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I am 27 and married living in a separate state from my family. My little 12 year old brother wants to come and live with me. My mother is living with my sister, recovering meth addict, liar and manipulator. Shes had my brother in and out of different schools and his grades have started to drop. She locks herself in her room all the time with her boyfriend and no one hears from her. Is he old enough to make that decision on his own? What do I do?

Ive been dating my fiance for about 1 yr. His mom and bro are driving me insane. I don’t know if his mom is one of those people who just think everything is wrong with them or what, she takes at least 30 pills a day for various things…nothing is wrong with her, she is always zoned out of the world, when she was younger she use to be a druggie..I think she is taking her pills cause she needs to feel high from the drugs…then there’s his brother – he is addicted to a prescription drug – not sure which, but he buys them from his friends wife, and his mom gives them to him whenever he wants, he just tells her he’s in pain. He’s also addicted to marajuana. He doesn’t have a job – he’s collecting workmans comp because he was high at work and got hurt-they couldn’t prove he was high on the job. What I’m asking is should I end this relationship or try to make it. I love my fiance but I can’t stand to be around his mom or bro, I want kids-and I wouldn’t let them be around his bro, mom.??

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

My fiance’s brother was released from jail last year around thanksgiving. since then he was living with his step brother and his wife. he got his steb brothers wife pregnant and his family disowned him and would not let him live at thier home. he moved in with the pregnant wife and did not get a job in the whole 7 months he was living with her. she has kicked him out because the only jobs he could ever get (with his jail background) are ranch hand side jobs paying just a few dollars a day. now he is living in a motel with a bunch of bad people doing all kinds of drugs (ice, speed etc…) and is completely depressed about losing “the love of his life”. me and my fiance attempted to help him by bringing him to the city in hopes of a better chance for him to find a good job and his perole officer had called in sick that day so he could not leave. we were forced to go back home and give him rent money for another week. i am so worried he is going to end up back in jail or become a drug addict or try to commit suicide. i dont know what to do. we cant let him live with us because he has to register as a sex offender and my mom does not approve of that. we can not bring him to the city now because we cant afford to pay $210 a week waiting for him to get a job (which takes up to a month sometimes). my family has told me to give it to GOD and let him handle everything. what should i do. i cant bare to see my fiance upset when he finds out that his brother has gone back to jail or died from drugs/suicide.
UPDATE:
he is not a bad guy. ive known him since he was released. he is actually the sweetest guy in my finace’s family. i know he is making some huge mistakes right now because of how hard his life since jail. the only reason he was put in jail was because he had a 16 or 17 year old g/f when he was around 20 and he cheated on her with another girl his age and the 17yr old got mad at him and reported him to get back at him. he in no way is a “child malester” or a “rapist”

Ok Me and my brother haven’t seen our father since we were 4. Hes a deadbeat never paid a penny of child support, never calls just doesn’t care piece of sh*t. Anyway My mom has a HUGE anger problem always yelling at us shes always calling me a fat cow , piece of sh*t good for nothing ugly etc etc and same with my brother. I have no self esteem I cant keep any relation ships , I binge eat all the time, i do coke and now my brothers had a drinking problem for the past year and my mom thinks hes an alcoholic. She doesn’t see the connection, she treats us like big fu*kin pieces of garbage. Shes always saying she wants us out in the street she loves us cuz she has to but she don’t like us. There’s never any food in the house, she NEVER cooks. We never sat at the table once since my parents split. We never talk. Her and my family always talk down to be in front of other people they always say im an ugly fat cow everyday like 10 times a day, im good for nothing. My mom never has anything nice to say ever. I don’t remember the last time i was happy im always depressed i feel like if i don’t get out of my house soon im gonna me a 400 pound drug addict. Its like I don’t really get it im a good looking girl im just overweight (well about 50 pounds, I gained 65 lbs since Sept its crazy).

I was thinking of joining Job Corps Because thats residential and you get an education (I cant afford college and i just lost my job and theres no way i can afford my own apartment) and my mom makes sh*t money. I dont know what to do anymore, im always depressed and crying, i dont know what i ever did to my mom that she treats me like this. Ive had a job since i was 15 and i always helped out with bills and i always did grocery shopping and she yells at me more its like i can never do anything to make her proud.

I don’t want to get any fatter, Im already going crazy with this weight I gained and i dont want to resort to drugs or alcohol

My brother is 25 years old and he drinks everyday beer, when he gets drunk he becomes verbally abusive, he has got into violent arguments with me, he also tells my little brothers bad things, he also plays his music very loud and smokes pot, my mom won’t kick him out of the house,me and my mom and my little brothers are scared of him, we cannot help him with his alcoholism only he can, I’m living at my mom and step dad’s house I’m a single mother of a 2 year old and pregnant, that is why I cannot get my own place, I won’t get hired nowhere at this period of time, how can we deal with this family member?

