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4 years ago i received a call from child services to go in to their office and talk to one of their workers about my daughter. It turns out her mother was using drugs and leaving my daughter with different relatives for weeks at a time i always knew and tried to stop it but courts always want proof as long as i received my visits she was fine they would say well because of the drug abuse they gave me the proof i needed to take to family court and was granted full custody with no visits from her mother till she did everything she was ordered to do rehab and so on at that time my daughter was 7 now shes 12 well 4 years with no contact she bettered her self and cleaned up shes taking me to court for a modification of custody her wanting full custody and now me getting visits on weekends we went to mediation and no agreement i told her i did not want to hand her over like nothing happened in this 4 years my daughter has accomplished alot and i don’t want her interrupted she feels confident because she got her other daughters back from a previous relationship back but the guy did not put up a fight he was better of giving his girls back he says IM married and have 2 other girls here in my home they don’t want there older sister to move out im okay with visits but not moving out what will happen in the first court hearing will it get resolved or is there more court battles till this conflict is resolved will she win does the judge consider her absence taking so long we signed a safety pack thru child services with her agreeint to full custody for me while seeking treatment will it help my case and the letters and reports of child services

My husband and I recently got married (a little over a year ago) and also had a little girl in October. He has a son from a previouse “relationship” that he’s had full and sole custody of since he was three years old. The mother was a drug addict and gave up rights soon after his son was born. The rights where then given to her mother who my husband fought first to pay child support to so he could have visitation rights and then for custody. He eventually won and visiting rights where given to the grandmother which eventually ran out and are no longer in place. My question is, can the mother or grandmother regain rights to our son now? He will be nine at the end of August and his biological “mother” recently was put on parole after leaving a rehab program in prison. She has been in and out of jails and rehab for the better part of 8 years (it could be longer) and has no relationship with her son. They provide no financial support and the grandmother comes around maybe once a month. We where just wondering because we’ve been hearing rumors of them attempting to get lawyers.
I realize that any rational person would look at the situation and say no way because of the mother and grandmother’s history, but I want to be prepared for anything no matter how redicuolous.

Child Protection Svs. knows, by my 16 yr old’s own admission that the complaint they were investigating had no merit, but came back again, and then a **3rd time** and accused me of “emotional abuse” because I drink alcohol. My daughter doesn’t want me to drink (I am NOT an abusive person, drinking or not, and a member of AA since 1988), because she doesn’t think it’s “fair” that she entered rehab for drug problems and I still drink. That’s a short version of the story that still continues. Bottom line is that I was forced out of *my* home and threatened with repurcussions if I didn’t enter rehab. I’m currently not allowed to be in my house when my daughter is there, though I’ve never been given any documentation that says so. (Her mother lives there too but we were never married and split up years ago. I invited them to stay with me so that my kid could have some stability, a sense of family, and that’s another story.) Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

if the mother drinks alcohol during the pregnancy?

How much say do you have when you pay child support?

ex: bad parenting, drug dealers around your youngest daughters, and etc.

What can be done if your worried? How do you go about this? My fiance may get his daughter to live with us, but we think his ex wife won’t take it so lightly if her money (child support) is put on the line. The daughter has a bad past with alcoholism, drugs, robbery and etc, spent $100k on rehab bills, daughter just got out in dec 2009 after a year and a half. she’s being allowed to party, drink, mother is allowing drug dealers in home unsupervised, literally. we need help please. He wants his daughter to live with us, in a better environment. How much say does he have with her parenting skills if daughter doesn’t want to move to a different city? or if the ex wife is going to fight this?

