i live in oh and have a child that i get on the weekends and a few hours during the week. money is tight right now so i asked my friend to move in with me to help with the bills. he got out of rehab for drugs a little bit ago and is doing good and has a good job. my mom is threatening me to call child services if he moves in… does she have any ground to stand on with this and what could happen?
I’ll try to make this short.
A 7 y/o girl that I watch for a couple hours on the weekend told her 6 y/o mixed cousin that she was a n***er and that the 7 y/o would never accept the 6 y/o as family. The mom of the 7 y/o is a drug addict and is on a binge right now and she isn’t listening to the 6 y/o mom or her grandmother. When they try to explain it to her she says “but mommy does it….”
I figure since the 7 y/o is quite fond of me and likes me, I would give it a shot to try to make her understand that what her mom does isn’t always right and what she said to the 6 y/o was wrong and that I know she loves her mom and her mom loves her and everything.
How would you go about telling her?
I have had full custdoy of a baby since birth, her mother recently passed away of a drug over dose. The father is in prison and has not proven he is the father, nor dose he want to. will I be able to adopt her. She is now three years old. She was born addicted to drugs and taken by child protective services, the babys cousin and I were dating at the time and him and I obtained custdoy of the child. When the baby was 8 months old he left and has little contact with the child.
My daughter and her boyfriend are both heroin addicts. They have been in and out of jail, rehab and now prison for years. I have custody of their small child. My daugther lives in a halfway house and the boyfriend is back to living with his mom. I have spent a fortune in legal fees trying to keep custody of my grandchild. They of course want her back. Does anyone have any legal advice they can give me?
The child of elementary school age is being teased and harassed by other children following the execution by stoning of her mother who was found guilty of committing adultery following an evening of drinking at a local tavern.
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ok, here’s my situation:
i have a 6 year old son who currently resides with his father, step-mother, and baby sister in a different state. my ex has custody of our son due to me pretty much having a mental breakdown, depression, and leading up to alcoholism. i was hospitalized last year for 5 days, and everything was fine until i got out of the hospital and my ex refused to give my son back to me. we went to court where my ex was awarded temporary custody, and i wasn’t allowed to see him unless it was supervised. i have never, not once, ever put my son in danger. the drinking i did was only done when my son was at his fathers house. well that was a year ago and i have been sober since november 28, 2010, and i am now allowed to have my son every other weekend at my house with no supervision.
here’s where it gets hard, when i have my son, he listens, he respects me, he is an extremely well behaved, well mannered 6 year old. on those sundays when i have to take him back to his fathers house, he throws a fit, tells me that he doesn’t want to go, that he wants to live with me and not daddy, and it breaks my heart that at the moment i have no say in anything.
i know i brought all of this upon myself, but it hurts so bad knowing that my little boy is miserable. he acts out in school and at home the only attention he gets is negative attention. his baby sister was born with several medical problems, and my sons father and step-mother are too involved with the baby to be there in a positive way for my son. and when they aren’t around he is being carted off to his step-mothers mom’s house.
my point is that i believe that it would be in my sons best interest to come back and live with me, where he can be with one of his parents, where i can give him the attention and love that he so desperately needs. i see this being detrimental to him in the long run, and already at 6 he has bouts of depression. but how exactly can i bring this up to first my ex, and second the court?? i am on unemployment and i do not have the money to afford a lawyer, and when applying for legal aid, they tell me i make too much money on unemployment for them to help me.
i just cant stand seeing my son so unhappy and miserable, it physically hurts me to have to bring him back to his fathers house when he tells me he doesn’t want to go back…
HELP PLEASE!!!!!!
i should have also mentioned that i do have a job lined up. i just passed phase one of testing and i have 2 more to go through then i will have a full time job. i am also attending outpatient group therpy sessions twice a week, i see a therapist once a week, and i attend numerous aa meetings per week. i’m never going back to where i’ve been, ever.
also, i CAN support my son, i’ve raised him by myself since the day he was born, he was with his dads on weekends, but it was ME who raised and supported him the first 5 years of his life.
She doesn’t want to have an abortion and plans to keep the baby, but she is knowingly living a very unhealthy lifestyle.
I mean, it’s HER body. But it’s also HIS child, so should it really be HER choice?