He is turing 9 in five days. I have cared for him for 6 yrs. I really need some answers.I am 13 yrs. old I am the best sister he could ever have. Our mother abandoned us when we were 6 7 & 11. Our mother was a drug addict & alcolholic.So for half our lives we were abused. I had to Stop the abuse towards me & my little brothers.

Hes 19 years old, I think hes been on it since he was 15, hes only confessed it to me once which was back in Feb, when he was drunk. Hes lost tons of weight this year, he had some kind of seizure after taking a lot of it last summer, I asked him then if he was on it and he denied it, later admitting it in Feb. I’ve asked my doctor and he told me about a centre for addicts. But the thing is I don’t think he really wants to get off it, he has NO will power and im pretty sure he has a drinking problem too but at the moment im more worried about the drug use. I’m scared to mention it to him as he has a bad temper and im worried he’ll hit me. I hate him for his behaviour. He is a liar, a theif, rude, selfish, very sexist. Our mother has MS and our Dad has stress related cholesterol issues which my lil bro has made worse since turning into a troublesome teen, but at the end of the day hes my little bro and he needs help.
I should have said, I live in England, the rules are different here, kids never get done for drugs unless they intend to supply them or if they actively stood outside a police station waving a little bag of white powder and and yell “oi! c****s!” thru the door even then they’d prob jus get a £75 fine. but yeh i think you’re right, he does need to be caught

houses him and feeds him (his brother and mother) what should i do?

I have a situation on my hands that I don’t know how to deal with.

My brother is using meth amphetamines. He’s not willing to quit. We argued about him smoking pot and he doesn’t want to quit that either. He says he medicates himself by the use of those drugs. That because he is bipolar he needs those drugs. He said this is what the shrink told him. We live in my mom and dad’s house. I don’t like to see the stuff being used in the house but that’s where he’s using it. My parents know he’s a drug addict. I can move out to go and live with a distant relative and get out of this situation. I don’t want to move because it would put me further away from other relatives that I am close to and friends as well. I don’t make enough money to rent my own apartment. Moving in with someone else to be a room mate always has it’s draw backs but I feel somewhat guilty for living with my brother knowing what he is doing is evil. I’ve tried calling the police on him a couple times but every time they came him and his friends were able to hide the drugs and paraphenalia really easily. So now the police don’t respond to my calls when I call. I pay the electricity and garbage bill. Soon I might have to pay the phone and internet too. He brings over so many doper friends of his all the time and they are all smoking dope all the time. He also deals drugs sometimes and pawns stuff at the pawn shop for more drug money. He pawned my family’s large TV, a large lamp and a bunch of china porcelain statues. I am disgusted by how he lives. He takes credit for paying all the bills but he doesn’t pay one. He takes credit for cleaning the messes but he doesn’t clean any. Is it ethical for me to keep living with my brother, and tolerating what he is doing? What else can I do to make him stop? I think I’ve tried everything. I think it’s time I moved out. Should I?

I have a situation on my hands that I don’t know how to deal with.

My brother is using meth amphetamines. He’s not willing to quit. We argued about him smoking pot and he doesn’t want to quit that either. He says he medicates himself by the use of those drugs. That because he is bipolar he needs those drugs. He said this is what the shrink told him. We live in my mom and dad’s house. I don’t like to see the stuff being used in the house but that’s where he’s using it. My parents know he’s a drug addict. I can move out to go and live with a distant relative and get out of this situation. I don’t want to move because it would put me further away from other relatives that I am close to and friends as well. I don’t make enough money to rent my own apartment. Moving in with someone else to be a room mate always has it’s draw backs but I feel somewhat guilty for living with my brother knowing what he is doing is evil. I’ve tried calling the police on him a couple times but every time they came him and his friends were able to hide the drugs and paraphenalia really easily. So now the police don’t respond to my calls when I call. I pay the electricity and garbage bill. Soon I might have to pay the phone and internet too. He brings over so many doper friends of his all the time and they are all smoking dope all the time. He also deals drugs sometimes and pawns stuff at the pawn shop for more drug money. He pawned my family’s large TV, a large lamp and a bunch of china porcelain statues. I am disgusted by how he lives. He takes credit for paying all the bills but he doesn’t pay one. He takes credit for cleaning the messes but he doesn’t clean any. Is it ethical for me to keep living with my brother, and tolerating what he is doing? What else can I do to make him stop? I think I’ve tried everything. I think it’s time I moved out. Should I?

My little brother is 14 and i am 17 and i am worried he may have a eating disorder. Because lately i have noticed him binge eating and then he goes to the bathroom and it sounds like he is puking. My brother is not big he is around 5’10 or 5’11 and my mom told me he weighs around 125lbs. But the other day my mom and my brother and i went swimming and you could see his ribs and my mom asked him about it and he started to sob so bad. My mom i think is in denial about this, and i try and help my little brother but i am so scared and i am unsure what to do to help him. Any advice?

