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My husband filed for divorce in 3/2007. He is asking for sole custody of our 3 children with visitation for me being 2 days/week and 2 overnights/month. I am asking for joint legal, primary residential with generous visitation for him. He has made numerous allegations about me regarding alcoholism, drug abuse, child abuse and neglect. He has involved the police and DYFS multiple times. ALL investigations determined the allegations were unsubstantiated. I am currently $268,000 in debt due to legal fees. My husband is motivated purely by anger and revenge and he has a tremendous financial edge as his elderly parents are paying for his legal fees. When my children are with me (50/50 presently) , I care for them myself. When they are with him, they are pawned off to random babysitters because his job requires long hours and travel. My 14 year old son has already spoken to the Judge and has requested to live with me as he has for the past 9 months. Has anyone been through a similar experience and what was the outcome? Thank you

I am having major problems with my toddler son’s father. We were married for 5 years and got divorced 4 years ago. I was pregnant when we got divorced, we reconciled but never remarried. I have issues with his alcoholism and marijuana use. He is 45 and I am 30, but he is the sole bread winner. The cars are paid off, but in his name, I have no job, the home is in his name, and I have no family around here. He does and he is friends with so many people here, and they all love him, so I know all his family and friends will run to help him. I can’t leave my son with him because he gets drunk and leaves half filled beer cans around, and the one time I did leave him with my son, I cam home and a loaded pistol was on the floor, and my son smelled of beer because he picked it up and poured it on himself. I do love my son’s father, it just isn’t working. I am so afraid because I have no money, no job and no car without him. My mom and step mom both say they will help me in any way and will get me something to drive until I get work. I am in college right now online, so I am almost finished with my credits to be a medical assistant, but I desperately need to finish before I can get work. I am a good mother, I am the only one who can care for my son, and my ex husband is really a good father emotionally, but he really can’t take care of him physically. he has changed 3 diapers in all the years he was in diapers. I am so upset. I want to leave, but I don’t want him to get my son : (.
Thank you. No I have never done a drug in my life. I have never even smoked or drank a drop of alcohol. I could pass any test. He could no though.
Pdooma? So I guess all mothers pre woman’s lib who were all stay at home mom’s were bad mothers? Where do you get off? I am a wonderful mother and the only reason I do NOT have a job is so I can take care of my son. You can’t just sh!t a job in this economy you know. I lost my prior job due to the economy as well and decided to further my education. How judgemental of you.

I served on active duty and was honorably discharged however I still have reserve one weekend a month two weeks a year. I returned home to find my sons mother addicted to drugs and in a domestic violence situation, the court granted me temporary full custody and I am still in court after 8 months trying to get full custody. The army has me pending for a hardship discharge, they tried to make me complete a parenting plan basically asking me to sign over my sons well being and life to someone else so that I could put the army first. I refused to develop a parenting plan by stating there is no person I see fit to care for my son other than me. The army was excusing my monthly absence but now they are saying I have to start performing duty or I will be considered a “non-participant” and if I don’t I could be discharged with an other-than-honorable, what the hell, they are supposed to be discharging me and it’s been 8 months. What if I refuse to perform monthly duties? Can they even make me if I don’t have a parenting plan? Isn’t that against army regulations to make me leave my son behind to perform duty with no parenting plan? If so, can you please let me know where I can find this regulation to show them. Thanks

Hello, I have an ongoing custody dispute for my son in the state of Florida. Right now he lives with me because his mother is a drug addict. I need to go to NC for a couple of days for business. Is it ok to take him across state lines for a few days? Please only people with legal knowledge respond. Thanks Ben

Ok, i just found a type of skin cancer on my nephew. for one, he has jet black hair and dark skin (mexican decent). he just turned 2 this past 3rd of September. i was in the middle of bathing him when i went to wash his hair i felt a little bump. first i thought it was dry skin from craddle cap, then i lifted up his hair and their it was. a pink little lump. oh my goodness. i couldn’t believe what i was seeing. get this right next to it another one seems to be growing. WHY IS THIS HAPPENING. what could have caused it. could it be from his mother who is a drug addict or her feeding him nothing but milk. poor baby he’s been through so much, now this. i plan on taking him to emergency in the morning. HIS MOTHER WON’T GIVE MY BROTHER MY NEPHEW’S INFO SO THAT WE CAN GET HIM MEDICAL INSURANCE, GEE HE JUST TURNED TWO AND HE NEEDS HIS IMMUNIZATION SHOTS, WHICH I DON’T BELIEVE SHE’S KEPT UPTO DATE ON THAT.
WHAT CAN I DO??
HOW CAN I GET FULL CUSTODY OF MY NEPHEW? AND GET HIM THE CARE HE NEEDS?

