We will help you get your mom off drugs!

My sister about to be 22 if she makes her April 5th birthday. She had her first child at 17. In the state of Kentucky once a minor has a baby they’re automatically emanicipated in the the eyes of the law and treated as an adult. Once she found out this she stopped listening to my mother. They began to argue and fight and my sister dropped out of high school in the 12th grade.

That same summer my mother moved and told my sister that she couldn’t move with her so my sister got her own apartment through a low income place. Every since then she’s gone wild. She lost a lot of weight and stopped letting us visit my niece or only calling when she wants something. She started dating an older guy who is a drug dealer.

Last april she went missing. Her friends called my mother and told my mother that she needed to come check on her because there was a foul smell coming from her apartment. When my mother and older sister got there they found the place a mess and my sister and niece where missing. Moet bottles and cigar wrappers where everywhere. Her friends confirmed to my mother that my sister was snorting cocaine (tooting powder), taking x pills, smoking weed and drinking. Not to mention she was pregnant. My mom and older sister found my little sister at some friends apartment but she didn’t have my niece turned out that she was with her boyfriend and my sister didn’t know where.

CPS does nothing when they come because my sister flips the tables on my mom because she’s a former drug addict. So she cleans her house and buys food and plays like she doesn’t have a problem. Now she’s just given birth to my nephew in december who doesn’t have any problems thank the lord but because he’s my moms first grandson (my mom has 4 daughter and 5 granddaughters) she wants to spend time with him and my sister doesn’t let her and she’s back to doing drugs. She’s lost all her baby weight and constantly changes her phone numbers so we don’t have it. The guy she left my niece with is not my nephew’s father, some random guy she went to the hotel with is and so now the ex is trying to kill her or at least he’s made threats.

My mom had to take all of her money to provide for this little boy because my sister refused to do it. She wouldn’t tell us who his father was and won’t let us meet him. My mom lives on a fixed income because she had medical problems and my sister calls her every month to buy her son something and she’s getting welfare and food stamps. I’m at my witts end because i see the hurt in my moms eyes when she can’t see her grandson and i know my sister is using her. Calling CPS won’t work.

Im now 15 years old. I wasn’t involved in my moms life for about 13 years. When me and my siblings were younger she walked out on us. I believe people change and so when I turned about 13, I wanted to be involved with my mom and see if she had changed. I started talking to her over the phone for a little bit but then it got to the point where I wanted to see her. My dad and my step mom thought i was taking it fast. I was 14 when I started seeing her. I would see her as much as often. The more I saw her, the more i got to see. I got to see my cousins, the newborns, my aunts and uncles and grandparents. That was all great. But some things I didnt want to see. I saw that my little sister was spoiled and that the middle child (my younger brother) had to do a lot of stuff and got yelled at for the smallest things. I figured it was a stage for the kid. After a year, I wanted to live with my mom. My dad didnt take that well and we got into the biggest fights ever between us. Of course after that I really wanted to move. And he did what any father should want to do and made is daughter happy. My dad warned me and told me it wouldn’t be the same as when I visited her. And he was right. I Stayed over there and the house was a mess. Couldnt walk on one part of carpet. I was constantly cleaning and trying to settle things out. I felt like the two grown people and the two kids were my children. We didnt live in a house, it was an appartment. Then, I saw the parents always faught…..faught to the point where the neighbors were banging on the walls. I got tired of everything and realized I was always hidding in my room and I kinda felt old. It didnt help that 3 months later my mom said were moving 1 mile away from where we lives. I hate moving so that stressed me out. But the new house looked clean and new. I thought, maybe this is kinda like a new start. I was completely wrong. Her husband drank alot. You could call him an alcoholic. My mom is now working 2 jobs and trying to take care of 3 kids. I soon found out he was hitting her and she had bruises all over. After a visit from the cops, a restraning order was put over his head. They said they were getting a divorce. Until about 5 days before the oder expired, she told me he was coming home. I was very dissapointed and mad. I told her i was moving back with my dad. But she convincced me other wise. After he moved back he promised things would be different…They werent. They still argue and yell every night. I am fed up with everything theyve got. The only thing keeping me from moving back with my dad is my baby sister and my little brother. I am concerned about there health and how they will take things. So I need help, should I move out? I’m not sure what to do.

