Adult child of a alcoholic mother??

Thursday, September 2nd, 2010

i am a adult child of a alcoholic mother who dose not see the effects that her drinking is having on her family. i would like to know if there are any ways to get her into a program or how to get her into AA i have been trying for the last 10 years and have had no luck at all. my father has passed away so i do not have any suportt outher than my siblings. it has goten to the point that i dont want my child around his grandma and will just leave her house when i suspect she has been drinking .i am being told buy my siblings that thats not the way to deal with it and i dont like to leave her alone but i dont know any outher way (she gets angry and some times violent).she also still has my 13 year old sister still living at home and she is starting to act out ! please help me!!

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Child Protective Services took a child from his mother for doing drugs and having drugs in the child’s system?

Thursday, August 26th, 2010

There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.

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Child Protective Services took a child from his mother for doing drugs and having drugs in the child’s system?

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

There is this girl named britney in my town she’s 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. britney and her family have a bad reputation Basically they are well known for causing problems. britney’s mother is a alcoholic who doesn’t have a problem watching her grandson while under the influence. britney’s father committed suicide when she was young sadly although who could blame him, after all that family is trouble. her two brothers are in and out of jail… anyway recently Child Protective Services took her son in their custody because she was snorting prescription pills, smoking crack, and possibly shooting heroin, her son tested positive for drugs.. and because the family is unstable the boy will probably go to a adoption agencie since britney doesn’t know who fathered her son. will she get into trouble for having drugs in her son’s system?
will the mother be sent to juvenile intill she’s 21?
The mother neglects her child by not watching him properly. she takes him out without dressing him warmly Not putting a jacket on him, or hat and gloves. she takes her son out for a walk 2:00 in the morning and later then that strolling him arould when she has no business being out in the first place. she starts fights with people and becomes very violent in front of her son, (she’ll fight another person with her son there)
Because we live in a small town basically everyone is in everybody else’s business therefore rumors are spreading about her alot. of course Child Protective Services did take her child but people are talking about why they took him from her. she deserved it she shouldn’t have children when she can’t even take care of herseif, britney will probably grow up and be just like her mother a alcoholic with four more misfits as children just like her siblings.

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What are the chances of my child becoming an alcoholic if i am?

Sunday, August 22nd, 2010

I’m a mother of 3. Former alcoholic. So what are the chances of one of my kids having alcoholism?
& how can i tell ahead of time? like do alcoholics at an early age act a certain way before they start drinking? Any certain emotions or anything like that?

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How does my mothers drunk in public charge affect my home child care?

Saturday, August 21st, 2010

She was arrested for disorderly conduct the other night for being drunk. How will this affect my home child care, she lives with me.
I’m going to go to her court date with her, she’s 60 and never been arrested for anything before. We cannot afford a lawyer, any suggestions for court and what I have to report if I do for my childcare. Thanks.

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17-year-old gay friend had a blood test which detected cocaine and marijuana. Can child protective services…

Friday, August 20th, 2010

My 17-year-old gay friend is living with his mom who just got out of jail. She is a drug addict who smokes crack daily and is financially supported by her own mother.

Anyways, the 17-year-old’s blood test was positive for cocaine and marijuana.

This is the 3rd time CPS was called to his house.

Will he go to jail or be put in foster home for testing positive to cocaine?

He turns 18 in 10 months.

What legal advice do you have?

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I you rape a woman and make her pregnant, and yet she gives birth to the child?

Friday, August 20th, 2010

Do you have a right to seek custody of this child if the mother is now suffering from alcoholism and has mental problems?

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Huge mom alcoholic problem?! Please answer, my life is miserable?!Seriously please answer, child abuse case?

