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Hi I am seventeen years old and I’ve been dating this guy for four years now and been friends with him for about 5 years. Our relationship/bond is so unbreakable and has remained strong throughout these years. I know I’m still young but I know he is truly the love of my life. The truth is you would expect a girl my age to be in and out of love, having crushes but it hasn’t been like that at all for me. I could care less about guys but my boyfriend is a whole different issue. He is literally on my mind nonstop and he makes me feel like the most beautiful girl in the whole world and I have a low self esteem as it is but he changes that. I have always seen myself as being with him in the future. Yet the past year things have been getting crazy. He has started using heavier drugs, yes he would smoke marijuana but I honestly don’t see anything wrong with that but everyone has their own view on it but now I come to find out he is using cocaine and crack but only once in awhile (that’s what I heard but it’s not an everyday thing). Then it’s been lately cocaine blunts and now I come out he is smoking heroin. I suspected this well I basically knew this when it started but I chose not to think it was a huge problem. Yet, today when I was at his house he was talking to me and nodding in and out of consciousness and of course I knew he was high but then he pulls out foil right infront of me and starts smoking heroin. Let me tell you I was shocked! He was so high he didn’t even care. This seems like some twilight zone stuff but it was reality. It made me so sad to watch him do this because he was never like this. I can’t believe I even sat there and stayed with him as he did it. I don’t know what I was thinking it seemed like I was in a dream. Anyways he ended up hanging out with the wrong crowd again and yes he went to get sober and did but ended up back with the same people. I know you guys will tell me that he needs to get clean but he has yet if he doesn’t cut out people in his life it will never work. I really don’t know what I should do because I am graduating in June and I’m suppose to be moving in with him. I know you guys will tell me that I should leave him and I know that’s what I should do but it is so hard to cut out someone from your life that has meaned so much. Even my family loves him and it’s just hard. I really need some advice and help because I do not want to be that girlfriend who ends up staying with this guy to only be put through hell.

I am posting this one final last time just to see what others have to say. I think I also need to hear the truth again because I’m feeling like I’m going to be making a bad decision soon. I also need to state that I think he is using meth too and he has been in and out of jail these past months. His family tried to help him countless times but it never worked. They ended up kicking him out on his ass and the sad thing is his mother is a substance abuse counselor.

I’ve been going out with my bf now for little over 6 months.. But I think.. his lifestyle is just to crazy? I was 14 when I meet him (he was 19) His what some would call a ” MeTaL” guy, his into heavy metal music, drugs, sex and satanism… I knew he was wild when I meet him but I just dont know anymore..

My mother found out we were dating about 3 months ago, and because of the age differance she wasnt happy at all and kicked me out. He was more than happy to let me move in with him.. But now that I actually live with him, he seems crazier than ever. He is obessed with sex, ( when I told him i was a virgin he seemed.. strangely pleased) I find this a bit creepy, the first time i had sex with him, he loved the fact that i was in pain and kept whispering in my ear ” are you in pain? good take it!” He smokes pot and occasionly drinks, like most of his friends.

He doesnt work at all, instead selling drugs and apparently pimping crack bimbos out ( i dont really want to believe this) His satanism scares me at times because its often so violent, yet dispite all this Im still here..Can some give me advice? I dont know what to do?

When I met my bf he didnt smoke anything. Cigarettes or Pot, he didnt drink and told me that he didnt like alcohol because of his mom being a very bad alcoholic (my mother is as well, and her father died from alcoholism- which is genetic) a few months into of relationship he got to where he would have a few beers after work usually no more than 3. he got to where when he would drink he became angry at everything around him. i voiced my concern and told him i didnt like alcohol and i wished he would stop. he then told me the reason he drank is because he didnt have any pot. i was unaware that he even smoked it. ….. its been almost 2 years and he has continued to drink& smoke and has now picked up a new cigarette addiction. he goes to court on monday (3 days away) and has promised me since last monday that he would stop. he is supposed to be placed on 2yrs probation for the trouble he caused and im worried that even after he is place on probation that he will not stop. how to i make him realize that if he fails even 1 ua that they court will have him thrown in jail? i asked him tonight if he couldnt make himself quit then what could? and he said “when i sign my name ill stop”
please help
he will not be serving a jail term until he officially fails 3 drug tests.