Rita said they were going with their grandparents, and they drove off with two elderly people. What grandparents? In a previous season, Rita’s mom came to visit and she was a negative, judgmental nightmare and Rita sent her home. Also, she was single–I don’t remember if she was divorced or widowed. So it wasn’t her. Then Dexter’s parents are dead. So the only ones left are the parents of Rita’s drug-addicted, abusive first husband–would a mother let her kids go off with those people? Or did I just find a hole in the continuity?

Rita said they were going with their grandparents, and they drove off with two elderly people. What grandparents? In a previous season, Rita’s mom came to visit and she was a negative, judgmental nightmare and Rita sent her home. Also, she was single–I don’t remember if she was divorced or widowed. So it wasn’t her. Then Dexter’s parents are dead. So the only ones left are the parents of Rita’s drug-addicted, abusive first husband–would a mother let her kids go off with those people? Or did I just find a hole in the continuity?

Rita said they were going with their grandparents, and they drove off with two elderly people. What grandparents? In a previous season, Rita’s mom came to visit and she was a negative, judgmental nightmare and Rita sent her home. Also, she was single–I don’t remember if she was divorced or widowed. So it wasn’t her. Then Dexter’s parents are dead. So the only ones left are the parents of Rita’s drug-addicted, abusive first husband–would a mother let her kids go off with those people? Or did I just find a hole in the continuity?

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

For Easter weekend, my husband and I visited his family out of town. His sister (26) & her two kids (5 & 1) had just moved in with his parents. She’s going through a really rough time right now. All of her friends and most of her family (from her hometown, in another state) keep calling her and telling her to come back. Her 2nd baby’s dad just broke up with her. She doesn’t have a job. Her life is a mess.

Every time I saw her, she had either beer or vodka in her hand. And I’m talking about 3 or 4 beers a day and she went through 3/4 of a bottle of vodka in three days (by herself). She put vodka in everything from coffee, to orange juice, to just drinking it straight up. On top of that, she also indulged in wine at dinner (which everyone did).

Then, she’d be too wasted to take care of her kids. She’d leave for hours and talk on her phone. She wouldn’t tell anyone she was leaving. She’d just leave her kids there.

She doesn’t know how to handle/discipline them, so if one of them throws a fit over something, she gives them a candy bar to shut them up and says, “Stop crying! I’m sick of hearing it. Take this candy bar and leave me alone!” They’re badly behaved anyway, but she just gives them candy ALL day (not just b/c it was Easter) and they get really hyper.

On two or three occasions, I caught my one year old nephew sticking car keys into an electric socket. I kept taking the keys away from him and putting them on the wall-mounted-key-rack (which was out of his reach), but his mom kept pulling them down and giving them to him. I said something to her about how dangerous it was (in front of the whole family) and she started laughing and said, “I’ll laugh if he gets shocked. I’m not training my kids to be whimps.” And all weekend, she said stuff like that.

Ok, so I’m like, “WHAT the HECK is wrong with this woman?!” When she was in the shower one day, my MIL informed me that she has 2 weeks to find a job and once she’s working full time, she’s going to start cracking the whip on all this crap. She agrees that my SIL is being a horribly irresponsible mother. Do you think that this will have long term affects on my nephews?

Gotten into rehab and straighten his life out for his kids sake.

Michael was not a responsible parent…He gambled with his life by taking drugs and now the kids are without a father and has a mother that doesn’t give a sh*t about them.

A responsible parent thinks of their children.

And don’t get mad at me for saying this because its true.

