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My little brother is 14 and i am 17 and i am worried he may have a eating disorder. Because lately i have noticed him binge eating and then he goes to the bathroom and it sounds like he is puking. My brother is not big he is around 5’10 or 5’11 and my mom told me he weighs around 125lbs. But the other day my mom and my brother and i went swimming and you could see his ribs and my mom asked him about it and he started to sob so bad. My mom i think is in denial about this, and i try and help my little brother but i am so scared and i am unsure what to do to help him. Any advice?

Yesterday my sisters friend called me telling my about her ex bf’s dog that had puppy’s. Unfortunately the mother got into a fight and dies. He had to get rid of them so he gave them to his ex and she sold them. When my family saw him we were instantly attached. He has not yet been name and wont really eat or drink anything. Any ideas?

My dad died when i was 4 when he shot himself,and since then my mom has been addicted to drugs, alcohol,and shes brought home stepdads who have beaten me because he didnt like the way i brushed my teeth. I finally decided that i had to tell the police and im going into foster care, but i cant leave my friends there the only reason i have commited suicice myself. Is there anyway I can be able to stay with my friends instead of foster care because my friends mom is willing to take me. Thanks

http://gothamist.com/2010/04/22/high_driver_doesnt_feel_so_bad_abou.php

“The 18-year-old who was allegedly high on Oxycontin and Xanax when she drove a passenger van into a Hempstead, Long Island home, fatally striking the home’s owner, was hysterical when taken out of the police station yesterday. Kayla Gerdes screamed to reporters, “No, I didn’t [purposely aim for her.] Listen, stop — listen, it was an accident!

Gerdes’s lawyer said that the teen was released early from a 28-day drug rehabilitation program, because her mother’s insurance would only cover seven days.”

Obviously, if this girl were still in rehab, this death would not have happened. Thoughts?

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

I cannot stand my whore mom. She has 4 kids 13, 6,3,1. I have taken care of the 3 younger ones and Shes probably gonna get preggo again sometime soon. We all have different dads. I am staying home from school so I can stay home and guard my stuff and make sure none of my mom drug addict friends steal my stuff. I shre a room with my mom and all 3 of my brothers the only space I have is a bunk bed on top and I sleep with boxes of my stuff and a blanket. No pillow because one of my brothers dad slept on it and ruined it. My dad is way to busy with work and he is going through divorce. My mom is dating this fat Mexican and I don’t want her to be with anyone. I am used to it being just us. She is always on the phone and never listens to a word I say. She’s always telling me how worthless I am and she doesn’t care about anything. Oh and we are living with my grandma grandpa little cousin both my uncles and then My mom and brothers. I hate It here. I need my own space but obviously I’m not getting it. My grades are straight Fs because I’m always home protecting my things. Can I go to a foster home?

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

Married 6 years. Husband’s alcoholism progressively got worse, although he still retained his job as a school administrator. He loves the bars. I tried to keep up with him for a while, but couldn’t. He became verbally abusive, flirted with other women (I can’t prove adultery) and refused to get help. His mother and extended family try to talk to him sometimes, but don’t really force the issue. After all, he is the favorite son and cousin. He and I are both 54. I nagged, begged, made excuses, etc. I went and got him when he couldn’t find his car many a ‘next day’. He is the Cell Phone King and loves to wife bash. He has told lies about me, even sober. He lost his cell phone when he was out TWICE in bars and guess who he blamed? He finally left after I continually told him that if he wanted to live the single life, he needed to live it outside of our home. He has been gone a month, living in the same town. He has not tried to call or communicate. I don’t want the drama anymore, but I wonder if he truly doesn’t really care and I need to accept it. Is the fact that he doesn’t communicate a sign that he is ready to move on? I can’t ask him anything; he refused to talk about anything serious when he was home.

ok so i really dont get it. im 15 yrs old and my mother just found a bag of weed i had in my drawer and she got mad about it and told me that i shouldnt be smoking it and she was saying all this stuff about how its bad for u and its addicting when its not! it is not either of those things as a matter of fact its not bad for u at all and i dont get why parents are so ignorant and dont see that weed isnt bad…and hey, look at it this way, its better then doing any other drug or even drinking alchohol! i still manage a high b+ to A average in school its just a hobby of mine to smoke weed.. and it makes me happy..why does my mother want me to stop if it makes me happy? i also told her that its ok and i wasnt addicted and explained to her that its just a hobby of mine..

