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My girlfriend has been on the waiting list for residential treatment for 7 months, her alcoholism is so bad that she becomes very aggressive, not the typical traditional mexican lady that she is when sober, I have been punched, slapped, then of late she pulled a knife on me and threat to stab me if I do not buy her a six pack of Beer, the neighbors called the police for which she was arrested, charged with attempt to use a dangerous weapon. I know she needs this treatment and want the root problem dealt with, addiction is nasty hurts families and friends. she has for wonderful daughters waiting for her mother to get well. (state has custody now) She is #1 on that treatment list now maybe 8 days. My question is should get out or try to work for her and get her in to treatment.

I am 6 months pregnant and babys father went back to his ex-girlfriend and mother of his son. I do not trust her what so ever. She is a pathalogical liar who is addicted to pain pills and even stole her sick grandmothers pain pills along with almost $1000. I have seen the way she treats her son and DHS has been involved a few times with her. Why he stays with her i do not know. But he is a good father and i want him involved in our daughters life but i cant trust her around my child. How do I handle this??

My EX girlfriend Brooke who i dated for a long time and broke up with 3 times died today her parents pulled the plug on her. She was in a coma since last week after she OD on a speedball of heroin and cocaine. She was only 17 the same age as me. She was a drug addict and spent two stints in jail and one stint in rehab. She was even pregnant with my child but began using during the pregnancy and had an abortion because she thought she couldn’t stop using drugs to be a good mother. This hurt me and pissed me off. She OD on heroin a month ago. The doctor said it was highly unlikely she was gonna wake up so her parents made the tough decision to pull the plug. I am so hurt and saddened despite her problems i loved her so much how do i deal with this death?
I will be there for her parents i loved her so much. She was son wonderful when she wasn’t on drugs. I knew drugs could end her life i always feared this. I tired several times to get her clean and go to rehab but she refused except for that one time. She loved me very much and i think her downward spiral might of had to do with the fact we weren’t together anymore. She was doing really good in rehab too and i took her out because she got pregnant and swore she would never harm our baby with drugs and i trusted her. I don’t know what to think i am so so saddened and hurt right now.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 months. shes 19 and im a 24 year old guy. she came from a rough background alcoholism in her family and had to deal with the death of a parent at a young age. She moved in with a drug addict roommate and partying became a priority. I come from a good parents that dont drink but have alcoholism in my family but most the alcoholics in my family are diseased. Since I have seen tragedy due to alcohol, I dont like it. My girlfriend gave up bartending for me and going to the bars without me, which is a huge thing to me and i appreciate it, but I still dont like the alcohol since it is a big part of her life and she drinks without control and gets
nasty. she also gave up coke because her room mate does it and i told her im not dating someone that does coke. Unfortunately her roommate and her roommates kid seem to be her main priority and she is a huge negative influence and when my girlfriend gets drunk around her, she takes her roommates side. since my girlfriend doesnt have a car, id let her use mine for everything (work, school, etc). well she was taking her roommates kid to school in it and if the kid got hurt in my car, i could be in a huge lawsuit. i wasnt crazy on the idea, but i didnt want to start a fight. well my parents found out about it and when we were at my parents house, my mother confronted her about it, which started a huge fight. my girlfriend then stuck up for her room mate again and called her and she got picked up and we broke up. she then posted not exactly nice stuff about my mother on facebook which really pissed my mom off. my parents and girlfriend both gave me ultimatums. my parents said, if i go with her, i better start looking for a new job because they dont want to support me when im supporting dating an alcoholic that puts her roommate first. my girlfriend said that i need to tell my mom to keep out of our lives and its none of my business what my car is used for. I care for this girl so much and im not sure if she will give up her roommate and her kid and the alcohol. i really have no clue what to do. I see my moms point where she wants whats best for me but i see my girlfriends side where she said its none of her business. All i know is it sucks and i keep thinking about the things she gave up like her guy friends and spends all her time with me.
the thought of her going back to the bars and turning back to that mess is killing me.
Mom parents are exteremely close to me and have helped me out a lot. They hate to see me wait on her and and foot because i literally cater to her. They get resentful to see toward that. But i get resentful when they say stuff about my car.

I’m 17 and my girlfriend Brooke had an abortion today without my knowledge. We were arguing about an abortion she told me she wanted one because she is a drug addict and had been using marijuana cocaine and heroin during her pregnancy She told me she didn’t think she could be a good mother and that the drugs are too hard to fight off and that the baby was already damaged.I didn’t want her to get an abortion i know she can beat her addiction and think it was just excuse so she can use more. She is in rehab for the second time now. I let her out after she told me she was pregnant. And she quickly began using again despite swearing to never harm our baby with drugs. I am hurt and mad i thought our baby was a gift and i am saddened and angry. I love her but i am seriously considering breakingup with her. Did she make the right decision what should i do?
i miss our baby so much i know she can beat the drugs she is strong she just wants to take the easy route. I am so grief stricken.
she is the same age as me