What can really be done if the mother decides she wants to abuse her body and that of her unborn child? We can’t very well put her in prison and FORCE her to be healthy, can we?
I’m a 30yr old single female. My mother is diseased and I do not think she ever tried to collect child support from my father (This was in the state of California) I now reside in Southern Nevada for the last 8yrs. His health is in poor condition now at only 58yrs old because of alcoholism (most likely to pass away fairly soon) and is also the reason he never helped my mother, granted he was too busy getting boozed up. I have no paperwork in indicating that my mother even filed for it. Is there a way to either collect back owed child support now or collect his pension or S/S checks when he passes. I have My birth certificate as well as they’re divorce papers. Any Suggestions?
Based on some of these Answers I’ve been given its clear that this is viewed as an obscene question with typical judgment made that this makes me a bad person for asking. However before judging me please understand that this is “Yahoo Answers” after all, I did not type this out asking about a free ticket to ride. I am very grown and have been supporting myself as well as my father for quite some years. I have given him money, supported him, tried to help with his alcohol abuse since I turned 18, . He was never in our lives until he got older and needed help himself. He calls me drunk all the time calling me names which I cant even mention as well as bad mouthing my mother terribly even after she passed and wished me to die like she did after trying to be selfless. Now he tries to call the police on me because I could not take him to a scheduled blood test because he was drunk. SO…..! If asking a question like this makes me appear to be selfish the so be it. All your answers are grea
So it is not my child but it is my nephew, my brothers child.
Heres the story:
My brother and his soon to be ex wife are fighting for custody of my 2 year old nephew. The mother is a pyscho. She is ALWAYS sick. There have been NUMEROUS times where I, my sister, or my mother have had to take off work because she couldnt watch him and if my brother did then he would get fired… she has been like this since I can remember… she just recently got out of rehab for drugs after checking herself in. My brother has her recorded admitting atleast 2 times that she has been on drugs and has even had my nephew there while she has been high and so on and so forth. My brother has an order of protection on her and he has temporary full custody and she only gets one supervised visit for 2 hours. Which I hope she doesnt get to see him ANYMORE.
My brothers attorney is crap and because my brother couldnt pay him in full the attorney is doing very little for him… so I recently got a loan out for my brother so he can hire a new attorney.
When she did get to see my nephew he came home starving. & she used all her families first to buy drugs..
Do you think my brother will end up getting full custody??? She is sending threatning texts and we are saving all of them to show to the judge.
Is there anything else we can do to up the chances of him getting full custody??
Please help! I dont want my nephew around her! She is very unfit!!!
Add: She was only in rehab for 2 weeks and I HIGHLY doubt that she has fully recovered
As a child of a very hostile, aggressive, and impatient single mother (who hates my biological father and has been divorced from him since I was one year of age), I was frequently beaten with a wire coat-hanger ( for “general principles” or for very little or no reason) while forced by Mother to bend over my bed with my pants pulled down to my ankles until I was screaming in pain and had many purple, black, blue, and red welts all over my butt and down both backs of my legs (thighs). My step-dad, who my very aggressive mom married when I was 10 heard me in my bedroom screaming in severe pain as this idiot was beating me for having eaten a can of tuna for lunch that day as it was the only thing in the house to eat and as was usually the case I’d been left home alone all day to fend for myself. My step-dad said to my mom, “Gretchen, you’re going to kill him one of these days” and she did stop doing that once my step-dad intervened with concern for my safety. She’s still very ignorant, selfish, domineering, controlling (a self-described “control freak”) still very hostile toward me, still very sarcastic, condescending, rude, impatient, and self-centered. Many others who have met her concede that she is rude; the consensus is high that Gretchen is hostile. My cousin speculates that Gretch may have been raped as a child by her alcoholic step father. Although Gretchen never has been known to drink at all, her mom and step-dad were both alcoholics. Anyone else out there been harshly treated and severely beaten with a wire coat-hanger? If so, where does this method of child abuse originate from, i.e., where did Gretchen learn to use a wire coat hanger on a defenseless little boy’s bare bottom after ordering said defenseless boy into his bedroom and then ordering this victim of his mother’s aggression to “drop your drawers”? I still remember those exact words; it was always the same command before a very severe beating “Drop your drawers”. Was this method of child abuse common to poor, ignorant, selfish, hateful, uneducated, young mothers from the Canton area of Ohio or just all over the U.S.? I’d like to add that the aforementioned mother is frequently confrontational with others. Once when asked by an officer if she knew how fast she was going after being pulled over her reply to the officer was a very hostile “I don’t need any lecture from you. I do my job, so you just do yours; just write the god-damned ticket and let me go!” I was in the car and heard this myself thinking, “what a stupid bitch, she was probably going to get a warning before she started with the attitude.” This is just one example of Gretchen’s ignorance and attitude of arrogance. What would you do if you had a mom like this? I was thrown out of house at 18 and have strugled to get by doing menial jobs ever since (a janitor job here, lawn-mowing job there) and have been homeless, have dealt with alcoholism and related problems. I’m still just doing my best by staying sober and keeping any job I get especially in this time of our economy being in shambles. Thanks for any insight and advice. I’m sure karma has a way of dealing with things in the long run. Luckily I am currently employed, have 2 pretty good cars, and am able to rent a small house that I like.