(this is help for my fiance, ideas, suggestions, etc to talk about. we’re at a loss)
I agree with you steven. It is unfair. That’s how i feel, my fiance’ pays out the nose for child support, which is fine, just wish he could actually see where the money is going, and maybe actually see some ‘suppport” going to the child. So we are talking about taking her, but she will fight if her money is put on the line. If we agree to pay her in full anyways, she won’t fight lol.
he did not neglect his duties, she had an affair, he left her with everything they’ve owned. took his hockey trophies and his truck. We send care packages to the kids, he drives 8hrs to pick them up, drive 8hrs to bring them here, in one day. he’s not a neglectful father and loves them very much. We suffered to put his daughter in rehab for $5k a month with not a cent coming from the mother. he would pay the moms flight to mexico so the daughter can see her mom. I hate that word ‘neglect’ or he wouldn’t be so worried and lost right now.

my boyfriend is being falsely accused of molesting his son’s mom’s 2 sisters 2 years ago. It just came up recently after his son’s mom got back from a coke binge to stay with her parents and now she’s trying to get custody back of their son. What does he do? He’s been arrested for it and can’t afford an attorney. His son’s mom put her sisters up to this because since she lost her son and put her other one up for adoption she wants him back.
anyone can be arrested for child molestation accusations without proof!! they go solely on the statements of the alleged victim. its procedure to arrest them then have a trial. he pleaded not guilt. his ex girlfriend is a coke head and her family has many unstable issues too. they are known liers and trouble makers. i know that doesn’t mean squat if he did it but a public defender won’t fight to investigate and get all the facts! i thought we were innocent until proven guilty in this country?!

I would like to move out of state but have questions about custody of 5 year old. I would like to accept a very promising job offer, however it is in Wisconsin, and I live in California. I have a five year old son who does have a relationship with his father, however, I am very worried that his father’s alcoholism is going to have a negative affect in the future. We don’t have any custody agreement in place, and my son has been in my care since he was born with and has had arranged visitiations with his father. His father doesn’t have his own place, he lives with his mother, and smokes a lot of pot, and of course drinks a lot. If I tell him I’m moving, and he doens’t like it, what can he do to keep me here, and can I use his drinking and other habits to fight for full physical and legal custody? I don’t want to start a big fight, but I’m not sure how he is going to react to my news? He may be nice about it, but just in case what are my options?

she is trying to induce a miscarriage by getting really drunk every weekend, and if she doesn’t lose the baby she wants to keep it, how can she expect for me to be responsible for a baby she ruined?

I am fostering a juvenile sex offender who had been a victim when very young, before 5. He has commited the offense with his step brothers as victims. He has been in treatment facility for over a year. His counselor has been using us as a threat to him. If he doesnt do this or that we will be pulled as parents. After researching sex offender causes, the main one is no social bonding, in his case he did not bond with mom, a drug addict. we have bonded and now the counselor is threatening this bond. He was in trouble this week because i bought him clothes and i’m not supposed to. The reasons are still unclear to me. They say its from his manipulation but i like doing it and what child doesnt manipulate to get stuff. He has never had new clothes. Am I not understanding or is the counselor out of line?

Nine month old baby is biting her mother’s nipple when drinking milk, Is any solution available to less the mother’s pain.

5 children, and he is the youngest. 2 of us are step, 3 are biological to my step mother. we are now all grown up, Late 20′s and early 30′s. in highschool me and him hung out and were like best friends. did some trouble which i grew out of. He just kept doing more and more illegal stuff and got deep into drugs. oldest sister has a family with 3 very nice boys, other sister has always held a GREAT paying job which takes time away from her children (parents look down on this), older brother does construction and lives with otherside of his family. does well for himself but is not very family oriented, comes around when he wants to (with my family i understand why), Me…I am in the military, served 5 tours, 4 to Iraq 1 to afghanistan, own my own home, live comfortably with new cars and 2 amazingly well behaved happy children (I seem to be blamed for most drama and problems of step mothes life).. youngest son DID drugs, he has receintly served 6 months in a bootcamp style court mandated rehab (mother says he picked it to get help, he didnt want jail), he has not held down job, lived off welfare, did drugs, had a meth-lab in his 1yr old son’s room, and now just broke parol and left state to got to a concert where he got busted selling drugs. 5 felony counts. mother still thinks he is a wonderful father and very noble taking the full sentance because he didnt turn in his supplier and get a deal. keeps his family safe that way. I know the problem is with the step mother.. common denominator in ALL drama, but why does the pride still maily remain with the child that has gone nowhere? she even has a count of days he has served thus far… its offensive.

