We will help you get your mom off drugs!

EVERYONE, and i mean EVERYONE at my school does some form of drug – weed, alcohol, smoke cigarettes, you name it. very rarely do i come across someone who is completely clean like me. the people who i know who don’t do drugs are completely nerdy (like, ultra goody goody girls never been kissed) and i have nothing in common with them anyway. i have few friends because of this – in my experience, my friends who do drugs have been very unreliable, terrible friends in the past.
it makes me sad to have so few friends because of this reason, yet i’m not going to start drinking and smoking to make new friends.
also – this really is an inconvenience when it comes to dating. i don’t know of any guys who don’t do drugs, and my ex boyfriend of a year turned out to be a huge drug addict and hid it from me so well. he ended up getting kicked out of school and going to jail for it – then i found out. also, my mom is a recovered alcoholic of 3 years (she went to rehab in 2006), but yeah, needless to say i’ve had some bad experiences with drugs.

i just don’t know what to dooo…..

I have been binge eating for the past 2 years, and my husband doesn’t know. My mom always pressured me to be VERY thin, and now that I’m married, I’m so scared of becoming a fat wife and I’m gradually gaining quite a bit of weight. It is ruling my life and causing me to binge eat, (hide eating way too much at once, mostly at night)… this is my way of dealing with my stress, and it’s effecting me the opposite way by weight gain. I don’t want to go to the Dr.’s about it because I don’t want a mental disorder on my records and I don’t want my husband to know how depressed I am. Also, I hear that anti-d’s can cause weight gain! What can I do???
I have been binge eating for the past 2 years, and my husband doesn’t know. My mom always pressured me to be VERY thin, and now that I’m married, I’m so scared of becoming a fat wife and I’m gradually gaining quite a bit of weight. It is ruling my life and causing me to binge eat, (hide eating way too much at once, mostly at night)… this is my way of dealing with my stress, and it’s effecting me the opposite way by weight gain. I don’t want to go to the Dr.’s about it because I don’t want a mental disorder on my records and I don’t want my husband to know how depressed I am. Also, I hear that anti-d’s can cause weight gain! What can I do???
*** Thank you so much for your replies. I joined Yahoo, just to ask this and have anxiously been awaiting an answer. One thing I did not mention though, (about my husband & I), is that we are very “natural” so to speak, and I know how much he disapproves of medication, (as do I), but I don’t know what else to do!
Sorry I re-posted it… I obviously have no idea what I’m doing. =]

I have been binge eating for the past 2 years, and my husband doesn’t know. My mom always pressured me to be VERY thin, and now that I’m married, I’m so scared of becoming a fat wife and I’m gradually gaining quite a bit of weight. It is ruling my life and causing me to binge eat, (hide eating way too much at once, mostly at night)… this is my way of dealing with my stress, and it’s effecting me the opposite way by weight gain. I don’t want to go to the Dr.’s about it because I don’t want a mental disorder on my records and I don’t want my husband to know how depressed I am. Also, I hear that anti-d’s can cause weight gain! What can I do???
I have been binge eating for the past 2 years, and my husband doesn’t know. My mom always pressured me to be VERY thin, and now that I’m married, I’m so scared of becoming a fat wife and I’m gradually gaining quite a bit of weight. It is ruling my life and causing me to binge eat, (hide eating way too much at once, mostly at night)… this is my way of dealing with my stress, and it’s effecting me the opposite way by weight gain. I don’t want to go to the Dr.’s about it because I don’t want a mental disorder on my records and I don’t want my husband to know how depressed I am. Also, I hear that anti-d’s can cause weight gain! What can I do???
*** Thank you so much for your replies. I joined Yahoo, just to ask this and have anxiously been awaiting an answer. One thing I did not mention though, (about my husband & I), is that we are very “natural” so to speak, and I know how much he disapproves of medication, (as do I), but I don’t know what else to do!
Sorry I re-posted it… I obviously have no idea what I’m doing. =]

My Mother is a alcholic and a drug addict and I’m afraid she would ruin my wedding if she was invited. I love her dearly but she is notorious for bad behavior at public events . I’m afraid that if I don’t invite her she will be crushed but at the same time I don’t want her making an ass out of herself at my wedding.

My Mother is a alcholic and a drug addict and I’m afraid she would ruin my wedding if she was invited. I love her dearly but she is notorious for bad behavior at public events . I’m afraid that if I don’t invite her she will be crushed but at the same time I don’t want her making an ass out of herself at my wedding.