My husband filed for divorce in 3/2007 and we are undergoing trial at this time. He is seeking sole custody of our 3 children; I have requested joint legal with primary custody with me. I have been accused of alcoholism, drug addiction, child abuse and neglect. Litigation thus far has put me $268,000 into debt to keep my children. He has involved DYFS and the police multiple times. All allegations once investigated have been unfounded. I am the mother and have been my 3 childrens’ primary caretaker and nurterer for 14 years. My 14 teenager has told the Judge he wishes to reside with me. My husband’s motive is purely revenge and he has a tremendous financial edge. When the children are with me, they are with me only. When they are with him, they are pawned off to multiple caretakers because my husband’s job requires long hours and travel. Please share your experiences. Thank you

OK, here goes. I plan on leaving the father of my two year old baby girl. He’s already stated that he’ll get custody, though I’m not sure why he says that… Let me give you some details. I live in New York State. He works during the day, I stay home with my little girl all day. At night, three nights a week, I work from five to ten thirty. He has her till eight those nights, ans at eight o’clock, she goes to bed. He had my nine year old daughter watch her a lot on the nights I work, and I would be working more, except that he really won’t let me, though after I move, I’ll be able to get more hours. I have custody of my oldest child, not through the courts, but her dad has no problem with her being with me at all, he sees her every weekend, and that’s working out just fine. I haven’t got a drinking problem, drug problem or alcoholism. I am going to school to be a teacher, and I have never abused or been mean to my children. Actually, I think I’m a really good mom. And so do my kids, my oldest and I are extremely close, and my baby and I are as well. I love them so damn much, and it’s stressing myself and my oldest out to be here, he’s possessive, controlling and mean spirited. He yells a lot, and I can’t do a thing, can’t leave the house, can’t do anything without being interrogated. I’m almost developing a nervous condition, and it’s time to go… My question is, I’m terrified when I go to court, he’ll make something up about me, in order to get my kids. My ex’s mother and sister are going in to be witnessed for me, but I’m not sure what is going to happen, and I can’t allow her to be raised by a short tempered man. I’m so scared I could lose her, and I need some advice or experiences from you guys… Please please take the time to answer me today… I’m sick over this, and paralyzed by fear of losing my baby. Please help. I want my life happy, with BOTH of my children.
John, Happy Hunter and KK. Thank you SO much. I need some reassurance through this time.. Unfortunately, Happy Hunter, I can’t put school off, since I’m already halfway through. In NYS, I know I need to have PHYSICAL witnesses, not just statements, or else I would have had a lot more. I know the law guardians will also talk to my eldest, and she will tell them what’s happening, although if I had it my way, I would leave her out of it altogether… On a more personal note, John and KK thank you for the complimentary answers as well, I needed the self confidence boost. Fighting for your child is like fighting for your life… Thank you so much.

I have posted on this before, my husband found out he has a daughter he knew nothing about…she’s 10 and lives in Australia with her Mother and her half brother. We were so surprised when the Mother got in touch a few months ago, did a paternity test and yes she’s my husbands. We wondered why the MOther had suddenly decided to get in touch and I was a bit suspicious, now we find out that her and her husband (who though the little girl was his) are divorcing and he is going for custody…the Mother is an ex prostitute and drug addict, it is looking like he will get custody of his son but there is a question mark over the little girl…I dont think the Mother is being straight with us…courts dont tend to award custody to Dads unless the Mother is a bad one right? Now she has asked if the little girl can stay with my husband and our family for two weeks in July whislt she the Mother goes to Ireland for a holiday with her friends…my husband has planned to go to Oz in JAn. to meet his
Daughter anyway…but I am so suspicious of the MOther…she seems to be not telling the whole story to us…she says the her ex husband is violent…but why would the court grant him custody of his son if this were the case…alarm bells are ringing in my head…my MIL and my Mum agree with me…what’s her game? My husband is naieve at the best of times…what is going on here?

The child is my 2 year old third cousin, I am in New York (Bronx County) and the child is in another county in the southwest region of New York state. She is my cousin through way of her father which has been incarcerated for over 2 years (repeat offender)

So here is some brief information on the situation. The little girls mom has been in and out of rehabilitation battling alcoholism for over 25 years. She already has 2 older children removed from her care many years ago. About a year ago, the child was placed in foster care since mom had a relapse. I found out 5 months later at which point i got involved to try to foster her while mom received the care she needed to eventually get her back. My family and I (I have a girlfriend of 4 years and a step daughter who is 5 and a half) have made several trips to inquire about her case and situation and most importantly, to try to motivate “mom” and spend time with the little girl.

