We will help you get your mom off drugs!

She is the worst. she is in politics. she has been manipulating me since i was born. she thinks and has even said ‘everything belongs to me’ and at the age of 20 after flying the coup so to speak she barges her way into my house in another state cleaning and says out of the blue ‘you have to give us some control’. she made my sister a sociopath. how do i get out of the hell she has created? thanks.

ps. my father is alcoholic dolt.
you dont think i have stood up to her? how do think i got her to stay things to the extreme of ‘everything belongs to me’ and everytime i see her its OOOH SHUT UP… STFU… she is neglectful, abusive, narccissistic, crazy!

i like the first couple suggestions.

i also told her stop being a cunt twice last thanksgiving.
i told her stop being a C$NT
right right… yeah she manipulates and manipuates so she doesnt get ‘embarassed’. she is crazy narcissist.
and yes, she does come over to my house to see if my car is here. and she breaks into my car to steal important papers or to snoop. i have to keep everything locked even at home 24/7
my attorney is an ex-chief judge in a major us city municipal court. he also works with her, but he knows there is something up but he doesnt need to know… and he touched on something very subtly about the media.
btw – im now 27… she wasnt even in politics when i was 20.

I am a dependent living with my father and alcoholic mother.
My father is dying of cancer.
I know I need to make my time with him as best as possible.
How do I deal with this? What am I supposed to feel? How am I supposed to come through without further dysfunctional development?

My birthday was a couple weeks ago and (no surprise) my mom is wasted again. We had some company over, I sent them home, and flipped out at her. This isn’t the first time this has happened, or last. I’m worried that this is going to happen during our next holiday. Does anyone have any experience with this? Any way to solve or cope with this?
A couple more things to know: I’m 20, going to school, and live at home. My mom has gone to rehab before because the board for her job licence made her. She has not excepted she is an alcoholic or she is not willing to stop drinking.

my mom just got outta rehab and jail and every day since shes been home shes been comin to my house and ive cried everytime. i CANT STAND HER!!! all she does is shove religion down my throat, call me goth, and talk about the music im into and the bands i like. then she gets mad at me because i tell her im mad at her and she just doesnt see the reason that im upset. shes never been there for me and was high ALL THE TIME i lived with her. it got so bad that i had to live wit my grandmom and my dads house whil she was wit her abusive bf. (yea she chos him over us)
im so not ready to forgiv her cause shes only been out for 3 days and seriously dont want her back in my life. shes acting like she was this great mom when she just got outta rehab. I REALLY NEED SOME HELP!!!!

okay so for the past 3 years my mom has been with this guy that has nonstop hit me and her, and she has never found the will to leave him, so after 3 years of dealing with it i decided to get a lawyer and move in with a friend, i know it was something i had to do to make my life better, because when i was living with them i did have a drug problem, and i got clean then realized how much of a bad enviorment it was for me and my little brother, i felt so sorry for him to be there, hes 11 years old, ive raised him since day one. he means the world to me, and it hurt so bad for me to leave him, but he made the decision to stay because he couldnt see what was wrong because he grew up with it, my mom and my deceased father who passed away in 2006, fought all the time, so me and my little brother thought it was the way things were supposed to be. so since my mom has been with this guy me and my little brother have been through hell. i moved out 3 months ago, and have not been able to talk to him since because my mom wont let me because she knows that he means the world to me, and she takes everything i care about away from me. the only thing ive wanted since my dad passed away was a relationship with my mom, but since then things have just gone downhill. ive written her letters and called her, but she acts like she has so much hate towards me because i wanted a better life for myself. i love my mom to death and i always will, no doubt she will need me in the future because her boyfriend wont be there forever, and i dont know if ill be able to help her, she has already lost 2 children because of her boyfriend, me and my older brother who, because of her bf, got arrested for fighting my moms bf because he threw me into a table on my little brothers birthday in 09, which resulted in 10 stitches on my forehead. since then my older brother has been in placement, and i rarely get to see him. my mom doesnt understand what shes done, if she left her bf, i guarentee me and her would have a relationship, and my older brother wouldnt be where he is now. ive been in therapy and ive been diagnosed with severe depression because of everything thats gone on. im 15 years old, my life should not be like this, and i really dont have anyone to talk to because everyone i know hasnt been through anything like this, i just dont know what to do anymore, i love my mom so much, but she needs to realize what shes let go on for the past 3 years, and she doesnt know how much it hurts. no one does. its getting so hard to cope with this, because i have no family, and i lost the 2 people i was ever close to, my little brother and my dad. they were the only people i could talk to about anything and everything. after my dad passed away i got addicted to drugs, and when i took a step back and realized that my little brother needs me, i got clean and ive been clean for a year and a half, but since then ive cut numerous times, and my little brother asked me what those marks were on my arm, and i didnt know what to say.. i couldnt explain those to my 11 year old brother, he looked up to me so much, because no one else was there for him….. i jsut know if he has to grow up in that enviorment, hes going to make the same mistakes that me and my older brother did, and it would crush me to see someone else i love get hurt the way i did.. sicne ive moved out ive truely realized how mush miss my mom and brothers, and its killing me because i couldnt stop what was going on, and sometimes i blame myself for it..i just dont know what to do about this anymore..
i went through the whole court system and they said that the home was okay for my little brother because he wouldnt tell them anything that happened. he was to scared i guess, my mom wouldnt even show up my the court hearing, so they just signed me over to my friends mom,