So basicly i used to be a drug addict, mainly i used speed for a couple of years then i quit
from age 14-17 i used drugs e.t.c both my mom and dad are drug addicts
mom smokes pot at night and dad is a junkie, well i rarely meet my dad unless he wants me to go with him to buy needles or such and i do it for him because i dont want him getting STD or HIV
anyways i met this girl when i was 15 … i loved her more than anything then she cheated on me a few times i cried my eyes out let her back into my life and well started doing drugs, drugdealing and all that package… then after some time she always kept cheating on me 7 times to be exact i went single… went into AA / NA and all that shit… never worked the program though and started the steps but went there and was sober and didnt feel that bad but just like Ok then well i meet another girl in the AA a girl that i then dated and had a baby with… our daughter died in 23rd of december 2010
i have memories in my head when i woke up and didnt find her then i took the blanket
and saw her face crushed into the mattress… it haunts me sometimes but not that often anymore
i feel sometimes like im loosing it… i often think like, this time i will end up beeing anotherp ersonaly or going completely out the map ccrazy … because i think im loosing my mind slowly
i feel pretty okay normally but when i feel anxiety those fucking symtoms they are making me go so tired i want to kill myself almost daily, or when they get so extreme the symptoms then i want to die
i cutted myself the other day was gonna end it… but didnt for some reason
i once tried to kill myself also after my gf cheated on me and left me
and failed lost like 2l of blood woke up crying because i wasnt dead
and to mention, my ex gf was really good and loves me really much but i broke up with her
and she really really loves me and is a good person she never cheated on me
but i once quit with her one night and got drugs then fucked some girl
she calls it cheating because the day after we started dating again
but now we are not together because i broke up with her because i cant find any feelings
for her exept caring but not like LOVE
now i really want to just fix it…
today i am a drugdealer and im still sober, or well somewhat i just drank a bear tonight
i only know drug people… i mean people who use drugs and such…
i met this girl and we been hanging around alot now and i like her and am into her
she is though leaving for usa in a week for 2 months so that will be a bummer
just what can i do… i seriously am so close to death…
i hate all these physical symtoms of insanity
i mean i feel like im floating, i cant cry, its like im always with some nervous pinches
all around my body, my adrenaline is always pumped … and i have trouble swallowing
dry mouth… trouble concentrating and moving my body … its like im loosing it… all of it
control of myself… my neck muscles always hurt because im so pumped up of adrenaline
that they are always stressed and i can feel when they relax i feel so bad in them…
i always feel like i am going to puke and if i cough i almost puke
now im thinking of just fuck the drugdealing, fuck it all
be a better person, but im not sure if i can handle it
i mean if i can handle this shit more than 1 day more
i dont know where i can get help and i dont know if i will make it through this night
when i lay in my bed its like my concious goes out for a bit
then its like its turned on again and my brain thinks and thinks alot of shit
that makes me anxious and i feel like im floating and in another reality and such
its so bad and im so scared of loosing control of my limbs… breathing… scared of having a stroke or a heart attack…
scared of ending like a vegetable in a mental institute…
is there anyone that has any answers of what i can do ?
