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My mother drank VERRRRRRY heavily when I was younger and still drinks now. Shes trips over her words constantly. She repeats herself all the time, like…she doesnt remember that shes said it about 5 times already or somethin. She bruises easily, she wakes up with bruises all over her body. She says she throws up blood sometimes, and sometimes has diarrea and throwing up at the same time. She has seizures often…sometimes like 4 or 5 a day. Is all this happening because of all her heavy drinking?

You see, it’s her religion. She thinks enjoying drunkeness every once and awhile is alcoholism. Fine, great, so she never drinks, but she gets on my nerves. I don’t tell her I drink. I’m an adult and it’s none of her business, but the preaching and the drama like she’s some victim of an ‘addictive personality’ and a father with alcoholism is really annoying when it comes up. What should I do? I don’t feel I should have to live my adult life hiding the fact that I enjoy a drink now and then, but what?

The whole Jesus made wine and archeological evidence that the alcoholic beverages back then were not just grape juice with an insignificant amount of alcohol (like she claims) aka reason doesn’t work. What can I do so if I want a little rum in my coke I can? My father is the same way. He even supports her in her so called alcoholism!

You see, it’s her religion. She thinks enjoying drunkeness every once and awhile is alcoholism. Fine, great, so she never drinks, but she gets on my nerves. I don’t tell her I drink. I’m an adult and it’s none of her business, but the preaching and the drama like she’s some victim of an ‘addictive personality’ and a father with alcoholism is really annoying when it comes up. What should I do? I don’t feel I should have to live my adult life hiding the fact that I enjoy a drink now and then, but what?

The whole Jesus made wine and archeological evidence that the alcoholic beverages back then were not just grape juice with an insignificant amount of alcohol (like she claims) aka reason doesn’t work. What can I do so if I want a little rum in my coke I can? My father is the same way. He even supports her in her so called alcoholism!

You see, it’s her religion. She thinks enjoying drunkeness every once and awhile is alcoholism. Fine, great, so she never drinks, but she gets on my nerves. I don’t tell her I drink. I’m an adult and it’s none of her business, but the preaching and the drama like she’s some victim of an ‘addictive personality’ and a father with alcoholism is really annoying when it comes up. What should I do? I don’t feel I should have to live my adult life hiding the fact that I enjoy a drink now and then, but what?

The whole Jesus made wine and archeological evidence that the alcoholic beverages back then were not just grape juice with an insignificant amount of alcohol (like she claims) aka reason doesn’t work. What can I do so if I want a little rum in my coke I can? My father is the same way. He even supports her in her so called alcoholism!

About 1 year ago I found out my brother had used heroin. He had admited to injecting and snorting it. When my whole family found out we all had individual talks with him and I believe he quit for a while. Than when he turned 18 in 5/2010, he received an inheritance of $12,000. It was gone in approx 6 weeks. Our Dad died when we were young and thats what the inheritance came from. Our Mom is really passive, sometimes I feel like I am more of a mother to my brother than she is. Dont get me wrong, she loves us so much, she does everything she should, she just likes to let things get better on there own. Anyway, since than we all moved to a different state. My brother went too, with out saying it directly we asked him to come to our new state and start fresh. My brother and my mom now live together in a small town in the middle of no where, my brother just got his first job. Im doing everything I can to keep him from visiting his old friends and his old ways….Im almost positive he is clean now, however I think he is taking loads of otc drugs like benedryl and whatever else he can use to kind of cope with not having the heroin. That makes me scared but I am trying to find the right balance on how to deal with this. About 2 weeks ago he wanted to take like 3 trains and 2 buses to get back to our old state and I got into a big yelling match with him, telling him to stay here…
He actually listened to me and stayed, but one of the things he said during our argument was that he doesnt like how I mother him and try to stop him from doing things…. I dont want to be a motherly sister but Ill say something when no one else will… He seems really depressed in his new town, I dont really live that close by. Im trying to help him make new friends and start a new life but he doesnt really seem to want to do it for himself.
Any advise on the otc drug abuse thing and any advise on how to balance when the to speak up and when to trust him.
Any advise at all would be greatly appreciated….Thanks!!

For me, my father did the silent treatment. Several years with not a single phone call. Mother called a few times a year, if I called her she was usually drunk. Sister called maybe once. Nobody came to visit except a cousin.

When I got back to the homeland, no calls, no welcome backs. It was like I wasn’t back.

Boo hoo. Poor me.