I’m 23 & have been living on my own and supporting myself since I was 17 years old & I’m doing pretty well.
My mother has always been an extremely abusive alcoholic and when I was a minor she severly physically, mentally, and emotionally abused me. I have a 9 year old half-brother who lives with her(neither of our fathers are in the picture).She doesnt physically abuse him but she neglects him and emotionally abuses him. She is drunk since the early morning sometimes and he is terribly afriad of her and wants to live with me.However, she has a nice home,a car, & makes sure he always has food and clothes.Its more about the fear and lonliness she makes him feel. I want to try to take her to family court to get custody but do I have a case here?The home he lives in is fit and she is able to hide her alcoholism very well and not drink for days at a time, sometimes even weeks.But it always comes back worse then ever. Would I be able to prove she is unfit? Anyone that knows law,please help.

My little brother is 14 and i am 17 and i am worried he may have a eating disorder. Because lately i have noticed him binge eating and then he goes to the bathroom and it sounds like he is puking. My brother is not big he is around 5’10 or 5’11 and my mom told me he weighs around 125lbs. But the other day my mom and my brother and i went swimming and you could see his ribs and my mom asked him about it and he started to sob so bad. My mom i think is in denial about this, and i try and help my little brother but i am so scared and i am unsure what to do to help him. Any advice?

My little brother is 14 and i am 17 and i am worried he may have a eating disorder. Because lately i have noticed him binge eating and then he goes to the bathroom and it sounds like he is puking. My brother is not big he is around 5’10 or 5’11 and my mom told me he weighs around 125lbs. But the other day my mom and my brother and i went swimming and you could see his ribs and my mom asked him about it and he started to sob so bad. My mom i think is in denial about this, and i try and help my little brother but i am so scared and i am unsure what to do to help him. Any advice?

This is a pretty long story but I will try to keep it as short as possible.
I have been estranged from my brother since we were teenagers because we were never close due to his molesting me when I was young. Last March we came into contact at our mother’s house and I learned that he had a four month old baby girl. Our mother insisted that he had changed and that I should give him a chance, so I did.
Fast forward to June 27, 2010: I found myself bringing the baby girl home with me to another state because my brother had a major drug overdose and the baby’s mother admitted to smoking meth and breastfeeding.
I have had the baby since that time although my brother and mother moved to the state I live in the second week of July. Neither of them held a job and I payed most of their expenses. I also kept receipts for every expense I had for the baby to be able to prove where she lived if needed.
Fast forward to January 5, 2011: My sixty-one year old mother called me late in the evening to tell me that my brother was high and he had assaulted her. I went to pick her up and she lived in my home for two months before moving back to the state she had moved from. She refused to file charges. The entire two months that she lived in my home she said nearly every day that my brother is on drugs and has no business being around the baby. She encouraged me to file for legal custody nearly every day, but I didn’t…until…
On January 31, 2011 I received a call from the local hospital. I was told that my brother had just had emergency surgery. When I got to the hospital I learned that he had been shooting up again and had inserted a tomato juice can into his rectum, requiring emergency surgery to remove it. I also learned that he admitted to shooting up for several days before this happened. He tested positive for nine dangerous drugs in his system. He told the medical staff that he shoots up frequently and that this wasn’t the first time he had to have emergency surgery to remove something from his rectum. Thankfully the hospital staff put these statements in his medical record and my attorney was able to subpoena them. Also he doesn’t smoke his drugs, he is an I.V. drug addict. It was at that point that I decided that I did need to file for custody of the baby. I shopped around for an attorney and filed a few weeks later.
My mother had moved back to her home state before I filed. She swears that she never told me to file for custody and she has reported me to child welfare services several times since I filed in an attempt to have my own seventeen year old daughter as well as the baby removed from my home. Child welfare workers have gotten so tired of her lies that they don’t even bother coming to my home or calling any more.
My problem is that I don’t know how to deal with my brother. He refuses to accept that I am trying to keep the baby safe and forcing him to get help if he wants to be in her life. I have never denied him visitation or phone calls, I have tried to help him as well as the baby’s mother since this started but they just refuse to act like adults. Worse, he has refused to take court-ordered drug tests so now his visitation has to be supervised in my home.
How do I deal with him? How do I get him to see that I am trying to keep the baby from being around dangerous drug addicts? And why is he suddenly so angry about this when I have had her for nearly a year and he can’t even say that he has even tried to support her? I do not understand his reasoning. Any ideas?

my little brother is 16 and lives with my mothers ex husband and his new wife.he is no related to either one of them.my mother is a drug addict and gave him to them.i am 19 years old and he wants to see me and i want to see him but they wont allow it. i do not use drugs and i have a clean record.do i have a right to see him? please help me i dont know what to do.