My mom has gone from one guy to another in her life. First, was my dad. My dad is okay now. He’s gotten anger management, and is really nice now, but when he was with my mom, he was mean. He abused me and my brother, not daily, but when we were bad at all, he went too far with punishment. Eventually, he and my mom got a divorce because my mom cheated on him with a worse guy. (We were still living with our mom.) This guy(Derek) was a drunk and always fought with and abused my mom and us. He used to get so drunk, and hit her and throw things at her that could have very easily killed her. I was young at that age, so I didn’t know what to do. Derek even cheated on my mom right in front of her, knowing she was watching. I’ve seen them fight many times.
Eventually, my mom got way too sick of this, and cheated on Derek with another guy, too scared to break up with him face-to-face. His name was Chris. Chris was nice, but for some reason, my mom didn’t like him. He was good to her, as far as what I saw. She still won’t tell me why she broke up with him. I think it was because he asked her to marry him might be the reason he cheated on him, I could be wrong. My mom has never broken up with someone without cheating on them, except once for a very short time. She doesn’t want them to be mad or upset with her. Also, she’s lived with every guy she’s dated.
One day, when Chris wasn’t home, she packed up our things and left. I have no idea why she would do this, but she went back to Derek. They were together for awhile, the same way they were before, a very bad relationship, but for some reason, still there.
She left Derek eventually, and moved to an apartment. And, after about a week of living in an apartment, she met Ron. That was the only time she didn’t cheat (although, I kind of think she might have, but as far as I know, she didn’t.) Other than the fact that he was the exact same age as my grandpa, he was better than her other boyfriends. He yelled at my mom and us a lot, but it was better than what her past boyfriends did. So, she and Ron were together for awhile.
Then, my mom cheated on Ron with Tom. Tom made our lives so bad. He fights with her constantly. He fights with us. He has taken complete control over all of our lives, and the worst part is, he’s still here. My mom won’t do anything about him. I think he’s broken her down. She now convinces herself that Tom won’t hurt her, then he goes and does it. I think she’s trting to convince herself that the fighting and the screaming and complete harassment doesn’t happen every day, but it does. He’s a complete a**, and I can’t take him anymore. My mom doesn’t like him either, but she has a problem. Unlike every other time, this is in her own house. She owns this house, and can’t run away from it. She can’t go and cheat her way out of things this time. She’s too scared of him to break up with him. She’s tried to make him leave, but he has no where else to go and she makes that her own problem. He would have places to go! He’s a grown man, that’s almost old enough to be her dad! I think he would be able to handle it! This is making me go insane, thinking why would she let someone do this?! She seems to care more about his thoughts, than our safety. She may have given birth to me, but I will never be able to say honestly that she’s my mom. She just makes me sick, and I know that it’s not entirely her fault, but she does have the ability to change things, and doesn’t.
When my mom was a kid, still living with her parents, she was abused. Her dad was a drunk, drug-addict. He’s a lot better now. He doesn’t do drugs or drink or anything, he’s really nice and wouldn’t hurt anyone now. But, she was abused. Her dad always made fun of her and completely destroyed her confidence and everything about her.
What do you think? Any advice?