I was diagnosed with depression about a month ago and for a long time I’ve been feeling awful. I’m worried about my weight, even though I know I’m not overweight, I don’t see my dad and he’s always yelling at my mother when he sees her and has hit her in front of me. My brother is in rehab for drug abuse and my other brother is always making fun of me because Im trying to play guitar as an escape and he says Im bad at it. I’m losing friends and my grades are dropping… I don’t know what to do. Please give me some advise.

How to deal with an alcoholic mother, who won’t admit they are?

I have a 30 year old alcoholic brother…My family has been through so much because of his addiction..he can’t hold a job, he is extremely agressive when he is drunk, breaks fights, disrespectful to my mother, he has blackouts, high blood pressure, can’t hold a job, got a divorce after being married for only 6 months or so the list goes on and on…bottom line I am lost and tired of dealing with him and his addiction. I have talked to him and asked him to stop but that was like talking to a wall. What to do?

I’ve got the classic mother-in-law thing going on. Only times 100. Her alcoholism and abusive behavior & language is pretty unbearable.

As a Christian I try to respect and forgive her and not fight with her. Of course I pray for Jesus to give me strength and I am growing but it is a slow process! My gut reaction is to fight back hard, I do not come from a meek background!

When I visit her I have taken such measures as putting a bottle in my mouth to keep from fighting back, leaving the room, bringing a book so I can have something to do as I absent myself from hostile situations etc.

But of course due to this the relationship is pretty much non-existant. I’ve been honest with her, but she mostly either ignores what I say or tries to use it against me somehow…

I know I can’t change her, only God can, but what are some things I can do to remain at peace with her and honor her, even while the abuse is being piled on?

My grandmother is an alcoholic and often tries to argue with my mother. When my dad finds out he becomes very angry. Also, when I’m around her and she’s drinking it makes me feel unsafe. Please help me!
I’m 15 years old and have no say in the subject how do I learn to deal with it?

He is lazy, he is careless, he does not care a tiny bit about nothing, he smokes, he does drugs and he steals and does not listen to anyone.
He has had cops talk to him, been in and out of treatment and been tried for medication.
Nothing has worked cause his mother keeps coming around, she is quiet the druggie drunk whoreish type that shouldn’t be around kids, she let him do crack cocaine.
She gives him cigarettes and pot and money and anything else he wants, he is spoiled by her and his grandmother is going to kick the bucket if he keeps going down this road and staying like his 15 year old that moved back to his mothers house.
How can we inter vent him and make him realize there is more to life then dope, smoking and being a little thuggish wanna be?
If there is any ideas or thoughts please state them PLEASE I BEG OF ANYONE TO HELP!!!

HE IS VERY DISRESPECTFUL AND HE HAS 2 LITTLE GIRLS HE DOES NOT TAKE CARE OF. HE Lives WITH ME NOW BECAUSE HIS FATHER PUT HIM OUT BECAUSE HE REFUSES TO FOLLOW RULES. HE LEAVES GOOD JOBS AND HE BLAMES ALL HIS PROMBLEMS ON EVERYONE ELSE. HE WILL NOT GO TO REHAB…HE SAYS HE DOES NOT HAVE A PROBLEM. HE IS VERY SMART AND WAS HONOR ROLL IN HIGH SCHOOL. I AM HIS MOTHER BUT I CANNOT TAKE THIS ANYMORE. I STILL HAVE TWO CHILDREN TO RAISE ( 11 YEAR OLD TWIN GIRLS ). HE IS DRAINING ALL THE LIFE OUT OF ME.
My sons two little girls lives with thier mother in another town about 30mins. from me. he does not have much contact with them.

I’m not old enough to just move out of the house, hell, I can’t even drive yet! My mom yells at me all the time for everything. You haven’t heard swearing until you’ve heard my mom yelling. My dad goes out nearly every day to drink, either leaving me home alone, or leaving me with my mom to be screamed at. Neither of them admit that they have serious problems and that they need to get help. I went to talk to someone [a psychiatrist or therapist or something] every week, someone that I’m really attatched to, but now my mom isn’t sure whether or not I should go to see her anymore. This is because the woman tried to get my mom help with her anger management issues, and mom didn’t like it. She also thinks that this woman is too expensive. I have NO ONE to talk to at all. I also suffer from trichotillomania, making me pull out my eyelashes when I get nervous or upset about something. Very hard to explain. Read up on it.
Can someone please give me some advice? I would really appreciate it.