HI im a 22 year old woman…my problem started abt 5 years ago…i started fad dieting..n lost a lot of weight…n then some doctors thought it was anorexia..some d
id not (iv bin to a lot of doctors)…after abt a year later…i started having anxiety attacks n a lot of depression…n a lot of binge eating…a doctor has put me on a tablet called clonil..for OCD…i took it for a year..the binge eating stopped…i went to another doctor n she asked me stop taking clonil…n immediately..the binge eating has started…n besides that…i have a lot of anxiety…depression…BAD mood swings..i become so impulsive all of a sudden…n i throw things at my mom n dad..i cant control myself..i even go 2 the extent of hitting them…i also cut myself using razor blades when im really frustrated…n when im depressed i cant even get out of bed..cant go to school…i hardly get out of the house…i feel im destroying my family coz all this is having an effect on them n my life is being destroyed too…im so totally lost..some doctors say i have Bipolar Disorder…do i??what disorder do i have??im so confused…i feel suicidal all the time…will i get better??is there help??

I smoke weed but only when im alone because I dont want people to think im dumb but i think im addicted and my mom was on all drugs when she was pregnant with me. I want to smoke but i dont.

I began as a Protestant Christian and then ended up being a Catholic, but I have always believed that God would change me somehow by his divine grace… Well, he didn’t. I come from a non-religious family, and that is my deepest sorrow. If my parents believed in God, I would undoubtedly be better off, but they do not. My mother had me out of wedlock and when she later married my father, it was only a matter of time before he died of alcoholism, he drank way too much, and it’s painful to think how many times he had hurt my mother by committing adultery and sleeping around with prostitutes. Anyway, I thought my life would be different when I became a believer. I have my own share of problems. I have a quick temper and I can be pretty selfish at times. One could even consider me spoiled. I have tried to do my best and change with the help of God. Well, not working. I have acquired knowledge and become smart but my cleverness even makes me worse, I think, because I know how to change theoretically, but in reality I am powerless. And being a part of atheistic family doesn’t help. Whenever I do something wrong, whenever I slip, my mom is always ready to criticize me. “You say you’re a Christian, look what you’re doing! Doesn’t look like loving God to me!” She swears and is really nasty to me at times, but if I say anything in return, she’s turning into a real nightmare. “What have you said? Where is your faith now?”

I really think that if there was a God, he wouldn’t have allowed me to suffer so, He would have helped me to change, He would have protected me “against the snares of the devil”, but He hasn’t. He’s left me just like that. I can cry all I want, I may want to die and be close to suicide, I can attempt to do it, and He is not there. Where is He? When I go to church, I see people there who don’t believe in God or what the church teaches, they just come. It hurts me, but I am powerless, and I am drowning, drowning, drowning…. I cannot believe anymore. I will say after Nitzsche, God is dead, and put away the icons. He doesn’t exist. After all, if you sin, you can still as well do it without God. The only difference is that you don’t have to be a hypocrite anymore saying that you believe in one thing, and then do another.

I turned 18 a couple months ago, and recently my birth mother and father have each separately contacted me on facebook. I met with my birth mom the other day and she’s crazy. She gave me all these gifts and candy, but she sends me all these dramatic texts about crying herself to sleep and how she missed me over the years. She is dying with stage 4 liver disease…which is what makes this whole situation tough. I dont really want her in my life, but i feel bad because im her only child, whom she put up for adoption, and i feel like i have an obligation to see her now and be a part of her life. I love my life the way it is, and she is extremely complicated and has so many problems of her (alcoholism, smoking, poor health, poor fiscal situation etc) and im moving 800 miles away to college in a month and she talks about visiting me, even moving there. I feel smothered. This has all transgressed over a span of 3 or 4 days. That’s just my mother. my father has 7 children, so now i suddenly have all these brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, and uncles. everyone from both sides of the family are contacting me on facebook and wont leave me alone. so, my question, how do i get the situation back to what it used to be. I dont want her in my life, as bad as this may sound. I love my adoptive parents so much.
Im moving 800 miles away for four years and possibly more than that and ill only be home a couple times a year

