We will help you get your mom off drugs!

…been tasked to put my mother’s affairs in order, due to her being bed-ridden & terminal; my father, also her ex-husband, came to live with her, a few months ago, to help her be comfortable, & to handle her affairs. In the midst of attempting to do this, he has been made my mom’s Power of Attorney. Unfortunately, my father has repeatedly succumbed to alcoholism (…this has been going on for about 4 years), & in the midst of trying to help my mom, & trying to ‘keep clean’, he has failed oh-so miserably, & has made himself more of a hinderance, than an asset. At this time, although having become a few days ‘straight’, he is not mentally capable of handling my mom’s affairs. He made made himself a most unreliable element, in this respect….

…in attempting to handle my mom’s affairs, is there any way that I can possibly effect any resolution in my mom’s affairs, & become her Power of Attorney, in my father’s stead?

…getting real frustrated, that I cannot do anything!

Okay, I’ll make this as short as possible…

I was with a guy for a year and a half, he was struggling with alcoholism and I went through hell. The last time he went on a bender, I promised myself that I wouldn’t go through it again. I suffer from severe depression and take anti depressants, and it’s been really bad the past few months. Recently I decided to take a 2 week course to become a paramedic, and I left the town my ex and I lived in to come take the course in the town my family lives in, to visit them and get a break from him. As soon as I left he started drinking again, and basically kicked me out, and was threatening to throw all my stuff out and hurt my cat while I was gone.

So now I have no place to live, no job, and no money saved up because I wasn’t working for awhile because of the depression. I can’t stay with my family because there’s no room for me and my mother lives in a senior’s building that doesn’t allow pets – and they’re not very supportive anyway.

All my stuff is still back at my ex’s place (formerly my place), and I have no way of getting it out of there since I don’t have a big enough vehicle.

So, advice is most welcome at this point!

Thanks in advance.

i lost mine in june of this year and it is so hard there are so many days that i just sit and cry bc i miss her so much

she died after i was her caretaker for 12 years she was very ill with heart/lung problems, i dont have any bf’s or children and my sister and dad live on another floor of the same apartment i am on. my sister is a drug addict and my dad is a addicted gambler…

i feel so alone like i have no support at all which i really dont..

i miss my mom so much i just wish that i had died along with her a lot.

what is there left for me now without her ? and what am i suppose to be doing now ? i just feel like my life is over and i am 32. what did anyone out there do after losing there mom ?

how did you cope ? thanks

He’s been in and out of jail numerous times, has been addicted to various drugs (although him and my sister say that they are off them now ) and his parents don’t like him at their house, because they do not get along. I’m 16 years old, my sister is 20 and her boyfriend is 23. He is not aloud to be here and when he is here, he in extremely rude. My mother works a lot just to support my sister and i, yet he comes here at about 9 in the morning and leaves at about 10 at night. she has to buy them cigarettes, food , etc. She doesn’t want my sister to leave and move out (because my sister keeps saying that they do not do drugs anymore, so she doesn’t want her to leave again). They both say they have anxiety problems and get a presription for Valium. My sister is supposed to take 3 a day, but went through about 150 in about 20 days. So she is over using that, and she always gets extremely mood-y when she is on it. If my mom says ” so what are you guys doing tonight” she gets VERY mad and will cry and say that she is just trying to get them to leave. It’s INSANE, I’m 16 years old!! I don’t want to be surrounded by this! My mom keeps letting it go on and I have had problems with anxiety and depression, from all this. My mom will sit down with me and she cries and yells saying that she is making a rule that he can not be here (especially because it’s illegal for him to be here) and the next second he comes over and it’s like it never happened. When that happens and I say something to her about him being here, she goes off at ME for trying to “start stuff” (and by “going off” i mean HUGE fight). If i tell my mom i’m going to talk to the police (because i’ve even heard them talk about selling drugs a few times and its illegal for him to be here) she says if I do that she’s kicking me out of the house. I really just don’t know what to do. I HATE living here with someone who is involved with stuff like that. I just wish he would go away and we could all just live normally. But my sister loves him too much (even though he gets very abusive at times and he is not aloud to drink for that reason) and won’t leave him. What should I do?!

I look around and I’ve seen that alcohol ruins a lot of things.
I got a mom that is an alcoholic
I ruined a relationship because I was drunk. Then the same girl did the same thing to me and she was also drunk. Who here thinks its horrible.