We have an adorable 9 month old baby, he went into rehab by choice 2 weeks before I had our son, after 10 years of heavy cocaine and alcohol usage. He came home a totally different person, he used to be my best friend and now he barely talks to me about anything personal, he won’t tell me how he feels, all we talk about is the baby and the weather. He is completely detached from me and it breaks my heart, I want so badly to be there for him but he won’t let me, the only person he will talk to is his mother. I can’t go on like this, I don’t understand why, I think maybe he doesn’t want me to be a trigger, or that he is following the 12 step program rule that you should not be in a relationship for the first year of sobriety. 3 months away from his 1 year sober and I don’t think I can do it anymore I feel like a roomate not an equal partner. Help.

My mom has been with this guy for almost a year and he is really annoying. He is only 25 and my mom is 47 and I am 16. He has never had a driver’s lisence and was a crack baby so he is very slow and has a mildly deformed face. He eats likes crazy and I feel he is sucking up my families money. He is only paying $200 for rent (which I doubt but that is what my mom says) and my mom has to drive him everywhere which takes more money for gas. He smokes a pack of cigarettes a day, and refuses to smoke outside of the house. He pretends he is sick so he doesn’t have to go to work and then brags about it to me and my nine-year-old brother. My mom is an alcoholic and I feel that if she wasn’t passed out or drunk all the time she would see what a jerk he is. Is there any way I can get rid of him?
I have asked my mom many times when she is sober to please stop seeing this guy and she just tells me that he provides her comfort and she is not ready to give him up. He is not a very nice guy and my mom is the only person I know who likes him.

His mother has ask for a lot of help. She has even had someone come to the house to talk to him. the only reason they cant help is because he is 20 and hes not asking for help. I feel that somewhere out in california someone could mandate that he has to do. he has gone to jail for drug use and is now doing strange things. He talks to himself. he makes weired hand signals. he can be happy then just start saying crazy stuff. another thing that worries me a lot is that he belives that his friend that past away 3 years ago is sending messages through clouds. Crazy but it woories. please help. We live in CAlifornia.

He wants to stop, I do believe him. He has admitted that he’s addicted.
I’ve pretty much lost my mother because of drugs, I can’t lose him over them.
I know its hard to quit cold turkey, He’s slowed down.
I’m sacred to leave him over them because I know he wouldn’t take it well. Things would be worst for him.

I just don’t have the right words I guess.

He wants to stop, I do believe him. He has admitted that he’s addicted.
I’ve pretty much lost my mother because of drugs, I can’t lose him over them.
I know its hard to quit cold turkey, He’s slowed down.
I’m sacred to leave him over them because I know he wouldn’t take it well. Things would be worst for him.

I just don’t have the right words I guess.

My boyfriend and I are both drug addicts. I’m in recovery and have been clean for some time. He, on the otherhand, continues to use. Our drug of choice is Heroin. He uses for a few weeks and then gets clean for a week and then uses for a couple of months and gets clean for a while. It’s an endless cycle. He thinks he can just use “once in a while” too! I’m not dumb. I’m an addict too. He finally got a job 2 weeks ago. He SWORE that he wouldn’t get high when got his first paycheck. He even went through a week of being sick for this job and not using. The first Friday he gets paid, he calls and says he is just “hanging out” with his friend (BTW, the friend is a junkie) and swears he isn’t using. Well, today he confessed he got high that Friday which was last week. He gets paid again tomorrow and I’m ready to give him an ultimatum! I know he’s planning on getting high the second he gets paid. What do I do? I don’t want to lose him but I’m going to lose him anyways if he continues to use ’cause he’ll either die of an overdose or end up in jail or prison, right? WHAT SHOULD I TELL HIM? Please don’t just say “dump the loser”. It’s not that easy. We’ve been together 8 years. We don’t live together right now so I can’t moniter his every move. He’s living with his parents and they know about his addiction. His Mom searched his room today while he was at work and found two syringes. He’s pissed and feels like they had not right looking for his room. I think they do. Their granddaughter is one and stays in that house a lot (their daughter’s daughter). What if she found one of those needles? Sometimes I just feel he needs to get arrested to learn his lesson. He’s never been to jail more than a night. Nothing else seems to work. My pleading and crying are in vain. Thank you for reading this and for any advice that may help me. I’m miserable.

from his mother….She was a crack head for years and years, and he pretty much had to grow up really really fast, and I feel like I get the end of that anger because of this mother – girlfriend paradox. I have a son with him, but I was just wondering, what he could do to deal with it. He drinks alot, which I told him isnt good, and I think he should stop. He also smokes alot too, but he uses the drinking to sleep. He doesn’t talk about his feelings, he’ll just talk about how he was on his own, at a young age and I feel like our relationship is getting shut out, because of this continuation of this past. What should I do?