My mother just had an intracranial hemorrhage stroke last week, & her at-home situation is not the most conducive for her recovery. I currently work full time, but I don’t have enough time at my current employer to qualify for the Family Medical Leave Act (I’ve only been there for nine months). I need to have income to cover my minimal but still substantial bills. But I also would like to be able to care for my mother because I am completely positive that I can’t trust my stepfather to make sure that my mom makes the lifestyle changes that are necessary. My mom is an alcoholic, and she also smokes cigarettes. She also occasionally takes Vicodin (not prescribed). Her husband is also a smoker & an alcoholic, which is why I do not believe that he will be capable of caring & supporting my mother. Does anyone have any experience with caring for a parent & receiving pay through the state? Where would I go to get forms, info or anything else useful? Thanks to anyone who answers?

im 16 and i drink alcohol. im not an alcoholic but i like vodka and cognac. wine coolers are ok. i dont like beer but there was one type of beer i tried that was good, it started wth a w. anyway im not an alcoholic but what are your views on this? if a 16 yr old girl told u she drunk alcohol at parties and with friends, and u were her mom or friend, what would u tell her? do u think it’s horrible, ok, or do u even care?

Ok I have a 12 year old girl, and My wife (her step mother) and I had found out last minute that we were to go to a function. my dad and Alchie said he would watch her. when we came back 4 hrs later he was TRASHED he could not see straight and he did not know where he was/what he was doing

Much to my disappointment and my wife’s Shock

I have not said anything to him, he stayed the night because he could not drive. Or make it down the 3 flights of steers and left this am about 9 ish back to his mothers house…

He does not admit he has a prob or that he needs help.

I have already cut all unsupervised access to my daughter by my dad, He is removed from the authorized pickup list at my daughters school, He has 1 OUI/DWI . Probably not necessary but at this point I’m securing her as much as i can..

I grew up in a dysfunctional home. I Survived an Abusive childhood and will Never subject my daughter to what I went through , By 10th grade I had been to more AA meets than
most recovering alcoholics have been to in 3 years, I had to make sure he went. 3 nights a weekend 2 on Sat and 2 on Sunday… (I never went with the “Cool kids” to drink because I knew the road they were heading down and i didn’t want that ride… )
I’ve read the “Big Blue Book” 3 times and can recite any of the hit rock bottom stories..

To put it mildly I don’t drink.

I need to protect my daughter from the affects of alcoholism. She has already had a rough life. He mother broke it off with me and marred/divorced a deadbeat and my daughter was being taken for the emotional ride.

What do i do..

Other than know the i cant do anything does not help. the Serenity prayer just doesn’t work for me

He was sent to foster care because his mom was sent to drug rehab for 3 months. He’s also randomly drug tested.

Will his family still be monitored by Child Protective Services after he is returned to his bio mom?

Will it be a “probationary” return or will he be FREE & CLEAR from foster care?

…or will he always be monitored until he turns 18?

As a child I used to sneak food & hide it and she only made me feel guilty and greedy for it. She used to get really mad at me for eating her and my dad’s food. As I got older I still did it and she made fun of me every day for being so fat and greedy. 7 months ago she walked in on me making myself throw up after dinner that she forced me to eat when I was losing a lot of weight, I was finally skinny. Anyways she just walked out and said `you better not be making yourself throw up your food` and now I still binge and purge sometimes. Some days I don’t’ eat anything but all she says is ‘you better be eating’.

