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frankly i am just so tired of my drug addict mom, my super religious uncle who forces us to go to church even though we dont want because he does not really show genuine care, i also hate my grandmother who loves money too much, i basically hate them all, and i feel stressed when i am around them, however, i still live in the same city, even though i already moved out and now have my own job and pay all my bills, my sister still has a contact with me, she tends to tell me things regarding my family and how they want to talk to me and see me, well i no longer want that, i am planning to set up a new life, i am about to get married with a wonderful man who has kind parents, and i really dont want to invite any of my family, however, there are times when i am being asked where is my family, i just want to be a new person and not see them forever, i just stopped hating them i just dont care anymore.

Let’s start with I live in a crappy row house that always gets water bugs & stuff always dirty (im the only one that cleans) Its packed with my grandparents,aunt,aunts bf,baby on the way,cousin,2 dogs,bird,& 2 friends of my grandparents that use our house as a flop house & me (3 bedroom house 1 bathroom). Im so tired of living in a crappy place but i dont have much choices. i get screwed from all angles because everywhere i pick im hurting myself or someone else. im not supposed to move till highschool but i cant wait any longer. my other choices are my overprotective aunt & uncle,drug addict mom & old woman grandmom (no offence to either),or where i am now. im always getting yelled at & told wat to do & my dreams are being crushed by the choices of my family. how do i bring it up that i want to leave without hurting anyone,where should i go & to make it better technically i dont belong to anyone considering half custody is nothing when my moms out of jail. please help?!!

Dad is an alcoholic and drug addict, mom is never home, get beat up at school, watched dad nearly kill my mom, got strangled by him, only time I’m still alive is my boyfriend and he’s going to base camp over the summer and I have a bad feeling about when he does go to the army he’s going to die and my feelings are usually right so what should I do to calm myself down, he said that once he’s done in the army we’ll never leave each other again
Can’t afford a therapist, I’m poor, barely have any groceries in the fridge even

a couple months back my mom started dating this guy
and he has a drinking problem. big time. he drinks morning to night
his hands are swollen from it, and hes been in and out of rehab
but no success. hes like 20 years older than my mom…

im 18 and my little sister is 13. and we live with our 84 year old grandma and mom
but when shes gone to her boyfriends, my sister and gma are my responsibility.
thats not an issue. but how can i root this drunk out of our lives?
seriously. he causes unnecessary strain on all of us.
Ive tried explaining it to her, and shes broken up with him, but hes always sick
(due to the alcoholism) and always pitys her back to him
i cant talk to him, hes selfish. and always drunk. he says ”im sorry i love her”
whenever i tell him that we need her around.
i dont know what to do…?

My mom is a drug addict who doesnt love herself and neither of her seven kids. I think she just gave birth to collect money. My father doesnt care what any of us do. When i’m with brandon it feels so right. I also think I have alot of jealous people in my family because they never experienced the love we have, so they try to sabatage my relationship. Brandon brings these facts to me everytime something goes wrong. Now I live with Brandon and couldnt be more happier until my family puts there two cents in my life. I’m a grown woman who knows what I want, but its hard sometimes when all they do especially my mom opens her mouth and try’s to ruin everything? So should I just chalk my family up as a loss and do my own thing? more info about this is, my mom is divorced and lives a horrible life!!! maybe she is jealous?? what do you think?

I am now convinced that my mom is addicted to prescription drugs. She constantly is “sick” to her stomache and goes to her family doctor because he keeps prescribing these meds that knock her out. He knows she has Chron’s disease but never says to her “hey I think that the nausea is a side effect of the chron’s and maybe you should go see your specialist.” We (the family) keep telling her that she needs to be cooridinating her medications with her specialist but she refuses to call him or let him know all the various pills that her family doctor is prescribing.

Now she has a kidney infection. She had a urinary tract infection that wasn’t getting any better but instead of going to the doctor during the week she waited until the weekend so that she could go to the ER. Of course they have no idea all the various meds she’s on or been on and so they gave her more pain meds.

I’m not saying that a kidney infection is not serious but I’m starting to think that she might have purposefully waited until she could justify going to the ER because she was out of pain meds. (she called me one night last week asking if I had any for her “back pain”).