So I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years (this year being the 3rd) and ever since I met him up until about 2 months ago, he was probably the sweetest guy I’ve ever met, he was everything I wanted in a guy, but now that’s all changed. He started getting high and wasted again when his best friend since they were toddlers died. Even though he didn’t show it for the first couple of weeks, I knew that he was crushed by it because his behavior completely changed.

He started up on the drinking and drugs, being a jerk, always wanting to know where I’m going, and sings of aggression. At first the violence with him was minor, like he’d just grab me by the arm and shake me or something, but now it’s gone to a whole new level. He usually does this when he’s high or drunk (which is pretty much all the time), he grabs me harder and squeezes my arms to the point were they feel like they are going to burst. he slams me into things roughly, he throws me on the floor, he’ll wrap his arms around my arms really tight and put all of his weight on me to the point were I cant move at all and struggle to break out and he’ll just torment me while he is doing it by saying something that will hurt me emotionally or harassing me sexually. He even grabs me by the neck sometimes and forces me to look at him if he’s trying to talk to me. Just about a week ago he came home one night and it was really late, I was asleep because I had an early class in the morning, I’m a freshman in college and he’s a junior. Well of course he was on something, but he came inside the room and poured whatever he was drinking on my head which caused me to wake up and I started screaming at him because it got in my ear and everything. He only laughed and kept splashing me with it. I knocked the glass out of his hand then all of a sudden his face goes all straight and he turns into Satan and grabs me by the arm and yanks me towards him and just starts yelling at me and I don’t even know what he’s saying because he’s not in his right mind. So I get scared and I run to the living room and grab the phone just in case and he comes out still yelling and starts throwing things almost hitting me and once he’s done he told me to come here. I just stand there and then he says it even louder and starts cursing so I run to the restroom and I lock the door. Before I know it he comes and starts banging on the door demanding me to open it, but I don’t. He does this for about 6 minuets before giving up.

So I just slept in the bath tub that night and thankfully he was asleep when ever I woke up and left for class. I have told him that I wanted to put him in rehab or get some kind of help, but he threatens me by saying he will do something really bad to me. i really, really want to get him help, but I’m just sacred and I’ve never been stuck in this kind of situation before so I’m just lost. I really long to be with the guy I once used to love and know so well, but I’m afraid that chance is long gone now.

I know he is a guy that went through alot in life, for instance his dad was arrested when he was 13 because he abused him, his brothers and sister, and their mom, his grandparents want nothing to do with him because they wanted to their white family race going and he is half white and asian, native american, and spanish so they consider him and his siblings “mongrels”, then he and his mother have the worst relationship possible. I’m just tired of his violent/pshycotic behavior and I want him to get help. What should I do?

okay so growing up my boyfriend started smoking weed in like 8th grade. in 10th grade he tried coke and overdosed, but he was okay, thank god. he decided to never do that again, but continued to smoke weed.

less than a year ago, my boyfriend [who wasnt my boyfriend at the time, i didnt know him then] got into more serious drugs along with his weed, like acid and shrooms. it got realllly bad until he finally went to rehab. he came out, went to his NA meetings for a little and was totally clean, so he stopped going to his meetings [he reallyyy shouldnt have]. because now, hes doing weed again..

when we first started dating, he made me think that he didnt smoke, so i had nooo idea what i was getting myself into, but eventually i found outt..

he claims that when we first started dating, he stopped smoking during the day because “i made him sooo happy that his depression and anxiety and stuff went away so he didnt need to smoke” butttt eventually, he started doing it again during the day. he also told me that he HADDD to do it at night because he could never get to sleep due to the anger and depression and feelings and shit that hed feel. i told him to take sleeping pills or something but he says that they dont workk.. and to be honest, at first, i thought this was okay, because i felt bad for him. i have depression and anxiety too so i know how helpless it can leave you feeling, however his weed smoking began to cause problems in our relationship..

so finally, after he made some realllllllyyy baddddd decisions when he was high that effected our relationship, i told him that he had to stop because i couldnt deal with it anymore. i realllly do love him, but i cant deal with the mess his bud smoking is causingg. i basically gave him an ultimatum, it was weed, or me.

he chose me, and has been clean for 3 days now. the first night, however since he couldnt get to sleep and get rid of his feelings without his weed, he got realllllllyyyy drunkk instead. he is SUCH AN ADDICT. ugh. other than that, hes been good, other than the complaining and stuff about how “he cant bear to go on another day without weed”.

