change, are keeping things on edge.

What would you do in my situation? Any feedback would be much appreciated!

how is one supposed ot live with an alcoholic and not let the stress affect them?

I’m 6.5 months pregnant and the stress is affecting the baby. He’s telling me that it’s my fault for letting his drinking stress me out, that I have the choice to let it stress me out. I’m a bad mother for letting it stress me out so much that it affects the child.

How do others live with an alocoholic and not let it get to them? I don’t want to be a bad mother, so I’m interested in techniques to help me with the stress.
fyi, we aren’t married, he’s been my boyfriend for 3 years.

He promises to live up to his responsibilities as a father and says he’ll quit when the time comes

He says if I leave him he’ll take me to court for custody and I’m terrified of losing… or even letting him have 50/50 because if I am not in his life, I will have no insight as to what is going on with my child and an alcoholic when the baby is with him. I guess I’m choosing to suffer rather than risk not having a say in what happens to my child when I’m not around, who the child is around, etc. His friends think it’s ok to drink excessively when kids are around, and they smoke pot etc, I don’t want the baby exposed to that

see, i live with my granparents & mom. it mygrandparents house. we live w/ them bcus my mom is/was a recovering drug addict & alcholic. well. u see she just got out of womans treatment early nov. and goes to meeting all the time. shes already 31, im 14 (she had me young). but ive been going thru the whole “shes sober..than she uses” prob. & its been goin on since i was lil. shes been getting help but my grandparents bought her a car, which was awesome finally but i was supposed to go to a recovry meeting w. her tonight but i think she went out and relapsed again. with her work buddies tho. she said she didnt want to be around them cus they always talk bout drugs and how its been getting to her. but she went w/ some somewhere tonight. im sick of this! and idk wat to do anymore i tell her how i feel but its usless. she said she went to a meeting but idont believeher cus she left her cell on but u cant have them on in meetings. now she turned it off.& she just got 3 month sober. help?
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i dont kno how she can do this to me, and i miss her. im worried 4 her, and i dont want to live if its going to always be like this!!
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also, when i saidshe left her phone on, i meant it rang forever ( i called 7 times) & she never answered.

The mother is an alcoholic. They are both pretty much homeless and without much income. The only communication they have with the children is to fight over who the other one trying to see them. I am sick of it. The kids are in therapy. I have spent my last dime on taking care of them and their needs for the past two years. Does anyone know if I can get guardianship or custody of them and how would I go about it. I called a lawyer and they were talking about several thousand dollars. Is there another way?

Okay my parents are divorced
my dad lives in Houston and i stay with my mom

She lost her job and is now a drinker.
i hate talking,looking,and doing anything for her.
i honestly believe she is a sorry excuse for a human being.
she wont try to get a job and im so sick of everything.
The only reason i stay is because i LOVE where i live and all the people here.
i also have 2 little brothers who love her dearly and i cant just leave them.
Im only 15 idk what to do at all
I hate my dad also.
im screwed till im 18 and in college basically.

Oh i forgot to mention my grandparents also stay with us and my grandma is my basic mother figure. She is the only thing keeping me sane- Her and my religion. If that. :/

This is hard, my daughter is an alcoholic as is her so called husband. My daughters oldest child is 15 from a previous relationship and then there is my little guy who is 7 and the child of her husband. Both are alcoholic and abusive, verbally and physically to each other and now to my dear granddaughter. She has been removed from the home, is a ward of the state but the little one is still in the home. I moved back here 6 years ago as I knew things werent good so I am so close to the kids and have tried to support my daughter until she turned on my granddaughter. Social Services has finally gotten it together and has allow my granddaughter father to be involved. He is a great guy, has always paid child support but it never got to the child. My daughter just lost her job she has had at the bank for 8 years and denies everything, things they are great parents. I am losing my mind about the my grandson still being in that house alone w/those two.The system has failed up to now!

I am living in a mother and child shelter with my one year old daughter and I have found lots of jobs that are hiring but i have NO TYPE OF I.D. I need to get me and my child out of that filthy shelter. I have been asking around but no one knows..If you go to my 2 previous questions you will see that NO ONE has answered the one that says “Can anyone help me?” People are acting like Im begging for money online.

My mom threw us out because I caught her smoking crack with my baby in the room with her.

Anymore info you need..see the previous 3 questions on my profile..Thanks