I need to know if I was out of line here, or if my mom was out of line for what happened tonight.
First of all, I’m a 27 year old Man, I’m at my mom’s apartment living in one of the bedrooms. The only ONLY Reason I’m here, is because she begged me to come back to my home state to help her out, she’s going threw a divorce from my stepdad. I was living in the midwest with my longterm girlfriend. My girlfriend and I have a Online Business we share and run together. When she called needing help, I had to come here to help my mom she was all alone. Well I came back a few months ago, ever since things have been up and down with us. She has turn into a complete drunk… Like drinks herself to sleep, wakes up 2am, drinks herself back to sleep, and so on until she goes to work. I suspect she drinks at work as well. Well, I have to help her move this week, into her new house, then I’m going back to the midwest. Well tonight she shows up at the apartment with movers, she was really intoxicated. I was taking a nap and had a few things on the floor, She comes in and says to one of the movers, ” Oh I’m sorry, My son is a Complete Slob, Just like his father was”.. ( My biological father Died when I was a child ) I got up and walked over to her in the other room, And Said ” What did you say”. As I walked into the room she was in, i overheard her telling them how much of a deadbeat I’am, telling them that They are younger than I am , and atleast they have a job. I could not believe what I heard her say, So when I asked her, she just looked at me and said nothing. So I walked into the kitchen and poured her bottle of liquor out. Took her car keys, and went back into my room. She came banging on my door about 10 minutes later, screaming at me threw the door for her keys otherwise she would call the cops on me. I told her to call them, then she unlocked my bedroom door with something, and came into the room. Shouting about give her the keys. I told her She can have them in the morning, she threaten to call the police on me. I said Go head. Then she says to me. ” I Hate you more than I hated your father” My boiling point went threw the roof, I took a TV Remote control I had in my hand, and threw it threw a glass table, shattering the glass. And I shouted at her for a few seconds. I dunno what to think of all this, Out of no where she does this. Some times she will drink and be in a good mood, other times she will do stuff like this. She deliberately said what she said to those movers cause she knew I would hear her. I’m so angry about this situation I dont know what to do. All my brothers and sister’s have nothing to do with her. Noone in my family has anything to do with her. I’m the only person who comes threw to help her and this is how she treats me? What should I do at this point?

Here she was, shaking me by the shirt collar, calling me a lazy drunken bum, and I was having a hard time focusing; I was still on the couch where I’d passed out several hours earlier after coming home from the bar and was just coming to, see. I really don’t understand why she couldn’t just let me rest; geez it was still early, about 9:30 in the morning; liquor stores aren’t even open yet at that time! Still, she continued her shrieking, something about why the hell I’d parked my car on the lawn; I couldn’t quite make it out, my hangover left my head pounding.

Anyway, I was stumbling to the kitchen to get some aspirin, and my mother-in-law is just keeping it up, saying how classy I looked in my rumpled jacket, shirt & tie, but why was I only in my boxer shorts, but still had my socks and shoes on? Can you believe this woman?! I’m trying my best to make a bloody mary with my shaking hands, and she’s worried over questions of fashion! My pants are probably just down at the bar anyway; they’ll hold them for me.

She then started in about me not working; well, I am a freelance illustrator, and it isn’t so easy to drum up work, you know. She doesn’t give me credit, however; doesn’t she realize how many times the guys down at the bar have bought me drinks in exchange for my drawing tattoo designs for them?!

The last straw, however, was when she made the crack about Fresno. Where in the world did she get the idea I was from Fresno! Please! I’m from a classy city, San Bernardino! This is just one insult too many from this old nag! How can I deal with this shrew?

I am 23 years old and live 1,500 miles away from my mother, who is an alcoholic. She just spent Christmas with me and drank every night while she was with me. She would get verbally vicious and act very outlandish. The next morning she would not remember what she said or did. I am worried about her and do not know what to do. Thanks!

My mother is getting a little drunk and is getting angry over little thiings about my health. She thinks that I look at large amounts of pornography on the internet as well as find bad advice about my mental mind. She is threatning to take away my internet and that’s the last thing I want. What should I do?

She’s been this way for as long as I can remember. Im 13 and I can’t do anything about it. We can’t afford to get her help. My dad works 2 jobs and is almost never home. I’m jealous of my friends parents. I’m embarrassed to bring them over my house when she’s around. She Drives me crazy! She lost her job in october and she’s not looking for a new one. I get depressed and sad in school. I think about killing myself sometimes. I don’t know what I did to deserve this. I just want it to stop!. I have to look after my little brother when she’s like this. He gets very upset. He doesn’t deserve this. No kid deserves this. I don’t know what to do. I feel like I don’t have a real family. I feel like i’m going crazy. I have to talk to the school councilor. It’s like my mom has 2 different personality’s. The worst part is that I still love her and she makes me watch her be like this. I can’t get out of this mess and I want to so badly. I’ve wanted to for years. I’m desperate. What should I do?