A friend of my has a 2 month old son and he is wanting to get full custody. He doesn’t know weather he should settle in or out of court. The mother of his child is an unfit mother. She is an alcoholic, drug addict and bipolar. She leaves the baby wherever when she wants to be out partying. She doesn’t have a job. And to top it off she has a 6 year old daughter that she doesn’t take care of, she pawned her off on her dad. What does he need to do? She uses the baby to control everything and he only gets to see his son when she feels like it.

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

I am writing a novel about a 15 year old girl in foster care who is terrified of being home alone. Her new foster parents go out to a gala leaving her home. How would she react?
other info: she has been in multiple foster homes, and was very attached to previous foster mom. Her mom was a drug addict who sometimes locked her outside all night

My mother is 36 years old and has not had a job or house of her own for 10 years. She is also addicted to drugs (anything she can get her hands on) and drinks from wakeup-till-passout. I am 18 and have finally gotten sick of watching her kill herself. She has done some outpatient treatment and AA but to no avail. My question- Is there anyway that I could have her put in a inpatient rehab center of some sort. Ofcourse this would not be voluntary, but I know its neccassary. Some additional information- Divorced my stepdad last year. She is also eplectic and has recently tested positive for TB. Has attempted suicide and makes frequent threats.
My sister is 22 and also believes that institutionalizing her would be the best option. I guess its important to say that I haven’t lived with my mom for 10 years. She drifts around and ends up staying at family or friends houses. She has been staying with my uncle for a couple months and had seemed to be doing slightly better. Last week; however, my aunt (for some unknown reason) left my mother babysitting my 10 year old cousin and when she came home from work my cousin was standing in the yard screaming for help. My mother had started drinking at about 9am and had a seizure on the kitchen floor. My aunt ran in to help and when she made a trip to the bathroom for some wet rags my mother came out of the seizure, stripped naked, and for some reason started streaking down the road in a drunken stuper. That would be the most recent case of her demonstating danger to herself and/or others.

I’m 17 and i have an almost 2 month old son Joesph. He was conceived during a one night stand with a girl i met at a party. I cheated on my girlfriend Brooke who was in jail serving a one year sentence for drug possession charges. She got out and freaked out when i told her about Joesph and began using again breaking her promise to me to stay clean. She said she went back to drugs because i cheated. She called Joesph a bastard child and a worthless piece of shit. We broke up after she forced me to choose between her or Joesph i chose my son. Joesph’s mom and i began dating she is in love with me and was excited to start a family.We dated for 2 months but i don’t feel love for her and i felt stuck in a relationship i didn’t wanna be in. This all changed when Brooke told me she was pregnant. She is in rehab and trying so hard to get and stay clean it makes me proud. I am sure the child is mine because she swore she never would cheat on me. I broke up with Joesph’s mom and am back together with Brooke i love her and she loves me. Joesph’s mom was pissed about me breaking up with her for Brooke she hates Brooke. She told me i will never see Joesph again. This has hurt me so much i love him he means everything to me. She lives in a different city so it is quite easy for her to do this is. It is killing me not be able to see him what should i do so i can see my son?
I am paying child support and have been doing everything to be a good father

I’m 17 and i have an almost 2 month old son Joesph. He was conceived during a one night stand with a girl i met at a party. I cheated on my girlfriend Brooke who was in jail serving a one year sentence for drug possession charges. She got out and freaked out when i told her about Joesph and began using again breaking her promise to me to stay clean. She said she went back to drugs because i cheated. She called Joesph a bastard child and a worthless piece of shit. We broke up after she forced me to choose between her or Joesph i chose my son. Joesph’s mom and i began dating she is in love with me and was excited to start a family.We dated for 2 months but i don’t feel love for her and i felt stuck in a relationship i didn’t wanna be in. This all changed when Brooke told me she was pregnant. She is in rehab and trying so hard to get and stay clean it makes me proud. I am sure the child is mine because she swore she never would cheat on me. I broke up with Joesph’s mom and am back together with Brooke i love her and she loves me. Joesph’s mom was pissed about me breaking up with her for Brooke she hates Brooke. She told me i will never see Joesph again. This has hurt me so much i love him he means everything to me. She lives in a different city so it is quite easy for her to do this is. It is killing me not be able to see him what should i do so i can see my son?
I am paying child support and have been doing everything to be a good father

Please bear with me as I’m sure I’ll get lost in my words. I find all of this very difficult to even type.