please if anyone just anyone doesnt need to be a professional
but just someone that has any advice please let me know before i go insane
i have not killed myself or anything and i feel a little better, its like this comes in waves
sometimes i just cant handle it and im close to ending it…
also you speak of god… i wish to believe in “god” and i pray to him in hope of help
but i havent seen any resaults…
but i decided to quit selling drugs… and start helping people i mean i want to do that
be a good person and all that
but i mean it will take time for me to change to a better person and i dont know if i will do that
in time… i mean i think that due to my bad lifestyle… bad choises… and beeing a bad person
on purpose i have this crappy life today… i mean if i change to the better
and try to do good, i will feel better in the end, but the question is if i can make it to the “end”
He’s not an emotional guy in the first place. We’ve had very deep conversations. He’s older than me and never married. He keeps in contact with his last few girlfriends. What kind of guy am I dealing with? He knows I like him. He’s said several things to me to lead me to think he likes me.
I am very confused with this case. My very own mother, who is a drug addict and has many mental health issues such as Bipolar Disorder, Manic Depression, Schizophrenia with Psychotic Episodes as well as does the man that she married 2 years ago that she met in a Psychiatric Hospital and only knew for 3 weeks before she married him, took custody of my girls from me. My ex husband stabbed me 4 times in the face and neck 2 days after Christmas and left me for dead. Luckily I survived. I took my girls and went to live with my mom because I had no where else to go and she told me she was going to help me. I was having a very hard time sleeping at night because of the nightmares and I was having panic attacks. My mom started giving me xanax to help me sleep and stay calm. Out of nowhere, my mom went to the DHS and made up a bunch of lies and told them I was all strung out on drugs which was not true. I asked for a drug test and they refused to give me one. When we went to court, the judge would not even let me speak the first word or defend myself. I didn’t have an attorney. I had no clue that she had made up so many horrible lies on me and all the while she was on drugs herself. My mom was issued temporary emergency custody of my girls. I was ordered to do a drug program. I had a full time job and I asked if I could do outpatient and I was told no. When I finally got the court order 6 months later, it said impatient was preferred not ordered. So I couldn’t complete an impatient program because I had a home, a car, and I still financially supported my girls. The company I worked for went out of business in May and I immediately began a new job. That job ended in September and I immediately began another job. When I went back to court in October, my mother gave custody to my ex husbands great grandmother and great aunt. They ordered me to have no contact with my girls and I dint understand why. In court, they jumped my case saying I should have done outpatient and I tried to explain to the judge that I called and asked my caseworker and she told me that it was unacceptable. Its a messed up court system. I wasn’t even allowed to speak in court. I tried to speak one time and I was told that if I spoke again I would be held in contempt of court. So all I could do was remain quiet while my so called mother sat right beside me and lied on me. The judge told me I had to quit my job and the only thing I was to do now was go to rehab. Well, I quit my job. I am on a waiting list to get into a rehab that I found that would take me without insurance. I have at least 4 more weeks left on the waiting list. I go to court in March and I know his family is going to fight me for full custody. I dint know what to do. I am by far not a bad mom. I have never so much as spanked my kids ever. I have taken care of them by myself while being in a very abusive relationship with their father. I ha vent spoken to or seen my girls in 2 months today and Im about to lose my mind. My girls love their Mommy and they cry to be with me. They carried them out of the courtroom crying that they want their Mommy and they love their Mommy and she is not a bad person. Its killing me to know that they want me so bad and I cant do anything about it. No one has even explained to my babies why Im not there. They have no clue what is going on. Its so unfair!!!!!! I don’t understand how this could happen when they had no evidence against me. All they had was my moms word and she is legally crazy!! I cant afford an attorney now because the judge ordered me to quit my job till I go to rehab. I need an attorney to represent me in court in March or I could possibly lose custody of my girls for good and for no reason at all. Can anyone help me with this situation?? All I want is my babies back so we can go back to being a family like we were before my husband tried to kill me. I love my babies with all of my heart and would never put them in harms way and they will tell you that themselves. What do I do before I do lose my mind??