I’m 22 and have a 4 yr son and a 23 month old daughter with a terrible person and i need a lot of help taking rights away from their father! He is a horrible person! He has been in and out of juvenile / jail since he was 13 or 14. He beat me when we were together he is a big drug user..he was in jail for over a yr for cocaine, pills, and pot; he never knew my daughter who will be 2 in a few days and he never had anything to do with my son from the start. he always talked down about him and would never even babysit but twice the whole time we were together til he went to jail for drugs and i divorced him because i didnt want to lose my children and i still prey to god they don’t turn out like him and his whole family. i tried taking them away from all of them because their dads birth mother has been in jail a lot for meth, meth labs and selling pills, their fathers older brother is in jail for 4 yrs, his younger brother just got out of drug rehab, his sister is who knows where she stays in and out of jail or drug rehab, his step mom i found out has been to jail for child abuse and another criminal charge, his dad has been to jail for assault, his aunts are all heavy drinkers along with his step mom, and all his family are..well..bad ppl!! i need help because he walked out of jail and took me to court for custody and lied to the judge and won every other wkend and every other weds. i dont know what to do he has sent my son home covered in bruises because he beat him, he told me he took his clothes off of him and beat him with a belt for crying for me, “his mother.” my little girl has been in the ER 3 times, after seeing their father, for blisters all over her now she has big scares all over her little body. i seen this guy hit my son in the face in town one day and i called the police and dcs and also my lawyer. Dcs has been called countless times on him and they will not help my kids. i cry everytime he takes them and prey for help every night because i dont want to be a mother standing over her childs grave i cry like everyday because im afraid he will hurt them or worse. he called me after court for our custody battle and told me he wanted to shoot them and me and said i was just mad cause he won and i lost. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP! my lawyer wont help she says its impossible to take his rights away… but ppl do it everyday so why cant i?! my kids are all i got i dont have a lot of money i work hard pay the bills and try to make me kids happy. i cant afford another lawyer but i need help before he kills one or both or my kids. i worry so much when he has them ive talk to police ive been to dcs over and over ive called the abuse hotline ive talk to my lawyer just about everyday and they wont help. dcs came to my house and seen the huge bruises on my son and took pics and ask what happen and he said “my dad hit me with his belt,” the guy ask y and my son said “because i was crying for my mom.” their father just got beat with a baseball bat a few wks ago i heard it was a drug deal gone bad i dont know though because i dont talk to him and hang around him. this guy hasnt paid child support once! he owes $1400 and child support says they cant do anything because he wont give them an address to locate them but ive gave it to them 4 times. i dont understand why he gets my kids after saying he wanted to shoot them, he beat our 4 yr old, our daughter has been in the ER 3 times because of him, he will not pay child support, he has been in jail a lot, he wasnt around my daughter the first 18 months of her life, and my son tells me he hates him because he is bad and goes to jail. i wouldnt let this guy keep my little boy even while we were together because one time i did he took him to a friends and my son was 11 months old and fell off a very high porch face first and had road rash from him hair line to his chin because i found out everyone was busy getting high and not watching him the second time he had him we lived with my mom and i was at work and my mom heard my son crying strangely so she opened the door and the guy had a blanket wrapped around his head so he didnt have to hear him cry that way he could sleep in. the last time my kids came home my son called me a g*d damn bitch and no one talks liek that in my family. what can i do to take my kids away from this guy before its to late????!!

is in the middle of losing her husband because of it.
AA is out of the question because she doesn’t want to stop drinking. her husband is living in a hotel right now . he went home last weekend and they said they were going to try and work it out .
he went back to his hotel . and was going to move back in this thursday. and she said she was going to quit drinking during the week and cut back a lot on the weekends . he called her monday night and she was drunk. he got mad and hung up on her . i dont think he’s comming home now. she acts like she doesn’t care but i know she does. the sad truth is she cares about her alcohol than anything else. she doesn’t think she need help . she thinks everyone else does. is there anything that can be done?
(there is no spell check when you add details sorry that my spelling sucks. but i don’t need to be told i already know)
so can we please focus on my qusetion?

