How Do I Get My Mom Off Drugs » child http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com We will help you get your mom off drugs! Thu, 15 Dec 2011 03:27:56 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 How does the process of child support work? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/30/how-does-the-process-of-child-support-work/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/30/how-does-the-process-of-child-support-work/#comments Sun, 30 Oct 2011 07:28:56 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/30/how-does-the-process-of-child-support-work/ My husband ran off almost 2 months ago. He has done this before. He is a video game and possible prescription drug addict and lives with his sisters ex husband, but also sees his mom alot. He doesn’t want to go to work and works a commission job. We have one 14 mo old son that he has seen once since he ran off. There is an online form for my state that I can fill out to request child support. If he doesnt have the money will they just not make him pay? He wont speak to me, should I warn him first?

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/30/how-does-the-process-of-child-support-work/feed/ 2 Is it a bad idea to have a child with someone with a serious history of mental illness in their family? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/24/is-it-a-bad-idea-to-have-a-child-with-someone-with-a-serious-history-of-mental-illness-in-their-family/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/24/is-it-a-bad-idea-to-have-a-child-with-someone-with-a-serious-history-of-mental-illness-in-their-family/#comments Tue, 25 Oct 2011 02:27:59 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/24/is-it-a-bad-idea-to-have-a-child-with-someone-with-a-serious-history-of-mental-illness-in-their-family/ Mother was bipolar, father committed suicide, brother has schizoaffective disorder, sister is a drug addict. My sister’s husband seems totally normal, but she’s scared of how their kids could turn out. We have a history of depression in our own family.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/10/24/is-it-a-bad-idea-to-have-a-child-with-someone-with-a-serious-history-of-mental-illness-in-their-family/feed/ 5 At what age will you let your child drink at holidays or the occasional dinner? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/at-what-age-will-you-let-your-child-drink-at-holidays-or-the-occasional-dinner/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/at-what-age-will-you-let-your-child-drink-at-holidays-or-the-occasional-dinner/#comments Wed, 21 Sep 2011 23:36:32 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/21/at-what-age-will-you-let-your-child-drink-at-holidays-or-the-occasional-dinner/ Will you wait until they’re 21?
Or let them drink earlier?
Do you think supervised drinking at a “young” age will lead to irresponsible party drinking or alcoholism later? Or the reverse?

My parents would serve me wine at holiday gatherings starting when I was 15 and it was never a big deal growing up; my husband’s family was like this too, granted this was in London 25 years ago, but still, it seems here in the US everyone is so uptight about drinking.
We’ve raised our daughter the same way (she’s just turned 17), a glass of wine or a beer on occasion, like when we go out, or a cocktail at family gatherings. The other day the mother of one of her friends called to chastise us and gave us a parenting lesson. Now I wonder if we’re being irresponsible or naive, unintentionally giving her permission to go out and get shitfaced? (I know she drinks outside of home, and I’m fine with that. It’s part of being a teenager… or am I wrong to think that, too?)

What are other parents’ views?

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Is it possible to make someone enter a facility against the persons will. I agree, the son would be so relieved to know his fathe rwas getting the treatment he needs. But, ho wcan he make his fatehr eneter a facility?

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my mild intellectually disabled friend has decided to move out of home he’s 24 doesn’t always make the best financial choices sometimes and drinks a lot border-lining on alcoholism because his parents insist on controlling his life, they give him little or no say in anything and make decisions and choices for him that he gets no say in, they don’t listen to him which is why he wants to move out so he can be independent.

he’s now telling me that because he has decided to move out on his own his parents have decided to take him to court to get power of attorney.

can they do that?
is there any basis to their argument if they base their reason on his disability?
can the fact that they take money off him and give him very little to spend and his money is placed in his mother’s name and she won’t give it to him even though she promised to when he hit 21 be used as an argument in his defence?
could it also be used in his defence that the reason he can’t handle money is because he really hasn’t had any (see point above) to learn how to control it?