Since my 2 year old cousin has been with her current foster mother for a going on a year in a couple of months and due to the fact, that mom is not showing as much progress as she should, i am thinking of filing for custody before her foster man has rights to adopt her and frankly, can do and take my cousin away from all of us.

My question is, when i file for custody, can any of the counties assistst me financially with the baby. I’m the only one working currently and my though i make “decent” money, i have entirely too many expenses to take on the additional responsibility of a child. I’m torn though because i know she belongs with family.

I have a 11 month old niece which is at my home or my daughter’s at least 5 days/nights per week. Her father has been in jail for months for multiple felonies and drug use. Her mother states she is NOW drug free yet choses alcoholics and drug addicts as her running buddies. I want to provide a more stable life for my niece. Please help

So here’s the deal. My mom has temporary custody of my daughter. My ex and I got evicted from our place, and that’s when she stepped in and tried to “help” I was never a bad mother, and he was never a bad father. I have no criminal record, and I’m not addicted to any drugs. I’m just completely lost and I feel like I’m the only person in the world who this has happened to. My mom doesn’t comply with the court order either. My mom never lets me see her. I just need some advice to ease my mind. I need some help.

I called Social Services who closed the case with unsubstantiated. I have letters from our church pastor, bus driver and therapist stating the kids did confirm with them. She now wants more visitation. Can i use to prevent? Anything else I can do? the kids go to school under me and live with me 4 1-2 days a week? please help

Considering divorce. Neither of us are physically abusive, addicted, or cheating. Just don’t care enough to connect anymore. Both have child’s best interests at heart and are equally financially capable. I have been the primary caregiver: feeding, changing, bathing, and comforting the baby, taking to the doctor etc, who is 8 months and a boy. Daddy is there for good times play, but very distracted. I took a lower paying job (than my potential–still good pay) so I could be closer to home. Our mothers take turns sitting the baby while we work during the day. I can be home in 20 minutes and come home at lunch at least 3 days a week. I’m off early on Fridays so I can spend the afternoon. Dad’s work schedule is unpredictable and includes weekends. I don’t want to prevent the father from seeing the child and want him to remain as active as possible in our baby’s life. That goes for the extended family as well. I just know that at this age I can take better care of him. What are my chances?
I don’t want sole custody-the daddy and the baby need each other too. I just want primary physical custody.

I’m 23 & have been living on my own and supporting myself since I was 17 years old & I’m doing pretty well.
My mother has always been an extremely abusive alcoholic and when I was a minor she severly physically, mentally, and emotionally abused me. I have a 9 year old half-brother who lives with her(neither of our fathers are in the picture).She doesnt physically abuse him but she neglects him and emotionally abuses him. She is drunk since the early morning sometimes and he is terribly afriad of her and wants to live with me.However, she has a nice home,a car, & makes sure he always has food and clothes.Its more about the fear and lonliness she makes him feel. I want to try to take her to family court to get custody but do I have a case here?The home he lives in is fit and she is able to hide her alcoholism very well and not drink for days at a time, sometimes even weeks.But it always comes back worse then ever. Would I be able to prove she is unfit? Anyone that knows law,please help.

My husband and I have been married for 5 months now, and he has a 2 year old son with his past “hook up”. There was a brief “relationship” for about a month or two simply because he found out she was pregnant. The father could have been him or 2 other guys (shows you how contained she is)…. Blood tests showed that my husband is in fact the father. We have had him since he was about 6 weeks old every weekend. We have custody papers stating that she has full physical custody, but we share joint custody. Since he was born, she has moved 9 times, a couple of times she never told us her new address (which is contempt of court according to the papers). While she was pregnant, she told my husband that she would never quit smoking weed. She just moved an hour further away with her on again off again boyfriend who is clearly on drugs (nasty teeth, myspace reference to drugs and so on) We even found a nude picture of our son on her public myspace page! We printed it and went to the police station. There was to be more investigation, and we notified DHS, who then went to her house and TOLD her that we were having her myspace investigated, so she should make it public. Her status, which I can still see, changed to “NAME thinks little girls should keep their noses in their big fat boyfriends butt cracks”. We still believe that she and her boyfriend are on drugs, but do not know if we can demand a drug test on her. Our current lawyer has been no help, as his wife is fighting cancer, and he is trying all he can to stay out of court.
His mother never calls when we have him for any amount of time to check on him, and if she does call, it is always about money. She does not have a highschool education, and has even attempted to take the GED exam 2 times and still has not passed. She has no steady employment, even when she worked at her father’s store. She has threatened us and shown her ugly side several times (which we have documented) She has been late for pick ups and drop offs several times also, and has even forgotten what day it was when we called. He usually has a full diaper, and is filthy like he hasnt taken a bath when we pick him up. We also noticed lots of plaque on his teeth when we pick him up. He has gotten sick with her several times, and it has been severe a couple times, and she says shes taken him to the doctor, but has no documentation… How does a doctor miss pneumonia and say that the child is “fine”??? Anways, please give me some advice or some support as of what to do!?!
I forgot to also add that we are to split medical bills 50/50, and she owes us over $1,000 so far. She says she will pay but never does.
She has also lost custody of her older daughter to her parents for being unfit. Shouldnt that be held against her?
Sorry, it was a paternity test, not just a blood test! He is the father!

