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Ok, well, my fiance Patrick is an independent singer, and I’m his vocal coach. About a week and a half ago, Patrick started hanging out with this guy Nathaniel who records at the same studio as us. He’s 22, Patrick’s 26, and I’m 25. Well, Patrick’s invited him along to a couple parties and lunch with us, and just basically hanging out with him quite a bit. Well, at first, I found Nathaniel very irritating. He’s really over dramatic, and a bit overemotional… I brought it up a couple of days ago with Patrick saying, “I know you’re friends with him, but he’s a little… over dramatic and everything… He’s nice and everything, but you see it too, right?” and Patrick agreed, but he explained to me that up until about 2 years ago, Nathaniel had a really hard past… his mom was addicted to drugs and died, and he moved from family member to family member, but he seemed to lose everyone he loved. I feel really bad for kind of being on edge around him, and I can see how Patrick can put aside the over dramatic side of him, knowing his past. He came along with Patrick and I again at lunch today, and I realized how nice he actually is… I was also much nicer and I wasn’t on edge with him at all. I still feel really bad, though. I mean, I wasn’t “mean” to him, but I just acted irritated sometimes, though… I feel bad… How do I stop feeling like this?!

my dad, who is 54, called me like an hour ago, and told me not to tell my mom about this, but that for a few months now hes been dating a 27 year old woman who is also a drunk and whose mother is schizophrenic. his drunk ass told me that he wants to save her lololol and he had the NERVE to tell me that she thinks hes soooo romantic and just ewwwwwwwwwwww why did he have to tell me these things??????? :(

Whilst my mother, my sisters, my father and I don’t live in utter squalor because of my father’s drinking habits, I’m still convinced that he’s an alcoholic. He gets drunk literally every night on, usually, a large bottle of 43% proof whisky and four cans of beer; sometimes he’ll have a bottle of red wine on top of that. He then becomes akin to an angry five year old on steriods; he throws a trantrum like a small child and throws things. Once, he even launched a plate at my sister’s head (my mother doesn’t know about this) but thankfully he missed. He’s also hit me before (and my mother isn’t aware of this either).
It’s ridiculous because not only is he damaging his body and his family, he’s also spending about twenty five pounds sterling a night on alcohol; that’s roughly one hundred and seventy five pounds sterling a week.
Also, when I went to see a Clinical Psychologist about my anorexia nervosa (which I had a few years ago), she concluded that it was down to my low self esteem. She then asked me if anything at home could have caused it, for example, a parent’s alcoholism. The moment that I mentioned my dad’s drinking he refused to let me go to the clinic again.

I really don’t know what to do about his drinking. My mother and my sisters and I are aware that he has a serious problem but he refuses to acknowledge it and so consequently refuses to seek help. My mother is also incapable of working, my sisters are younger than I am (I’m eighteen) and the area that we live in and go to school in is fairly expensive; ergo her threatening to leave him is just that; a threat- and an idle one at that.

[I'm posting this here because I'm gay and because I've had some very good answers from people in this section before; I'm hoping that people can help me again].
We’ve tried talking to him about his alcoholism before but all he’s done is shout about how he isn’t one and then proceed to ignore us and storm off. We can’t force him to go to an AA meeting (unfortunately).

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

My friend has been out of work for nearly 4 years, is a major alcoholic, and I would like to show his mother the statistics of him ever going back to work without an intervention.

for a little while then go right back to his habits, I live with my mother and she just allowed him to move back in, and he seemed fine for the first few weeks and now he’s right back to his ways, I wanna know whats everyone’s opinion on some good tactics to try because the typical talks and convincing him to go to rehab has not worked too many times. He’s been in and out of rehab probably 20 times. I’m his baby sister, how many of ya’ll think the pretending to be on his level as in making him believe I’m doing drugs just as he is and playing that role just might get him to realize maybe he shouldn’t cause he’s rubbing off on me? We’ve tried everything and now I’m just trying to think of clever ways to maybe get him to realize what he’s doing with his life. any ideas?

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me.

I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn’t go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that’s what he always told my mother.

He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won’t quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys.

I’m 16 and I see him once a week, because that’s all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such.

I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m the adult, and he’s the child.

Me and my dad haven’t gotten a long ever since i was 13 and i am 15. Up until then he was the nicest dad i good have, he got me what i wanted/needed and never had a problem with him. Then when i get to 14 he becomes the devil. He didn’t call me on my birthday and Christmas. I love him not only because he’s my dad but All i want for Christmas is for him to call me on Christmas. He’s never done drugs nor has a drinking problem. I know he wont but i really need to talk to him, i miss like mad. My parents divorced twice and i live with my mom and my step dad. I would really like him to. I’ve not talked to him in almost a year now and that’s all i want, and i can hardly talk about this, I sometimes lay in bed and constantly look back on the good times i had with him and then end up crying because i compare how he was to me when i was 12 to when i was 13-15 and i realize what a change that was and if everyone else knew and had a problem similar to this then you could understand. if your thinking that i got abused physically i did not. i got abused emotionally and it’s got me so torn up. All i want is to hear his voice on christmas and if came true i would be so happy. i don’t have his cell # and don’t know it and he claims he don’t have mine but i’ve gave it to him 3x and put in his contacts.
the only thing is I don’t know his phone number, there is no way i could contact him. Mom got remarried in August/12/2005 so when i was 12.