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Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/09/09/what-psychological-effects-can-a-father-have-on-a-child/feed/ 3 why do doctors try and blame the mother if a child is born premature? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/08/27/why-do-doctors-try-and-blame-the-mother-if-a-child-is-born-premature/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/08/27/why-do-doctors-try-and-blame-the-mother-if-a-child-is-born-premature/#comments Sat, 27 Aug 2011 17:37:50 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/08/27/why-do-doctors-try-and-blame-the-mother-if-a-child-is-born-premature/ when my daughter was born at 24 weeks the doctors said my wife had drunk during her pregnancy the baby was tested and no and was clean then they changed their tune. During her second pregnacy a hormone defficiancy was found to be the reason for her difficulties with pregnancy. my wife has never drank in 11 years i have never seen her take a drink. to this day she blames herself for our daughters disabilities

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i was completely potty trained from ages 2-4, but when i was 5 or 6 i started wetting the bed again, and sometimes peeing my pants, and that continued on until i turned 12, when i stopped. it’s very confusing to me why i would be completely potty trained for 3 years, and then suddenly… not?
another strange thing is i used to enjoy acting like a baby at my mom’s house, but not at my dad’s (they’ve been separated since i was 2). i would ask her to run my bath, dry me, bring me food, make my bed, clean my room, basically just baby me, while at my dad’s i had been having my baths by myself from about age 4, i ate my food at the table, made my bed by myself from age 8, always cleaned my room by myself, but once i was at my mom’s i acted like a 2 year old, talking in a baby voice, making her do everything for me or i would throw a tantrum because i felt threatened, and this continued on until a couple years ago.
when i was about 4 years old i started acting out sexual scenes with my stuffed animals, making them touch me, say sexual things to me, and that continued until i was about 9 or 10.
i also have a lot of issues with eating and body image, i’ve had binge eating disorder since i was 10 years old, and sometimes i get the urge to make myself throw up, not necessarily because i’ve eaten too much, but usually when i feel panicked, and making myself throw up calms me down.
i also don’t remember very much from age 4 to age 9, i only have a couple memories.
anyway, what set this off was about a month ago me and my mom were talking and we realized i didn’t remember huge things from my childhood, such as places i used to go every day for years, or people i knew very well, and i’m now wondering, is it possibly i was sexually abused, even if i don’t remember it?

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So here is some brief information on the situation. The little girls mom has been in and out of rehabilitation battling alcoholism for over 25 years. She already has 2 older children removed from her care many years ago. About a year ago, the child was placed in foster care since mom had a relapse. I found out 5 months later at which point i got involved to try to foster her while mom received the care she needed to eventually get her back. My family and I (I have a girlfriend of 4 years and a step daughter who is 5 and a half) have made several trips to inquire about her case and situation and most importantly, to try to motivate “mom” and spend time with the little girl.

Since my 2 year old cousin has been with her current foster mother for a going on a year in a couple of months and due to the fact, that mom is not showing as much progress as she should, i am thinking of filing for custody before her foster man has rights to adopt her and frankly, can do and take my cousin away from all of us.

My question is, when i file for custody, can any of the counties assistst me financially with the baby. I’m the only one working currently and my though i make “decent” money, i have entirely too many expenses to take on the additional responsibility of a child. I’m torn though because i know she belongs with family.

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Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/30/what-can-i-do-for-this-child/feed/ 10 A woman was charged with child neglect for breastfeeding while drunk? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/26/a-woman-was-charged-with-child-neglect-for-breastfeeding-while-drunk/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/26/a-woman-was-charged-with-child-neglect-for-breastfeeding-while-drunk/#comments Wed, 27 Jul 2011 05:38:40 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/26/a-woman-was-charged-with-child-neglect-for-breastfeeding-while-drunk/ She breastfed her 6 week old baby while drunk and was charged with child neglect. http://www.myfoxal.com/dpp/news/national/North_Dakota_Mother_Charged_With_Child_Neglect_Allegedly_Breast_Fed_Baby_While_Drunk_297633 Do you think this is deserved? I personally do not.