I’ve had a horrible year. I cut the shit out of my body so bad that i’m scarred for the rest of my life all over myself. I couldn’t get over the abuse that i’ve been through rape, abandonment just physical and mental crap..Anyways I’m also an alcoholic and a drug addict bad. I drink everyday and do pretty much anything i can get my hands on. asked for help but my mom didnt listen and my dad commited suicide a year ago. I lost all my muscle because of the alcohol and i’m depressed over it cause i’ve always been in great shape and super skinny but i can’t tolerate life unless i’m messed up. I’m having drug induced hallucinations and sometimes can’t think clearly. i’m impulsive as hell and i’m scared to quit drugs cuz i have abandonment issues ad i dont want to be alone which i am without them. i just can’t continue living like this. i made a mistake even tho i swore off sex and slept with someone for the first time in 3 years. unprotected he didn’t ejaculate tho i’m such an idiot i learned my lesson but now i’m scared i’m pregnant and the baby would be so messed up and i can’t take care of it if i am. i had my period so hopefully not but it wasn’t as heavy as usual. i got my va taken away its military money and i give all my social security to my mom to pay her bills. i dropped out of highschool on a drug binge and i regret it so much. i’ve asked my family for help so much. they have seen me cut the crap out of myself and just plead for help. I told them i did meth even and that didn’t work. No medicene we have no insurance and no one to talk to. I literally want to just die. I don’t know how to make it better. I have nothing to live for except my mom but she is so depressed herself its hard. i find no enjoyment out of life half the time i just want to lay here. i can’t even cry i’m kinda indifferent i do shit so maybe i will fuck up and die and it would seem like an accident. There’s something wrong with my head. I was depressed and cut before i even did drugs..now my life just seems pointless. i want to believe in god or something but idk without proof and i remember when i did and nothing came out of it. i don’t want to go to hell tho…i’m a good person just sick. idk i’m to young just turned 18 last week..

I’ve had a horrible year. I cut the shit out of my body so bad that i’m scarred for the rest of my life all over myself. I couldn’t get over the abuse that i’ve been through rape, abandonment just physical and mental crap..Anyways I’m also an alcoholic and a drug addict bad. I drink everyday and do pretty much anything i can get my hands on. asked for help but my mom didnt listen and my dad commited suicide a year ago. I lost all my muscle because of the alcohol and i’m depressed over it cause i’ve always been in great shape and super skinny but i can’t tolerate life unless i’m messed up. I’m having drug induced hallucinations and sometimes can’t think clearly. i’m impulsive as hell and i’m scared to quit drugs cuz i have abandonment issues ad i dont want to be alone which i am without them. i just can’t continue living like this. i made a mistake even tho i swore off sex and slept with someone for the first time in 3 years. unprotected he didn’t ejaculate tho i’m such an idiot i learned my lesson but now i’m scared i’m pregnant and the baby would be so messed up and i can’t take care of it if i am. i had my period so hopefully not but it wasn’t as heavy as usual. i got my va taken away its military money and i give all my social security to my mom to pay her bills. i dropped out of highschool on a drug binge and i regret it so much. i’ve asked my family for help so much. they have seen me cut the crap out of myself and just plead for help. I told them i did meth even and that didn’t work. No medicene we have no insurance and no one to talk to. I literally want to just die. I don’t know how to make it better. I have nothing to live for except my mom but she is so depressed herself its hard. i find no enjoyment out of life half the time i just want to lay here. i can’t even cry i’m kinda indifferent i do shit so maybe i will fuck up and die and it would seem like an accident. There’s something wrong with my head. I was depressed and cut before i even did drugs..now my life just seems pointless. i want to believe in god or something but idk without proof and i remember when i did and nothing came out of it. i don’t want to go to hell tho…i’m a good person just sick. idk i’m to young just turned 18 last week..

I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….

I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.

Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.

In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.

When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).

Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.

The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).

Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.

At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.

I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.

Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?
This happened in HER house- not ours….my hubby was visiting his parents when his mom did this….

I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….

I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.

Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.

In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.

When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).

Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.

The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).

Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.

At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.

I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.

Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?
This happened in HER house- not ours….my hubby was visiting his parents when his mom did this….

My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….

I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.

Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.

In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.

When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).

Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.

The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).

Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.

At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.

I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.

Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?
@ Pete’s response- she did not tell him she was testing him after he repeatedly said no. I feel if she was *truly* testing him, she would have let him know…because he passed her ‘test’. It still doesn’t seem to be a caring thing to do to a son who is trying to better himself (and save his marriage)…..

I don’t know what to make of this- why would she do this to her son?
My hubby comes from a family where alcoholism is rampant among several family members. At least two have died gruesome deaths (esophagus ruptured and relative bled to death- the MD said this was caused by heavy drinking that caused liver failure/tension on the esophagus….), hubby’s uncle is unable to work because his alcoholism is so bad, hubby’s aunt has cirhrosis of the liver from drinking and does not qualify for a liver transplant….