so my mom, and my dad and my grandmother are all going to be involved in a custody battle.
me and my mom have always been joint at the hip, she’s been there for me all my life before my dad came along and i love her to death. but she’s a binge drinker and she’s hooked on prescribed meds. we lived in florida for a while and then once my dad and her got into ALOT of big fights we decided to bring her over to georgia and help her here.
but she doesn’t want to be here, she feels as if we’re all trying to command her life and that she needs to make her own choices and that’s true she does have the right to make her own choices. but she’s sick like mentally ill , all the meds side effects are coming in, she lies almost constantly im trying my hardest to help her considering my mom wasn’t like this when i was younger. and my dad is like enjoying this whole entire thing because he wants custody of the kids and my dad has horrible anger management and he’s never home. he’s also really my step dad and he’s the real father of my siblings. and he wants my mom to lose all rights and for me to be home taking care of the kids while he’s out playing baseball and smoking pot, which isn’t going to happen.

and now my mom is sorta better considering she’s past the break down and not on any meds and not drinking, but she keeps saying she’s going to leave that she is going to live her life and she doesn’t care about us anymore…….i know it’s not true. i know she loves us more than she loves her own life but she doesn’t want to be here. everyone keeps saying to let her go and do what she wants to and live her own life. but i can’t seem to let go, i can’t keep an eye on her that way and make sure she’s okay…how can i give up on her?how could i let her go not having a guarantee she’ll be back……?
should i let her go? if she does i don’t want my dad to have custody of us, my grandmother should she’s the best person in the world and she’s been the only one to ever really take care of us and we can rely on her.
what should i do?
and how should i go about making sure my dad doesn’t get the kids. can my grandmother fight for us?

I am the father of an 18 month old son. My ex took my son into a bar with her mother to drink on Christmas Eve. I have a picture of her and my son in the bar. Her mother drinks alcohol everyday, takes pain meds and sells them, smokes pot, and Xanax. One day I called her mother to see how my son was because she had him for the night. Her mother slurring her words told me he was ok and asleep. My ex also has a history of drinking. My ex took my son the other day and won’t contact me or let me see my son. I have been taking care of him most of the time we have split. We were engaged but I broke up with her. Can I get custody of him?

I need some help. My brother is in drug rehab, and his dad just served my mom with custody papers. My mom is a single parent who has paid for everything for my brother his entire life. His dad owes over 28,000 in back child support, he has no license because of it, no job and lives with his girlfriend. He has been the bad influence in my brothers life, he lies, steals and does drugs. While my mom works full time, owns her own home and doesn’t even drink. My mom tried everything to get my brother help when she first felt he was slipping. Went to therapy and probation and PINS, everything and my brother continued to lie and steal and use. His dad let him get away with all of it saying that this is all HER fault. My mom is even the one paying for rehab to keep him out of jail/foster care for violating probation. And now his dad wants to sue her for custody??? If he by some crazy way wins and she has to pay child support she will loose our house. She makes just above min wage so every penny is accounted for… So she will not only lose my brother but her liscence and her home. Where is the justice in that?

Their mom has 4 children, the 2 youngest being my brothers’ kids. The mom chose a party life and is now hard on drugs, and a party animal. She is definitely an unfit mother. My brother lives with us in our apartment, he got out of rehab last year for being addicted to pain killers. He still smokes pot. Me and my husband want to get full custody of the kids, but where do I even begin? Help!

My ex-husband and i are in a custody battle. I have previous drug charges, and he is a registered sex offender (over adult charges). dhs has an open case on me for failing a drug test for marijuana. some how another he passed his test. i have passed every test since, only failed the once, even went to rehab. he lives with his mother and sister in their 3 bedroom home. i live in my 3 bedroom home with plenty of room for the kids, can he get full custody of our children and step parent rights to my other child?