Thursday, August 19th, 2010

I am a 12 year old girl. My dad and brother and sister all know thta my mom has a serious drinking problem. A few times I have tried taking away her alcohol and hiding it or locking myself in my room with it. Today is one of those times. As I locked myself in the bathroom I waited ten minutes and my mom had my Nintendo Ds with her because she stole it bribbing me with “If you give me that, I will give you this!” I didn’t fall for it. It took ten minutes and she was still begging by the bathroom door. I was sad because my mom always drinks and she has no job or no life and all my friends are always bragging about their awesome moms, but mine is terrible. So I opened the door hoping to run to my room (much safer, I have some weapons in case..), but she was right there. She came in the bathroom and got really physical. I threatened to throw things at her and I finally threw a hairbrush and she picked it up and threw it back at me. She threatened to drop my DS in the toilet if I didn’t give her her beer back. I knew she was serious, for she had done things like this before. I started screaming and crying as she begged and threatened for her alcohol back. I began bawling and gave it back to her and got my DS back. If my DS broke I would be in huge trouble and not have anything to play with! )’: So I went downstairs and was trying to talk to her through my tears. I explained that it is a torture for me to live here and I wanted a normal mother and everything. I explained what I wanted and needed. Now she will just drink more! My best friends know my secret, but they can’t do anything. I tried talking to my dad, and he understood, but he said he couldn’t do anything. I will tell my brother tonight so that we can work something out. Now I am afraid she will kill herself or something (like running away) because she threatened to run away and never come back. And she said since we all hate her don’t bother to come looking for her. Then she said the worst thing of all; “Maybe then Dad will find somebody better and you will have a mom you actually like.” I cannot stand it. I love her very much but wish she would stop drinking!!!!!!!!!! I cry every single day because she can’t buy me bras or new clothes && every holiday my friends tell me they get lots of presents, but I only get a few. My dad is working very very very hard to support our family & that is why I love him most. )’: It’s just that I don’t know what to do anymore! I don’t want to cry everynight, I don’t want my mom to run away, and I don’t want her to keep drinking. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!

P.S. —–I want to call the police when my brother gets home from school, but I would be in serious trouble! My mom could go to court for child-abuse and maybe go to jail, which I would consider. But then again my whole family would hate me! They don’t know how I feel! And then my mom will hate me A LOT and I would not have a mom anymore )’: then again if I called one of those drug helplines my Dad would be pi$$3d off because he would have to pay thousands and thousands of dollars! I’m scared someone might get hurt )’:

P.S.S. ——– )’: Before she threatened to hurt me and my dad had a talk with her!!

)’: PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!

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How would it affect a child (girl) and on into adulthood if her father were an alcoholic, & her mother?

Saturday, August 14th, 2010

neglected her and had an affair with her own cousin, which produced two step sisters (one of whom is semi-retarded) who were raised with the family. The mother beat the girl for asking for a bit more food when she was hungry, then as the girl got older, she had to help raise her 10 bros and sis. The mother rarely called and never wrote or visited (but visited other siblings) when the girl grew up and moved out. Other than being generally messed up, how would this affect a child specifically?
Would extreme need for control (of others usually) be a possible outcome? Emotional outbursts and other forms of manipulation? Verbal abuse? Unnatural attachment to her own daughter, even clinginess?

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Mom is using herion; should child still go over everyother weekend?

Saturday, August 14th, 2010

We just found out that my step daughters mother and boyfriend are heavy heroin users. My husband has full custody and the mom has every other weekend with the daughter..and we don’t think it is ok for our child to be in an atmosphere where it is dangerous.

Are we over reacting? I don’t know how people act on heroin.

My husband will be contacting his lawyer on Monday. However, his daughter is supposed to go over there today and sleep over…what would you do?

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I have a few questions about child protective service?

Thursday, August 12th, 2010

I work in a drug rehab center with woman who have their children on-site. If a mother gets discharged without completing her stay (which happens often) the kids get taken by cps. So far I have been the one to carry the kids out to the car and convince them it will be okay. After the children are taken we have no contact with them. Is it possible to keep in contact with these children? My employee handbook doesn’t say anything about it. But anyone who works for the state maybe know the policy of non family members keeping in contact with the children?

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what are the side affects of a child born from a mother who drunk pepsi while she was pregnant?

Thursday, August 12th, 2010
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What are the effects of adoption on a child? Knowledgeable people, help!?

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

What are the psychological consequences of a kid, who was say, adopted at 8 and had an alcoholic, previously heroin addicted birth mother, and never knew their father? Anyone experienced in psychology or social work or something could help.
Was anyone adopted when they were a kid, what has your life been like after that?

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If a nursing mother gets drunk then nurses her child, will/can the breast milk have alcohol in it?

