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I’m an overweight, 19 year old female with a family history of various health concerns including, but certainly not limited to, hyper tension, diabetes ( I and II), heart attack, and now cancer has struck in my immediate family (mother and sister both have thyroid and colon cancer).

I am a self diagnosed sugar addict – but all signs are pointing to my health taking to a turn for the worse if I continue my generally bad habits.

I quit smoking this year, and I’ve been collaborating with a doctor these past couple of weeks. We both agreed on a mainly liquid (and supervised) diet until I become a healthy weight.

Thing is, while I have a decent will on most occasions, I KNOW that if I completely strike out sweets, I’m not going to realistically make it to my goal health.

My question is, is there a way to indulge my sweet tooth while trying to compose a better lifestyle. The horror stories of refined sugar have haunted me for years, and I’m just looking for a way around them. I’m not looking for motivational approaches or a lecture. I just want to know what I can do to curb this sugar lust on my journey through good health?

Thanks in advance.

My mom is cheating on my dad what should I do!?
I am a 15 year old girl and an only child. My moms an alcoholic and we have never gotten along. Ever since I was a little girl, my mom has told me that I’m fat or not pretty enough or ‘don’t care about myself’ just because I don’t wear makeup and do my hair daily for school–I go to an all girls high school–She has also always complained to me about how much of a ‘dick-head’ my dad is etc. She and my dad are constantly fighting, but me and my dad and I are really really close. Last year, I found out she was having an affair with an old college boyfriend when I accidentally opened an email the two had been sending. When I confronted her, she blew it off and then got mad at me for reading her email. She made up excuses ie he didnt give her sex, money, the right love etc–things a mother should never talk to her teenage daughter about– and while I admit that my dad can be a little unkind/inconsiderate sometimes, he a good man to her and to me. Finally one night I was crying my eyes out and she promised that she would end it, and I foolishly believed her. About a week or two after this, I realized she had gotten a new yahoo email account with a password–we have roadrunner–and I thought of the affair, but I told myself if was being paranoid. Today, I was looking for a paper to print off that I had sent to her email and she had left her account signed in. When I went to the inbox to print off the paper, I saw the same blackberry email address again and again. I got really mad and started reading them and they were all about sex and my mom asked him if he was free Saturday morning and he said yes and she said that she would be there. When I first found out about the affair, I told my then best friend and she told me that I HAD to tell my dad, but I was scared and said nothing. Now, I want to tell my dad, but I’m still scared. If I tell him, they will probably get a divorce and the judge might make me live with my mom, which is something I NEVER want to do. My mom always yells at me for ‘starting ****’ between her and my dad, and I’m afraid that she might be able to convince him that that’s all I’m doing. What should I do??? Also, I am no longer friends with the only person I told, so I have no one to talk to. My friends have notice that I’ve been acting weird but I’m afriad to tell any of them why because I’m afraid they won’t understand. My school only has academic couselors, so that’s ruled out. Unfortunatly, I think the guy is also married, and I know he has kids. I also don’t have any relatives that live even remotely close to me and I am too young to drive myself to a friends house and since I havn’t told anyone, I technically have no reason to stay with anyone except my family. I havn’t confronted my mom since I found out the affair is still going on. I thought we had been getting along better and her drinking had kinda slowed down a little bit…now all the “progress” is ruined all because of something I wasn’t even supposed to know about. And I am also worried about the judges decision because my dad works nights. You can see where I’m coming from. My parents got married at an older age–38 and 46– my mom had already been divorced once and I know my mom wasn’t pregnant with me at the time they got married because I am invetro–test tube baby

his 50′s. All I know so far is they saw a spot on his liver originally and now they know its cancer. How diar is this news? My mom had breast cancer and made it through after cemo and radiation, and my dad had kidney cancer and was fine after they took out the kidney. But I have heard Liver cancer is more fatal? Any advise would help.

well i like to get drunk sometimes, but just for fun, with my friends and stuff, you know? and no one knew except them….
but one day my mom found a note in my pocket, and quickly stole it from me. i tried pushing her and struggled to take it away. i new i couldnt so i ran upstairs to my room. she came in 5 minutes later and had a concerned look on her face.
btw the note said bring 20 dollars for the boos. oh and we are low on money. ok anyways, she asked me where i wouldve gotten the money and toldd me that i was probably stealing it from peolple, then she called me a teenage alcoholic. idk what to do….now shes saying that i probably am a druggie too…..
I ONLY LIKE TO DRINK SOMETIMES FOR FUN, I DONT DO IT ALL THE TIME, ME AND MY FRIENDS JUST LIKE TO HAVE FUN SOMETIMES…….AND II DONT DO DRUGS!
HELP, WHAT DO I DO?

