We will help you get your mom off drugs!

I’ve been friends with a girl I’ve known since 6th grade. Up until about 4 years ago. I could only have ranted and raved about her. She fed me lunches when my mom was abusive and starving me as a child. She listened to years of my bs and was always there, always kind and always sharing. And I reciprocated the same to her. We were truly equal and good friends and it was a healthy relationship, but we were kids.

Once out of high school, she went to college 4 hours away and I had a baby. So our lives went in different paths but we talked on the phone every week at least, im’ed all the time on the computer and I went to visit her and she always made time for me when she came back home.

After her 4 years of college she moved back to our hometown and she was ready for other things in her life and me too…like dating and getting married. We were both single and ready to mingle. Well I found someone though other friends and we got very serious to the point of being engaged for a while. That is when the trouble started. She was still hitting the bars all weekend long and trying to find the love of her life and I’d found mine at the time. And I couldn’t hit the bars with her and she didn’t seem to want to do other things. It was a priority she had and I was being left out and I got mad with her and quit talking to her for a year. She wanted nothing to do with my new life b/c it was boring to her. And she wanted her bar friend back for the weekends.
So she found new bar friends that led her to other things like pot and eventually a bad boyfriend that was a meth lab cooker at 15, used herion, coke, etc.

He got her into pot and coke. She does only pot now but she drinks very heavily and they live in crack alley. (we obviously started talking again because I missed her and our friendship and my engagment ended) So I would still even try to go to her home and spend time with her hoping I could help or just to check and see how she was doing and she almost dragged me down to their level. I finally just told her that I wasn’t comfortable at her new house and that I’d still love to be her friend but we’ll have to meet up somewhere else other than there and I’d like it to be just us two and not her cracked out boyfriend. Who we all still suspect is using coke. She is blind to him and his faults and her life has become a s*it hole due to her own bad choices and being with him.

She has since only talked to me though myspace comments once a month. I’m now married of 2 months. I have a 6 year old child and I can’t figure out if the friend I once loved and couldn’t imagine not having is gone forever and if I should say see you later one last time. Or is it worth staying in the background in case she needs me and accept the fact she is never there for me, never sees me anymore and is only out for her and her boyfriends gain?

Any thoughts guys? I could really use this. We’re 26 years old now.

And if your opinion is that I should end this and say adios…what are your suggestions on how to do it other than saying you’re a drug addict, etc. and I’ve got to go? Thanks to who reads this.

ok this is gonna be a long description but here we go. Before becoming a freshmen in high school my grandfather warned me about druggies and drug dealers in high school and that i should stay away from them and said drugs would ruin my life and that i would be living off the streets and said I would rob banks, kill people, steal purses for drugs and said drugs are like cigarettes if i do not do them I will never have to worry about quitting and he said they would kill me and used elvis presley as an example on how successful he was and he died. My grandfather told me they will end up like my step mother who was an alcoholic who ended up on the streets. Even a cop came in and told me stuff about drugs. He said how marijuana is addictive and how these kids in college got up in the morning and smoked after lunch they would smoke and after classes were all done they would smoke and after dinner they would smoke for the rest of the night. He said they had never passed college. He told our class how this guy got addicted to heroin through smoking a weed laced with it. He told us how some one died from heroin the first time at a party. He said he has never met any one who said drugs were the best decision they have ever made. He said if you would use them you could do things you would never thought you would do like steal from a friend or family member and so on. I even know some one who stole 100 dollars from his parents to get an ounce of weed. But when ever it comes to on line things i hear a bunch of other things like peoples opinions about things saying there is nothing wrong about getting drunk all the time or getting high. They say under age drinking does not cause alcoholism irresponsible idiots do but under age drinking is being irresponsible. I have heard so may different opinions about drugs when it comes from paces such as yahoo or other places saying what cops and people and parents tell you about drugs is lies they try to scare you from doing them it is fun to get high. They are under control of the media. When i was taught no drug ever makes a persons life better things could just get worse in the long run whether it is days, months, years from now. I have heard so many stories about marijuana. They say it is safe and not addictive. People say marijuana has helped improve their life and made them successful. Look at willie nelson and a rumor about the beatles saying they came up with their songs while being high. Look at San Antonio Holmes he is a foot ball player even has been caught with it and failed a drug test and was traded. I just do not know who to believe every ones opinions has changed my thinking about drugs whats true whats not. They say you you should get a very reliable source but getting drugs from drug dealers is not a safe thing at all. People on line have told me that ecstasy is safe and not addictive. Hell I even read that cocaine is not addictive and it is safe off of here. People say lsd will make your life awesome and it is safe and all that stuff and it is not addictive. there are people who say if you use drugs responsibly you will do fine or if you know the consequences and use them safely you will do fine. It is like people always try to come up with excuses to do drugs. But this is a place for people’s opinion it is just i do not know who to believe anymore. I just do not want to make a wrong decision. I do not know why i even ask this here i probably will not get a straight answer at all. I just need help.

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

he was such a good dad.. always helping always working hard… and then he just snapped (over something stupid) and he hasn’t come home for the past three days. hes been staying on the streets. (what he said) hes a former drug addict and he disappeared the same day he got a 900 dollar check and now hes claiming that he lost ALL his money and he still doesn’t want to come home. im thinking hes doing drugs or just found someone else……. idk.. but we live on our own and i cant pay rent because im a stay at home mom (but also an online college student) i feel like hes not trying very hard to stay a part of this family cause if he did he’d just talk about our problems instead of running away… i really do love him but at the same time i dont think i deserve this and move on….. but its so hard being alone

what do you guys think?