Ok this may sound a little immature but my girlfriend who is living with her mother is having so many problems dealing with life. we have had problems in the past with me cheating but over overcame it, and then i recently got out of a pretty big drug addiction, through rehab, wich one day i called her from the facility (which i was locked in) and she broke up with me for another guy. i know that was my fault but we got back together, and even though shes not doing half the drugs i was she is a chronic pothead and she swears up and down that she is gonna stop and she does it anyway, im not saying it to be a jerk but i see how it affects her as it affected me,, making her lazy and careless…. and her mother is sick of her behavior and how she disregards everything she says, and everything i tell her goes in one ear but out the other. and to be honest shes becoming shot out from all this. we have been together for nearly 2 years and all i want is wats best, and tonight i come to find out she left the house and is with some people god only knows what shes doing but everyday she tells me how much she loves me and i want to make iit to where we are on same page and the fact that in less than 2 months i am leaving for the ARMY im gonna be worried every single day of what shes doing she is so unpredictable i dont wanna break up i just wanna get through to her of what shes doing to me and how to make it clear for her to do whats right and stay home and chill for a while or something.. because ive tried just about anything i can think of.

My girlfriend Brooke wants to get pregnant again after she had an abortion last week. She had the abortion because she is a drug addict and was using marijuana cocaine and heroin during her pregnancy. And she was afraid she wasn’t going to be a good mother and quit drugs. We broke up because she had the abortion without my knowledge i was pissed. She OD on heroin Monday morning. I was shocked and scared i love her so much. She is still in the hospital and we decided to get back together. She told me today she made a mistake aborting our baby and wants to get pregnant again. I don’t know what to think i am still hurting over thew lose of our unborn baby. And am worried about her recovering and working to get her off drugs. She agreed to go back to rehab something she refused to do earlier. What should we do?

My girlfriend is 37, divorced, and has three kids, 15,13 and 10 yrs old. She feels she needs to have a few strong drinks almost every night because she says she needs to take her mind off of everything. I understand that it is not easy being a single mom of three kids but, in my opinion, you shouldn’t need to depend on alcohol to deal with the stress. She also goes out after work with her friends to the bar and drinks one or two nights a week and leaves her kids at home. I feel this is totally irresponsible. Her first priority should be being home with her kids. When things are not going her way the first thing out of her mouth is, “I need to go get drunk”. She says that an alcoholic has to drink and that she doesn’t have to drink, she just likes to drink. She says she has a terrible life and she just wants to go away. She has a home, a decent job, a wonderful family and 3 wonderful kids. The only terrible thing in her life is the alcohol. She needs to stop and her life will be better.

My nephew got his girlfriend pregnant. Her home environment is horrible. She has an open protective services case due to physical abuse from her step father, as well as neglect from her mother, who is a recovering heroin addict. My brother and his wife want custody of their sons girlfriend, but how do they go about doing so? The pregnant girlfriend is still too young to go through emancipation in the state of Michigan.

My girlfriend and her child have been living with me for just over a year. The problem is that we both drink but she is a serious alcoholic. I know when to (and DO) stop after 2 or 3 drinks because the alcohol acts like a depressant, which it is. She on the other hand gets fired up and keeps drinking until she passes out, sometimes without incident and sometime getting very close to hurting hurself. I love her dearly and she has a child which I love just as much but her drinking has become a real big problem in our relationship. I realize that I am an enabler to her in several ways. For one, I have alcohol in the house and drink occasionally myself, and for two, she knows that I won’t get drunk and will take care of her child if God forbid, something happens while she’s passed out and oblivious to what’s going on. She knows that she has a problem and has tried on several occasions to stop drinking. She does not want to lose me so has sought help but I still don’t know if she’s really doing that for her or for me. It’s a constant rollercoaster and I don’t know if I’m better off leaving her for her own good or if I stick it out, not knowing if she will continue to relapse every few days/weeks or in a few years, or if she will completely stop as she says she will. I know that either decision will absolutely break my heart because I do love her. But I cannot take being on a rollercoaster ride for the rest of my life, having my heart continususly broken and possibly ending up living in misery. What do I do???

that she would still be making jokes about it and teasing me a week later?
I just pray she doesn’t tell her gabby girlfriends!

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

everything.She lost her job and he got demoted trying to help her with the kids, she would bring them to his job and make him watch them.They have been late on the rent, he was buying a car and he lost that. The kids are already having troubles. I am trying to get him to understand how dangerous her situation is, he is not trying to listen but is there at least something I can do to help the kids to not get involved in the same world as there Mom’s, her parent and siblings are also into drugs so I can not contact Grandparents.