For almost two years, I have had custody of my sister’s two children, ages 15 and 11. She and the father have supervised 8-hour visits every other Saturday. The supervisor had planned surgery and could not supervise this past weekend, but my sister and her boyfriend did not let anyone know until the last minute and wanted his aunt to supervise, with me providing half the transportation. I only know the aunt well enough not to trust her, and they refused to provide the last name and date of birth to DYFS for a background check, would not return DYFS’ phone calls or meet with them. This is not a DYFS case, but DYFS monitors the situation for the court, and is involved to try to help the parents get their children back.
On top of all that, they were both staying at a shelter until about a month ago, when the father was kicked out after a drunken fight. I just found out that he was not staying in the shelter anymore, and his son, 15, recently stayed with him on the street one night (possibly all night) when he was supposed to be spending the night at a friend’s house. The son is also starting to experiment with drugs, and witnessed his father dealing pot at their last home. The father has failed to complete any court-ordered alcohol abuse treatment and admitted to the DYFS worker that he still drinks. He also told the DYFS worker my sister was planning to leave the shelter this week to sleep on the streets with him so that she would not have to give $200 a month of her welfare money to the shelter for rent (with no place else to go). He was probably drunk during the conversation. We barely speak, but I begged my sister not to leave the shelter. She did anyway.
My sister has been attending her alcohol treatment and had been passing her drugs tests, until this week, when her results came back as “diluted”. She and her boyfriend are very abusive towards me, and they bad-mouth me and misrepresent the situation to the children. Still, I feel overwhelmed by guilt that she is not seeing her children today. The children are happy with me but still love and want to be with their parents, which I understand. We had a family team meeting in December where the parents set up goals to try to achieve stability, with a June deadline, and they have done nothing. Should I offer to take the kids to meet her at a park or somewhere for an hour or so? I would have to stay at least within sight-distance of them if I do. This could very well backfire on me. I don’t know what to do.
This is a complicated situation and I have tried to be brief, so if you have any questions, please ask. I desperately need advise.
Melissa: TY for your kind words & prayers! Best of luck to u in your situation. I will be praying for u as well & may God bless u & give u strength. The children are too old & have been through too much for me to lie to them.
Miss_cri: I have been the bigger person more than u know, & I understand & do want to honor the kids’ wishes & I have done so in the past. I fear that their parents have become complacent with things as they are (having fun visits while my husband & I shoulder all of the responsibility of raising their children, all the while telling their children its not their fault, while still being able to maintain their lifestyle of drinking/drugging &, from my sis’ mouth, “only working enough to pay for the next six-pack.” Unfortunately, I feel like the only “card” I have left in making the parents straighten up is visitation. Unfortunatley this all falls on Mother’s Day weekend. Sucks for everyone.
Faye: I want to honor the childrens’ wishes & I agree with what you are saying. When kids have been raised amongst chaos & abuse that is “normal” to them. I have spoken to the kids & will speak to them again… at this point I feel there is more to it than that (read my above comments)… but I understand what you are saying & that is my dilema. Bless you for helping others in the same situation. Happy Mother’s Day.
Rita: TY so much for your kind words. I feel that you truly understand where I am coming from & the dilema that I face: honoring what the kids’ want vs. motivating the parents to do the right thing. The bf that I speak of is the father. Thak you for your much-needed prayer and I have now prayed for you as well.

Gracy: Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers & mothers-in-deed-only.

We do have pans with the children’s grandmother (my mom) and my MIL today. Still not sure what I will do…
I welcome additional advise/comments. This will be one of the worst days of my life, I’m sure, although I will try my best to be strong and not to let it show.
I offered to bring the kids to meet her on Mother’s Day afternoon and she said no. This is a very sad situation : (

For almost two years, I have had custody of my sister’s two children, ages 15 and 11. She and the father have supervised 8-hour visits every other Saturday. The supervisor had planned surgery and could not supervise this past weekend, but my sister and her boyfriend did not let anyone know until the last minute and wanted his aunt to supervise, with me providing half the transportation. I only know the aunt well enough not to trust her, and they refused to provide the last name and date of birth to DYFS for a background check, would not return DYFS’ phone calls or meet with them. This is not a DYFS case, but DYFS monitors the situation for the court, and is involved to try to help the parents get their children back.
On top of all that, they were both staying at a shelter until about a month ago, when the father was kicked out after a drunken fight. I just found out that he was not staying in the shelter anymore, and his son, 15, recently stayed with him on the street one night (possibly all night) when he was supposed to be spending the night at a friend’s house. The son is also starting to experiment with drugs, and witnessed his father dealing pot at their last home. The father has failed to complete any court-ordered alcohol abuse treatment and admitted to the DYFS worker that he still drinks. He also told the DYFS worker my sister was planning to leave the shelter this week to sleep on the streets with him so that she would not have to give $200 a month of her welfare money to the shelter for rent (with no place else to go). He was probably drunk during the conversation. We barely speak, but I begged my sister not to leave the shelter. She did anyway.
My sister has been attending her alcohol treatment and had been passing her drugs tests, until this week, when her results came back as “diluted”. She and her boyfriend are very abusive towards me, and they bad-mouth me and misrepresent the situation to the children. Still, I feel overwhelmed by guilt that she is not seeing her children today. The children are happy with me but still love and want to be with their parents, which I understand. We had a family team meeting in December where the parents set up goals to try to achieve stability, with a June deadline, and they have done nothing. Should I offer to take the kids to meet her at a park or somewhere for an hour or so? I would have to stay at least within sight-distance of them if I do. This could very well backfire on me. I don’t know what to do.
This is a complicated situation and I have tried to be brief, so if you have any questions, please ask. I desperately need advise.
Melissa: TY for your kind words & prayers! Best of luck to u in your situation. I will be praying for u as well & may God bless u & give u strength. The children are too old & have been through too much for me to lie to them.
Miss_cri: I have been the bigger person more than u know, & I understand & do want to honor the kids’ wishes & I have done so in the past. I fear that their parents have become complacent with things as they are (having fun visits while my husband & I shoulder all of the responsibility of raising their children, all the while telling their children its not their fault, while still being able to maintain their lifestyle of drinking/drugging &, from my sis’ mouth, “only working enough to pay for the next six-pack.” Unfortunately, I feel like the only “card” I have left in making the parents straighten up is visitation. Unfortunatley this all falls on Mother’s Day weekend. Sucks for everyone.
Faye: I want to honor the childrens’ wishes & I agree with what you are saying. When kids have been raised amongst chaos & abuse that is “normal” to them. I have spoken to the kids & will speak to them again… at this point I feel there is more to it than that (read my above comments)… but I understand what you are saying & that is my dilema. Bless you for helping others in the same situation. Happy Mother’s Day.
Rita: TY so much for your kind words. I feel that you truly understand where I am coming from & the dilema that I face: honoring what the kids’ want vs. motivating the parents to do the right thing. The bf that I speak of is the father. Thak you for your much-needed prayer and I have now prayed for you as well.