My mother has been addicted to meth for going on 4 1/2 years she has tried programs, counseling, and a few other things. Yet, she tells me that she can’t help it she can’t do anything without thinking about it. She has even cried to me asking me for help because she hates doing it, what she does to get it, and not being able to function properly on a daily basis without doing it. Even thinking about how much damage it’s done to her it only makes her want to get more. she literally has nothing now she is in jail doing a program, but it hasn’t owrked in the past. I’ve done alot of research and there aren’t that many people who recover completely from addiction to meth. many of them have relapses even if it is years later. Is there anyone with any experience in this matter who could share some advice?
I didn’t always help my mom she was out of my life as well as anyone else that I knew for about 2 1/2 years. She came back to my life in May 2004.She has actually tried to dissapear again because she says she hates for me to see her so weak and unable to control herself. She used to be such a great person, actually she still is. I can still catch a glimpse of my real mom in her whenever she holds my sister. Even til this day she won’t tell me why she started. She says that she doesn’t remember. which is true her memory is horrible now. I’m actually so scared that she’ll leave me again. I’d rather have her in my life with drugs than to not have her.

Yet she keeps having children! My gramdmother has her first child and my mother has her second and now she’s pregnant with her third!!! She does drugs and drinks when she pregnant! Her first child has alot of problems because of it, yet she still gets away with it!!! Is there anything i can do or anyone i could call to keep her from having anymore children???

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

As in the case of the mother of the octuplets. Doctors are put in jail for handing out prescriptions for pain medication to drug addicts, why is this any different. The woman was obviously fertile already.
I have been pregnant twice and have a 13 year old and a 7 year old …. do the math.

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

houses him and feeds him (his brother and mother) what should i do?

I am a recovering drug addict. I stopped on my own, and I dont ever want to take drugs again, for anything. I fortunatley had a sponsor who is a personal hero of mine and a notable musician. So I feel that I can tell when someone is on drugs or atleast not sober.

My sister is 33. She has a child, and is a great mom. Her husband is the coolest guy too. But I always get the feeling she is on Adderall or something like that. She just says wierd stuff and acts strange. Example: she just sent me a text to say that a guy from knoxville is going to be on jeopardy tonite. Why would I care? not to be mean, but who sends that kind of thing? She also obsesses over everything. She is nice though, but can be extremely critical. She also had a miscarriage about a year ago. She wont watch tv because she says it “adds stress” to her baby. Shes pregnant. And wont ride in cars for over an hour because “the doctor says looking outside is stressful”. She also said that she hopes she gets laid off. I dont understand why you would wish that when you complain about money all the time. And, every present my family gets from her, is always a picture of her daughter. She puts all the pictures online, to date, her 4 year old has over 30k pictures online alone.

My brother is an alcoholic, my dad is an alcoholic, my sister used to be somewhat. It seems drugs and abuse runs in our family. Im glad im done with those things. What do you think? Sometimes shes normal, others shes not. And she acts exactly how someone on adderall would. Finding interest in meaningless things and such.

Id just like an opinion

Okay I hear people saying this and my friends tell me they hear people saying it.
And a lot of the time it’s people who I have no idea who they are.
They say I’m a “drug addict”.
Like, “Oh my god that *my first and las name here* is such a drug addict.”
Okay so heres why I think they think I’m on drugs and crack and that shit:
1. I have under eye circles and my eyes are small, so they don’t open that wide. I look tired a lot because I have really bad insomnia. 0-4 hours of sleep.
2. I’m really hyper I guess. I have A.D.H.D. So yeah sorry I don’t take the monkey dope. I hide it in my mouth and spit it out(lol hopefully my mom doesn’t see this). Made me think suicidal thoughts…..not fun when you’re always thinking, “Oh I could hang myself from there.”

Okay that’s all that I can think of.
Is there any other reason that someone would think one is on drugs? LIke clothing or what they eat or how they do their hair or where they go or something like that?
How can I get them to stop saying this bull?
Like what can I do?
=D
Sorry, I likes smileys.
Yeah it’s Ritalin.
I think?
I don’t know, I’ve never really paid that much attention to it.
My mom’s just like. “Here take this it will calm you down.”

Okay I hear people saying this and my friends tell me they hear people saying it.
And a lot of the time it’s people who I have no idea who they are.
They say I’m a “drug addict”.
Like, “Oh my god that *my first and las name here* is such a drug addict.”
Okay so heres why I think they think I’m on drugs and crack and that shit:
1. I have under eye circles and my eyes are small, so they don’t open that wide. I look tired a lot because I have really bad insomnia. 0-4 hours of sleep.
2. I’m really hyper I guess. I have A.D.H.D. So yeah sorry I don’t take the monkey dope. I hide it in my mouth and spit it out(lol hopefully my mom doesn’t see this). Made me think suicidal thoughts…..not fun when you’re always thinking, “Oh I could hang myself from there.”

Okay that’s all that I can think of.
Is there any other reason that someone would think one is on drugs? LIke clothing or what they eat or how they do their hair or where they go or something like that?
How can I get them to stop saying this bull?
Like what can I do?
=D
Sorry, I likes smileys.
Yeah it’s Ritalin.
I think?
I don’t know, I’ve never really paid that much attention to it.
My mom’s just like. “Here take this it will calm you down.”