I think you get the picture as to what alcohol has done to his extended family members.

Hubby’s Mom does not drink on a regular basis- maybe a glass of wine for special occasions. Hubby’s dad drinks at least 4 beers (his drink of choice) a day (sometimes more). One time his Mom called my hubby in tears (we live 5 states away) because her husband (hubby’s dad) had gone out on a bender and was severely drunk and irrational when he came home. Hubby’s dad was unfairly accused of something at work which led to this drinking binge. Hubby and his Mom do not think hubby’s dad has a drinking problem because he is employed, doesn’t drink on the job, etc.

In other words, he doesn’t have a drinking problem/dependency like the other family members because he is functional.

When hubby and I were dating, his mom mentioned to me- more than once- that she and her husband were ‘relieved’ (her exact word) when hubby went off to college and started drinking , because they were afraid he would ‘never touch alcohol’ . He was a good kid in high school and didn’t drink. The way it was said to me made me think that his Mom thought he was somewhat ‘nerdy’ for not drinking in high school. Hubby’s Mom even made a point to tell the same thing to MY Mom at one point (my Mom was dumbfounded as to why hubby’s mom even told her this).

Throughout the first few years of our marriage, my hubby’s drinking began to escalate. He was drinking 6 or more (sometimes 8-10) beers every night at home. Even though we were financially strapped he continued to spend close to $75 a week on beer alone. He didn’t think it was a problem.

The stress of this along with other things caused severe strain on our marriage. I was about to leave him and drinking was one of the main factors. Hubby decided he ‘did not want to lose his wife and kids’ (his words) and decided to stop drinking. The week he decided to quit coincided with a visit he had planned to see his parents (I was 8 months pregnant at the time and couldn’t go).

Right before dinner he told his parents he had decided to quit drinking because he felt he had developed a problem. He didn’t mention anything about his Dad’s drinking because he still felt his Dad didn’t have a problem- he was only talking about himself and his decision to quit.

At the dinner table his Mom poured him a glass of wine and pushed in front of him and encouraged him to drink it. She said she didn’t think he had a problem with drinking and all he needed to do was just have a few drinks and then stop himself. Hubby said no, but she insisted.

I am having trouble understanding WHY a mother whose own sister and brother have debilitating drinking problems-which she herself has characterized as terrible- would encourage her son to drink when he has announced that he has a drinking problem and is quitting alcohol altogether.

Why would she do that? What do you make of what she did?

ok, a month ago i went 2 the doctor for low blood pressure and when they checked my weight i was 10 pounds lighter so they started asking me questions. they thought i had anorexia or bulimia and wanted to put me in some type of hospital but my mom said no. they wanted me 2 eat more calories and MORE(yes more) salt and drink more water cuz i was dehydrated. MY NEXT CHECKUP IS 2MARO!!! i think i lost more weight and no matter what, i wuld be going there and miss school 2 b in rehab! i normally 8 about 1260 calories a day on really healthy food so today, i stuffed my face and 8 about 2400 calories! 2maro when i wake up i am going to eat an 18.6 ounce can of soup and a 16.9 ounce bottle of water and maybe other food before i go just 2 appear heavier. do u think i can gain any weight from how much i 8 today and what im gonna eat for breakfast 2maro? i cant get any lighter!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO JUST TO SEEM HEAVIER???!
i cant go to some rehab, im only 13 and i dont have a disorder!!!
if im going there then i am gonna miss school and i dont want to. i actually have alot of fat on me, its just that i used to have alot more before. i lost alot of water weight cuz i stopped eating alot of sodium cuz i heard it was bad. now i eat packaged meals and soup. i mean, ALL of my weight goes to my lower stomach and i look like a pregnant woman!(which by the way, i cant get rid of it now matter how many lower abdominal exercises i do) my thighs rub together and m arms jiggle. i used to be alot bigger before and thats why they are concerned. it was only a 10 pound weight loss! im actually at a healthier weight but since im naturally bigger and i have a *different* body frame then anybody else i know, my body reacts differently and my blood pressure went down. i just really dont want to go cuz im still heavy, i just lost some weight and everybody is concerned. now my metabolism is screwed up.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 5months, shes 19 and im 20. Before we met we both where alone for along time a year tops. She told me that she just didnt have any friends, she didnt like to go out and party and she doesnt like social gatherings as much, but she does enjoy school, and music and art. For me I hated social gatherings, and I hate to party, and I disagree with school completly. We both see social gatherings as a group of people who label themselves, and its sad you will see it anywhere we both see and agree that people hide themselves from others and project images of themselves of who they are not and we both are inspiried musicians wanting to write music together, but dont have the discipline to do so.
On the other hand im a really laid back person, if you can get me mad at you and make me show it then kudos to you, and my girlfriend is a very unpatient person but with a really deep soul. She has had her very very bad times when she was younger abusive stepmother drug addicted mom, and a dad who didnt care for her at a certain period of time, she has had a rough past. There are times when she will be impatient with me and I just cant take it anymore and I just stop talking and she acts like nothing happened like she didnt do anything wrong, so I just stay silent for a while and let it brush off. We hang out alot because she has no friends and when im not doing anything she wants me to come over….so we are getting cabin fever but all it takes is a couple hours away from each other then we are back to normal for a few more hours then it goes back to the cabin fever. We know that this is the issue and its not going to ruin us. I just dont know what to do with her sometimes.
Im not going to break up with her, because there is no reason to. She is exactly who I was looking for at a deep level, I dont care if the person likes the same bands as me or if they like the same foods as me or movies. I care if the person thinks like me about things on a deep level.