Is there anything I can do at this point? I just went over to her house and she was zonked out in bed. I just left because I’m just tired of all of it but my poor dad is over their waiting on her because he just doesn’t get it.

Is there anything I can do or say that might have an impact? How should I deal with this so that I don’t get angry at her?

Mother was bipolar, father committed suicide, brother has schizoaffective disorder, sister is a drug addict. My sister’s husband seems totally normal, but she’s scared of how their kids could turn out. We have a history of depression in our own family.

This would be the second Christmas without him. He was murdered Sept.17,2005.His family has invited me2 share the one year anniversary of his death, his birthday and they even celebrated what would have been our one-year anniversary together. Last year I bought them a nice china tea set. I have no clue what to purchase this year, or even if I should buy them a gift. Or do u think I should just send a card?
Also, my mom and I don’t get along, she showed no support 2 me during his death instead she got high and didnt come home that night 2take me2 his funeral, and then while I was at the funeral she stole money out of my drawer at home.But last x-mas she got jealous, and called me stupid for buying them a gift, cuz my boyfriend cheated when he was alive, even though his family bought me a nice 14kt gold necklace 4 X-mas.
What do I do about my mom, and should I get his mom a gift despit my drug addict mom?

http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?order_num=-1&SKU=14254420&

Oh yeah the Bed Bath and Beyond link is to the gift I got them for Christmas last year.It’s was differnt color tho, sorta like pastel type colors

There is this Family who has lived in the United States for over 18 years.

The Mother lived in Tijuana when she met a Citizen of the U.S. He cross her across the border with two children, ages five and seven, now twenty-two and twenty-five. They married in Vegas, and the paper work was well underway, but living with him she discovered he was an abusive drunk. so, she left him, not caring if he finished the paperwork. When she left him he ripped the paper apart, and left her and two children to be labeled as illegal aliens. A year after he died of alcoholism.

When she first arrived she didn’t know the language or the law of the u.s. She didn’t know she could have appealed for her husbands abusive behavior. She does now, more than 12 years later, but the law can’t help her or her children now.

Is she really a criminal?
Who mentioned a Xenophobe?
There are plenty of U.S. citizen who marry people who end up mistreating them.
Wrong, There is a legal line between abuse and citizenship.
how would she get her citizenship after being her for that long if the gov. doesn’t open a door?
This is not a false claim. I can assure that.

Is she the meanest Mom? The World’s formost expert on family recovery in alcoholism speaks out! What does Toby Rice Drews author of the million copy seller books Getting Them Sober and World’s formost expert on family recovery have to say. The world is talking about the ‘meanest mom’ story—-

hi everyone, the news media has been reporting about “the meanest mom” —- A mother who found a hidden bottle of booze under the driver’s seat, after her son drove her car.
She took the car away.

IS she ‘mean’?

Here is the gist of one of the “Recovery Tips of the Month” (on the www.gettingthemsober.com on that very subject (written a couple of years ago— before the ‘meanest mom’ hit the headlines)– Her answer won’t fit here. But you can go to the site to find out.

Toby answers this and more at gettingthemsober.com

I was just a young mother-to-be when I caught my mother kissing my husband. I was so young, scared and intimidated that I detached from what I had seen; I later found out that they had been having a full on affair ( while I was pregnant and then for a few years ) My mother has never apologized. Our family has been literally fractured. I realize that my mother and my (now)ex husband are sex addicts that were attracted in their addiction . People cross unimaginable boundaries looking for “love” and attention. It has taken so many years and much therapy to overcome the depression, get the anger out, deal with the aftermath of this and let go of my bitterness. I am a stronger woman than I probably ever would have been, but have always had trust issues.I am calloused for life.
I wonder if this has ever happened to anyone else ? sometimes I feel very alone with this betrayal of my own mother. All I can say is that this thing , regardless of therapy/ time, has ruined an entire family.

I’ve been trying to go on a diet thats workable for the past 2 months…
They’ve all failed me because I ALWAYS binge on the third day!

Anyways, now I’m on a healthy diet w/lean meats, a lot of veggies and fruits etc.
I try to stay around 1,200 calories a day so I tend to plan my meals out ahead of time.

