We will help you get your mom off drugs!

I am a 30 yr old recovering addict and I’ve been struggling with heroin addiction and alcoholism for over 10 yrs now. I was just recently hired at a construction company where there are more than a few drug users and on top of that I ride to work with my mothers boyfriend who is a pot head and he smokes the whole way there. I know for myself it’s a big problem but my wife seems to think it’s ok. It really bothers me but she thinks I should stay there. On the other hand I can work for this other guy for the same hourly wage without the problems. But my wife wants me too stay there I don’t get it am I wrong?

has destroyed everyone’s life stealing multiple items and money from my now dying mom, disabled brother, other brother, and apparently has broken into multiple houses to support his habit and it again homeless and jobless and was hanging around my mom’s house..broke into her house before Christmas last year and was fopund hiding and living in the attic and stole multiple expensive Christmas presents.

He has stolen from me a credit card and changed $1000 before discover, has my social security number or did as he stole my driver’s licence and in my lifetime 5 complete set of keys. He somehow gets in the houses and cars even if locks are changed. I have a shed at my mom’s and he broke dozens of locks anfd it appears he has stolen stuff but I am afraid to look due to him living in it and using the bathoom everywhere in his drugged up state..broke windows and dead squirrels may be in there and I am afraid of the virus they may carry so don’t even know what he took from there..(cont)
it was the gills and a mess and now appears
half full but he claims he threw everything in the back which may be..I can’t see as it is all stacked to the roof due to his moving everything around. Naturally I do not want him in there. He used to be obsessed with guns and made multiple threats to kill everyone in the family. Everyone is terrified of him (he is addicted to oxycontin & possible other drugs. ..his mother has disowned him due to threats by her husband (who isn’t his dad) to divorce her if she helps him in any way (she is wealthy) as the nephew has lid so many times, cheated her of money, she spent thousands trying to get him help..he lies and doesn’t go to treatment..he did just go and claimsd he is off and (as usual) notone will help him..gee I wonder why after he stole so much and lied so much and threatened to kill everyone violently). I doubt if he is off drugs like he claims as he lies all the time.

My mom is dying and has about a month to live of her
prognosis and can’t take his continual begging and stressing and all. Anyway, I went to fireworks with my brother and a picnic and apparently this nephew was in my car..I knew right away as brights were on, radio way up, back light on..my other brother said druggie was in the car as the alarm lights were flashing and a big stack of my papers from the car was on the bench where this kid (in his late 20′s) was sitting and going through..he claimed h was not in the car..I found a purse in the car missing and it was found in my mom’s back yard where this guy slept on the porch..so I know he took it (luckily I took my wallet and purse with me and the purse was empty)..I don’t see these papers my nephew had that my brother said he put in the car just for a couple..those have my address on it..he did not know where I lived but now does. He is skilled at stealing people’s identities as this is what he and an accomplish did when they broke in the housing..the jerk..I hate him. I am terrified
now feeling no safety..I just left my mom as I was preparing some food for tomorrow and it hit me on the way home, he has my address.

I am in my late 50′s and never had a computer until this year. I am disabled and have no way to replace the computer, and printer, vcrs, big stereo birthyday present and two TVs..it took my whole life to get this stuff. I now only have $100 for food and gas and clothers and misc after the bills so obviosly can’t replace stuff hre steals if he comes here and braks in..he knows my cr so can see if I am here or not..what can I do to protect my belongings? He got into my mom’s at christams with two sticks and a lock in the sliding door.

My chain lock was breoken by my apartment so it does not appear too study. I also have a slide lock and live on the first floor so he could break a window..* am worried he may have taken some preapproved credit card forms and might break in to get those activated and ruin my credit. I hate where I live and am locked in
in here for life almost in I don’t get out and I must have good credit to be approved for the subsidizedFFousing I have breen on the list for 16 months for and may get in in the next 2 years..if he ruins my credit then what..I cabn’t stand it here as so small. Please advise. I do not know if I have enough proof to get a restraining order which I was unable to get on shed as it is my mom’s property and she won’t file and now is too sick. I have no money for rehab..he lies and does not go..she is too ill to go get a restraining order and maybe afraid..brother who is guardian said not going cause he wasn’t the victim this time..he almost seems to enjoy freaking me out more..how can I protect my property

Since we know that the 4th house and the Moon can indicate Mom and her issues, what might indicate a mother’s drug abuse?

BQ: Suppositions aside, do you know anyone with this placement, and does this ring true in their real life?

My mom was a drug addict. I couldnt save her but i feel it is my obligation to help others. What would i have to go to college for and how long?

I was addicted to bath salts, mephedrone, stimulants. I finally had enough and told my mom that I needed help. I have been clean for three months. Is it OK for me to drink once in a while. I never had a problem with alcohol, so don’t see why drinking once in a while would be a problem.