I don’t want to keep binging, I want to be REALLY skinny so that I can tell her I need help without… telling her, you know? I just think that if she would have gotten me help as a child I wouldn’t be so f*cked up now… and it hurts that she doesn’t care

As a child I used to sneak food & hide it and she only made me feel guilty and greedy for it. She used to get really mad at me for eating her and my dad’s food. As I got older I still did it and she made fun of me every day for being so fat and greedy. 7 months ago she walked in on me making myself throw up after dinner that she forced me to eat when I was losing a lot of weight, I was finally skinny. Anyways she just walked out and said `you better not be making yourself throw up your food` and now I still binge and purge sometimes. Some days I don’t’ eat anything but all she says is ‘you better be eating’.

I don’t want to keep binging, I want to be REALLY skinny so that I can tell her I need help without… telling her, you know? I just think that if she would have gotten me help as a child I wouldn’t be so f*cked up now… and it hurts that she doesn’t care
mom2max: you know what? f.ck you. you think i want to be like this and i’m ONLY doing this for attention? get real.

I need advice, I don’t know what to do.
I am 15, and my Mom is 53.
My Dad is currently in the nursing home from drinking too much himself, and so his liver hardly works.

Thing is, all my mom does is sleep all day and drink. She has zero motivation and is always mad at me, and blames me for stuff.
Like, she’ll come into my room [I'm always on the computer avoiding her...] and she’ll just say things totally irrelevant and rude.
She’ll ask me if she’s a bad mom, she asks me what she should do about bills and stuff.
I am 38 years younger than her.
What does she expect ME to do?

And there’s a lot of other things too.
She’s babysitting right now, she she peed herself, and she doesn’t give a shit that her grandchildren are watching her. It’s disgusting.

And no, she doesn’t work. She tried but she kept skipping because she wanted to sleep and drink.

I also haven’t been able to visit my Dad for about a month because she’s so lazy.

She tells me to ‘check on her once in a while’ to make sure she’s still ALIVE. THANKS MOM.

And I have school starting soon, great. I’m gonna be SO MOTIVATED to do my schoolwork when I know she’s just sleeping. Pfft, please. :(

I just don’t know what to do, it’s not like I can leave the house, or go hang out with my ‘friends’ because none of them give a sh1t.

Why does everything need to be so screwed up….
Wow…it’s unfortunate that questions that have no reason to be in this category have more answers.

I DON’T EVEN CARE IF IT’S GOOD ADVICE.

I need someone that needs a home, to live with us, and help take care of my mom. They will have a warm home, food to eat, etc. , and will be paid a small salary a month. Very small, but if you figure what rent , groceries, lights, water and phone would cost, it comes out pretty good. I would like an older lady, drug and alcohol free, trust worthy, gentle and loving to older people. Must like pets. We have two lovable dogs (outside), and some chickens, probably about 18 or 20. We are in our 60′s, but still young enough to have some life left in us.

I have a friend that has had a real messed up life. No matter how much love I tried to give her nothing seems to even heal the scars in her past. No matter what I have always gave my attention and my full advice no matter how harsh. Truth is the truth. I started to become more than her friend. More like her mother. I just tried so hard to keep my cool when I knew that the horrible things she has been doing for her whole life. I didn’t judge her for the past I judged her for what she did recently. She calls me out of no where and tells me that she F-ed up and she smoked crack with her friends. She has done it before and it made me EXTREMELY MAD! I couldn’t even talk to her on account of me just being tomato faced red of embarrassment that my friend would pull a Whitney Houston. No longer did I hate her but I despised her actions. Soon a few days later she tells me that she had a one night stand with a abuser of an ex boyfriend. Then came to find out that she might be pregnant. THANK GOODNESS she wasn’t! But even the scare makes things stressful. Ive always known she had been taking meds like ceracil and lithium. HARD PRESCRIPTION! And recently I found out that she has been in a mental hospital for trying to committe suicide by taking 10 lithiums. I dont know what to do and how to react I really love and care for her but whats a girl to do when Ive never had a un normal friend. PLZ I have no clue what to do. I want to feel sorry for her but that doesnt seem enough.

What should I do?