BUT the problem is always around dinner. My mom always makes dinner for my siblings and I (3 brothers). I love her to death but she always makes packaged fried foods, burgers, french fries, etc…
My brothers love it and so do I but I can’t eat it w/a diet.

When I tell her no thanks, she gets sort of offended and at the table my brothers start to pick on me and my eating saying I’m “anorexic.”

PLEASE help, I don’t know how to stay on a diet and please my mom at the same time!! My family has been through a lot of stress especially my mom and it means so much to her if I eat w/her meaning the same foods….

Please answer! Thanks!!!

To cut a very long story short, my ex and I split up over 6 years ago. We have two children, a son 10 and a daughter 8. He does NOT have parental responsibility. Our daughter has global learning delay so therefore disaled and in a special needs school. Our son has had severe behavioural problems and has just been suspended from school for 3 days. My current partner and i are trying extremely hard to get him assessed for high functioning autism.

During the 6 years his contact has been very irregular. Minimal phone calls etc. At one point i decided this was doing them no good and stopped contact. He then involved solicitors asking for contact – he wanted 1 day a month. I refused and said it shuld be one weekend a month minimum. ANyway he eventually agreed and stuck to it for a while.

For the past year or more it has become less regular and phone calls almost non existant. Then his father died a year ago. Very upsetting for everyone, and although i took our son to the funeral, Im not sure he was old enough to completely understand or even emotonally capable – ie autism. He did say that although he was sad, he didnt actually get on that well with his paternal grandfather as he always shouted at him etc and would have been sadder if it had been my dad. I told him feelings liek this were normal, but best to keep them to himself infront of his dad and p grandmother as they were obviously very upset.

Forward over 6mths – end of last year – my son comes home from his fathers in tears saying his grandmother had verbally abused me, telling him what a bad person i was for ending the relationship (6 years previously due to his alcoholism and our physcal fights). I wasnt too concerned with this – am used to it, but she shoutedd at my son that he didnt care when his grandfather died etc etc. I think this was an dispicable thing to say to a 10yr old – she still hasnt apologised to him.

Then this xmas boxing day, my children went to their fathers (his lives with his mother still) and while they were there they witness him and his current GF fighting. She slapped and scratched him so deeply there was ‘blood everywhere’ he then had her on the floor and was dragging her by the leg out the house. According to my son there was lots of shouting and it was all because the GF disagreed with my ex’s drinking while the children were in his care and the fact he was hiding/lying about it. I only have my sons word on this but my dad also collected the children from their dad and confirmed he had scratches down his face. Hearing this from my kids absolutely filled me with horror!! It is like history repeating itself, this is the reason i left him in the 1st place as it wasnt the right environment for my kids!! Cant say i condone the actions of his GF but i totally understand her frustration.

After i got over my shock, I decided that contact with him wasnt healthy for the kids and i wouldnt allow him to see them for now. I havent stopped calls, but he has a bad habit of completely forgetting or calling during the day while im home alone – i dont answer because it never stays as a convo about the kids, he either creates an argument or gets personal.

Now im in a it of a dilemma, my son misses his dad and asks to see him (mostly when he’s in trouble). There were more than a handful of occassions last year when he decided he’d rather not see his dad on the agreed time, and i enouraged but never forced him. He often didnt go. When this happened, my ex would also cancel our daughters visit. He rarely speaks to her on the phone and is constantly complaining about her – well she has special needs duh!!! She absolutely adores her dad, but then she does anyone who gives her a little attention. She has on mmore than one occassion in the last couple of weeks said ‘ GF hit daddy and daddy hit GF’. She doesnt understand and i’m obv concrned she was even exposed to this – she has a mental age of approx 4.
My son has also had a lot of behavioural problems and we have seen many different people to try and deal with it. Nothing has worked and now he seems to be getting worse. He was suspended from school on friday until thurs for swearing, spitting, lashing out and flatly refusing to do any work. Its the 1st time suspended, but not for this behavour.