Gracy: Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers & mothers-in-deed-only.

We do have pans with the children’s grandmother (my mom) and my MIL today. Still not sure what I will do…
I welcome additional advise/comments. This will be one of the worst days of my life, I’m sure, although I will try my best to be strong and not to let it show.
I offered to bring the kids to meet her on Mother’s Day afternoon and she said no. This is a very sad situation : (

For almost two years, I have had custody of my sister’s two children, ages 15 and 11. She and the father have supervised 8-hour visits every other Saturday. The supervisor had planned surgery and could not supervise this past weekend, but my sister and her boyfriend did not let anyone know until the last minute and wanted his aunt to supervise, with me providing half the transportation. I only know the aunt well enough not to trust her, and they refused to provide the last name and date of birth to DYFS for a background check, would not return DYFS’ phone calls or meet with them. This is not a DYFS case, but DYFS monitors the situation for the court, and is involved to try to help the parents get their children back.
On top of all that, they were both staying at a shelter until about a month ago, when the father was kicked out after a drunken fight. I just found out that he was not staying in the shelter anymore, and his son, 15, recently stayed with him on the street one night (possibly all night) when he was supposed to be spending the night at a friend’s house. The son is also starting to experiment with drugs, and witnessed his father dealing pot at their last home. The father has failed to complete any court-ordered alcohol abuse treatment and admitted to the DYFS worker that he still drinks. He also told the DYFS worker my sister was planning to leave the shelter this week to sleep on the streets with him so that she would not have to give $200 a month of her welfare money to the shelter for rent (with no place else to go). He was probably drunk during the conversation. We barely speak, but I begged my sister not to leave the shelter. She did anyway.
My sister has been attending her alcohol treatment and had been passing her drugs tests, until this week, when her results came back as “diluted”. She and her boyfriend are very abusive towards me, and they bad-mouth me and misrepresent the situation to the children. Still, I feel overwhelmed by guilt that she is not seeing her children today. The children are happy with me but still love and want to be with their parents, which I understand. We had a family team meeting in December where the parents set up goals to try to achieve stability, with a June deadline, and they have done nothing. Should I offer to take the kids to meet her at a park or somewhere for an hour or so? I would have to stay at least within sight-distance of them if I do. This could very well backfire on me. I don’t know what to do.
This is a complicated situation and I have tried to be brief, so if you have any questions, please ask. I desperately need advise.
Melissa: TY for your kind words & prayers! Best of luck to u in your situation. I will be praying for u as well & may God bless u & give u strength. The children are too old & have been through too much for me to lie to them.
Miss_cri: I have been the bigger person more than u know, & I understand & do want to honor the kids’ wishes & I have done so in the past. I fear that their parents have become complacent with things as they are (having fun visits while my husband & I shoulder all of the responsibility of raising their children, all the while telling their children its not their fault, while still being able to maintain their lifestyle of drinking/drugging &, from my sis’ mouth, “only working enough to pay for the next six-pack.” Unfortunately, I feel like the only “card” I have left in making the parents straighten up is visitation. Unfortunatley this all falls on Mother’s Day weekend. Sucks for everyone.
Faye: I want to honor the childrens’ wishes & I agree with what you are saying. When kids have been raised amongst chaos & abuse that is “normal” to them. I have spoken to the kids & will speak to them again… at this point I feel there is more to it than that (read my above comments)… but I understand what you are saying & that is my dilema. Bless you for helping others in the same situation. Happy Mother’s Day.
Rita: TY so much for your kind words. I feel that you truly understand where I am coming from & the dilema that I face: honoring what the kids’ want vs. motivating the parents to do the right thing. The bf that I speak of is the father. Thak you for your much-needed prayer and I have now prayed for you as well.