I have a friend whose father is doing heroin. Because of this, my friend was enticed to try it himself. Now he’s addicted. His mom is asking for my help in convincing him to get himself treated. I was wondering how I’m going to do this, as well as find information regarding drug rehabs in their area.

if your neighbors below were constantly doing drugs. you smelt weed, chemicals and the perm solution smell along with burning plastic all the time sometimes the chemicals were very strong, would you report them to the police?? if you did and they started retaliating, would you move or what would u do??
yeah it old and it seems no one cares. then to top it off i have a tot and htey even have a baby. isnt that child abuse?

We found out we were losing our house a few months ago, and it’s torn my mom apart – stressed her to no end. She’s finally broken down and decided to leave my father, who’s a drunk alcoholic, drug addict, and pot head. She’s not taking us or my other sister (I have another, but she’s getting married, she’s going off with her man) with her. She doesn’t have the money. Why in HELL she thinks this life is better for us doesn’t get into my head. I’m sobbing, my dad is abusive, he steals the drugs I take for acute migraines I’ve gotten since a baby, he drinks every night with those meds and now he’s smoking pot on top of it all. And she’s LEAVING us with him. What do I do? I have no other family to turn to, none whatosoever. I’m 15 and still have a while to go until I’m legal and can live on my own. I’m scared, I can’t live with him alone. Help me.
I should’ve mentioned I’m homeschooled, it’s extremely hard for me to find adults to talk to about this stuff. My mother also currently has no job, it’s why she’s lived with my dad through-out these years, only for his finical support. She was planning to get one when/if we kept the house, so it’s no surprise she’s leaving and getting one on her own. Talking to a school counselor to find soical service is out of the question though

Her mother got temporary custody during a divorce because she filed first. She is a known drug addict, crack, pills and pot and we fear that she is still using around the baby.
We have had wellness checks done by the local police several times and there was nothing found as far as the baby being in danger.
How can we have our grandchild checked to make sure that she is not exposed to drugs?

I’m 18 years old and have really bad ADHD. I currently have a prescription for 15mg tablets of adderall and my psychiatrist told me I should take it every day twice a day so it stays in my system. I don’t take it every day and rarely take it twice a day because I don’t need it all the time. But when I do take it for school, my mom and sister treat me like some disgusting drug addcit an actually call me that too. If I get a headache or feel sick or if I have any problem whatsoever they automatically say it’s because of my adderall and tell me to stop taking it. I am so sick of being treated badly because I need to take my medicine, especially since I take way less than I’m actually supposed to. What should I do? Am I in the right?

My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

My fiance is a drug addict and has been for six years. He does not have emotional support from his family and he has no friends. I am the only person he truly cares about and his mother has told me that he has gotten much better since he met me. Unfortunately he still uses. He suffers from depression and Borderline Personality disorder also. Some days he calls rehabs and attempts to do things to get better and others he is negative about his life and future. He uses drugs to compensate for his “sickness” when in reality the drugs are his ultimate sickness. He has to go to jail soon and will be there for at least five months. I’m scared that he will get better while there, but go back to using when he gets out. I don’t know what I should do for him. Please do not say leave him because it will never happen. He is my best friend and I would give my life if only he could get clean, Also please do not suggest 12-step meetings because he is not religious. Can anyone give me some advice?

I live in a mixed neighborhood of huge homes to ,well ,crappy homes. Down the road is a “crappy” home and I suspect the adults are meth addicts. The town I live in is full of them. This couple, in their late 30′s have two daughters aged 11 and 16. The father and girls are very very nice people and I have befriended the girls somewhat. (Their mother is in jail). Today they came to use my phone for the first time ever, and I overheard them telling the grandma on the other end that they needed groceries.

My dilema is what to do. I hate the idea that the girls may be hungry and I can certainly give them food. But how do I do it without appearing as charity? Or should I just stay out of it. I am a sucker and have had my share of being taken advantage of. Incidently there is a soup kitchen a half mile from here that they could eat at.
You guys are great! It never fails to get some great answers quickly on this site. And I am pretty certain they are meth addicts so I will not invite them to dinner, altho the girls are wonderful to talk to and I would enjoy them. I will let you know what I end up doing and how it works out. Thanks a million for the idea.
lysa, I see your point but the small mountain town that I live in is inundated with this situation. Seriously. We have hundreds of families like this, it is an epidemic here. So I don’t really feel that I should report them to cps or anything like that. If they rounded up all the kids of meth addicts in this town, sadly half the school would be gone. It sucks.

I know you need to cut druggies off unless they get help but what happens if you also treat them like you hate them?