My question is where do i stand. My daughter loves her dad, my son does when he feels he has something to gain from him, but with both their medical, mental and behavioural issues i truely dont think them seeing him is benefitting them in any way. In fact im concerned seeing what he has, this may be partly to blme for my sons behaviour. I wan tthe best for them and i think this is to cut contact with the ex and family. I would rather they saw the GF than him, at least she has the same ideas re drinking while they are in his care – not the violence though.
Just to add, I’m now with a new partner (over 5yrs) we have a son and another on the way. My partner is the sole provider for our family and i am a stay at home mum due to childcare cost and needing to be around for my daughters appointments with varous proffesionals – needless to say the many meetings with the school re my sons behaviour. We manage but are ona very tight budget and would really struggle to afford legal/court costs. I dont believe we are entitled to legal aid

I apologise for my speling and grammer – it is very heard to type quickly everythign that i needed to say on a laptop with sticky keys!

I wuld also like to say that no, Iam not innocent of any wrong doing, I may be a nag, and anythign else you wish to accuse me of, but I dont use violence, drink or drugs, certainly not infront of my children who have issues anyway.

I would also like to say that, yes, possibly i did drive him to drink, but as he was on drugs before i met him and in our early relationship, maybe it wasnt just me and he has an addictive personality.

I met him when i was 16 and tried to keep the relationship going for 7 years. Not once have i denied him contact once we separated unless i thought it was detrimental to my childrens well being, infact i have constantly encouraged him to see them more regularly as I didnt feel he was able to forge a good relationship with them by seeing them only once a month.

I sure you, Christopher, have had a bad experience, and giv
His drinking isnt a couple of cans, but as many as he can to get blotto – HE IS AN ALCOHOLIC!!!!

There is no court order.

I’d rather not check out Fathers For Justice –
I’m more in favour of Justice For Children!!!

I don’t remember, I watched it long ago. The British kid hangs out with these boys n they spy on these girls changing. Then when the boy grows up he gets a job as a factory worker, then a postman. He meets a girl who takes him on her house, they have sex, but she has some disease that makes her die. Later, the boy becomes an alcoholic and slaps his mother

s/o in my family gets drunk every night and tells me how bad i am and how i’m nothing but a B***h and that i’m so much like my mother. then they wont drop it. i’ve told them that i was worryed and they called me a “F ing” liar. then the next morning they 4get it. i have no choice but 2 stay b/c my stepmom thinks that i am trying to get my mom and dad back together (they divorced when i was 1 yr old.) i dont remember them being 2gether. so i am confused. PLEASE HELP ME

houses him and feeds him (his brother and mother) what should i do?

My BF seems to be a little too close to his family. I come from a large family, I am the youngest of seven, and so I absolutely understand why family is so important. We were a very close family. However, as my brothers and sisters grew up and got married and settled down into their own lives, they focused on nurturing their own families. I am now a 28 year old woman who is looking to settle down and have children. My BF of almost a year who is 30 years old is also looking to have children soon and get married. The problem is is that is constantly talks to his siblings who all live out of state. I occasionally facebook/call/drop a text to my sis/bros maybe every other week, etc, but he calls his sisters sometimes every day (then he may go 3 days-but that is rare), and his brothers about 4 times a week, each (3 brothers), and of course his mother- only a couple of times a week. When they talk, they gossip about one another’s spouse’s or the “out” sibling of the moment (or the aunt-uncle-grandparent they have dirt on or even mom if shes being too nosey, etc) and say very very personal things about their marriages and relationships. It’s all very weird to me, I would never sit around and gossip about my father, who I respect and love dearly – no matter how old fashioned (40 year gap) he may sometimes be, and I would never “pit” my siblings against each other. Yeah, we fought and did that when we were kids, but now we are ADULTS. I love so much about my boyfriend, I make so many sacrifices to be with him- I will probably always make better money, his credit is shot-mine is great, he struggles with alcoholism and other issues- I fortunately do not, etc etc, but its hard for me to understand why he needs these intimate relationships with his family members at 30 years old! It scares me bc I think maybe when we have a marriage he will report everything to them anytime we have a problem, and marriage is hard enough without your confidant/spouse going behind your back, etc. He swears he doesnt do that will me, but I know his mom/sisters ask him personal questions about and my personal business, what will prevent him from telling them if he gets angry. PLUS, what about when we have a family together, is he STILL going to be constantly calling his sisters and giving them a play by play of our life?? aahhhhhh!!! I mean dont they have their own families to care for now? Why cant he have more casual relationships with his siblings, occasionally updating them or emailing them? Please help with some direction!! Whip me into shape if Im out of line ;)
Dont worry too much about the alcoholism, I’ve been battling hard with him trying to help him keep him above water. That is an issue I cannot fix, or make better. The only solution was that he not drink (after the P.I., DWI, and several other horrifying episodes of him passing out or trying to drive, etc) and he has been doing GREAT! I believe in him and I support him with this, although his family for the most part does not understand because when they get together they constantly feed him liquor or trying to get him to drink :( and unfortunately he has major issues with it and they do not.
haha no he’s not Hispanic, just Texan with a dash of New Orleans Cajun ;) And I’m of Jewish origin if that really matters… So we def have different backgrounds. I guess my sisters and parents call me prob more than I call them, they are very close, I am kinda more independent of them.