i live with my boyfriend and his alcoholic mother. now his mother is a nice lady when she isnt drinking, but when she is she is constantly picking at andrew, calling him names, etc. Andrew doesnt react always right, he yells and screams right back at her and neither of them come to agreement. Should i interfere and act as a mediator, i know all they need to do is sit down and talk. They tried to get the mother to goto alcoholics anonymous before but she couldnt commit. should i say anything to get her to go? i jsut dont know what to do anymore and just want them both to be happy. any advice would be appreciated.

my old friend..she has had a pretty rough life..this is kind of mean to list all her tragedies, but just so you get an idea
-her father died last year because he had hep c from heroin
-her mom is in rehab right now for alcoholism and was also a drug addict..she would go to the methadone clinic everyday
-she got pregnant but had an abortion
-her family was evicted and had to live in shelters for a while
-she eventually just moved in with her aunt, while the mother took her two younger kids with her
-her father once cheated on her mother and lived with another women after..he would also abuse the mother
-her little brother would get abused when he was 2 or 3..he would get tied up
-she showed me drugs in her house once from her parents
-her mom was a prostitute who’d have men over so she could get money for drugs
-her mother always gave promises she couldn’t keep and lied
-her cousin would make her and her sister do *things* with him..and she was so nonchalant about it when she told me..she was always very lustful

now, she is just all about getting effed up..you know, partying, drinking, weed..wearing ‘hot’ things..she has an attitude to her..she walks around like she owns the place and stayed back last year..i don’t feel like “good, with that attitude, and the way she would treat me before,she deserves this stuff”..i feel like the stuff in her life has caused her to be like this and i feel bad

i can’t do much..i can’t reconnect..she cares too much about her status and reputation to take me seriously if i ever wanted to help her..she might think i am too smart for her, but i am not too smart, i just have my priorities somewhere else

ok my mother had me when she was 18! and then when i was little she became a drug user, and let me eat shit out of my diaper and stuff like that?! then my dad took me away and i don’t know why they broke up when i was little anyways i’m still living with him and i’ve been living with him since i was 3 but when i came back to visit mom for my regular visit because she’s now better but has hepatitis b and anyways i went down there to visit her and she was pregnant!!! And she didn’t tell me till i got there and when i was just a few years younger she promised me she would never have another child and before she had this 40- something year old boyfriend and she would go out and party the last summer i came before she was pregnant and what she was doing was going to the bar across the street from where she worked and would leave me in the same room with her 40-year old boyfriend and don’t worry nothing happened but one night we even had to go out to the bar and pick her up. Anyways the guy she had the child with was only her boyfriend for 6 months and i wasn’t there for the birth and why i don’t want to go back down there for a visit is because she would make me do everything for her and and she actually was strong enough to pick me up and hit me after she had the baby and we got home because she said i was pulling a power-trip and just hit me!!! She said i was jealous of the baby and know i haven’t visited for 2 years because i’m afraid of being hurt…and guess what she didn’t tell me that she did drugs and was in rehab when i was younger and had hepatitis b my dad had to tell me because she wouldn’t so i just talked to her a little while ago and i said i would come down and visit when i was ready…i mean i want to go down and see her but i’m afraid of being hurt again or another lie will come from her mouth, what should i do i want to go down and visit but i’m so stuck and afraid…what should i do???