When I was around 6 or 7, I was sexually abused by my cousin.. who was more like a brother to me at the time. All I remember is him “teaching” me about sex, and several memories of him on top of me. Every time I told him to please stop, he would just beg and beg until I gave in. I remember laying there just wondering when it will be over and praying that it will be over soon. I never screamed.. I never yelled at him to stop.

My cousin was always “less fortunate” than I was. He didn’t know his dad, and his mother was a drug addict. We would spend every weekend together at my grandparent’s house. Our grandparents raised my cousin like he was their son. My parents always showed me love and attention. I guess I felt like I “owed it to him”. I thought I had such a perfect childhood, and it was just the price I had to pay to those who weren’t so lucky.

I’m not sure how often it happened, but I want to say it was every weekend we were together. As we grew older and into our teen years, we stopped spending time together and stopped going to our Grandparent’s house. I remember spending time with my cousin after it all ended, and him acting like nothing ever happened. But it was almost like I could see the shame and remorse in his eyes.

Over the years, I’ve had these memories resurface. It started to come up in my teenage years, but I always bottled it up. I couldn’t believe that it was true.. and if it was, I was determined to NOT let it affect my life.

When I was 16, my cousin passed away from a drug overdose. He was my only cousin, and the only child (other than myself) left in the family. I remember this being the roughest time of my life. Everyone was so hurt and felt so helpless -including me. I remember reading his obituary at his funeral and I couldn’t stop crying.. even in front of everyone. My family still to this day hasn’t accepted my cousin’s death. He is never talked about nor remembered.. It’s almost like it hurts too much to even say his name.

I’m 22 now and married to the love of my life. He is my soulmate. The only thing that’s wrong with our marriage is our sex life. He wants to have sex all of the time (what man doesn’t).. and I would be happy to do away with sex completely. Sometimes I can’t even bear the thought of him touching me. Sex always feels like an obligation, or work. It’s a gift that I like to give to my husband every other day. I fake all of my emotions during sex, because I feel no emotions during sex. I’ve never even had an orgasm (apart from masterbation). I can’t seem to bring myself to fake an orgasm though.. I feel like that would just hurt him more if he ever found out. My husband has become suspicious after 6 years of sex with no orgasm. I know it kills him to think that it’s his fault. I started to dig deep into myself and ask myself why I don’t want to have sex so badly.. and that’s when all of these memories started resurfacing.

Now I can’t control them. I thought that it wasn’t affecting my life.. but it is. It’s affecting my life more ways than I can imagine. I feel so lost now. I don’t even know who I am anymore. I shared this with my husband. He was supportive and listened.. but there’s not much else he can do.

Should I tell my mother? We have always had a close relationship throughout my whole life. I tell her everything.. but I’m not sure if she can handle this. She has a very big heart and she’s very fragile. She also blames herself for my cousin’s death constantly.. even thought there was nothing she could have done. This could just be one more thing to blamer herself for. I feel like if I tell her, I’ll feel better.. but I’m not sure if it’s worth the price. Should I tell her? Please help!

ok…my last question looked wrong. But the MOTHER of this poor child is a crack addict-for 19 years. Been arrested, in and out of rehab, total loser. We tried for cutody and $5000 later we were told that since the child wants to stay with her, that is what they are going with.
Since that court date, she is back on drugs, has ben arrested and now we believe that she is using now.
The child basically is at the grandparents all the time who we are not on good terms with since we took them to court. The grandmother is a “proud” alcoholic-she doesn’t hide it. In fact, they just got a dog and named it “Stoli”.
This crack head has tried to harass me by calling CPS on me saying that I drink wine and an drunk around the kid. (Me and my husband sometimes have a glass of wine with dinner and the kid is the type to go to the mother with exaggerated info) CPS immeadiately saw that it was just harassment and dismissed it. That’s just the beginning. Nightmare! Can anyone relate?