I have had two knee scopes and have horrible arthritis and constant knee pain. Vicodin is the only thing that seems to work for the pain. No I am not an addict or junkie, I’m a 38 year old married mother of 3 who has a full time job outside the home who just can’t take being in constant pain anymore. Any suggestions from anyone? I am too young for a knee replacement I’m being told so……..

Well, I was born into a family with a whole lot of issues, my mom had me at 14, and then a few years later she got with my step-father who’s she still with until this very day.From my infant years through my toddler year my step dad treated me like his own even financially supported me since my biological father wasn’t in the picture, but as I got older he started to resent me.I know there was a time where I wasn’t such a good kid because I would talk-back or not always do as I was told.However I didn’t deserve a lot of the things he would do to me.My father would constantly belittle by calling me stupid, fat, sometimes he would beat me for the mallest things, one time he even made my younger siblings tell me how stupid I was, but worst of all my mother never really did anything to stop it.For the most part she would always blame me or make endless excuses for his bahavior especially when it comes to his alcoholism.

Well, anyway I’m grown now but due to some personl things that happened to me while I was growing up I wasn’t able to complete my high-school education.I was working as a dental assistant for almost three years up until may, but I had to quit because I was being harrassed at work all of the time.Now I’m stuck at home going through some of the same things that I went through as a child, the only difference is now my 18 year old brother is starting to belittle me just like my father did, and all my mom ever does is laugh about like its some sick joke.I try to carry myself in an adult manner but living here in this house brings out the worst in me, and sometimes I even find myself acting like them. I know ultimately the best thing for me to do would be for me to move, however I don’t have any money.So what should I do in the mean time?

I have recently moved to Texas with my husband and our 3 year old daughter. We have been here for 2 long years now and it just keeps getting worse! I left all my friends and family back in TN so my husband could have his father that he never knew in his life as well as our daughters life. Honestly trying to make a better life for us. When my husband actually found his father we flew to TX for a week to meet the family and it was great. My father in law offered my husband a great job with his company if we would move here. So that we did 4 months later. These people think their money makes them God in control of everyones life. His step monster(mom) pretty much on a daily basis lets us know that we are not equal to the rest of the family. They pamper my husbands siblings (rich brats to be more percise) and call us when they need a hole in the wall in the wall repaired one of them has caused. The step monster and drug addicited sister are constantly causing choas for me. I have lost a total of 50 lbs in 2 years and can’t afford to lose any more. The sister has really caused so many problems. I then try to repair the damage they have caused for my husbands sake only to be slapped in the face again. I am at the point that I am thinking of leaving my husband and taking my daughter back home to TN. I love my husband with all my heart but this is a living nightmare. He will not stand up for me or hisself when it comes to these people and I just can not take much more of it. They are all alochloics or drug addicted idiots, including the dad and step monster. They go as far as making fun of me because I will not have a drink with them. The children they have together literally grew up sleeping on pool tables in smoke filled bars. They have put one of their children in rehab several times from the time she was 13 till now and she is almost 20. Only to get her out and have a big lets all get drunk till we pass out party. They have their “connections” that allow them to live this way. PLease help me what in the world do I do about this?