pleaseeeee help meee, i dont know what to do or how to deal with this! he is such a great guy and has sooooo muchhh potential but he just deals with his emotions sooo horribly. ive heard that youre supposedly supposed to go to “90 meetings in 90 days” of NA to become tottttalllly sober but he refuses to go everyday and says that its impossible. im planning on getting him there at leastttt once a week but i feel like thats not enoughh :/ i also think he should be in therapy but i dont think he has enough money for that.. he is just soooo miserable and i feel bad because i feel like a bitch making him choose between me and weed but its the only way to make our relationship work!!! =[[ anything else i can do? any suggestions? he’s 19, im 17, and i feel like im a mother taking care of my child.. thats nottt how a relationship should be =/ well all help is greattttlyy appreciated – thank youuu.<3

ps; sorry this is so long – i just felt like i had to tell you the whole story to completely understand what we’re dealing with heree.
its not that simple.. easier said than done.. STUPID.. bet youre one of those little 12 year olds on here.

My boyfriend was the best thing to happen to meTho he sold drugs,he helped me financially, mentally and spirituallHe is the reason I’m in college.My Mom(drug addict prostitute)would see him in public & run &hug him,my mom told every1 that he was her ‘Son-inLaw’, and my sisters proudly told ppl that he was ‘bro-My family stood behind our love100% or so i thought
He was murdered in Sept. After his murder my family becam destructive during my grievin, I dont have a car, so I depended on my mom to take me2the funeral. Instead she never came home that night and I had to PAY my aunt 2 take me 2funeral. None of my family hugged or comforted during the funeral, My aunt just said ‘Everything happen 4a reason and told me 2 HANG IN THERE’
When i talk about him 2 my lil’sisters they act ask if they are uninterested got in an argument with my mom and lilsister and they both were saying”Im glad that dope-dealin muthafucka is dead.I hope u burn in hell wit him!”
WHAT 2 DO WHEN U HAVE NO-ONE!
My boyfriend showed nothing but respect to my mom and my lilsisters. He would give them advice about boys, and treated them like they were his little sisters.
He was a perfect gentleman to my mother.
he and i never argued,
The only person who supports me now is his mom, and I just cant tell her the things my familys says about me and most importantly her son!
I JUST DON’T KNOW WHERE THIS SUDDEN HATE 4 HIM AND OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS CAME FROM.
He and a guy got into an argument and the guy stabbed him seven times, (Twice in the lungs, 3 times in the stomach and a fatally deep stab in the heart (I swear I feel each and evryone of those stabs everyday) My mom recently told me ‘I wish u were born dead, as a matter of fact, I’ll kill u myself, I’ll just stab u 7 times!” and started laughing.

My boyfriend and I have had a hard relationship so far. He has cheated on me a few times, (yes I know I should leave him just for that), and he is a huge pot head and sort of an alcoholic. (He drinks everyday without missing a day, and gets really pissy and irritated if he doesn’t have a drink and smoke. We have been able to deal with these situations to some extent, he hasn’t cheated on me in a while, and is doing great, but still smokes and drink A LOT! Last night I got home from working a 12 hour shift and my boyfriend was soo drunk and high! Then 3 hours later I woke up to him and his two friends in the bathroom sniffing Vicodin/Morphine I am not sure which one. My boyfriend said he was only going to lick his up, but his was a BIG pile! There must have been like 4 or 5 pills crushed up in his line. He immediately got defensive and went on and on about how he is 22yrs old and wants to have fun and kept on telling me not to ruin things. I told him I was just scared for him, and didn’t want him to get addicted, but he said he used to do it all the time a few years ago, and never got addicted. I grew up with my mom addicted to drugs, and I don’t want to live in that life style with him! My question is, am I overreacting? Should I let him be and do what he wants, or should I leave him, so he can be stupid and do what he wants?

My boyfriend drinks almost everyday after work at least two or three beers I have told him time and time again that this can become habit forming and eventually lead to a problem. I don’t want to fight with him or make him feel like I’m trying to tell him what to or act like his mother but I don’t want it to lead to alcoholism and I want him to see that this can be a problem in the future if he continues. I’ve already told him numerous amounts of times that I won’t be second to alcohol, and I don’t want to date a drunk. Any advice on how to handle this situation without causinf a fight and me being able to get through to him and him see would be greatly appreciated.