I’m 17 and my EX girlfriend Brooke is suing for custody of my almost 2 month old son Joesph. Brooke has a deep drug addiction that sent her to jail for over a year for drug possession charges. While she was in jail i had a one night stand with this girl i met at a party. She then had Joesph in late September. Brooke got out of jail last month and flipped out when i told her about Joesph and my baby momma. I then caught her using again. She told me she was doing it because i cheated on her. She called Joesph a bastard child and a worthless piece of shit. We didn’t break up until she told me to choose between her or Joesph i chose my son. She then went into rehab and is currently still there. I began dating Joesph’s mom and we have been going out for about a month. At first i wasn’t feeling it she really loves and wants to be together and start a family. I was still in love with Brooke. I’ve was at meetings at rehab with her and she told me she wanted to raise Joesph. She said her negative comments about him were made when she was high. She said his mother is a bitch and incapable of being a good mother. This is not true she is a great mother she loves and adores Joesph. She sent papers to his mom today and wants me to be on her side and testify against Joesph’s mother. I will not she is a wonderful mother and she would be devastated if Joesph was taken away. Plus I’ve feel in love with her i told her last night i wanna be a family and for now on it’s me her and Joesph. What should i do about this trial/situation?
i will not be apart of her life anymore i want nothing to do with Brooke i just wanna be with Joesph’s mom i love her. Who the hell is ketchup ed?
why am i pissing you off mean people?

My girlfriend that I have been with for last 5 months had to go to rehab because she was tested positive 2 months before she was off probation. I drop her off at rehab about 2 weeks ago. We’re both 25 years old. She lied in the beginning and later broke down and told me about her whole life and all her problems..She has gone through her first bf who made her go through abortion…then after that she went to through other boyfriends that were all drug dealers…her last one got her hook on meth and she got caught 3 years ago….shes been going through a lot of things and when i recently got with her ..i tried to help and encourage her in a positive way. she told me many times she loves me more than i know and that her mother loves me very much cause i’m like the first boyfriend that hasn’t done anything bad to her. In the beginning it was great, but after one week she disappear and she later told me she smoke meth…i was so angry…but i forgive her and ask her why would she do something so stupid…i know shes been through a lot, but what should I do? I love her very much and I don’t know if this is her way of saying she doesn’t want to be with me cause her life is bad and she doesn’t want to go through all of this. She use to stay with me for about 3-4 days a week. She told me she lost feelings and that she doesn’t want to be together and that it’s been over for awhile but she force herself. The question is this because shes going through so many things and rehab is just changing her or should I give up? I really don’t want to give up cause she means a lot to me. I called the rehab to try to bring her a birthday cake for her bday and I guess it got her in trouble. She wrote a letter starting off like saying why did you call .i told you not too and bleh bleh..then it went to like im sorry to do this but we should break up and i lost feelings….What should I do? Should I wait another month til she comes out or just move on?

I think he did. That’s why his mother gave him heroin to overdose it. he died.

Let me explain…I have just met a great girl and, well, there are things in my family life that I am embarrassed about. I live in England although my father was American and he left us years ago. My mother is on benefits and suplements her income by selling crack. My sister is a heroin addict who sells her body on the streets of Manchester and my brother is in prison for assaulting a lollipop man. My question is this…should I be honest with her and own up to being half American?

When I was 11 through 15, I had a sexual relationship with my mom (not step-mom but biological mom). The first time was after she had a breakdown because my dad cheated on her (again). Then it started to become whenever she got in one of her down spirals. If I said no, she’d be abusive to me (physically and verbally). If that didn’t make me crack, she’d go out and drink and bring home men (which she knows I don’t want her to do because she battled alcoholism when I was younger) until I do give in. Then around 13-14, it became virtually the only relationship I had with her (she began dating and so sex was all I was good for because she didn’t need someone to talk to). At 15, I slit my wrists and my dad took custody of me. I’m 17 now and I’ve been dating my first serious girlfriend. She asked me if I was a virgin and I told her no and tried to explain about my mother but she just thinks I’m some kind of pervert now. What can I do to explain it to her so that she understands I couldn’t help it? (She doesn’t believe that men can be sexually abused by a woman) Please help. Thanks.

I’m 17 and my EX girlfriend Brooke overdosed on heroin this morning. She is in the hospital and is in pretty bad shape. I feel so bad i still love her we dated for 2 years and then broke up after i cheated on her and my son Joesph was born as a result of my one night stand. We broke up for awhile however we quickly got back together when she got pregnant. Drugs was always the biggest problem in our relationship. She was even using during her pregnancy She got an abortion without my knowledge because she was worried she wasn’t going to be a good mother and couldn’t kick drugs. I was pissed and we broke up again despite my love for her. I was shocked and scared by her OD i what should i do to help her i don’t want her to die?
i don’t do drugs

Her parents are divorced and her mother has been in drug rehab in another state.
Her father is in the hospital for a brain aneurism and is lucky to have survived. He lives approx 3 hours away.
She has many brothers and sisters, but the family seems to be scattered since her parents divorce. She just doesnt seem to have much of a family life.
I would like to do something for her nice for Christmas. Any suggestions?