Gracy: Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers & mothers-in-deed-only.

We do have pans with the children’s grandmother (my mom) and my MIL today. Still not sure what I will do…
I welcome additional advise/comments. This will be one of the worst days of my life, I’m sure, although I will try my best to be strong and not to let it show.
I offered to bring the kids to meet her on Mother’s Day afternoon and she said no. This is a very sad situation : (

For almost two years, I have had custody of my sister’s two children, ages 15 and 11. She and the father have supervised 8-hour visits every other Saturday. The supervisor had planned surgery and could not supervise this past weekend, but my sister and her boyfriend did not let anyone know until the last minute and wanted his aunt to supervise, with me providing half the transportation. I only know the aunt well enough not to trust her, and they refused to provide the last name and date of birth to DYFS for a background check, would not return DYFS’ phone calls or meet with them. This is not a DYFS case, but DYFS monitors the situation for the court, and is involved to try to help the parents get their children back.
On top of all that, they were both staying at a shelter until about a month ago, when the father was kicked out after a drunken fight. I just found out that he was not staying in the shelter anymore, and his son, 15, recently stayed with him on the street one night (possibly all night) when he was supposed to be spending the night at a friend’s house. The son is also starting to experiment with drugs, and witnessed his father dealing pot at their last home. The father has failed to complete any court-ordered alcohol abuse treatment and admitted to the DYFS worker that he still drinks. He also told the DYFS worker my sister was planning to leave the shelter this week to sleep on the streets with him so that she would not have to give $200 a month of her welfare money to the shelter for rent (with no place else to go). He was probably drunk during the conversation. We barely speak, but I begged my sister not to leave the shelter. She did anyway.
My sister has been attending her alcohol treatment and had been passing her drugs tests, until this week, when her results came back as “diluted”. She and her boyfriend are very abusive towards me, and they bad-mouth me and misrepresent the situation to the children. Still, I feel overwhelmed by guilt that she is not seeing her children today. The children are happy with me but still love and want to be with their parents, which I understand. We had a family team meeting in December where the parents set up goals to try to achieve stability, with a June deadline, and they have done nothing. Should I offer to take the kids to meet her at a park or somewhere for an hour or so? I would have to stay at least within sight-distance of them if I do. This could very well backfire on me. I don’t know what to do.
This is a complicated situation and I have tried to be brief, so if you have any questions, please ask. I desperately need advise.
Melissa: TY for your kind words & prayers! Best of luck to u in your situation. I will be praying for u as well & may God bless u & give u strength. The children are too old & have been through too much for me to lie to them.
Miss_cri: I have been the bigger person more than u know, & I understand & do want to honor the kids’ wishes & I have done so in the past. I fear that their parents have become complacent with things as they are (having fun visits while my husband & I shoulder all of the responsibility of raising their children, all the while telling their children its not their fault, while still being able to maintain their lifestyle of drinking/drugging &, from my sis’ mouth, “only working enough to pay for the next six-pack.” Unfortunately, I feel like the only “card” I have left in making the parents straighten up is visitation. Unfortunatley this all falls on Mother’s Day weekend. Sucks for everyone.
Faye: I want to honor the childrens’ wishes & I agree with what you are saying. When kids have been raised amongst chaos & abuse that is “normal” to them. I have spoken to the kids & will speak to them again… at this point I feel there is more to it than that (read my above comments)… but I understand what you are saying & that is my dilema. Bless you for helping others in the same situation. Happy Mother’s Day.
Rita: TY so much for your kind words. I feel that you truly understand where I am coming from & the dilema that I face: honoring what the kids’ want vs. motivating the parents to do the right thing. The bf that I speak of is the father. Thak you for your much-needed prayer and I have now prayed for you as well.