My brother is on Meth and he did a lot of horrible things to our family over the years. When our Mom passed away I finally retaliated and did a lot of horrible things to him. To be honest though it didn’t make me feel any better.

I am wondering what losing all family support will do to a drug addict?

This is a pretty long story but I will try to keep it as short as possible.
I have been estranged from my brother since we were teenagers because we were never close due to his molesting me when I was young. Last March we came into contact at our mother’s house and I learned that he had a four month old baby girl. Our mother insisted that he had changed and that I should give him a chance, so I did.
Fast forward to June 27, 2010: I found myself bringing the baby girl home with me to another state because my brother had a major drug overdose and the baby’s mother admitted to smoking meth and breastfeeding.
I have had the baby since that time although my brother and mother moved to the state I live in the second week of July. Neither of them held a job and I payed most of their expenses. I also kept receipts for every expense I had for the baby to be able to prove where she lived if needed.
Fast forward to January 5, 2011: My sixty-one year old mother called me late in the evening to tell me that my brother was high and he had assaulted her. I went to pick her up and she lived in my home for two months before moving back to the state she had moved from. She refused to file charges. The entire two months that she lived in my home she said nearly every day that my brother is on drugs and has no business being around the baby. She encouraged me to file for legal custody nearly every day, but I didn’t…until…
On January 31, 2011 I received a call from the local hospital. I was told that my brother had just had emergency surgery. When I got to the hospital I learned that he had been shooting up again and had inserted a tomato juice can into his rectum, requiring emergency surgery to remove it. I also learned that he admitted to shooting up for several days before this happened. He tested positive for nine dangerous drugs in his system. He told the medical staff that he shoots up frequently and that this wasn’t the first time he had to have emergency surgery to remove something from his rectum. Thankfully the hospital staff put these statements in his medical record and my attorney was able to subpoena them. Also he doesn’t smoke his drugs, he is an I.V. drug addict. It was at that point that I decided that I did need to file for custody of the baby. I shopped around for an attorney and filed a few weeks later.
My mother had moved back to her home state before I filed. She swears that she never told me to file for custody and she has reported me to child welfare services several times since I filed in an attempt to have my own seventeen year old daughter as well as the baby removed from my home. Child welfare workers have gotten so tired of her lies that they don’t even bother coming to my home or calling any more.
My problem is that I don’t know how to deal with my brother. He refuses to accept that I am trying to keep the baby safe and forcing him to get help if he wants to be in her life. I have never denied him visitation or phone calls, I have tried to help him as well as the baby’s mother since this started but they just refuse to act like adults. Worse, he has refused to take court-ordered drug tests so now his visitation has to be supervised in my home.
How do I deal with him? How do I get him to see that I am trying to keep the baby from being around dangerous drug addicts? And why is he suddenly so angry about this when I have had her for nearly a year and he can’t even say that he has even tried to support her? I do not understand his reasoning. Any ideas?

I’m 20 my boyfriends 21. We have been together off and on since I have been 15. We have found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend struggles with indulging in alcohol and when he’s drunk it leads him to drugs. he got in a car reck and had to go to icu where he couldn’t even get out of his bed. He received a dui and already had warrents at the time. After that he changed and wanted to be clean so we got an apt together and have been there for 4 mnths. He has never acted bad except foer last nite. He spent his entire check 400.00 dollars on alcohol and drugs in ONE night. I didn’t even see him and he blaming me and my dad that we stole 200 frm him. The day b4 he was drinking as well and told me he didn’t want a bigger woman as his babys mom. I jus got my hair cutt and he said maybe he would be nicer if I didn’t look like a dike. He also too my bag of baby stuff frm rachels house who confirmed I was prgnant and riped the papers up as well as the diaper and threw the toy monkey and baby cup on the floor when the cup cracked. I don’t know if he’s scred about the baby and lashing out or what’s going on??? I went to my moms last night. I’m thinking abiut going back even though there is no room for me and this baby when it comes. I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do? What would you do?

I’ll try to make this as short as possible.
I began dating the father of my baby a few months ago. I knew of him going a rehab a couple months prior for a heroin problem. He’s my age. He was loving, caring, really sweet, and sober! Within just a few weeks, things began to drastically change. Signs definitely pointed toward him using again. A couple months into it and I ended it.
Only to find out, about a week later I missed my period. I ended up telling my mother who purchased some pregnancy tests for me and long story short, I’m pregnant.
When he first found out the news, he was in shock (I had already given him the heads up that I was suspecting I was pregnant). The day I saw him we had a conversation about it, where it pretty much consisted of me wanting to keep it and him crying/freaking out and wanting an abortion. A fight ended up occurring where he pushed me around. He left and that was it.
Exactly a week later he ended up going to jail for 4-5 days for something that occurred earlier on. He was calling me from jail, obviously sober, so I think that’s why he was being nice. Apologizing, asking about the pregnancy, wanting to be with me, wanting to make it work and making plans for how we could make things work with the baby. The day he got out I went and saw him and it was good at first but then turned into another fight where he was scared and upset about the pregnancy.
Once again, we didn’t talk for a couple of weeks. He called me one day after leaving one of his rehab meetings so we could “talk” more. He came over and it was good at first, he doesn’t want an abortion but kept saying “this should have been OUR decision” (although I gave him the opportunity for days to come and talk to me about our options and the one time he came over, it resulted in a fight). So again, it turned into a fight where the cops were called, he pushed me around again and somehow I ended up getting a fat lip. Cops come and find a crack pipe that belonged to him.