My daughter is only 18 months old and I dont trust my boyfriend’s mother or her boyfriend. My boyfriend’s mother is really a sad case. Sometimes I see alot of issues with my boyfriend because of his mother, but thats another story. The problem is that his mother has a new boyfriend that she met on her job as a waitress and he is a waiter at the same place. This man looks like he like woman and men. This woman was sleeping with this guy and he gave her Hepatitis C. It almost cost her life and she still stayed with this nasty guy. He lied and said he was tested and didnt have it and would take care of her. My boyfriends sister says this guy would hang at a bustop and tries to talk to women and even tried to talk to her in the past. This guy has no car and the grandmother does’nt have one as well. My boyfriend sister said that she use to have to watch this guy around her daughter because he would be having his shirt off with her two year old on his belly. This guy would also kiss the little girl on the lips and wont her to nap with him in the grandmothers room. My boyfriend sister lived with her mother and got in a big fight because of how the grandmothers boyfriend was acting with the child. Also in the past I found out my boyfriend sister was raped by her mothers past boyfriend when she was just 11 years old. The Grandmother blamed her daughter for it and choose the boyfriend over her own duaghter. The grandmother and the daughter have always had a poor realationship because of what happend. That day the grandmother let her boyfriend call her all kind of bad names and kick her out with her child. There was also a time my boyfriend had to pick up his mother and loser boyfriend from a bad drug area on Thanksgiving. I did not know she smoked weed but that night is was clear. Im really not sure what she smoke because the way she was acting was very hard to tell if it could be crack. I dont wont my baby around them losers period. The grandmother called and said that she was coming to get the baby and I had to make up a lie so that she couldnt. Im really tired of being fake with this woman and cant understand how a 42 year old woman can be so low life and trashy. How can I tell her in a nice way I dont wont my child alone with them? What would you do if you was me?
A friend of mine has a 7 year old daughter who has been in his care for all of her life. Her mother stopped visiting her 2 years ago (she was 5) and has not called, stopped by to see her or contacted anyone about her daughter since that day. Two years later she filed kidnapping charges on the father of the child. At the temporary hearing, full custody was granted to the mother. The court ordered that the father immediately withdraw the child from her school, her home and her extra curricular activities to resume her life living under her mothers roof. Keep in mind that the child had not seen her real mother in two years (she was 5 years old at the time) and had grown accustomed to calling her step-mom “mommy”. The child didn’t even recognize her real mother. Her real mother was married to but seperated from another man at the time of the child’s birth. The father of the child has been living in the same house for more than 5 years and has never changed his phone number, nor have his parents. The mother claimed she did not know how to contact the father in order to see her daughter. What steps should be taken now for the child to be placed back in the care and custody of her father with whom she has been comfortably living with her entire life?
Note: The mother has two other children by two other men and is married now. She has a criminal record, a suspended drivers license and a past history of drug abuse and alcoholism. The child’s father works as a 911 emergency dispatcher/paramedic/firefighter and has had a steady job since he was 18, he is now 29.
My father has been fighting custoday for my sister who is now 11. In a nutshell, the mother is a drug addict and has been in & out of rehabs for the past 5 years. My dad left her about a year n 1/2 ago and has been trying to get custody of my sister since then. My father is retired on social security/disability and is completely capable of caring for his daugther. She is now staying with a relative b/c her mom is in another rehab. We went to court today and they are allowing the family memeber apply for temporary custody, and then let the judge decide. The family member is a sister who has never raised children an is a drug addict herself. The state also provides support for my sister through my father, which they scavange that every month! What do we do?????
thas has been adopted, where his biological family was if he was the product of a rape?
me personally i do not know what I would tell them.
however like i stated in a previous post that I answered…I was adopted, my birth mother was talked out of aborting me but she was a crack addict and did nothing but run around..she smoked while she was pregnant (probably more than just cigarettes) but i was full term and only 4 lbs.
ALL ANSWERS APPRECIATED! :)
In case you were wondering what this had to do with R&S I know some people don’t believe in it because they are Christians/Catholic etc. I do not know what relgion I am, still looking but the fact that i don’t like abortion is merely just me
Taryn your answer rocks!
Wonderful and Fearfuly made, its not a matter of him accepting his parents..but a matter of curiosity..i wanted to know about my family..but i dont accept my birth mother, however i am thankful i was given up..actually i was taken away by the state because she wasn’t taking care of me and i had scabies.
Juggling Frogs….thats a great answer too!
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