My Mother-In-Law has relocated here to Atlanta to live with my husband and I (temporarily) until she finds her place. I wanted to help her because she lived alone and wanted to be closer to family. I know/knew she had several health problems and that I understood. However, today I came home from work ( she was babysitting my 2 year old all day) to find her high as a kite on Prescription Methadone. It was so unbearable to watch her hallucinate/ babble incoherently/ fall asleep standing up/ etc. The scariest part is that she was taking care of my 2 year old all day or even some of the day like this. I talked to my husband about it and he said he will have a talk with her. Nevertheless, I did not allow my father to come live with me (when he needed a place to live) because of his alcoholism, so am I wrong for changing my mind about my Mother-in-Law living here because of her Methadone addiction ( that I was unaware of)?
@dizzy lizzy

trust me…you don’t know my husband very well at all. I was the one with the bright idea of helping her, not my husband. His mother’s addiction drove a wedge between them two already years and years ago. I just have a big heart to help people, but not at my childrens expense.

I want to be able to help my niece who has gotten herself into bad company and started getting addicted to alcohol. I hate seeing her wasting her life away. I know she knows it too, that she has changed, and that it wasn’t for the better. I know she wants to get treated now, but knowing her, she won’t admit it to others, but rather wait for someone else to make the move. Which is why I want to do this. Her mom is far away, and I want to help them in any way I can– like finding an alcohol rehab.

I want to be able to help my niece who has gotten herself into bad company and started getting addicted to alcohol. I hate seeing her wasting her life away. I know she knows it too, that she has changed, and that it wasn’t for the better. I know she wants to get treated now, but knowing her, she won’t admit it to others, but rather wait for someone else to make the move. Which is why I want to do this. Her mom is far away, and I want to help them in any way I can– like finding an alcohol rehab.

I’m at a loss as to how to do this, probably because I’m still reeling from the shock of knowing that my mom is now suffering from alcoholism. I’ve been living away from her for the past few years, and we get in touch frequently. Last night, though, she called me up and cried on the phone because she’s having a really hard time getting her act together. She wants to get herself treated and I told her I’ll help in finding an alcohol rehab. How will I do this?

How is your relationship with them now (specify your age)? I’m 19 and my mother (who is alcoholic) is doing a lot of work in therapy and hasn’t been drinking for a little while (maybe a month or so). She was sober for a few years in the past, but then relapsed. She is now trying really hard, and knowing that she is really making an effort has helped our relationship mend a little, but it is really hard to deal with loving and hating someone so much at the same time. I have also been in therapy about this, which has helped. I guess I’m just wondering if anyone successfully had a good relationship with a parent whose alcoholism caused them a lot of emotional trouble as they were growing up. And, how did you get past constantly worrying about them relapsing again?

Thanks in advance for any responses!

continuation this is part III
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Once i got into middle school i thought things would be different they weren’t. I remember boys would make fun of me for being “flat chested” and one boy stood up in front of my ENTIRE ENGLISH CLASS and announced to the class he’d rather go out with a dead dog then date me. It was humiliating!! I went in for surgery in 7th grade and some girls came up to me during gym class and told me they hoped i would die….from surgery and i wouldn’t come back. They told me it’d make the world a better place. I think at that point i fell into a depression….That’s when i put my foot down and told my mother that i wanted to move. She refused….in 8th grade a girl got SO MANY OF MY FRIENDS against me and i lost many of them due to her. She would tell people when they could see me when they couldn’t not to invite me all this mean stuff one of my best friends they had told (this girl is now in drug rehab) Any who in 8th grade i as well had FEW FRIENDS

I really want to help my mom. She miscarried a baby– my brother– and this has really been so hard on her. She has gotten really depressed and has turned to alcohol for comfort. Sometimes, I couldn’t even go near her because she becomes violent. Last night, though, she talked to me and told me that she no longer wants to live her life that way. She promises to become better and to take care of us the way she has always done before. I really want to put her in the best alcohol rehab possible.

What should I do?

Ok long story short. My mother is an alcoholic and always has been. She doesnt drink every day or anything but when she does drink she usually throws these huge overly dramatic fits and usually clames how she wants to kill herself and all kinds of crazy things. I am now 26 and have a family of my own and live in a different state. Yet my 19 year old sister still lives at home with her and has to put up with her fits every couple of days. We are both worried that she is going to hurt herself or someone else and would not forgive ourselves if she did. She claims that shes already tried to get help which i think shes full of it because i have never seen it. I cant drag her down to rehab because i live in a different state and my sister is not as independent as i and is really having a hard time with it. Any advice from anyone please. I dont want to burry our mother at 50 years old. THanks in advance
Ok I just want to clear up the fact that I dont really have to deal with her anymore but my sister does. Even if she moves out I still am worried she will do something and end up killing herself. Shes already gotten 2 dui’s so cant drive. When she drinks the fits arent just screaming…she gets very violent and breaks things and does stupid things like walk into the middle of a main highway and such. So its not just a case of her being drunk all the time. Then she blames us for being so “critical” and embarrassing her infront of people.