I don’t quite know how to feel about him to be honest. I recently found out about my grandfather Robert, who abandoned my father and his mother. He died of AIDS, alcoholism, and drug usage. On his deathbed he told my father he would make up for all the bad he had done in his life many years ago (I odn’t qiuite know when). My mum recently told me, and i odn’t really know how to feel about it. I admire him in a way, renoucing his ways off his deathbed, but I despise the pain he put through my family. How should I feel?

My mother died of alcoholism and she lies in an unmarked grave. He appears never to have married. I was 4 when he was born and given for adoption up 3 months later. Didn’t find my mother till after she died. I don’t know if he might know about me but I do know she didn’t want to give me up but pretty much had to. I’m afraid she might have turned to alcohol over me and maybe he hates me to start with because of it. I want to know what he (and she) looks like but haven’t a clue what to say…any ideas?

My mother died of alcoholism and she lies in an unmarked grave. He appears never to have married. I was 4 when he was born and given for adoption up 3 months later. Didn’t find my mother till after she died. I don’t know if he might know about me but I do know she didn’t want to give me up but pretty much had to. I’m afraid she might have turned to alcohol over me and maybe he hates me to start with because of it. I want to know what he (and she) looks like but haven’t a clue what to say…any ideas?

okk so my mom found a bottle of alcohol in my room and asked me about it with my dad..i was soo embarssed. I wish they were mad but now its just awkward around them..what do i say if they ask me about it again?

im a 19 year old guy in community college, i had a bottle of alcohol and it was in my backpack. i was at work today and she went through my backpack and found the bottle.

she is always in my room, fixing my bed and “cleaning” it. she said she was moving my bag and heard something like water getting tilted.

what are your thoughts on this? and do you think she is too nosy? because i do and i cant stand it….i just told her it was my friends

I’m a wife and mother who has found myself overwhelmed by my alcohol use. What started out as something to relax or calm my nerves over the stresses of marriage, work etc has multiplied into a problem. Now I am drinking every single day, earlier sometimes too. I also smoke cigarettes and run off to the bar because I don’t want to drink or smoke around my daughter.

I need some words of encouragement because it feels like i’m not strong enough to stop this cycle. I am wasting money, like $200 a month on my drinking/cigarette habits. I want to stop but when the stress starts, it seems it’s the only release I have.

HELP!
OK. Those quotes didn’t really help me with my problem but thanks, it is interesting. I’m not only talking about Christianity, but believers of God, in general.

My sister says she only drinks occasionally (she’s only 17) and she doesn’t smoke pot, so many of her friends do. I know she doesn’t smoke because I’ve heard her have conversations with her friends on how people always trys to hot box at party’s she goes to and it’s disgusting and bothers hers. And today I was looking for an eyeliner pencil in her room and found a bottle of vodka and alcohol in a water bottle in her purse. I mean..I’m not going to over exaggrate about this just because her friend was over last night who drinks A LOT and partys A LOT and it could of been hers. And even though my sister and I aren’t very close I know she isn’t screwing up her life like most teens with alcohol. But Idk..should I mention this to my mom or keep my mouth shut?
Excuse me Steve?
Yes I am clearly a female and the damn purse was open! Like I said I was looking for eyeliner and I figured it’d be in her purse.
Your a jerk who doesn’t know what you are talking about.

My name is Amber, and I myself am not an alcoholic. My mother, however, has been an alcoholic for my entire life and I just found this out recently. She’s taken major steps in hiding her alcoholism from my sister and I but the unavoidable happened. Though I don’t know much about her alcoholism just yet, I’ve asked doctors if the trigger might possibly be PMDD. The doctor who specializes in women and the effects that such a disorder might have told me that PMDD could absolutely be a trigger in my mother’s alcoholic fits. She will only drink every few months, but every time she does it’s a few days before and during her menstrual cycle. For as long as she has been drinking she absolutely refuses to seek any professional help. Her first marriage crumbled because of this, and now her second with my step father is nearly over as well.
I just wish to talk to someone to help me with guidance. I’m completely lost at how to approach her and tell her that this problem that she’s been having for over twenty years might just be set off by a chemical imbalance. It would really help me if I could talk to someone that I knew might be having or had the same problem as my mother. I implore you to read this knowing that the woman who has taken care of me for seventeen years is now in dire need of my help. Please, please help me.

Yup… she finally found it. She knows i smoke weed too and I am pretty open about it and she says that she’s done it in the past. My parents are divorced and i live with my mom. I’m 17 too. I don’t want to have to move in with my dad. She says that she wants me to stop smoking weed. I proved to her that i dont drink because the 2 bottles she found were unopened. I really don’t drink (anymore). I pretty much just flat out told her that i won’t stop smoking weed. Shes all flippin out. I do respect her rules almost all of the time and i try to be respectful a lot of the time but this is just something i have made my mind up on. I will not stop smoking weed. Period. What should i do? How do i get her to see it my way a little bit? Shes getting my real dad to come over and talk to me and her, him, and I are all going to sit down and have “a talk”…

K, my parents (mom mainly) found my alcohol stash in the fridge. Kinda long lecture with screaming and pointless nagging about school. Im already in university and the legal age to drink in canada (19). I already can’t stand my mom’s lecturing. Should i move out?

she has always been a casual drinker of beer (had a few beers 4-5 nights a week my whole life) and she doesn’t need alcohol all day or to start her day but i feel like ever since i moved out 3 years ago and i visit home, all we do is drink. she drinks a whole bottle to herself! and my sister just emailed me saying my mom had alcohol poisoning last week at some concert. no one else in my family is an alcoholic. my dad is too chicken to say anything apparently. i don’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings but its mean to her family and herself and i don’t know how to talk to her. can anyone relate?