Tuesday, August 10th, 2010
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how can i get custody of my child when her mom is addicted to pain pills and selling her prescriptions?

Saturday, August 7th, 2010

She has no job,car and lives with her parents who also have a drug addiction and mental issues.

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Husband’s 15 y/o child has a crack-addicted mother-what to do?

Friday, August 6th, 2010

ok…my last question looked wrong. But the MOTHER of this poor child is a crack addict-for 19 years. Been arrested, in and out of rehab, total loser. We tried for cutody and $5000 later we were told that since the child wants to stay with her, that is what they are going with.
Since that court date, she is back on drugs, has ben arrested and now we believe that she is using now.
The child basically is at the grandparents all the time who we are not on good terms with since we took them to court. The grandmother is a “proud” alcoholic-she doesn’t hide it. In fact, they just got a dog and named it “Stoli”.
This crack head has tried to harass me by calling CPS on me saying that I drink wine and an drunk around the kid. (Me and my husband sometimes have a glass of wine with dinner and the kid is the type to go to the mother with exaggerated info) CPS immeadiately saw that it was just harassment and dismissed it. That’s just the beginning. Nightmare! Can anyone relate?

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2 child custody questions?

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010

i have a baby with my ex boyfriend. he makes no effort to see him. he will not help me in any way with our son because he wants to be together and i don’t want to be with him. we was abusive towards me.

well, i was told by my insurance company that if i don’t go for child support my son’s insurance will be canceled. today i just got a letter with a court date and my baby’s father texted me and said that he is going to try for full custody.

he thinks because im diagnosed bi polar and not taking medication, live with my dad, and only work part time that he is going to get custody. but i take great care of my son and i just started this job. no one starts full time. i also have a car. and i pay rent to my father.

well, he works full time and has custody of his almost 6 year old daughter. but, her mother smokes crack so that is the reason for that. i don’t use drugs. he also smokes weed around his daughter, she isn’t up to date on her shots, she isn’t in school, she looks malnourished, and has no health insurance. he is an alcoholic and just puts his daughter in front of the tv all day everyday. the only good things he can say about himself is that he has a car, rents his own house and works full time.

do you think he has a shot of getting my son? i don’t think he does but i cant help but worry. i just want some opinions.

and my second question is, when determining custody, do they investigate how his daughter is treated and her living environment? i think about this little girl everyday and i would like to see her removed from his care. she would be better off without him.
i am telling the complete truth. i havent called CPS because he threatened to kill me if i did because i am the only one that really knows whats going on.

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Baby’s father is mad im going after child support and is saying that is going to go for full custody?

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

When me and my baby’s father broke up a month ago, he told me to go after child support, so i did. plus, if i didn’t medicare told me that if i didn’t go after child support they would take away my son’s insurance. so i had no choice in the matter anyways.

well, i guess someone from child support showed up at his house looking for him and now hes so mad he is telling me that is going to go for full custody.

i don’t think he has a chance to get my son but i still cant help but worry. i am diagnosed bipolar and i am unemployed right now but i am in a government program that helps young mothers find employment. i have been there everyday just like it would be a job. so those are the only two negative things i would have against me.

he has custody of his daughter from another woman and the only reason he has custody of her is because the mother smokes crack. he barely pays any attention to his poor daughter and he smokes weed around her and hes an alcoholic. i want to call CPS on him but if i did, he would know it was me. and he said if i did he would kill me.

what happens when someone goes for custody? do i really have anything to worry about?
i have lots of family and friends around. i have very little money but i have always came up with a way to give my baby everything he needs.

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Can i take my mom to court for stealing my child support for alcohol?

Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010

She is an alcoholic and took my child support to get alcohol and told me i stoped getting it.

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Are you a child of an alcoholic mother? Did you lose her to drinking?

Monday, August 2nd, 2010

I am particularly interested in daughters but would like to understand also what it’s like for boys-men to lost their moms to alcohol. Guess I’ve been struggling with the loss for the last 12 years…and not just the loss, but how I lost her. Sometimes I feel alone in this experience, but I know there are others out there who have suffered similarly. Anyway, would appreciate hearing from you. No cruel responses or jokes please.

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