Share/Bookmark]]> http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/26/a-woman-was-charged-with-child-neglect-for-breastfeeding-while-drunk/feed/ 26 I’m not a child, but is this still abuse? I can’t take it anymore!? http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/21/im-not-a-child-but-is-this-still-abuse-i-cant-take-it-anymore/ http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/21/im-not-a-child-but-is-this-still-abuse-i-cant-take-it-anymore/#comments Fri, 22 Jul 2011 05:36:35 +0000 admin http://www.howdoigetmymomoffdrugs.com/2011/07/21/im-not-a-child-but-is-this-still-abuse-i-cant-take-it-anymore/ Hi. I’m eighteen years old and still live with my parents. I go out at least once a week and take home applications to try to get a job. I’ve been trying for almost two years now, and I’ve had no luck. I’ve been told many times how bad the economy is, so it’ll be hard for me to get one, but anyway.

I still live with my parents, and every single day my mother gets drunk. Sometimes she’ll start drinking before it’s even noon. She drinks a lot, and no matter how many drinks she’s had she always claims she isn’t drunk. Whenever my dad and I confront her about this, she screams and yells and tells us she hates us etc.

This has been going on for years. Whenever she starts drinking, she gets mean and vicious. There are times when I won’t even be in the same room as her and she’ll start yelling at me, telling me I’m lazy and fat and that I’m a loser (and to be fair, yeah, I don’t have a job, but I have a 3.4 GPA in college and I’m majoring in nursing, I can’t say I’m a loser. She didn’t even go to college.) and how much she hates me. Then she and my dad will get into a fight, and once he leaves (either to go to work or because he’s had enough of her) she screams at me saying I always ‘stick up for him’ even when I’m not involved in the conversation. She then tells me how I treat her like sh*t because I’m not there to stick up for her in a fight and that I’m useless etc.

When she’s drunk she’ll do mean and rude things and she doesn’t care when I confront her about it. She’ll tell me it’s my fault for her alcoholism and when I ask her why, she can’t give me an answer. She usually replies with “I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “I can’t stand you” etc. and then won’t let me get a word in.

I can’t explain all the things she does when she’s drunk but she’s insufferable. She’s mean and cruel to me and my dad, and she’ll yell and scare my dogs to badly that they hide under tables and stuff. I don’t understand what made her this way, but I can’t take it anymore.

The problem is, I don’t have the money (no job) to move out or get a dorm, and I don’t know if what she’s doing constitutes as illegal and/or abusive because she’s not physically hitting me or anything.

But I really need help, and I need out of this. I’ve tried taking her to family counseling before, which ended badly. We (my dad, her, and myself) were trying to work things out when my mom just got up and left. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Please don’t tell me to try to talk to her because my dad and I have been trying for years and she doesn’t care at all, she always blames us for it (and can never explain why).
My dad has tried to divorce her but she… for a lack of better terms, won’t let him. As well, almost all our family lives in a different state.
I need this question answered: Is what she’s doing illegal?

Can she get arrested for it?

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I am 33. I was physically and emitionally abused and neglected by my mother until the age of 12 when I was put into the states custody.

I stayed in a foster home until 16 and became emancipated.

As part of my recovery process, I am interested in making my abuser face up to her actions. I have tried in the past but she just denies things. Also her alcoholism allows her to live a life where she can forget what she did to me.

Is there, legally, any way to hold her accountable for abuse? I am not interested in money- but having her held accountable on some level will help with closure.

thanks

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His mother never calls when we have him for any amount of time to check on him, and if she does call, it is always about money. She does not have a highschool education, and has even attempted to take the GED exam 2 times and still has not passed. She has no steady employment, even when she worked at her father’s store. She has threatened us and shown her ugly side several times (which we have documented) She has been late for pick ups and drop offs several times also, and has even forgotten what day it was when we called. He usually has a full diaper, and is filthy like he hasnt taken a bath when we pick him up. We also noticed lots of plaque on his teeth when we pick him up. He has gotten sick with her several times, and it has been severe a couple times, and she says shes taken him to the doctor, but has no documentation… How does a doctor miss pneumonia and say that the child is “fine”??? Anways, please give me some advice or some support as of what to do!?!
I forgot to also add that we are to split medical bills 50/50, and she owes us over $1,000 so far. She says she will pay but never does.
She has also lost custody of her older daughter to her parents for being unfit. Shouldnt that be held against her?
Sorry, it was a paternity test, not just a blood test! He is the father!

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