I had a water bottle filled with vodka in my room from last weekend and I think my mom found it because I dont know where it is, she told me she needed to talk to me when she got home from work and I think that that is what it is about, what can i say to make her think that it isnt mine? Im 16 and as far as my parents are concerned have never done anything bad.

Before i can get to now i have to go back to my past and share what has already happened, which plays a major role in the present.

I lost my first baby to his father, i was using drugs but didn’t become physically addicted, until children services and the baby’s dad fought for custody, and i could handle the fight, i tried but they made me feel so horrible for doing drugs about 5 times during my pregnancy that i believed i didn’t deserve him and he was better off without me and it broke my heart. I fell into a deep depression and starting using Opiates, pain pills, everyday and Higher and higher dosage so i wouldn’t feel the pain of losing my son. Needless to say 2 years later i cant go more than 5 hour w/o having to do some how dosage of pain medicine else i get sick and after 15 hours im in full blown with drawls

I never meant for it to get so bad, but when the with drawls hit its so painful i cant take it and that scares me Lets just say for on-line purposes i have to do a very strong and addicting opulent 4-6 times a day and no longer get “the buzz” i dint want one, but i do it so im not sick.

I Just found out Im a lil over two months pregnant and im scared to death. I want this baby, but i don’t want to hurt him or her ,and want my son back, but im scared if i tell someone im a drug addict and need help that, their going to take the baby away from me, and i honestly could not go through that again, i have never felt so much heartache as i did when they took my son away from me, and children’s services were mean to me, my case worker favored the father, she didn’t want to help me and i wasn’t even physically addicted yet and look Wit they did.

Two failed at temps at rehab, but i want to get clean , i want to be better and live life the way i should and not have to resolve it around if im going to have pain medication or not and if not then i cant do it.

I want this baby, i want a second chance with my first baby, i want to be the good mother i always could of been. Im not a bad person ,just went down the wrong road and i cant find my way back.

This is a hard drug /opi/ pain killer to get off of , and even harder cuz im pregnant, but i want help and im scared their just say o another drug addicted mother how could she live with herself and take my baby and never help me.

I dont know who to call, where to go , or what to do, and i have no medical insurence , please someone i need some hard advice .

P.S- If you feel the need to say something horrible and awful to me dont, i have already said and thought them all to myself, but im speaking out now and i want/need someone to help me.

-LosT & ScAreD

P.S- I think the reason i even started useingg drugs was to forget the pain and heartach i felt from the way men would treat me.I have been physically abused, emotionally abused and sexual abuse, i have gone through those with more than one guy, and more than one time my dad, the men i fall in love with./ My dad would hit me, i have had boyfriends choke and rape me, and the person i love now hits me and verbaly abuses me and he says it my fault cuz of my addiction,. Two days ago he punched me in my stomach , busted my lips and punched me in the sdide of my face/ The reason at that moment, i wanted to finish my toast before rushing to meet his dad somewhere.

ok so i am 18 and a senior, my mom found a handle of alcohol in my closet. its not like i have a problem, its just so that i dont have to buy it from other people and can have it at my own convenience. i drink like 1 night (on the weekends) i have explained to her that most high school students do this and that i am not an alcoholic…how do i get my handle back from her??!?! (she hid it) i told her i was going to get it tomorrow so she might take it in the car with her to work…i dont know though! but how should i get it back?

So I met this pretty cool girl at my summer class and we hung out all day yesterday. Well, today she started talking to this guys while we were planting corn… and he does drugs. Well, I found out so does she, and it’s beyond weed. They were going on about ecstasy, crank, weed, shrooms, and a million different types of alcohol.

Apparently, she comes from a drug abuse house hold her father is an alcoholic and so is she. He also gave her her first pipe and sometimes steals her drugs from her bedroom. She is only 15 and she admitted to me about being a heavy drug user, a raver, and a bit alcoholic.

My mother is a drug use therapist at a rehab center… should I tell her? I’m not sure, this is the first time I’ve ever had a real encounter with drugs, except with my brother using meth, but, I wasn’t that involved with it. The teacher was right there so he already knows… I don’t know what he could do. I mean when it’s that deep into her family and her life, is there anything we can do? She seems like she could of been such… a good person.

My mom might find out tomorrow that I have been purging. (I’m not bulimic though, I don’t binge)