He jokes around a lot about a lot of things, but this is the only thing that really worries me.

I know he used to do heroin when he was a kid, but he quit. he didn’t go to any fancy rehab, or anything, he said he just straight up quit it, that’s what he always told my mother.

He is kind of sick. He has emphysema (won’t quit smoking), glaucoma (just got a cornea transplant and is starting to gain back his sight), and some problem with his kidneys.

I’m 16 and I see him once a week, because that’s all my mother allows me to spend with him, because of his record, and such.

I just don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m the adult, and he’s the child.

Grace wants nothing more than to expose ex-boyfriend Kenny for destroying her teen years and denying their 5-month-old child.

Today, my fiancee entered rehab for an addiction for painkillers and prescription drugs. It was his choice because it was his only chance to finally have a normal life and not be a slave to pills. He also admitted that there was a lot of issues in the past (way before he met me) that he never been able to deal with, which is effecting the present.

While I do admire him for taking that step, I am worried about our relationship when he comes back. The last 72 hours, he was very distant with me. I know it was the withdrawal from the pills (he ran out and could not sleep since then), but he would’ve acknowledge that I was there for him. I’ve been there for him through thick and thin, sickness and health, but I feel no matter what I do for him, I feel I am not good enough.

His mom told me that his state of mind isn’t there, but I can’t help to be scared. How should I stay strong through all of this? I have a wedding to plan but now I might postpone. I already had a panic attack from this.

Please mature answers to this.

Please read story before commenting . A man convicted of raping a 15-year-old Glenwood Springs High School student on graduation night in 1995 has been sentenced to seven years in prison.

Javier Rojas Delgadillo, 33, received seven years in prison for a count of first-degree sexual assault. Two years of prison each for two counts of contributing to the delinquency of a minor will run concurrently.

Delgadillo fled to Mexico after being accused of the rape in 1995. His attorney, Ted Hess, said it was because he was not receiving “zealous” representation. Delgadillo came back several years later and worked using false personal information. Detectives discovered his identity after a bad reaction to cocaine landed him in the hospital in April 2006 and his fingerprints matched outstanding warrants. A jury convicted Delgadillo of the three charges in February.

Ninth Judicial District Judge Denise Lynch said the sentence would provide punishment, and also a chance for rehabilitation and treatment.

“Instead of facing the charges at that time, you absconded and went back to Mexico to avoid prosecution, and that is a fact that this court cannot ignore,” Lynch said.

About 10 family members and supporters of Delgadillo watched as he walked out of the courtroom Friday afternoon on his way to jail.

“Throughout the case they said the family has never felt sympathy for the victim,” said Mario Delgadillo, Javier’s brother. He spoke outside court through a female Spanish interpreter who did not want to be identified. “They do feel bad for her, but (Javier) has also been a victim to have this hanging over his head for 12 years.”

“They convicted me of a crime that I didn’t do,” Javier Delgadillo said. “It’s very difficult for me and my family. I have a son who’s 6 years old. He needs me.”

He had a photo of his son and what looked like a child’s colored picture to present to the court. Hess said the family plans to appeal the case.

Mario Delgadillo and Maria Delgadillo, Javier’s mother took the stand; they painted a picture of a hard working family who had come to America to better themselves. Maria and Mario are both American citizens, according to them and Hess, but Javier is not.

“I’ve never missed a visit with him,” Maria Delgadillo said. “My largest dream was to be able to have my son Javier get his papers.”

Javier likely faces deportation after his prison term, Hess said. Hess also had a psychosexual evaluator testify via telephone that Delgadillo poses a low to moderate risk of re-offense.

Deputy District Attorney Amy Fitch said the victim wanted the maximum prison sentence, but couldn’t travel here to testify because she was too distraught over the recent death of a sibling.

“Javier Delgadillo came to our country illegally without permission,” Fitch said. “He entered the home of a 15-year-old girl while she was asleep and alone.”

Fitch said Delgadillo awakened the girl, blindfolded her and brutally raped her.

“He left illegally while on bond,” she said, adding that the victim did not get any closure in the 12 years since the incident.

“It seems to me that Mom’s lessons about respecting women didn’t stick,” Fitch said, adding that Delgadillo was caught peeping on an aunt when he was 13 and would do inappropriate things to punish his wife when she didn’t want to be intimate with him.

Fitch argued that if Delgadillo didn’t get a prison sentence he would be immediately deported and would not seek sex offender treatment. She said he could then pose additional threat to the community.

“We know what he does,” she said. “He comes back here illegally, under a different name.”

http://www.postindependent.com/article/20070908/VALLEYNEWS/109080066