I didn’t have the best life growing up. My parents were IV drug users. So since I was a little girl, I promised myself that there would be no drugs in my future. Fast forward to my high school years, I met a guy and I fell in love. Ive been with him for 5 years now. Im 21, hes 23. Hes addicted to this things called roxicets. He claims they are percocets, but being a nursing student I can easily look it up in my drug book. Well, I feel back on my promise because I love him so much. But then I realised if I really truly loved him, I should tell somebody. I told his mother. She cried, talked to him, he cried. He said he knows he needs help and he wants to go to rehab. Well the rehabs he has contacted put him on waiting list. He wont get in til the end of Feb for one, hes number 23 on a list for another etc. And since all of this, he seems like he has gotten worst. Im reading all of these things on the internet about how they will never change, and to just move on. But is there hope. Should I stay with him during this hard time in his life. If I do leave him, is he just going to get way worst and possibly end up overdosing? Hes my first love, my life, my everything. I don’t know how this happened to us and I just want it back to the way it was. And I don’t wanna give up on him, I never gave up on my parents and now they are clean and sober. There are many questions I just want an opinion or answer too, if you can help.
1.) Does anyone have a similar experience, and what did you do?
2.) Should I stick by his side?
3.) Are there rehabs that do emergency intake? (Im from the pittsburgh area)
4.)Any encouraging words/advice?

I don’t know, I just don’t know. This is a very hard time for me also, so I would appreciate if there are no rude comments etc.

I have desided to stick by him. Specailly cuz she said she was pregnant when they got together. it was a bad breakup and i think she may just b trying to harass him one last time. we have an order of protection against her already. My problem is I cant stop thinking about how stupid the whole situation is. He made alot of mistakes when he slept with her. She was smoking crack adn drinking while she was pregnant. Shes much , much younger than him. (only 3 years younger than her mother!)Im just having a very hard time dealing with the situation and wondered if anyone had any advice.I think ive got the forgiving down but the forgetting is driving me batty! thanks all

My refrigerator is ALWAYS empty because of him. Ordered a Large Pizza and had 2 slices. Along with ordering 10 buffalo Wings. I stepped out for an errand 15 minutes he had Eaten the whole box and all the wings too!!! I told him this is rude (he has done this before) He DEVOURS everything I cook. I brought a gallon of juice one afternoon I didn’t have a sip. He drank the whole jug. He leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor and I have to get on him about cleaning up after himself (leave his food on the counter) I cooked 7 Pork Chops (big ones) He at 6. He asked me to fry 20 wings for him and I said hell NO. There is nothing ever in our refrigerator because he ALLWAYS has the Munchies. If you see his body he is built like a Ken Doll (Barbie’s companion) He said as a child his mom was on drugs so I guess he REALLY cherishes a meal being as though sometimes he didn’t eat.

My boyfriend that i’ve been with for awhile who’s my age (16) has been abusing drugs for a year and a half, i’ve always suspected it of him but i wasnt sure of it until he told me about it last night, he has a love/hate relationship with me due to the drug addiction he has.

I won’t list all of the drugs he abuses because the list can go on and on, long story short, when he’s sober he becomes bitter and angry, also abusive, taking his anger out on me and his family, when im on the phone with him he calls me names and tells me that he’ll beat me, and in the background i hear him yelling and swearing at his mom telling her that he’ll attack her, keep in mind that she has arthritis and just had surgery so she cant defend herself if something gets way out of hand.. and i’m really worried about that because he stole her jewlery once and she found out and he put his hands on here and said that he would kill her..

I’m afraid for other people and myself as well, he hurt one of my ex friends because he liked me, he choked him during school and threatened to kill him as well… I don’t know what to do, even If I leave him I still want to alarm the police so his mom is safe and other people are too, i’m afraid he’ll kill someone.. I know that may seem far fetched but if you were to look into his eyes when he’s angry you can really see it in him

I was wondering if I could tell the police even though he’s under age, would they do anything? I know that there is a school campus that can take him that specializes in students with drug problems, but I don’t know if i could get him to go to that… even if you don’t feel like replying this PLEASE conciser doing it, just one person can help the lives of the people who are in danger.

How can I tell? My mom is always going to the doctor because apparently she has pneumonia. But she doesn’t seem like it. Sometimes she randomly gets really sick and then all of the sudden she is fine. And I found a instrument used for smoking marijuana in their room. My mom and her boyfriend both look like meth addicts and her boyfriend never comes out of his room and nobody is aloud to ever go in there. There are 3 kids that live in the household, 18,13, and 7 years of age. Also my mom get lots of money from child support and then suddenly it’s all spent. So are they on drugs? If they are then what kind? Please help me thanks.