Gracy: Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers & mothers-in-deed-only.

We do have pans with the children’s grandmother (my mom) and my MIL today. Still not sure what I will do…
I welcome additional advise/comments. This will be one of the worst days of my life, I’m sure, although I will try my best to be strong and not to let it show.
I offered to bring the kids to meet her on Mother’s Day afternoon and she said no. This is a very sad situation : (

For almost two years, I have had custody of my sister’s two children, ages 15 and 11. She and the father have supervised 8-hour visits every other Saturday. The supervisor had planned surgery and could not supervise this past weekend, but my sister and her boyfriend did not let anyone know until the last minute and wanted his aunt to supervise, with me providing half the transportation. I only know the aunt well enough not to trust her, and they refused to provide the last name and date of birth to DYFS for a background check, would not return DYFS’ phone calls or meet with them. This is not a DYFS case, but DYFS monitors the situation for the court, and is involved to try to help the parents get their children back.
On top of all that, they were both staying at a shelter until about a month ago, when the father was kicked out after a drunken fight. I just found out that he was not staying in the shelter anymore, and his son, 15, recently stayed with him on the street one night (possibly all night) when he was supposed to be spending the night at a friend’s house. The son is also starting to experiment with drugs, and witnessed his father dealing pot at their last home. The father has failed to complete any court-ordered alcohol abuse treatment and admitted to the DYFS worker that he still drinks. He also told the DYFS worker my sister was planning to leave the shelter this week to sleep on the streets with him so that she would not have to give $200 a month of her welfare money to the shelter for rent (with no place else to go). He was probably drunk during the conversation. We barely speak, but I begged my sister not to leave the shelter. She did anyway.
My sister has been attending her alcohol treatment and had been passing her drugs tests, until this week, when her results came back as “diluted”. She and her boyfriend are very abusive towards me, and they bad-mouth me and misrepresent the situation to the children. Still, I feel overwhelmed by guilt that she is not seeing her children today. The children are happy with me but still love and want to be with their parents, which I understand. We had a family team meeting in December where the parents set up goals to try to achieve stability, with a June deadline, and they have done nothing. Should I offer to take the kids to meet her at a park or somewhere for an hour or so? I would have to stay at least within sight-distance of them if I do. This could very well backfire on me. I don’t know what to do.
This is a complicated situation and I have tried to be brief, so if you have any questions, please ask. I desperately need advise.
Melissa: TY for your kind words & prayers! Best of luck to u in your situation. I will be praying for u as well & may God bless u & give u strength. The children are too old & have been through too much for me to lie to them.
Miss_cri: I have been the bigger person more than u know, & I understand & do want to honor the kids’ wishes & I have done so in the past. I fear that their parents have become complacent with things as they are (having fun visits while my husband & I shoulder all of the responsibility of raising their children, all the while telling their children its not their fault, while still being able to maintain their lifestyle of drinking/drugging &, from my sis’ mouth, “only working enough to pay for the next six-pack.” Unfortunately, I feel like the only “card” I have left in making the parents straighten up is visitation. Unfortunatley this all falls on Mother’s Day weekend. Sucks for everyone.
Faye: I want to honor the childrens’ wishes & I agree with what you are saying. When kids have been raised amongst chaos & abuse that is “normal” to them. I have spoken to the kids & will speak to them again… at this point I feel there is more to it than that (read my above comments)… but I understand what you are saying & that is my dilema. Bless you for helping others in the same situation. Happy Mother’s Day.
Rita: TY so much for your kind words. I feel that you truly understand where I am coming from & the dilema that I face: honoring what the kids’ want vs. motivating the parents to do the right thing. The bf that I speak of is the father. Thak you for your much-needed prayer and I have now prayed for you as well.

Gracy: Thank you.

Happy Mother’s Day to all mothers & mothers-in-deed-only.

We do have pans with the children’s grandmother (my mom) and my MIL today. Still not sure what I will do…
I welcome additional advise/comments. This will be one of the worst days of my life, I’m sure, although I will try my best to be strong and not to let it show.
I offered to bring the kids to meet her on Mother’s Day afternoon and she said no. This is a very sad situation : (

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