So, I have an order or protection against him now, which ends in december, I’m due in January.
We haven’t had any contact since that incident which was about three weeks ago. I’m doing a lot better without the stress of him. I stay home with my mom everyday to just relax, I’m taking courses this summer to graduate early right when my baby is due, and I feel more and more content and confident that I’m going to be okay.
I still think about the father though, I block him out throughout the day but I often dream about him. The dreams are dreams of situations we were in when we were happy with each other, before he started using. I can’t help but think, he’s 17!, he hasn’t been using long, he still has an opportunity to sober up and fix his life. But no one thinks this, his parents have kind of given up hope on him pretty much. I’m the only one that steps in and tells him it’s not right, the only person who hasn’t given up hope.
Is it wrong of me to want to talk to him, want to encourage him to correct things? After all these times of hurting me and doing things that could have harmed the baby, I should stay away. But while he was sober in jail, he was truly caring about it all and I can’t help but think he’s not the real person. The drugs have changed him but the good in him is still there somewhere. Should I stop thinking this and just move on? I want him to change for himself, and for this baby. I just don’t know what to do, should I contact him or leave it be?
If I continue to not speak to him and decide that I don’t feel it’s safe for him to be with the baby, how easy is it for me to fight for him not having any rights? The thought of him not being sober scares me thinking he could easily just come and want to see the baby. With his criminal background, of drug arrests, robbery, etc., how likely is it that he could have rights towards the baby? What if I don’t put him on the birth certificate?
It’s not MY father, it’s the BABY’s father. Thankyou though so far for the answers.
To the last answer, I never once stated that I was even considering getting an abortion. Why would you give me all that information? It has NOTHING to do with what I asked.

Suppose the following scenario. Two days before a robbery and murder an 18 year old woman living with her mother while she completes high school is tossed out of the home because the mother needs the space for her new boyfriend. The woman, a drug addict, has spent most of her adolescence in foster homes, groups homes, and juvenile correctional facilities. A few days before turning 18 the woman was pronounced rehabilitated and returned to her mother’s custody.

The woman was molested by her biological father at an earlier age. He died in a car wreck when she was 8 years old. Other members of the family were seriously injured but survived. Nevertheless the family never recovered from the loss of the head of household

Alone and having no where to turn the woman found a group of men at a poorly run shelter. In return for performing oral sex the men promised to provide some money (that the woman would use to buy drugs). But in the end they refused to pay her.

A later another woman who had earned a some of money at her job unwittingly boasted about it.. Hearing this a several persons including the woman about whom we’re talking decided to rob her.

During the robbery the 18 year old woman stabbed the fatally stabbed the victim.

The group of robbers was arrested not too long after. Following a trial the 18 year old woman was found guilty of murder and sentence to hang. The judge said that while he felt sorry for the woman her crime was especially cruel and vile and therefore the law mandates she must die.

Should this poor woman be executed.

Hope it is at least a slightly interesting story. I think it does bring up some issues. Hope the answers are good.

my life started out as a series of unfortuanet events. i was born in the back of a jeep and thorwn out into The Wild. i then was found and sent to a foster home, and was there till i was about 3. then the hendersons took me home and cared for me. by the time i was still in preschool, i had been a total jerk to all the kids. then i got mad at this kid and i shoved his head into stone so hard his skull had cracked.

i had done worse things from then to about 3rd grade, but by the time i was in 4th grade i was a raging drug addict. I had smoked weed, heroin, coke, crystal meth you name it i did it. by the time i was in the 5th grade i had my own underground fight club system devolped. i was the leader of a group called the bloodhounds. i basiclly transformed nerds and goody two shoes to huge bullies. i sold them drugs all the time and got rich quick. by the time i was in 6th grade, i hit my mother in the head with an axe cause i got real mad at her for making me go out and help with the garden. she had almost died…

by the time i was in 8th grade i shanked my father with a kitchen knife so hard he had lost over half of his blood…. i was sent to juvi and got out recently. i am now 20 and i drink, smoke weed, and do all of this without caring for my famliy and friends. please help me god.